Just when we thought that something good will finally happen to the Nigeria Police Force, we are still getting chilling reports about their lack of civility in engaging Nigerian citizens.

There is a recent video making rounds on news websites and all over social media of a certain Treasure Nduka who was arrested, manhandled and sexually harassed by some members of the Nigeria Police. According to Treasure, she was picked up at the protest ground after the Police shot at them. She refused to run because she believed that it was her fundamental right to protest. According to her, she was not doing anything wrong, therefore, there was no need to run for her dear life.

In the interview she granted The Cable http://vismuene.com/5Qsh, she narrated how a bunch of police men and women were hitting her. The height of the inhumane treatment was when an officer undressed her and ordered her to pull off her bra in the full glare of other onlooking officers.

I am yet to understand the rationale behind her arrest in the first place. Even the President has repeatedly said that the Nigerian people have the right to protest. As such, he called on law enforcement agents to be civil in engaging the protesters.

Undressing Treasure Nduka and sexually harassing her is also the height of unprofessionalism on the part of the Nigeria Police. One is forced to ask, what good did they gain from molesting an innocent citizen who is protesting and clamouring for a better Nigeria for all Nigerians including the members of the Police force?

The #ENDSARS protest is simply an indirect way of telling the Nigerian government to enhance the welfare and improve the standard of living of members of the Nigeria Police Force. To think that the same Police force we are demonstrating to better their lives would come against the citizens protesting in their place shows that there is something fundamentally wrong with the Nigeria Police.

In a similar fashion, just a few days after the IG of police announced the scrapping of SARS, there were reports on social media about SARS officers arresting and dragging people out of their house in Lagos. In Ogun State, some protesters were reportedly killed by a policeman attached to the Governor of Osun State. Why kill innocent citizens who are clamouring for a better life for the police so to say?

No doubt, there are several other reports like these that happen daily across various cities in Nigeria. The culture of brutality, impunity, lack of civility, unprofessionalism, bribery and corruption is an integral part of the Nigeria Police. It is entrenched in their fabric and there is no hope of redeeming the force now or anytime in the future.

The police hierarchy has not demonstrated the resolve and willingness to right the wrongs of some of its men. Until the police is totally reformed, Nigerians will keep groaning under the beastly attitude of some of the men of the force. Replacing SARS with SWAT will not end police brutality because the entirety of the Nigeria Police force is soiled in this malfeasance called police brutality.

#ENDSARS

#ENDSWAT

#REFORMNIGERIAPOLICE

It is well over 2 weeks since Nigerian youths took to the streets across different Nigerian cities to protest against the criminality of the purported defunct SARS and police brutality that had gone on without caution for so many years. The police IG said SARS has scrapped but then, there have been news of SARS arresting and dragging people out of their house in Lagos even after they had been disbanded.

Nevertheless, the protests to #ENDSARS had gathered much momentun in the last 1 week reaching a global scale with Nigerians protesting across major cities around the world. Some notable global figures and celebrities have equally lent their voices in support of the Nigerian youths to call for an end to the impunity of the Nigerian police against its innocent citizens. Some popular global news and media houses have equally reported the developments after Nigerians called them about their silence towards the #ENDSARS protests.
Aljazeera: http://vismuene.com/4ANv
CNN: http://vismuene.com/4AQy
New York Times: http://vismuene.com/4ASX

Meanwhile, since the protests started, the President Buhari led government has virtually done nothing to appease the rampaging youths apart from the quick scrapping of SARS and the sudden replacement with SWAT. Expectedly, Nigerians have equally kicked against the formation of of SWAT as replacement to SARS. The move by the IG of police is just like someone who sold his over grown baboon and bought a new macaque. Nothing has changed because both are still of the same class. It is just a matter of time, SWAT will turn into a monster.

The agitation to #ENDSARS is one of the numerous problems that the youths are venting their frustration about. So much more lie beneath the agitations. For the #ENDSARS protest to yield the expected results, the protest demands need to be well articulated and presented to the government. Then, the demends need to be followed up and sustained until all are met. To my amazement, I read a report where Alhaji Lai Mohammed said that all the demands have been met: http://vismuene.com/49Rp
I have been wondering what and what has the government done to meet the demands.

With such claims as made by Alhaji Lai, I am afraid the government may simply pull back and relax without giving Nigerians what they are demanding or at best deploy the military which they have dubiously termed operation crocodile smile. In my opinion, we have succeeded in getting the attention of the government and perhaps the world, but the demends are yet to be achieved.

With the #ENDASRS protest, Nigerians are demanding among other things:
*Police wholistic reforms
*Stop police brutality
*Stop police sexual harrasment of our women and young girls
*Better remuneration for the police
*Institution of a disciplinary unit to sanction erring members of the police
*Training and re-training of all members of the police force especially on how to engage the citizens.
*Bail
*Timely charging of cases to court and so on.
*Extortion of every kind
*Unreasonable stop and search to collect 'roja, egunje' etc.
The list is much and I can go on and on. In my opinion, the least ranked police officers should earn at least #200,000 monthly which must be upwardly reviewed through the years. If this particular one is not done, please forget whatever the government said they have done.

So far, I do not think that the protests have yielded the expected results and until these noted concerns are addressed, Nigerian youths may have failed in holding the government accountable to reform the police force. The struggle needs to be sustained or better still, the strategy and approach need to be changed.
I have read that some protesters have turned it into a carnival of some sort and people are coming out to party. The protest goals should securly sustained and not derailed.
#ENDSARS
#ENDPOLICEBRUTALITY

A lot.
The list of things men gain in marriage are plenty.
See this article: http://vismuene.com/3myD

Some of the things mentioned in the comments are not addiction.
Addiction has components that characterize it. All or majority of these components must be clear visible before you conclude that you have an addiction.
Watch this video of a Professors explanation of what addiction is: http://vismuene.com/3m9s

I just wish the protesters can be more strategic. The protest has sent shock waves on them.

Government is already in panic mode because the #ENDSARS protest is taking a different dimension.
They didn't see this coming...

The special adviser to President Buhari on media and publicity, Mr. Femi Adesina has come out to clarify that the recent video been circulated about him is doctored.
Channels TV equally cleared the air and stated that the interview held on the 6th of August, 2020 and not recent as been circulated around various social media platforms.
The video interview link is given below:
http://vismuene.com/3GFZ

He is definitely not happy that you moved on and married another man. You did not give him any prior information.
You are certainly not over him yet. Hence, you are concerned about your ex who is happily married and ignores your texts just to get back at you.

Focus on your marriage and forget about him. Do not send him messages again. Do not even bother if he watches your status updates.

Your father most likely is married to another lady in USA and they have kids. Hence, his attitude towards his Nigerian wives and kids.

Both your mother and your wife are very correct.
You will remain a secondary school teacher with at most 150k for life.

As a Lecturer, your salary increases as you are promoted.
Graduate Assistant - 88k
Assistant lecturer - 97k
Lecturer II - 140k
Lecturer I - 160k
Senior lecturer - 200k
Associate Prof. - 300k
Prof. - 450k and above.
The figures are not exact but are within the range. Lecturers will understand.
The choice is yours.

I can tell you that she is just boasting for nothing.
Give her Vodka or Amarula. If she survives these, then she is not a human being.

What you eat defines your body to a large extent.
Eat more of fruits and vegetables.

Henceforth, stop eating any cooked food after 6pm. If you must eat, anything after 6pm, let it be fruits or fibre.

In summary, your babe has shifted her attention and emotions to a new guy.
Don't waste your time. Kindly move on and develop yourself.
Learn some skills, get busy and establish yourself.

If you break the bro code, what would you gain?
Flip the coin and put yourself in your neighbours position. Will you be happy if your babe does same to another man? What would be your reaction?
A girl who can leave her boyfriend for you can still leave you for another guy. I am certainly sure that she is still a teenager or at most under 22.

Tell your guy what's going on and save him from the impending disaster that awaits him...

Why not ask her about what moves her emotions?
Maybe she is expecting some other things. Find out and take up it from there.
Her response will tell you if she is worth your time and energy or not...

The first responders have given you enough advice.
You are still so young to even know what you want in a relationship. Do not let loneliness and desperation push you into what you would regret for the rest of your life.
Keep your virginity till you get married.
I have been dating my girlfriend for 4 years. She said no sex from the onset. I respect her decision and I won't violate it until we get married.

If you won't love him and appreciate him as he is, leave now...

Your best bet would be to leave town and go somewhere else.
Which of your uncles or aunts are you closest to? Confide in the person and ask the person to allow you to stay with them for a while. Then, look for a job at the same time.
If you stay in your father's house, you must obey him.

I'm thinking of blocking his number and ceasing communication with him.

This is the right step to take.
Serious relationship is not for the fickle minded fellows.
If you maintain communication with him, just it time, he will have sex with you and move on. He is a player and a very good one.

Mom's business first before any other thing.

fados4sure:

She is dating the two of us with the hope that the first person to do the needful will be the winner

Why are you still wasting time with someone like her?
She is being smart by half. Just in case one does not work out, she will fall back on the other person.

Relationship or marriage is not a contest. She is not the right girl for you. Period.

Peter asked Jesus, "Master, how many times should I forgive my brother if he offends me? Seven time?"
Jesus answered him, "No, seventy times seven."

If your councillor says give sex 90%, he is only telling you, "In marriage, have sex as much as possible with your partner."
Both of you should engage in sex as much as your strength can carry you provided you both are on the same page.

You are welcome

You may have to wait until you start cohabiting together.
If he says be patient, just be patient a little more. His family issues may not be giving him the courage to introduce you to his parents yet.

Have you thought of a surprise visit?
Maybe you can bring up the matter in the presence of his brother when next you all meet up. Observe how his brother will respond. This may give you a clue as to what your guy has been up to.

For some ladies, they may not see blood when they lose their virginity. She may be in that category.
Just trust and love her. You deflowered her and she will forever hold you close to her heart.

I must advise that you should not press your self so hard. If you do, you may end up with the wrong guy.
Getting along with someone you like and who likes you is not difficult. So, take it easy and try and mingle.

I have always been an extremely introverted guy. I never had a girlfriend during my Uni days till I got to NYSC. That relationship exposed me to some things which I am still suffering after 10 years.
Not having a girlfriend then did bother me but not so badly because I never allowed it to take front row of my concerns.
I had lots of female admirers then but I did not have the guts to get into a relationship with any of them. I am quite sure that you have lots of male admirers.
Today, I now understand why I was not involved with ladies back then. There must be some reasons why you are being preserved. Think deeply and try and discover who you are.

"Give to Ceaser what is Ceaser's; give to God what is God's".
Just try some more and find out exactly what the ritual entails. It will help you to decide if you want to do it for love or just back out of the marriage.

He is just am imp. Don't worry your head about him.
Rather, take him up in prayer. He can never be an obstacle to you. He will even help you the more.

Don't ever allow him come to your house or you go to his.
Prayer will just be enough...

@iLegendd do you distribute your books on Google Bookstore? How did you work around the foreign bank account and tax information since Google bookstore have select countries they allow?
Thank you.

AhmedEmeka:
But I am seeing it as a elaborated plan to get me hooked (she loves me).

This is the plan.

AhmedEmeka:
What is the most reasonable approach to this?

Run.
If you cannot run, always use protection.

Getting married to a man who raped you will forever haunt you.

Kindly take a walk, heal and wait for that loving man who will respect and appreciate you.