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I would go with:

1. Desert
2. Mauritius
3. Seychelles
4. In my bath tub

Why? : I have flown over the desert, been to Mauritius, admired seychelles and I enjoy my bath tub.

lavila:
@EBILA

what do you mean by she is not worth being with me. 'cos i am not ready to settle down or what. i was always there when she needed me but do u really think at that age, she shd be that desperate.

Exactly. But I really believe it's her parents who are desperate, not necessarily her. Since that's what they are going to be pressuring her to do, you might as well forget about it since it's not what you want.

iice:
[color=#9900ff]No many people are of independent thoughts. . .some even at 30 still have no independent thoughts. And well with parents, sometimes it's nearly impossible.[/color]

This, my sister, you are very correct about. I even dated a guy in his 30's who's every move and decision in life was dictated by his parents, even his aunty.

Soft & Beautiful BOTANICALS line. . . .I swear by it. A lot of people compliment the thickness, length and texture of my hair.

Missy B:
That sounds more like an assay than an opinion to me.
Caution:That 'best' thang had better be not allowing her stay at Your place.

Sister, you hit the nail right on the head.!!!

@ OP, this is a test of your relationship ohhhhhh, what if it were your girl that came to you with exact same situation? wetin you go advise her?

Haba! Favourites? ?  ?  A mother should love her children equally ohhhh,  . . but,

I know for a FACT it's me. I am the only biological girl of her 7 children. I'm the 2nd youngest tooo . . . no contest.  

[s]She also knows I will not put her in a home. [/s]    

shesi:
my brother used to be my mom's favorite until he got married

now that enviable position lies with me. lol, i can do no wrong. lol

it turns out marrying a woman your mother doesn't like can erase years of accumulated affection.

roflmao. 

Sorry, iz not possible for me to do such, maybe if I was on crack. I would rather dash her.

lmao @ thread.

[quote author=kay_pumpin link=topic=289809.msg4104100#msg4104100 date=1246225167]I doubt if any potential suitor will go "you are not good looking yet i want to date you" ,there are ways of telling someone to go to hell in such a way that he/she will look forward to the journey with keen interest;it is called diplomacy!

But let's even get hypothetical here and assume for one minute,this dude was this blunt.Will you rather have him OR a lying scum who will forget the face and concentrate on the base.? [/quote]Neither.  

But I would rather the person tell me I'm not usually the type they would go for than to tell me 'You're not soo good looking'.  

[quote author=kay_pumpin link=topic=289809.msg4104031#msg4104031 date=1246224324]It takes a BOLD and HONEST person to be disclose such.I think that is a strong and positive character but whether my ego/emotion(dented by such bluntness maybe) will be receptive to such a person is difficult to say.[/quote]Yes, but are there not better ways to say somethng like that than to say 'you're not soo good looking'? lmao. haba that is too much now. lol.

There's one thing not to find someone good looking and still date them, and there is another thing not to find someone good looking and have the boldness to actually tell them that and request a date in the same sentence. Talk about shattering someone's confidence. I wouldn't want to be reminded everytime we go for a cuddle or a kiss that hey, 'this my guy don't even find me attractive'.

Sola08:
Does it mean i have to seek her consent before such act ? Am lost !

Your consent is normally given through your observations of her behaviour. She isn't even your girlfriend.

There is no need to try and be in love. . . that will just make you look weird.

And Yes, you messed up big time . . . . . that for me, is one of the most off putting things a person could do to me and I barely even know him.? ? nope nope nope.

This is a prime example of why 'parents are not always right'. Too right , they should be ashamed of themselves.
I'm sorry but at 19 , she should atleast 'some' independent thoughts, well atleast I know I did. As much as my mum can rant about me being 26 and no husband, she can NEVER make me do anything.

I feel sorry for the girl too, but just because she has been 'broken into' does not make her a 'woman'. That family for now, will be forever in her life until she stands her own ground. To make matters worse, you yourself are not even ready to settle down, leave her for them.
Really, her parents are the people you have an issue with.

FL Gators:
First of all, you shouldnt even be in a serious relationship if you dnt have a job.

2. How old are you? Maybe its your age that made the parent reconsider another marriagable man for her.

3. If her parent still insists on marriage, then you better leave the girl alone cuz you dnt sound like you're ready for marraige.

4. Don't expect her to say "NO" to her parents. No responsble girl would leaver her parent's house for a jobless young man. (NO offense intended) its just that you're both too young.

I agree with you cos I certainly would not! lol, but should the girl at 19 be even thinking about marriage? Hence why her parents shouldn't have married her off in the first place. They should let her get on with her education and other important things.

YES!!! I will pay her with the biggest slap of her life! And no refunds!!

No, but seriously. I wouldn't wast my money, it could be spent on better things and what's to say that if I did and he did it again? Would I have to pay that one off tooo? Until when?

Me: I start chatting to myself. . . . . . . . (I know crazy right) . . . . . . .whilst tidying up or I go to sleep. . . .

He: He just doesn't talk, will decline my food (this is the most painful- cos he lurves my food) . . . . . . if I try talk to him, his reponse is 'obirin meta'.

In The Closet
Don't stop til you get enough (my late dad and I share this song)
Liberian Girl
Gone too soon
Smooth Criminal. . . .

In no particular order:

Leon
Colour Purple
Sarafina!
Coming to America
City of God

I suppose the fact that we use body lotion to soften the skin makes our skin fake too, right?

There is certainly nothing wrong in using a bit of this and that, my problem is when things about a person looks obviously fake, allowing people to stop looking like 'themselves'.

Men have 2 brains, one is lost and the other is out looking for it!

Men are as much use as a condom machine in the vatican,

Please abeg Don't try a woman when she is pre-menstrual, she could kill you and get off with a caution.  


Have fun peeps.  

LadyT:
El have you been dumped lately?

Told you were an egomaniac?

Did a female laugh at your manhood?

Because seriously hun what gives?

roflmao! Great response. thanks sis.  

Well. . . . apparently. . . . according to 'UK GOvernment Health officials' or whatever they call themselves. . . .

It's supposed to be 5 a day. . . . . (mixture of fruit and veg) . . . . whether it's from the tin, in the form of a juice . . . . . or however. Between main meals works best for me, and defo as part of a breakfast.

I feel like myself. . . . . .

TheSeeker:
Classic comment. You just said it, however, most women don't want to start building a home and career. They want a ready-made, ATM-like guy who they can strip off of some of their money in the name of a divorce.

In cases like this, I can never really blame a guy for introducing a pre-nup. It's not about trusting the person. Some people are very good pretenders and would bleed you dry in the end. I am not saying she should leave completely empty handed, but not half of his money and assets, especially not after just a few years of marriage.

Ha ha,

I had this convo with a friend recently too. lol
Personally, I don't initially agree with a pre-nup especially when you both come into the marriage with basically nothing. However, I think when people split, the amount of years they were married regardless of the reason for break up should play a role in who gets what and at what percentage. There is no way, I am marrying a man at 26, we both have equal amounts of qualifications and to high standards, but asset wise we have nothing. We build a home and career, he requests I stay at home for the sake of raising the children because he can afford to take care of us. We then die-vorce 30 years later and I leave with nothing because of some stupid pre-nup?

I agree some women are VERY VERY greedy and take the pizz, especially after only being married for 4 years or so compared to those who were married for over 15 years and a built a life and success with that person?

I only agree with pre-nups if someone is extremely rich and has been bitten once before. In circumstances like this, its not a matter of not wanting to trust a person, but not being 100% sure what the person is really after.

pop247:
nawa oh, everytym guyz! guyz!! guyz!!!, wen wil galz start taking guyz out maybe on a first date

haha.!! I take my guy out al the time. . . . lol

Infact we went to see Transformers, I paid, we went dinner before hand, he paid for that. (I got my cinema tickets free though as my cousin works there.)

I am taking him out this weekend too to an expensive restaurant.

luxoire:
who said we haven't?

No mind him jare.

Anyone who asks anyone else on a date should be responsible for the consequences including a chic who over orders food!! It means, you never meet with her again or tell her point blank, she's greedy.

A reasonable WOMAN, would not do this and/or be willing to go halves on the bill or pay for the movies after dinner. Simple.

Seriously, where does this kind of things happen?

If I'm going on a dinner date with someone, the last thing I want to do is order EVERYTHING on the menu. I can barely deal with a starter, let alone request a desert. . . .

I don't know any women who do that either. But seriously. What's the big deal if she wants to EAT ?

lol, good thread!  

Ok, now I'm 50/50 on this matter. As far as I'm concerned there has to be a balance. I feel that I myself am well educated, I also have a lot of work experience and have been working too since 16. I am very ambitious and have many goals for the future . . . . ,
Now If my hubby either came into  a lot of money or got a real good job and ASKED me to be a housewife, I would agree, with some conditions:

1. I am able to start my own business (MY BUSINESS)
2. I work part time in my business (I would have managers, supervisors etc)
3. ^^^^ This would happen when the kids are at school, as it enables me to utilise my qualifications, skills and experience to achieve my goals.

If my husband could look after the whole family, pay all the bills etc, then let him (whilst he is doing this, I will be saving my own money    ), why should I continue to work for someone else when I can have others working for me, whilst I look after my family and be  a business woman at the same time.

If my husband decides to mess off, would the business and all the profits not be mine? Ladies, think about it. . . .
There are 2 different types of housewives, there are those who are, because they have no choice (as in no qulifications, skills and experience to get a good job) and there are those who are the opposite of that. They use their brain to make the best of the situation.

Since I am a teacher (I work school hours, and get all HOLIDAYS off PAID!!), there isn't much need for me to be a housewife. I'm already set        

Don't jealous me. . .  

[quote author=~Sissy~ link=topic=284086.msg4028258#msg4028258 date=1245021438]appreciation for a job well done [/quote]roflmao.    Sorry just had to laugh!!  

But seriously, why did you do it?

@ Treetop . . . . .

You get great selection of wives hia. Pick one. . . . . .

Please ohhh, action speak louder than noise.  

[quote author=$osisi link=topic=284076.msg4028221#msg4028221 date=1245020865]One other story sef
The man came over but a few months after he impregnated one white chick he met in the bus
He confessed to the wife,now ex wife that all his life he had wanted to sleep with a white woman and have "half caste" kids
He now has 2[/quote]lmao.