₦airaland Forum

Sukkyy2010:
My broke up happened Feb this year, she called it quit after couples of week of her acting cold and weird. She said it on phone of which I wish her best of luck. 3minutes after she declared the breakup she called my phone I refuse to answered the call and in the second day she sent me a long narrative essay entailing the reason she had to call it quit blah blah blah.

She tried to keep a neutral conversation with me right after the breakup but I told her straight up I don't want that I need my space.

Since Feb I've never mistakenly call her once in spite she had call me twice but I never welcome her with my hostile response.

If you don't want me avoid me why trying to stay around after breakup, for what benefit?

I went extremely silent up till now, I deleted her on WhatsApp to avoid stalking and went in no contact with her.

pansophist:
You are a weak man, and weakness is not virtuous, weakness is weakness. A chicken is not virtuous, it can only be eaten against its wish, but a Tiger is virtuous, hence no one dares to mess with it. Be like a martial artist, that you are capable of destroying the whole damn place but chose not to unless your red line is crossed. Most importantly, you should live your life in a way that it is clear to everyone that being good is not the only method you use to relate with them, but you can be cruel as well. It is called having a backbone.

It is a natural law. The scientist calls it ''cause and effect'', the metaphysical calls it karma, Christians call it heaven and hell, or as Psquare colloquially puts it, ''do me I do you''. She is doing you, and you can't do anything, so why will she stop? you are easy, like a chicken, you will be eaten against your wish and all you do is shout and beg, and ask for help, instead of transform into a tiger and destroy the whole damn place.

The fact your wife could do this, and you come online to ask questions already gave me a clear impression about your kind of man, and the strength and extent of your backbone. There are men that will never suffer this kind of humiliation because their woman would have already sized him up and knew for sure that the marriage is over if she try such nonsense. My advice would be to find your strength, and it is by being financially independent.

Virtue is proven during times of hardship, not abundance. Any idiot can say "I do'' when money is in abundance, but in the absence of it, you get to know who you truly married. The lack of finance has already exposed who your wife is to you, so instead of thinking she will change back to being good, you may just thank your God that he has used this period of hardship to reveal the character of whom you married. I won't tell you what to do, because I will be too radical, but just realise you do not have a wive.

JovialJune:
Trying to play the victim and gender card to gain public/female sympathy is dead on arrival, I followed this court case from the very beginning and it was obvious she was lying and faking tears, everyone saw through her lies, every one knows she wanted another cash out, she was caught committing perjury countless times in court, she should zip her lips and pay up.

Hannania:
Let me give you a very fast track. There's a company Called Microverse(Microverse.org). It's a company based in USA.

They train you for 7 months, then you use 3 months to look for a remote job. You pay them 15% of your income after your start making $1000. Some of their graduates make $30,000 because the stack they use is fullstack Ruby(HTML, CSS, JavaScript, React, Ruby and it's framework Ruby and Rails).

They have a one month pre-course, so don't worry if you're a beginner.

The training is on the concept of pair programming, so you'll work with students from all around the world.

If you register now, and get accepted let's say in August, by May next year you're at least a 500k earner.

That's the most practical advice from me, because it's structured, and you're learning with a goal to get a job.


Note: Ruby and rails is a sought after stack in US and Australia, so there's no much competition for developing countries developers.


This advice is just for Software Development.
Other fields of Tech like Product Design, Graphic design, just get a good Udemy course and stick to it for six months while connecting with a community.

All what's I mentioned needs dedication. So if you're intentional, by this time next year, you'd smile.

Good luck.

pansophist:
Oh, you will find me among them. I don't wear a suit to work. In fact, I have never worn a suit in the past ten years, except during a friend's wedding three days ago. I have worked as a courier man, infact na small thing remain sef I for do conductor. And I have worked in a restaurant serving food, washing plates, and cleaning bathrooms after customers have messed it up.

But that doesn't mean I accepted that position, I worked to climb out of it. This is not to stay if one is better or not, but to point out as a matter of fact, that the folks that power society are men on rags, not suits.

Orgasmgiver123:
One of the reason why i kick people with my rain boot


Damn... nasty... I’m out of here

Iamdbull:
Dbull on this one!!!


My career is about to die because of nairalanders statements

tensazangetsu20:
It really depends maybe the company didn't use dsa. I got a job in Vietnam last year a japa job but the salary offered was lower than what I earn in Nigeria here 1400 USD a month. It was the only job that sent me a take home which I passed the other jobs were all DSA. The good paying jobs like very good pay they require dsa. The rubbish jobs send take home.

tensazangetsu20:
Same here but I am more focused on a japa job sha. I am tired of 9ja.

mousery:
(To be continued)

Ogbonnaa:
this was exactly how a lady was disturbing us on nairaland, telling women to avoid men by all means, that she hates men with passion. I started searching about her both remotely an physically, I found out that this lady was a core prostitute, she was into prostitution. In one of her social network account, I saw a website and decided to visit the website, it was all about dating sha. I saw the lady picture, I click on it and texted her which she replied. I ask her out she told me bear bear to bear bear is 10 thousand naira, I replied you and who is doing raw abi you want to give me hiv, she said with condom I'll pay 5000 naira. I contacted one particular mod on nairaland, I ask a particular nairaland female mod to confirm if she is the suspected lady, the mod replied, she knows her too well, she's the one. I don't know if the female mod divulged the secret to her that made her to deactivate her Nairaland moniker and disappeared. We've not heard from her till date.

tensazangetsu20:
I would say at least 8 gig ddr4 ram. The thing is a lot of people never take into consideration the type of ram. They only just look at the size. You can't compare the speed of ddr4 ram to the speed of a ddr2 ram. A laptop with an SSD to load things faster and at least a sixth generation core i3. If you can't get these things no need to fret just get what your money can afford and switch the operating system to Linux at least you also get to learn Linux administration while coding which is another in demand skill set.

tensazangetsu20:
Lol I was using an 8 gig ram folio and I almost lost my job. A very little Gatsby repo I got in my first job will take 2 hours to startup and that's even after I upgraded the ram. Before I upgraded the ram, it will take 6 hours. Once it's open and I start working, I will get ram errors and my computer will start to hang very seriously. To manage things, I had to make sure I had a maximum of 3 tabs open on chrome and one or two components files open on vscode. Infact I couldn't even run vscode and localwp together. It was a recipe for disaster.

When my boss was getting frustrated no one told me to change laptops. For toy apps you will enjoy it but once you want to start doing anything advanced, you will cry. I have a nairalander too here who was learning coding. Very good and dedicated guy. He was using a 4 gig pavilion. He couldn't learn react as the laptop was frustrating him.

missimelda01:
The work culture is not encouraging.

missimelda01:
No , please if you need a product designer or UI/UX designer, kindly let me know.

Jackfarrow:
See this impotent bastard whose dad achievement is been a failure

SeunWedsLinda:
bro u never respond to pm wey I shoot for ur ends

SeunWedsLinda:
I got my system and just starting out from scratch as well. Maybe we fit collabo learn this stuff. Share ideas and learning materials where necessary and motivate ourselves bro. Whatcha say?

tensazangetsu20:
After you have learned JavaScript.

tensazangetsu20:
LOL I am around o, I just read posts o. I have actually been preparing for interviews have a lot of them and its all DSA based so need to leetcode after work so I can pass. I am looking for my japa job.