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Not surprised

Scottie Pippen is also married to a cuban american I believe. Goodluck to them.

I think I am an introvert

2 minute man

Yeah. That must be what it is. She is a very horrible person. Why else would a sane man do such a thing to his wife. She has done some horrible things too and it is the guilt that is keeping her there. That's why she went from thinking about cheating on him to rebuilding the marriage to now remembering all the horrible things she has done. Some women really drive men to do horrible things to them

They need to investigate how the 15 year old daughter died. There were signs. I am sure they kept sending the boy for "deliverance" rather than getting help

LOL. Did he say this with a straight face or he said it hiding his face under the table

Somebody is struggling with life and rather than give him clear guidance people were telling him he needs deliverance. Why won't he kill himself. People need to understand that all they need to succeed is them and all they also need to fail is in them. May his soul rest in peace

Idowuogbo:
Woman u are a clownnnnn as in serious comic relief loool, u actually told him about NL and he instantly said he will change, gal we not block heads judging from d the way u have potrayed his character, I sense telling him has provoked him to arrange 7 more concubines to his list of fornications.Sweerie stop bleeding in love dis guy plays you out like our grandfathers rinsed out the legendary Bob Marley's track,did he promise to stop womanising too ?  am sure he did but obviously that can never change he's a SERIAL CHEATER.However, I see your love for him is beyond words and I say dis prayer for you GOD PLS MAKE HIM HER DESIRE,IF IMPOSSIBLE GRANT HER SON A ROLE MODEL AND SHE D MOTHER HER HEART DESIRE.Goodluck I go love ooooo *winks*

To be honest with you it is the child I am worried about. She has basically told this man all her plans. If a man like this knows what this woman is thinking he can hide that child and there is nothing she can do. That she eve went back and talked to this man is beyind me. Wow. I am truly speechless

I think it is the way you presented the question. You have a point. A persons background definitely affects the way the live their lives. The way they make choices. The way they tackle serious life issues. Even the way they handle simple conflicts. It does not mean though that you totally write someone off because his father is in jail for murder or his mother had an affair with their driver.

The most painful part is all the parts

agiboma:
@ ivy thanks for seeing it that way. i have told myself and beleive that our relationship will become fully open its just a matter of time. This man is so self absorbed and so into himself he cant consider anyone else except himself. But i have learnt from this forum is that my situation is not the "norm"in this country. I was led to beleive that it was but you people have set it straight in my head. Eventually i may leave but now is not the right time to do so.

So your plan is to start keeping men outside of the marriage. That will not solve your problem. Cut your losses and that includes financial losses. That might be the only reason he keeps you around. You need to be tough with yourself. You should be more harsh with yourself than Jenny is to you. i totally get her frustration though I suspect she did not take her medication today LOL. I get where she is coming from because when I screw up I whip myself back to normal. Nobody has to do it for me. You are not helping yourself by thinking the way you are. If you step out on this man while you are married you will hate yourself. If you are tired then return to canada and file for divorce. Have some dignity. Your are sttrong but you are letting self pity make you look like a wimp. The man that married you knows it and his family knows it. If you have to cut your family off then do it also for a time. If they will not support your decision to leave this man. You seem to have decided that you are worth nothing. I cannot imagune a man doing the things this one has done and coming to you to say he wants to complete his family. Chai. Dem never born that person.

PS
I know many Nigerian men that do not behave like this man. Sorry but this one is an agbaya. In as much as I get on the case of Nigerian men a lot I know MANY that will be offended that you actually believe that this is the acceptable behavior from Nigerian men. I think it is something you have cooked in your head to justify staying with this user and abuser.

agiboma:
@ cotton i undertand what you are saying but my son is not Nigerian he was born in Canada i have his Canadian passport, i dont think my husband will go to this extent. He is a womanizer, its not just me for so long i blamed myself feeling that i was not attractive enough or i gained to much weight after my son, but i have lost so much of the weight already i am only 2 dress sizes larger than befor i got pregnant and i dont have stretch marks. If i begin to sniff things are getting really bad i wont say a word to him i know where the airport is and how to get their he fully well knows that he would have to kill me to take my son away, i love my baby he is the best thing i ever got from this man. My husband would not take him away he has another son that he walked away from, despite his womanizing ways he belives no man should take a child from the mother @ least that one i can be assured off because of his prior history. This relationship is not easy by any means its so different from the western men i dated in the past, but fighting with him does not work so i am just trying to understand and be as humble as i can be. On another note when we are in Canda he is a different person he behaves like a western person but in Nigeria he is a complete local no offence intended.

I can see that you are hell bent on not facing reality. She has warned you about being cautious with your son and you have quickly ran to a husbands defense that clearly does not care about you or the boy. I can see that he read you like a book before he picked you. Nothing anybody says here will change your mind. Even when you act that you are ready to leave he will come back and say one silly thing and you will think that it is all good and then he will do it again. Stay there and put your child in harms way because you must stay married to a man that clearly does not want to be married. You are not the kind of person that you sugar coat things on. At least I know that after you do what I know you will do anyway you cannot use the excuse "I wish I had known"

bayooooooo:
The problem with Nigeria is that people in authorities think exactly the same way you do! In all essential points, you have given Sultan a clean bill of health. What IF, he is responsible for all this mess? Your thinking is rather too shallow and utterly simplistic!

What is needed to be done is for the president to do his job or f$$king sack himself?

You can't possobly be responding to what I wrote

bayooooooo:
Fool, it's not the duty of Sultan to speak against Boko Haram! Just imagine for a second: Sultan could as well be the main financier of BH. Just as some generals were selling weapons from Nigerian amoury to MEND. It's the duty of your dumb and retar$ded president to fish out the perpetrators!

I am really shocked at what you are saying. It might not be his legal duty but certainly even you should admit that he has a moral obligation if not to Nigeria as a whole but to Nigerian muslims. Saying what he said on a day when something so horrible happened to a fellow Nigerians makes him a bad leader. It is almost as if the lives that were lost are not worth anything. You do what is right and not what you feel is your duty. This is truly the problem with Nigeria. People saying it is not my problem and point at someone else to handle it. The leaders are not doing it and the people support them in that line of thinking. How will things ever change

juman:
The Sultan has been always trying to unify the muslim of the north and the south since he became sultan.

How can you talk about unification of northern and southern muslims and in the same breath support boko haram. Southern muslims are not violent and it is quite scary that a man who is in support of boko haram is trying to unify anything. With people like these supporting boko haram publicly and then we have half brained gej at the helm I am very scared for Nigeria. Buhari would have been a billion times better than gej. Anybody is better that gej

So he publicly admitted that he does not believe that Boko Haram is a terrosist organization. They are just being set up abi? PUBLICLY. I weep for that country

Don't you think you have a moral obligation to also put the very serious side effects of ingesting silver. It makes you sound like you don't mind killing someone for personal gain. List the side effects and let people make an educated decision on what they are buying. It is the right thing to do

Has your President put out an official statement? I would like to read it if he has even bothered to do that. SMH. What a wasteland.

Why shouldn't he when he knows that he has you at home to feed him after his girlfriends have worn him out with marathon sex. Show yourself some respect and maybe then he may respect you. How can you claim you are doing it for your son. He will grow up and think you are what an example of a woman is. He will never be able to treat a woman with dignity and respect because you taught him that you are less than a human being. The bomb blast has been heavy on my mind all day but your posts is so highly irritating to me. It is the child I feel sorry for

NextHome:
Please, PRAY for Nigeria.

I am tried of praying. Let it go to hell. That is what the animals governing want so let it be that way.

She should have been confined to the psychiatric ward the moment he discovered she was pregnant. I really hope she has not harmed the baby

On Christmas day. Nigeria is finished. I really hate that country. There is nothing there. My parents choose to retire there and I respect that. That country is being ruled by lower grade human beings. GEJ just walks around like someone suffering from dementia. I know it is not that hard to fish people out. Make a fcuuking example. I am so bloody fed up with this crap

Debrief it is your fault for showing you sexy pregnant belly


On a serious note why don't you talk to this kid. Maybe sit with your husband and tell him but get him to calm down enough to were you both can talk to him since he respects you both. This is very serious. Maybe he has been exposed to sex from another older female. I will suggest that he is not given free access to the house and not to be left alone with you. Maybe you guys can ask straight forward questions like where he learned the behavior from and if anybody has touched him. Don't tell his parents for now. These kids get exposed to porn and nobody ever sits doen with them and educate about sex. He saw it in a movie and it turned him on. The only other female he is constantly around with is Aunty Debrief so he put two and two together and ended up with seven

I read this earlier. It's truly tragic. May her soul find peace

I think Yvonne Nelson is gorgeous. I am not sure though why you believe that Jackie and Nadia are better looking that their Nigerian counterparts. To each their own I guess

afam4eva:
make warri no see wetin you just write there.

LOL