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KAYD007:
Am one of those that fervently believe that there are better ways of dealing with one"s woman (be it a wife or just ordinary    girl friend) assaulting her is not one of them except as an act of self defense  . therefore the act by the Deji should not be condoned. The woman too should not be spared.

Now, on the other hand, one would one would want to think,what could have made the Deji, an oba for that matter, descended so low? hmm! i hold that a good and virtuous woman would or should always at all times bring out the best in man. Going by that, the woman is a "terrible" woman! and a bad influence on the Oba!


long time ago when i was a kid, i learnt early when there is an altercation between a woman and the man, and the woman is  terribly wrong in the  matter that resulted to the altercation, and the man as a result raise his hand against her,the man automatically becomes the wrong party, this used to piss me off! and it still does as far as this Deji's case is concerned.Nobody seems to be looking at what the woman might have done to draw such violent reaction from the Oba, hence you see the women folks rising in support of their kind not minding to ask her "ore what did u to him? u cheated? slept with his friends or defrauded using his name as a bait ? but nobody gives a damn! The Oba has many wives, i know an oba is entitle to an household of wives, how come he just woked up one day and my office as an oba be damned, and assaulted her?

If am to adjudicate in the matter i would not spared one party and leave the matter!

my take.

shadrach77:
if what the oba is saying is true then maybe he is not entrely wrong - just because he is a man does not mean the lady in question was totally innocent

honeric01:
I read through and didn't see where they wrote that he's receiving treatment cos of the trauma, also ate from the food prepared that night, infact all of them ate the food according to the article.

agitator:
Abigail, the junior wife, was also receiving treatment at the hospital.

Disreal Am:
i dnt think the problem is ewedu, they must have ate something that was poisned somewhere b4 the food.

Acidosis:
, I think this question is necessary
©, was that the first time they ate the cassava? If no, then the problem is 'ewedu soup'

Residents of Ayegunle-Ekiti in Ijero Local Government Area of Ekiti State were shocked yesterday when five children of a family died after eating a cassava meal popularly known as Lafun.

The father of the deceased children, Mr. Kayode Ogunlusi, who regained consciousness after medical attention, told reporters in Ado-Ekiti, the state capital, that his family of 16 ate the food with ewedu soup on Sunday night.

He said shortly after eating the food, the children’s stomachs started rumbling.

The family is made up of the father, two wives and 12 children.

The wives’ names are Peju and Abigail.

The senior wife, Peju, who is expecting her eighth child, lost five children.

The names of the dead children are Iyabo, Rotimi, Pelumi, Abigail and Ade.

Also affected is Ogunlusi’s nephew, who is in critical condition in the hospital.

A dog, which ate out of the food, also died.

Peju was said to have prepared the ewedu soup.

Iyabo, the first child of the family, prepared the Lafun.

A source, who pleaded for anonymity, said residents were shocked when the children started vomiting and complaining of stomach trouble.

He said three children were first rushed to the General Hospital in Ijero-Ekiti, but were transferred to the University Teaching Hospital, Ado-Ekiti, where they died.

The remaining two children died yesterday morning.

Ogunlusi, who spoke at the accident and emergency ward of the hospital, said it was Peju who first complained of stomach cramps after which she vomited.

The children, he said, were rushed to the hospital one after the other.

Ogunlusi said: "The ewedu soup was prepared by Peju, who is my first wife. The lafun was prepared by Iyabo around 8pm.

"We all ate, but about 4am the following day, Peju started vomiting.

"After we took care of her at about 10am, Iyabo too complained of stomach ache. I took her to a private hospital, but she was not responding. Within a short period, she and her mother could not talk again. I, therefore, rushed them to the general hospital."

When contacted on her hospital bed, Peju was shocked to learn that Iyabo was dead.

She was yet to learn that four other children have also died as the news was kept away from her at press time.

Abigail, the junior wife, was also receiving treatment at the hospital.

Head of the emergency unit of the hospital, Dr Olusoji Abidemi, said the cause of the incident might be food poisoning.

He said: "The cassava might not be properly processed and when food, especially cassava, is not properly prepared, it could be poisonous."

Abidemi urged the people to always process food properly before eating.

He said Iyabo was brought dead to the hospital.

The remaining children, according to him, died yesterday morning.
http://thenationonlineng.net/web2/articles/47004/1/Family-loses-five-kids-after-cassava-meal-/Page1.html

Joagbaje:
babaearly,

Sin does not have effect on our our spirit. The bible call them works of the [b]FLESH.[/b]

Galatians 5:19
   Now the works of the flesh are manifest, which are these; Adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lasciviousness,

Sin can be difined as Dominion of the flesh or dominion of the senses. A man That is still battling with sin has not come to full comprehension of his nature . He is a babe or carnal . God wants us to grow into perfection. A carnal christian is born again but he still finds himself yield to fleshly desires. Even though God has made provision to forgive him for any mess, He needs to grow out of that level. by walking in the spirit.

Galatians 5:16
   This I say then, Walk in the Spirit, and ye shall not fulfil the lust of the flesh.

But if he finds himself in a mess, he is still  the son of God in a mess period!. He should just get out of it.and God wipes him clean. He is not a sinner.

No child of God wants to sin. Every child of God wants to please God.If a Christian falls into a mistake, dont rejoice over him. help restore him rather.If you become too judgemental over a fault of another Christian, one day you will fall into a bigger mess.Your lack of mercy will boomerang.

Galatians 6:1
   Brethren, if a man be overtaken in a fault, ye which are spiritual, restore such an one in the spirit of meekness; considering thyself, lest thou also be tempted.

lysaa:
Committing a sin doesn't make a Christian a sinner. .I bellieve thats the discourse.
Thats what man gets when he seeks his own righteousness. . no wonder God spoke thru Isaiah that this righteousness by the law is as filthy rag. But Thru Christ, we have been introduced to another righteousness which is by faith and its an inherent gift to anyone in Christ. Man can not help himself, if he could, there wouldn't have been a need for Jesus to show up on earth to die in our stead. We were helpless but thank God He sent us help. Abraham believed God and it was counted unto him for righteousness. God step on mount sinai and it was called a Holy mount. The area of the burning bush was called Holy because God showed up there.The bush did not fast the mount did not pray, all Abraham had to do was to believe in God who calls those things that be not as tho they were. There are no middle grounds, either u are righteous or not. .no 90% holiness or righteousness.

princekevo:
Well dear your answer is not biblical. Considering the parable of the Ten Virgins. The 5 lost out of the feast becoz of the were not prepare jst like a half washed dish is still unprepared to be used. Such preaching from pastors like C.O are the reason why many christians today live with sins, becoz they believe once saved  is saved forever even though they keep leaving in sin and call it a mistake. We are aware there are sins of omissions but you find out that this christians are really living in a sin of commission. The person you see as a well known sinner might repent today, sudenly die tml and will make it to heaven jst like the theif by his right hand. The so called born again christian can sin today and die tml but face the everlasting damantion jst like Judas did.

So sister, What matter is not what you were or what you have been, but what you are at the time you are being called back home.

My brother God has given us his word upon which the  gospel should be based. So i dont need God to come down again to tell me what is is right or wrong.

kemisuga:
Yes, a formal colleague from Christ Embassy, told me the same thing, that once he is born again, he has no more sin even if he committed any sin, cause Jesus has already paid it all on the cross.

AMAZING isnt it?

They go know say hell fire get part 2.

Not only amazing, even funny.

Infact its series and parts are unending.

Sonofpeace:
You still don't get my question. My question was: What are the difference btw a Prodigal son(as all have sinned) and a former Prodigal son that was forgiven but he later sinned/trespassed against his father? Are the two not the same in sight of their father? What makes the forgiven son more righteous than the Prodigal son?

Sonofpeace:
I commend your illustration, it was really splendid but i guess you missed the answer to your illustration. If a man's son could disobey him without any remorse or rependance the son automatically disowed himself from his father. From what i know about the creation of man everybody were created/made by one person(Almighty God) but according to Romans 3:23 all have sinned and come short of the glory of God. And if that is true, what is the difference btw the prodigal son(unbeliever) and the forgiven prodigal (that disobeyed his father)? Mind you both of them were of the same father.

Acidosis:
The BIBLE says, ''the soul that sinneth shall die''. ''the wages of sin is death''. Some of these pastors are only trying to reframe the word of God in other to suit their congregation, remember that God can't be mocked.

For God's sake, how can a man of God say such a ridiculous statement. So even a man in the faith caught sleeping with another man's wife is not a sinner, God! help us in this end time.

Sonofpeace:
You did not read verse 4 of 1John 2, Once one compromises Gods standard and principles that person is automatically a sinner but maybe not condemn unto death(1John 5:17) and know ye therefore that the sin unto death are sins against the holy spirit (which leds to retrobate spirit) while the sin not unto death are sins committed but not against the holy spirit(which can be forgiven if the person in question ask God for forgiveness while on earth) but can lead one into eternal death(Romans 8:13). I have this question for you, What if that your so called believer-sinner did not ask for forgiveness, what will be his fate if he eventually die?

marvix:
Oshiomole did nothin wrong in invitin IBB nd Mark, Soyinka and other AC leaders who boycoted d rally are cowards who can't nd cldnt stand up to IBB nd giv him a piece of their mind mayb they stil xpect him 2 com ova if d PDP denies him d presidential ticket so no need to stir d nest.


Keyamo nd others gave IBB food 4 thot, Oshiomole didn't use or allow d rally be used as a platform 4 any sort of campaign nd dat was d wisdom in invitin pple frm d other divide AC does not know jack abt politics nd dats y they hav bin unable to put their house in order to capitalise on d problems in the pdp.


Oshiomole is a better politician dan all those AC lords includin Tinubu himself wen Oshiomole wanted 2 go into politics d 1st wise decision he made was to run 4 gov of his state instead of d presidency, 2ndly he brought his LP into an alliance wit d AC even allowed d AC platform b used because there was a crack in pdp nd d pple were tired but if d opposition was not tick ther was no assurance d pple wld b able 2 ask the pdp 2 leave.


Politicians shld realise dat nigerians are tired of pdp but we need an organised, stable nd well spread alternative to the pdp.

marabout:
My sister,  like many have already mentioned, one cannot generalise. What is sure is that it takes some effort to live with someone from a different culture in addition to the efforts that a relationship/marriage requires irrespective of who you marry.  You have to ask yourself if you want to make such extra effort. If you do, wonderful.

It is a bit like a Nigerian going to study in China. You have to first learn Chinese before you can start the studies proper. I have dated ladies of various nationalities. Prejudice and racism in most of their families was horrendous. 

There was one funny case where I took a caucasion ex-girlfriend on holiday to several European countries. We returned to London and she phoned her mother in "Middle England" telling her how much she enjoyed Europe and how wonderfully I showed her round several European cities. She was very careful not to reveal to her mother that I am black person for fear that she might have a heart attack! All that on the eve of the millenium.  When the relationship ended, that was it. No more foreigners.

Believe me, despite our modern individualism, we still do need the support of our friends and families in marriage, especially when sometimes the couple have difficulties.

When I was younger, I was rather idealistic and naive, preaching that race, culture and skin colour don't matter. In an ideal world, it shouldn't matter. But the world is not ideal.

It becomes more difficult with time when the man wants to go back home for good and become an elder. If he's from an aristocratic family, chances are he will have to return home when his father dies especially if he's the senior son. The foreign lady may decide that she doesn't want to go.

This is not to discourage anyone but just speaking from my own experience. It works for some, it doesn't work for some. My parents were never against marrying a foreigner but I decided against it after my experience. Going by the experience of those around me over the years, the success rate is quite low. Well experience is the teacher. No venture, no success. Bonne Chance!

Your parents forced you to marriage, your husband accented to adultery. Now you want us to advise you to leave him. Do you ever take a decision of your own?

Dude, christian = christlike, or are you a pagan ? Mr poster said birthday is the practice of the pagan so why later on christians adopting it and even implying it on jesus, christmas

darqly:
@ Abuzola and your pseudonym freelinks- That you have an opinion doesn't mean its a FACT. Why do you feel the need to force your beliefs down EVERYONE's throat? Why do christians celebrate their birthdays? the question should have been why do PEOPLE celebrate their birthdays because the last time i checked PAGANS, MUSLIMS, JEWS, CHRISTIANS, ATHEISTS, THE WHOLE SHEBANG celebrate their birthdays

Lest I forget, aren't you in your period of fast? Don't be expending your meagre energy levels online.

Bi Salaam

Comingo:
Is birthday keeping a good thing in Christianity? did Christ tell us to celebrate our "date of birth" and his also?

lets look at the Birthday occurences in the Bible and how they turned out.

The first account is in Genesis. Pharaoh, the Egyptian king, celebrated his birthday by executing his chief baker (Gen. 40:1-23). God gave Joseph special understanding of a dream by Pharaoh’s butler and baker, that the baker would lose his life three days after Joseph interpreted the dream. Joseph understood that Pharaoh would use this occasion—his own birthday party—to put his baker to death. As the dream had foretold, the baker was hung at the party.

In the second account, the New Testament figure Herod the tetrarch reluctantly ordered the beheading of John the Baptist (Matt. 14:3-11). Notice verse six: “But when Herod’s birthday was kept…” During the dancing and merry-making at his birthday party, Herod got carried away and eventually made a promise that he did not want to keep. As a result, a great servant of God lost his life.

so really what do Christians mean when they celebrate birthdays?