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Seun should arrange for this party in Warri. Let everyone come down here and party.

Way to go, free. Everyone's seen all the different types of cocks in that church

Zahy,
Brother Jakumo is no boy o. He's our amiable, very logical, reasonable and thoroughly educated guru in da house. You need to get to know him very well. He's altogether funny.

Bros Jakumo, make u carry go! we dey behind you like the tortoise shell.

Mai brother Mariory, it's no news again that our bunch of senators are actually rubber stamp lawmakers o. They will dance to any tune as long as you dangle the juicy carrots before them. What with ghana-must-go bags positioned very close to the maces at the national assembly, meant for senators/honorable reps who will approve of OBJs third term?

Throughout the life of OBJs administration, he has been the invisible hand remote-controlling everything that affects our daily life. He's the author of hike in fuel prices, the maker of obnoxious laws and the grand designer of gangsterism. What about intimidation of opponents through the use of state apparatus. He's turned NEPA to PHCN, and we are worse for that.

I believe it's because baba has suddenly realised that there's nowhere to hide with his multitude of sins and that the third term project will not see the light of the day. That's why he's making frantic efforts to get his ilks in the senate(and he's got quite a number of them) to come up with a law that will allow him freedom to move around freely, as another option out of the web he's entangled in.

May the Lord almighty deliver us from our oppressors.

http://www.guardiannewsngr.com/news/article06/210306

Hmnn. My people, make una see the face of a corrupt, corruption fighter. His ilks are rooting for immunity for him, so that his sin, which are many will not be uncovered. They say it's an easy way for him to dump third term.

Methink, he'll face the music for all he's done and he's going to dance pretty well.

Chief2B:
Sometimes a marriage can go bad. Why stay in a unhappy and potentially health ruining marraige? I have been married 3 times. The first marriage ended when I can home early from work and found about 4 kilos of marijuana sitting on my kitchen table. While I was working in a State Government job my wife decided to deal drugs while I was out of town. Now, would you stay in the marriage knowing that you could possibly be facing a prison term?
The second marriage ended after 8 years. If a person says that a man can not get abused in a marriage they are wrong. I suffered not physical abuse but mental abuse. I worked 2 jobs just to put my wife through college. When she got her degree it seemed that she had no use for me anymore. She refused to spend anytime with me, sex was out of the question. I'm a neat freak, so when I would come home after work, the house was totally trashed. She didn't care, she knew I would be cleaning it up. So after working 12 hours, I would be up another 6 hours cleaning, doing laundry etc. After about 2 years I had enough and got divorced.
I am now married to the most wonderful woman. We spend time together, we share in all the household duties, she supports me and I support her.
So yes, I agree in divorce because why stay in a crappy marriage when both could be happy with a divorce.

Now we are dealing with a man. Interesting.

But Chief2b, are you a Christian? It would be very difficult to join issues with you on this one if you're not. But if you are, then, a lot needs to be done on your part. So, I will reason with you with the assumption that you're a Christian.

Wife No 1.
Your true, original + real wife:
You're hiding something from us here. When you cajoled, dated, loved and eventually married this woman, was she doing drugs at that time? Did anyone forced you to marry the woman at that time? Did you not promise to love, care and cherish her until death part you both? Why is it that it was the time she needed you most (doing drugs) that you decided to leave her? You were not loving and caring. And[b] her blood might be required from you[/b] on the judgement day.

You remind me of Bobby Brown, who's filed for divorce against Whitney Houston because of her present predicament, which he, by his actions, caused this lovely woman.

You'd better go back to this woman and take her back.

The woman you're staying with now is not your wife. Please leave her now because you're preventing another man from getting his blessing. And you must release her to go and meet her real husband.

@Alheri, Peace be unto you. You need not be angry at my statements here. I've even[b] gleaned from your entry that all I've been saying does not apply to you.[/b] Look at your own words:

alheri:
@ono, well am not sure you were but if you were refering to me as per your statement on people been muslims, am not a muslim. Never have been and by the grace will never be.
I am a christian, and I know that I sinned by having pre-marital sex, God had a reason for blessing me with a son.

If you were not married to that man (as I would like to believe) then, there's no cause for alarm. You have no reason to feel bad about my entries here. You had pre-marital,

OK, Alheri, let's chat on YIM on this matter, if you don't mind. I'm very sorry if I've hurt you in anyway.

@kasali, your entry on Biola and Nimiye is really thought provoking. And how have you been coping with these friends of yours? I see they've developed thick skin for beating.

Yeah, Domino, I like your 'requirements' or is it 'qualities'. But, have you given this statement of mine a thought?: Light and Darkness are often times, miles apart. They can never ever meet.

If you want a man who'd meet all your conditions for marriage, please make sure you have all the qualities that will make that man available and willing to take you as his wife, when he comes calling. And like the alias of one of my friends on this forum: It takes two to tango(2cantango)

Alheri, remember, we are friends. No harm intended by any of my statements in here. I will reply you later. I'm very busy now.

Nothing else could better describe Ngige like toshmann did. You're dammed right man!!

mamaput:
I know of a boy that the dad did not pay a cent for , the dad promised to visit but did not come.
Now the boy is a man the dad is looking for him but the man dose not waht to hear or know from him.
He dose not answer his letters nothing.

But that man is the biological dad, whether the ol'boy likes it or not, rich or poor, wretched or sane, abusive or not, beast or human. And believe me, he'll get over this annoyance of his when people make him realise that blood is thicker than water, especially when they start calling a family meeting here and there, and his name features prominently. Abeg, mamaput, leave matter for matthias, when the chips are down, pattern go change instanta.

By agreeing to OBJs babacratic 3rd term ambitions and waiting for him to relinquish that position in 2011. Something like total loyalty to baba's cause.

Why do I have this feeling that I'm dealing with muslim women in here? Anyway, I used to know that muslims can do and undo anything they want in marriage; or has that changed too?

Please note that my entries here applies only to christians o.


I've heard of stories in time past where women raised kids in other mens home. The man did not send a dime to help the woman raise his child. But the child kept asking after his father when he was old enough to know his left from right. It got to the stage where he had to personally search for his father. The boy wants to meet his biological father. His folks at school calls him a bastard. He's thoroughly embarrassed his mom will not tell him who his biological father is. A bit of digging here and there led him to his dad, and he left his mom for his dad, even when the man could not meet the need of the boy. He prefers staying with that poor dad and starting a new life than staying in some palatial building where he'd be called a bastard.

So, there lies my reasoning in this regard.

The young man did not do a proper homework on the lady. Anyways the deed is done. They've got to live with it. They should adopt a child.
And miracles still happen, God can give her a new womb miraculously. And that will clear the air.

Davidylan,
You're my man o!! Anyday, I dey with you jare. Leave all these people, them no know wetin dey.

OBJ is a very crafty man. I pray my paths never cross his own and his children after him. I just don't trust the man with anything.
What happened at the Courts at Enugu was the result of OBJ's invisible hands. Granted Ngige did not win the governorship election of Anambra, but why on earth did it have to take so long for the judiciary and INEC to reach a conclusion on this?

OBJ's coming to power in 2003 was through rigging. Buhari has challenged him up to the Supreme courts level. But OBJ is the invisible hands that frustrated that man efforts.

@wiseguy, Abati's my mentor.

This thing does not apply to those who's divorced their first husbands and are married to another. Please understand my basis for argument.

It's not as difficult as you're trying to make it look. Don't lose sight of the basis of my arguments.

The woman is not legally married to the man. But she had a child for/through him. Now, I want to date her and eventually marry her.

If the child is still in the infant stage, I will seek the consent of the ''father''. I will make him understand why it's important for the woman to keep the child. But if he insists on keeping his baby and taking care of the child in his own way, then so be it.

But if the child is of age, I mean old enough to decide where he wants to be, then let him decide. If he decides to stay with me and her mother, this will be properly documented and filed. He will have to abide by the way we (I and his/her mother) wants to live our lfe. In fact, he/she must be pleased with us and our lifestyles, for him to want to stay with us.


But, if the woman was[b] married [/b] to the man legally, in the first instance, surely I will not even think of dating her, talkless of marriage.

I see many of you chaps/men/girls/women want the best of them all as your partner. It is all well and good.

But in the real world, people change. You might meet this angelic being and fall instantly for him/her. But be reminded that[b] your spouse will be what you want him/her to be after your marriage to him/her.[/b] So, you can meet this man/woman an angel, but you might turn him/her to a beast, or you improve on the angelic character in that person. Either way, you have the utmost responsibility of ensuring that you keep this spouse of yours from going astray.

The best thing to do now is to start praying for your spouse, where-ever he/she may be. It's very important to pray to God to lead you to the man/woman that will be the best to bring out all the Godly qualities in you. Not that man/woman that will turn you to a punch-bag!!

We've not seen the end to this one yet. More to come.

Grizzly:
Still learnt nothing, or am i dumb??

Well, after more than 600 posts on this forum, you still have not learnt a thing? You need to answer that dumb question yourself.

@toshmann, My brother, I'm not a big time football fan. Thanks for the correction, and that's why I put the question mark, cause I'm not very sure.

@Seun, you never really liked the way I view issues. It's OK. We are all entitled to our own opinion. And peoples opinions, often times, are based on some form of background knowledge. This ''knowledge'' must have been tried and tested in times past and its potency verified.

Would you blame me for believing in the potency, completeness and purity of the word of God and applying same to everything that affects mankind in every sphere of life?

Well, you once stated that you don't want to become a christian anymore. I hope you'd have a rethink on that and go back to where you'd find peace, true joy and knowledge undiluted.


Now, back to this matter:

Adoption is not as[b] simple [/b] as I think you've described it. Everyone of us came into this world via a man (the seed from him) and a woman. They both have a say (no matter how crude one of the other parties may be) in the life of that child. So when you want to adopt the child, you've got to seek the parents consent. Not one of them, but the two together (father and mother). Except of course, one of them is deceased, then the other partner can go it all alone.

So, in the case I've just described, I will adopt the child of the woman, if the ''father'' is dead, and I will be a father unto the child/children. But I will still seek the consent of the child/children's father's relations as well. But if the child/childrens father is still alive, then they must go back to him. He's their father and by tradition, these kids will bear his name. It does not matter if the mother likes the situation or not. When the chips are down, the mother will have to give in. Except if the child is of age and wants nothing to bind him to his biological father.

One other exception: The father was not legally married to this woman. He's alive. But he wants me to adopt the child and my would-be wife also accepts it and this agreement is properly documented, not some verbal stuff. He accepted that he made a big mistake by putting my would-be wife in the family line.

I will adopt that child and make him/her my own child, for the mother's sake. I know how normal women take children. I will take the child/children as my own.

This is one weird American way of life. Just calm down. Would you like to make your union with that man official? I mean, is he willing and making plans towards making your union with him official as in marriage?

If he's not, then I suggest it's high time you left him and his mom. But if you love him and would like to be his wife, even when he's not very much interested in it, then try and make him interested in settling down. And after settling down as husband and wife, then you'd have the gut to chase out who you don't want in your home.

But right now, there's nothing much you can do, than to just live with it.

The question is:

Would You Date A Single Parent?

And my answer is YES, if all the situations are just right for it.

Are you married? If yes, then when you divorce that man, you must remember that you're not going to have to marry another man.

If you're not, take time to pray for your would-be husband today. Tell God to lead you to the man perfect for you. And He will do it. We've had to deal with too many terrible situations on marriages in this world. Peace.

I have said it before now, and I will repeat it again:

If your husband ever raise his hands against you, pack your luggage and leave him. Don't divorce him, but stay away from him until he's his old self when you married him. While you're away, as a christian, take time to pray for him. Surely you love that man, that's why you allowed him to take your hand in marriage.

Once that marriage has been sealed by appropriate authorities, in the presence of men and women of goodwill, then, only death, can separate one of you from the other. Any other means (including Divorce) is a Sin against your Soul, Body and Spirit. And more significantly, against God.

Lest I forget, it does not matter if the man/woman you are married to is a beast or lioness. You've got to stick to the person.

This is why you've got to be very careful when you pick the man/woman you want to spend the rest of your life with, or else you may have to spend the rest of your life in misery and bitterness.

My dear pretty sister, it's true. I cannot marry someone who's divorced and is a single parent. My Bible tells me that I will be tagged an adulterer by doing so. And I don't want to spend eternity in Hell o.

That's why I will only marry a true widow.

But, I've just learn't of another category of single parents: These are the types that were not legally married to a man/woman, but really had an issue for that man/woman, somehow by mistake.

Now, in such a case, I can marry the woman, if I love her and I will forgive her of her past wrongs, so long as she's sincerely told me all about her past, and there will be no surprises in the marriage. But she must return that child/children to the father and start a new life with me.

But OBJ's acronym is MONACCO - reminds me of that Spanish? footbal league side.

Maybe we are in for some dribbling drills from Baba in the next couple of months or so.

Make una leave Kola alone. He's sold out to OBJ's cause, and he's not going to change.

My dear sister, Seun's like that. I believe he will beat his wife for just sleeping on the other side of the bed!!!

My sister nawah, some minor mistakes can be so great, that the person who's going to analyse and look at it will not take it as a minor one at all Just like the one Alheri has described above. I guess that woman took it that her virginity is a minor issue that her husband will get over. But she was mistaken. And the young gentleman became a lion for it.

We have to be very careful the way we relate with people. People are different, and should be treated with caution. Get to know the likes and dislike of your spouse. Let him/her see that you're doing your best to please him/her. You'll see the light at the end of the tunnel, in the end.

If u're online, then you can reach me now on onosj5@yahoo.co.uk