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tctrills:
Today, there are all manner of churches with different teachings and doctrines. Do all of them lead to the kingdom of heaven?
If not, what should one look out for before aligning with a church.
Please don't mention "a bible believing church," because all christian organizations believe in the bible one way or the other.

Na how you live your life. thats why it is important you study for yourself to know what is right. no be "Pastor Say"

i agree this is very suspicious, just keep a record of everything and all transactions. particularly the account they ask you to transfer to. you may want to preemptively write your bank regarding your suspicions before you do the transfer ans ask for advice from them.

cos when they start tracing money na all accounts dem go block.

Nairaland1stson:
I have suspicion that someone wants to use my account to launder money. A lady visited my shop demanding to purchase goods worth millions of naira she was so much in a hurry or desperate for someone who intends to perform such transactions. She was accompanied by a man she claimed to be her sick husband, two kids, and another young man. She claimed she needed to perform the transaction as soon as possible so she could travel down to a neighboring state for her husband's treatment.

There was no much negotiations as it seemed she was the one begging for the goods to be sold to her. After confirmation she said I should bring my POS machine so she could make a transfer, I already had suspicions on her so I told her i didn't have one and besides who would want to perform transactions worth millions of naira with a POS machine mode of payment. I suggested that she heads to the bank or make a transfer from her mobile app, which she shrugged off immediately like it was not even an option.

The young man with her insisted I get a POS vendor so that the transaction can be made which I declined and told them that there were many around the vicinity that they can go get one if they wish to. The young man left and returned a few minutes later with one, when they arrived the woman suddenly said she was scared and needed to invite the person who referred her to our place. She called this person and he arrived shortly, he was someone known to us in the past but not well known. She then requested that I get another POS vendor, which I suggested that they should get back the previous vendor they invited earlier. The young man went back again and returned with the vendor. The woman gave the vendor a debit card, which the vendor tried pulling the whole money at once, but it didn't go.(exceeded limit) The POS vendor then proceeded to split the money and it was successful. So she was only able to make part payment for the goods.

They were about to leave when I reminded them that I was supposed to issue a receipt for the part payment deposited into my account. Which I did later, and they left. Fast forward to the evening same day, she called me claiming that her husband's health was demanding much, and she wouldn't be in need of what she purchased earlier that I would have to refund her immediately.

What rose my suspicions on them are:

1. The acclaimed husband of hers, whom she claimed had stroke as at when they visited the shop, I saw him earlier when they alighted from a Keke napep which dropped them across the road and he was walking very fine but when they began to approach my shop he began to limp like he couldn't walk properly and the woman held his hand for assistance (they didn't know that I had seen him earlier walking properly without any form of aid) when they were at the shop, the acclaimed husband who had stroke sat and crossed his legs, is that even possible for someone suffering from a stroke?

2. Why would they insist on only POS mode of payment (for a transaction worth millions)

3. Why would a woman whose acclaimed husband is sick with stroke decide to perform such a transaction (her pirioty should be making sure her husband is taken care of medically)

4. I know you must be wondering what it is she bought, but I will not be disclosing such for privacy reasons (Hint: it is a single item)

5. She was incoherent when I asked for the name and address that would be added to the receipt (it seemed like she was guessing the name and address)

What are your thoughts? Should I refund the money immediately, if I will, what are the measures to be taken to ensure I am on a safe side

Serendipity2023:
I had been toasting this girl for few months on and off.

She visited two times; we kissed, smooched but never allowed me to have proper intimacy with her.

Then third time, after pre-intimacy, she was very aroused, and then asked for a condom.

I wore it, and was still touching her. She drew me closer to penetrate her womanhood and my manhood failed.

My manhood went flaccid. It shrinked.

All efforts to resurrect it failed. She was so upset.

She waited for few hours, nothing.

She was visibly angry and left.

I felt like drowning in an ocean.

My esteem was shattered. I felt so embarrassed and ashamed.


I think I didn't have enough libido because I had slept with a different girl a day before her visit.

Or was it just anxiety, malaria, etc?

FOR MEN,

HOW DO WE MAINTAIN LIBIDO AND STRONG BEDROOM HEALTH?

Shit happens joor.

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EvergreenDiarie:
Thank you for the prompt comment, I have seen videos of people doing that off the sea and they are doing well. I am still researching how to get success on it without the connection to the sea water.

Sea water is critical except u want to create it artificially which will be too costly, so fresh water shrimps is the way or you go to the sea

EvergreenDiarie:
I am so fascinated to go into lobster and prawn farming. I wonder if there is anyone in Nigeria doing it, I want to learn all the processes.

Had an interest in it at a point. Both are marine creatures so you can only do the farming if you leave along the sea coast. quite cost intensive tooo. shrimp farming is the same but i believe there some species of freshwater shrimps and that may be worth exploring.

I am still interested till tomorrow sef but I never see headway.

there is a company "atlantic shrimpers or so" that does shrimp farming along the badagry coast in Lagos.

if you get any info in future please share

oga!!! move on!!!!
e no go easy after 7 years together but just move on!!

Zeal0000007:
Married couples who came back to reconcile with their ex and marry please advice me.

I and my gal have been together for a long period of time at a point we had to cohabit. I supported part of her school, thank God she will be graduating few months from now. We separated January this year, our relationship is 7 years older, reasons we stayed that long was because we were just growing up, i was 23 in my year 3 in school , while she was 18 writing her weac. This is someone i later engaged . Initially when she left me and parked out of my house I had to full my hands and watch her leave 7years of what we built . when she left, she couldn't stay without me unfortunately where she went to, she had to call and be disturbing me and I paid deaf ears , out of this she fall into depression and her bp rised , she was admitted twice in the hospital.

She had to recover with different people , today she has alot of different people she's seeing , unfortunately she's actually exploring life now, many people have asked me to let her be for now, though I was her first experience ( I deflowered her), that if she's mine, she will definitely come back, I have tried for the past 7 months now to move on I can't, and efforts to bring her back has provened abortive though we've been communicating but rght now i ended the communication . I have been at home now unemployment for a while now. My career is still young and a very good one as at that, just that it has not began paying yet.

People advice me to pray that God should bless me so I could call her back . Deep inside of me I'm just imagining how will our love life look like if we eventually come back after separating for a while. How will sex look like ? Knowing that she must have slept with a lot of persons. people who came back together please share your experience, I still love and want her to come back so we settle down, if you ask her , she will tell u that I'm still in her mind.

abeg which survey said 85% of women are guilty of paternity fraud. your interpretation of the data is very askew.

Gentlelox:
I have been to more than 100 relationships and have had several sex mates companion and i must say that the "love" people assume from their spouse is ironic. It doesn't exist.

When i was a teenager, i had a married woman that would come to my house after dropping her children off to school. The husband worked as a civil servant and throughout the morning until afternoon, we would spend quality times in my room. She was in her mid 40s. So beautiful and endowed with a low cut on her hair. And then she would say awful things about her husband. Terrible stuffs.

My friend had a fu*kmate that was about getting married in about a week. We were still in school when this one happened. The girl would call my friend and beg him to meet her and even promised him special dinner. They would sex and pour out her true feelings. She just had to marry the man but that doesn't mean they won't continue their sex affairs.


Recent surveys in Lagos had shown that 85% of women are guilty of paternity fraud. This is a novelty, so let me break it down. It means, they would get pregnant by paul and give the baby to Silas as the father depending on how it favours them. This is the true nature of woman from time immemorial and it not just in Nigeria but all over the world.

Your marriage comes as a condition and it not an undying longing to be with you forever, whatever forever means to you. Conditions as timing(her age), money, dependence tendencies, escape etc. It always about something and when that thing is taken away, your value is of no essence. So it very easy for married woman to cheat. Just like me, life becomes boring most times and you need to spicy it up with a bit of excitement, that excitement can't be gotten from the man she sees everyday. And when she gets caught, she blames it on the devil or brings up silly excuses for doing it. The truth is, you can't stop a woman from being a woman, a lying two face creature. You can't make a woman love you without a condition attached to it.

For relationship, mostly those in early 20s or teenage relationship, it mostly looks, the dressing of the guy, the class factor, his hairdo, his budgets is a less condition here. So to win a young girl, learn to dress proper and smell good. Have class and watch them flow. Their condition for love at this period is very cheap.

So when you marry that woman, remember that the love comes at a price. It's not free. There is something she is after and that what she actually loves.

And that relationship of yours, it a condition, and not love. The only person that a woman can love "unconditional" is her child. And even she gets bored of the man, she can decide to stay with the man because she wants the child to have a reasonable family background.

Lastly, your wife can kill you. If her condition can be easily meant with your exterminator, she would gladly eliminate you. But this is not always easy that's why it not common but it happens. No matter what, don't trust that woman, don't trust that wife, don't trust the mother of your children. Life has no duplicate.

I come in peace

essentialone:
Abusive husbands didn't fall from the sky, someone raised a boy wrongly.

Your 3years old son gets angry whenever you give him food he doesn't want and throws it on you, you laugh and say "😃😃 children ehh".

Baby boy will lift his hands and slap you when he wants you to drop him...All you'd say is "you're beating mummy 😃"

No other child in that area messes with him...And you're calling him "A no- nonsense boy"

He picks up things from the ground and hits people whenever he's stopped from doing something...You smile and call him "action boy😃🤾🏿‍♂️🤸🏽‍♂️"

You expose him to all manner of violence and say "He's a man, man suppose get mind"

Few years down the line the teenage boy bullies his sisters, commands them around, shares slaps as souvenirs to anyone that dares to challenge him.
You call him "man of the house"😃

He grew up having his way all through. Now he's a full grown man in the society. And it's not funny anymore.

Abusive husbands didn't fall from the sky, someone raised a boy wrongly.

*IT'S EASIER TO TRAIN A SON THAN TO CORRECT A HUSBAND.*

We could address a lot from the root.

Sorry if you’ve been hurt with this post ?

But! This is just the Fact 👌🤷‍♀️

May Almighty God make it easy for us all AmennN 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

Oil dey your head!! Word!

nice but out of budget for now

Collinsade369:
Canon 80d camera still available

no wahala

Kobojunkie:
My Mistake! I mistook you for another poster.

Kobojunkie:
You made what seemed a case for the man's inadequate contribution to be considered all he can bring to the table. Commonsense should then follow that the other adult in the household should equally go out and do their to bring in any extra, or is this not an acceptable resolve when the provider is not able ti meet demands?

Seems there is some emotion in your reaction. I said she should state how much he earns and whether he provides for adequate food stuff at home. I justified this request by syaing there is a tendency to skew testimony to favour oneself.
I made no conclusion whatsoever. possible scenarios are, he provides all that is needed at home and gives her 3k to do whatever with or he provides her with 3k and says make it work. both scenarios are clearly different and would elicit different reactions. Also how much he actually earns puts a significant spin on things. having all that info makes for an informed judgment....so to speak.
no sensible advise can be given without all the facts

Kobojunkie:
Why should she have to do that if her place in the marriage is as a homemaker and not as a provider? If she is to resort to taking on part of the husband's responsibility as the sole provider in the household, shouldn't it equally follow that the man shares in her responsibilities as a home maker?

she has to state the further facts to paint the full story if indeed she needs advise. providing half a story is being clever by half.
meanwhile i did not at any point say she is to become a provider. i merely asked for other details that would help in making an informed balanced judgment. Abi did you read me saying she should become provider or cover any costs? or you are just shooting from the hip?

before I would condemn the man or her for that matter i would like the benefit of a complete narrative.

She should also add what he earns monthly and whether there is food stuff at home other than the 3k he drops.
People complaining tell stories skewed to favour the narrative they want to push.

i did mention that "it is absolutely fine" did i not?

Jewessgratitud3:
Non of this.

Kenmatt:
Why wasting your money in the name of paying tithes?

Most of you claim you go to Church, you read and receive Bible teachings but you don't understand the teachings of Bible.

Just like Philip and the man he met near the River bank.

Let them keep reading na, understanding go come. Shebi practice makes perfect. Tithing is personal, I pay it even though I don't believe it is compulsory. It's the minimum standard for me. I also pay it as I deem fit, sometimes to church, sometimes to support a worthy charitable cause.

Jewessgratitud3:
Is it right to split your tithe to different parishes if you don't want your parish to know how much you're earning? Will it still cumulate as tithe?

Is this a wrong or deceptive move?

It's absolutely fine in my opinion. The Church of God is one. Pay your Tithe where you deem fit and don't let anybody blackmail you

let them know abeg. All these Nigeria bashing sef. how many of them don go farm before.

fly over farm land and be shocked.

Maryam1234:
If we should take Ariel view of our farms in Nigeria you will discovered that it's very organized in photo.

I can assure you the physical view of those farms are not as the camera portray it to be.

Probably a Leopard eel

IjeBos:
Thanks. That makes sense.
So, a friend of mine recently cautioned me against it. Told me he had a friend die in Ikoyi biking. I'm double minded and so following the path of least resistance, most likely won't bring a bike, but would still like to bike at least once while I'm there. Is there any place to rent a decent bike? Appreciate all the info.

i think i know the Ikoyi story, i have a friend wo knew they guy. if you will be staying in an estate then you can do it in there.

oyolima:
I want to register a company, what is the cost house ?
Can I also register a company without a lawyer.

You can register without a lawyer. Go to CAC website. However using a lawyer can give u an edge when it comes to how to structure the company depending on what business you intend to run and what your future plans are.

Registering a company has been simplified in the online world but structuring the registration right and future proofing needs lawyers and finance experts.

If you come and meet me for instance for legal advice after you hv started on your own.....I go charge u pass sef😁

YoungDaNaval:
Greetings naira Landers, my only sister is happily married to a lawyer and this guy have been instrumental to me and my family since he got married to my sister. Now I intend getting a car for my sis because her office is a little bit far from their home, the problem now is I don't know how her husband will feel if I use my sister's name for the car papers. Now I'm contemplating between using only her name or including her husband's name to the document which made me to bring the question here. Please married couples in the house,I need your sincere advice.

Note: I don't want to discuss this with my sis and her husband because I want the car to be a surprise

i wouldnt have issues if my Wife's brother bought her a car and put it in her name. thats just me sha. If wahala wan too much, buy it in your name and give them, tell tehm you wnated to use it but changed your mind. let them sort out how they wanna handle it

E fit be you wey get issues. If all your relationships turn out badly u may need to lookin in a mirror.

a partner you find difficult is likely to wear you out eventually. at that point you will not even be able to manage, so do not enter marriage with such a person would be my advice. in fact don't stay in a relationship with such a person

note that i said "find difficult" that's cos the concept is subjective.

Chironks:
Love is beautiful, however, it can be challenging to manage.

How can one look past the partners' flaws and love them regardless?

Flaws in this context is when a partner lacks common sense.

Caveatemptor:
Sorry it is not a quarrel.
I experienced an infestation of those small black roaches when I moved to PH in mid 2000s. They were everywhere and I used every expensive insecticide you could think of to combat them to no avail. They just kept on multiplying. So I cam understand the OPs anguish.

one method no dey work most times, except u like pay all these fumigation people. most times na combo. also one treatment will never work cos insecticide does not tend to affect the eggs which will hatch after the adults are dead. so na weekly treatment for like 3-4 weeks i recommend. i have bought the chinese powder before and it did not work for me(may have been fake)

Omo!!! you deserve this headache.

From Budgeting your last cash to lodge and do kerewa, to then diverting to gambling.
Litany of bad decisions.

let us know how it ends.

xin5:
I had only 20k left after lodging the room..I thought I should double the money over the night through sportybet... they swallowed it around 1am...till now I haven't slept.
The runs gal preparing to leave now I don't know what to do...I have placed some calls to friends everyone claiming they don't have.

Please help how do I handle this matter

Caveatemptor:
Rambo can never kill those small cockroaches completely they are terrible. It is only that Chinese powder that can suffocate them to death. Rambo can kill those big cockroaches but those small black ones are resistant to insecticides.

U did read that I said use in combination with other solutions abi?

Best spray for roaches is Rambo. Use it with the other solutions. Put camphor in cupboards and drawers and other non electric hiding places

if you think deep beyond your tribal lens you will see that no tribe has ever gained anything (as a people) from having their persons in positions of power.

mokwechineme:
The elites among them have continued too gain and get fatter though but the majority of Yorubas are still extremely poor. If u visit Yoruba land outside the state capitals, you will be depressed. You will encounter where people co-habit with extreme penury, peasants at its dplorable state.
The truth is, Yoruba elites dont care about Yoruba as a nation but about the selected, prominent and lucky few. The rest yorubas are tools to sustaining the aristocratic system