₦airaland Forum

A Ghanaian guy asked me today what I did to celebrate our 50 years as a country. I not that we were in public he would have had to limp out of that building. Nigeria in all her Glory. Beat the crap of the kids why don't you and maybe that will in turn make there irresponsible and useless parents less useless.

Aloy you seem to live in fantasy land. What in laws? If they have free access to my house to sit on my couch and disrespect me then what you are talking about will make sense. I don't know why you think that anybody could just walk into anybody's home and be allowed to act like they are in a cave. It will never happen in our home

[quote author=Aloy+Emeka link=topic=319961.msg6984436#msg6984436 date=1287656545]Where are you gonna live after taking that chunk?[/quote]In my house. where else

Clayton:
Women are really sensitive about men going on the rampage. The idealogy out there is that no reason is good enough to abdicate.However studies show that men are visual and women are mental. When men are not visually challenged they get bored. Also there is the absence of extra-curricular activities unlike the west. Women must help their spouse to get into the frame of mind of going out on "dates". Having quality time together. Doing things differently from just sitting somewhere to chew meat like carnivores and drink copious amount of alcohol.

That is where you are just wrong. Many women take the time to look fit today and many men (especially african men) tend to be lazy about the way they look. The more fit the woman looks the more likely she would be disgusted with a fat husband. The chances of her getting hit on by a man half her age is very high. Woman in her 30s and has a 40 year old man at home. Wife has 20 something year old neighbor panting after her. The man is probably sitting there thinking she is boring while the wife could have a younger manliness if she really wanted to step out.

I doubt that any in laws will walk into someones home if they know that she just might jump up and take a chunk of their ass.

This shows that you cannot put a price on common sense

I pray that no Nigerian woman ever wants you. I know a guy just like you. My husband even told me that when they were in school the guy did not even care about black girls. As a matter of fact he told my husband that just looking at the skin of a white woman is enough for him. Fast forward 8 years later when he travelled out of state to atlanta and saw a lot of Nigerian chicks, all of a sudden he is saying "oh I did not know that there were such beautiful Nigerian girls in the US. I wish I had known 8 years ago". Mscheeeeew. As if he would have dated one. He felt they were beneath white women in his little mind.

Paha:
Sometime ago I was annouyed seeing a friend of mine(married man)making love n do move with different calibre of babes.I advised him that what he is doing is wrong as a married man,that he should stop it.He just laughed and said,Mr man(me)when u reach there,u will know why and probably do what i m doing now,and may even do more than me.Thats the only thing he said and left.

Now, I'm married like him,i now realize that after some time you stayed together with your wife,at a point,there will be a time when even if your wife is standing unclothed before before you,you will not be moved.You wont feel the urge,your rod will not even shake.  Ironically,when you see other women/ladies even on the road,you will be moved,feeling the urge,your rod will be vibrating,melting inside your pant,etc,to the extent that you may begin to nurse the ambition of going to them more than the wife you kept in your house.

It will only take you as a man to make up your mind that no matter what happens,no matter the urge,etc,that you will never fall.That you will never compromise your faith and sin against God.

My question is:Do you(men)observe such?,can it be over staying together with your wife(seeing her everyday) or what is the cause?.,For women,do you women also feel such to their man---,not being moved,but when you see another man you will be melting inside?

You think women don't feel the same way about their husbands after a while? Or do you think men look like they are thirty years old forever. Yeye

If I decide to respond I will type forever. There is always a root cause and I know that most Africans are not ready to change money habits anyway.

There is nothing I will not hear on nairaland rotflmao

Genevieve all the way. Omo who?

That mentality from Nigerians just robs me the wrong way. It should be seen as a national disgrace. Even family members do it to less fortunate family members. I hope that little girl uses her situation today to push her to be great tomorrow. People are so short sighted. How many times have we read stories of people falling into desperate need and the only person that could help them was someone they treated like poo poo. Anyway God bless that child. No condition is permanent

So cute. LOL

In my opinion it does not even matter what arrangement was maid before the children came. When you hold your child in your arms it is a different story. I remember my Ghanaian friend's husband did not want kids before marriage. She even got pregnant without his "yes". He pouted for a while but when grandma came to carry the child back to Ghana the man simply refused. They even have two kids now and the man is the perfect dad. It is one thing to make plans but another to hold your child in your arms.
What is common sense to some has to be taught to others obviously. I am sure this woman is smarter now and I am glad that social services are in on it too.

Wow. I definitely would have ripped up the pictures. Why would I want them in my house. I really don't care if my husband throws away cards I give him though but I would throw pictures I don't like in the trash. Absolutely. Is she saying she never saw the pictures before? Hmm. If not then the man was seriously hiding them. Just wondering was there also a jar of vaseline with the pictures

I guess you and your girlfriend have very different upbringing. I personally would have left if I realized that my man's mother was staying. I blame you here. You know your mom and you should have known that it would have been an issue. You should have together with her come up with a quick escape route. You are to blame. Don't blame mom. I am not saying your mom was right but you did not handle your business either

Why the attack? Simple question. He did not even say he was begging his mother for money.

gestapo:
You don't understand? Awwww shucks, sorry about your plight, but i can't help you there, so kindly move aside for those who would understand No hard feelings

You are talking a lot but saying nothing. So we should now give him a round of applause because he stayed with his wife while she went through painful IVF. AFterall according to you most Nigerian men are irresponsible and just go find another woman. Wow. What a hero.
I don't know why people like to lie to themselves. Where do you live gestapo? Granted I have never lived in a ghetto but even in a ghetto the law will still hold people accountable for their actions. Is that the case in Nigeria? Please do not insult people by trying to compare crime in the Uk to Nigeria. It will make more sense to compare it to a war zone.

dayokanu:
This would serve as a lesson to those who believe they can import women to make their wife. A woman who needs a visa would never argue with you even if you say she should do frog jump everyday until she gets what she wants.

I find it hard to believe that the man didnt tell the woman while they were dating or before they had kids that he wants them to be raised in Nigeria. The woman probably had no objection then cos she wants to get to America first, get papers and have kids before showing her true colours

This also goes to women who believe they can go bring husband from home, They guy would even agree to wash your clothes, cook, clean and wash your feet. Wait till he gets what he wants.

The woman has now gotten the children she wants and the father of the children is dispensable. as long as he pays the Child support. He cant even see his own kids cos a restraining order is in where they went to hide his own children he probably prayed fervently to have and spent money celebrating their birth.

Probably the man spent a lot of his fortune during the IVF procedure just to have his own kids not knowing he has a scheming wife who already planned to take the kids away.

Why should the man care if he sees them? Was he going to be seeing them every weekend when they are in the village. There is stupid and then there is stupid. If the woman still has any sense she should better act because those children will vanish under her nose

This is the problem I h ave with a lot of Nigerian women. Rather than tell the man straight up that he is not taking the children anywhere she decided to fight and now she is in jail. She needs to help herself and move on from the animal. Is he bini by any chance? Just asking o before people come and crucify me

joy2dworld:
employee welfare and banking in Nigeria is very different from what is practised int he outside world( we practice kangaroo banking in Nigeria). find out what the bank policy says, if Gtbank did it for a staff doesn't mean SCB WILL DO IT . their policies are different. i am an ex banker and i know for sure that for you to be flown out side the country for treatment you must be from the level of a SM (senior manager) and above, or maybe by chance you have an "esther who spoke to the king on your behalf " and you found favor
the truth is we are inhumane to our staff in Nigeria esp. in the banks . unfortunately bankers are made to sign all sort when they are employed which states all these in fine print and but we somehow expect them ( management) to change when we need them. even though the late banker was a BOM she could have been a middle level officer

may her soul rest in peace , it is very sad but may God help us all and keep us in good health .

Did you miss the part were they said she was not paid her salary

Kidney problems is on the rise in Nigeria and the US. Odly many young people in Nigeria are also dying also from liver disease. It might have something to do with the misuse of medication and even sometimes taking bad/fake medicine. I really feel for this woman and her loved ones. May her soul rest in peace. She definitely went too soon.

A lot of the dead are likely innocent. May all the innocent souls rest in peace

jennykadry:
K , I am callin Mr outstrip now

He actually kind of looks like Mr Oustrip. I will just say "oh my I thought it was you my sexy husband" and you know how praise goes straight to a man's head. LOL

muaaaaaaaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhhh

You can handle your baby alone the day the baby pops out. It is natural instincts. Igbo culture says 3 months if you are going by the culture thing. Most mother's who are capable of staying might even be embarassed to live after 1 month. What was the plan before mama came

So the same person who granted that interview is the same one begging. Pride surely cometh before a fall

Maybe you should leave the girl alone. The fact that your parents are going to native doctores and prophets of doom is enough for me to pity the girl. I am sorry but I cannot wish such in laws for someone I love. The worst part is that you know and you are still considering their advice. I hope you marry someone your parents choose so that this girl will have a chance for peace in her home both physically and spiritually

I cannot speak for anyone but for myself. There is no way in H E L L that I will send my kids to Nigeria to live with a relative at any age. If they are adults and decide that is what they want then so be it. This is the height of irresponsibility to even consider taking those babies to Nigeria to live apart from their parents. I would even go as far as to recommend that she not even allow them go to Nigeria in December as planned because you never know what they have planned for them. Also no offense but I also think your friend is slow. She really needs to wake up. Get a safe deposit box and put the childrens passports there. When the man stops smoking this bad stash of weed and comes down from this high then you can start discussing with him like a man.

People seem to forget that the same lax laws in Nigeria that may protect an abusive woman might also benefit the woman if she decides to have him beaten within an inch of his life. Be careful what you wish for. The only thing that we can prove from what he says here is that he does not respect her and she does not respect him. He is quick to talk about how he brought her from that dreadful evil country Nigeria and brought her to the American promised land and therefore how can she just slap him. If I had to listen to a man talk about how he saved me every single day I might have to slap him too.
Coming here and talking about how he brought her here so that everybody can start talking about how ungrateful all these young desperate Nigerian girls can be says a lot about you. I personally hate hitting of any kind. It does not matter if it comes from the husband or the wife. I hate verbal and emotional abuse even more. In my opinion it is even worse that physical abuse in some cases.

So America was founded for slapping. Why don't you figure out what the issue is before you start blaming america

I actually feel for your friend but she is having sex with another woman's husband. IT IS WRONG. I would not stay with an abusive man but her friend and his wife can definitely repair their marriage. She thinks she is suffering now but wait until it finally dawns on her that she is just there to scratch the itch. She needs to break it off and focus on healing herself. She is just setting herself up for more disappointment