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senatepresido:
According to the report released by AAU Update, a student news platform of the Edo State owned University, Ambrose Alli University, Ekpoma.

AAU Update:



Source: https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=2507314052913580&id=1427814150863581

RIP for Person wey abort?
Person wey take another person's life?.
Some of you are a joke.
them don use this one

ZeroShenanigan:
I'm above mid thirties, finished NYSC 2015 and i just secured a government teaching job after spending more than 3 years teaching in private schools. I met my wife earlier 2019, she was in her final year in school, we dated throughout the year and planned to get married after she graduated. She graduated and we make a move for our introduction, then we suggested to have the marriage before she go for her Nysc so as to enable her serve in our home state as I already have a rented apartment to start a small family.

As we were planning for the marriage, we were also planning her NYSC. She was required to have a medical certificate for the NYSC which of course required blood test including genotype. She came back with the result of her genotype as AS. That was the only time I remember to take genotype issue serious. Even if I have some little knowledge about it before, I decided to research more about it on the internet and also met some of my friends who are medically inclined. I came to realize my own genotype test is also important at that moment. I might have done the test in school but I didn't pay attention to it usefulness so I don't remember the result.

I don't usually fall sick except for normal malaria when there is mosquito bite, never had a drip line in my body for once, never slept in a hospital bed, I don't have any reason to take note of my genotype or blood test.

Her results then prompt me to have my own test done too which came out to be AS also. By these periods we have convinced our families to choose a date for the marriage so that we can have the wedding before her NYSC. Marriage is to hold in a week time when I got my own genotype result.
From my further findings about AS and AS couple, I discovered how risky it is for their offsprings. I tried to explain to her but she turned a deaf ear, she alleged me of trying to break her heart at that critical period. She reported to her sisters they tried to blame me but I make them all realized it's not my fault because throughout my visitation and introduction to their family nobody has ever ask us about genotype. I am an orphan, I don't have any closer family to guide me except for my sisters who can't wait for me to get married because of my age, they also had never thought of it as well.

My wife sisters gave us some examples of older couples who were both AS with only one or no sickler among their children. My wife also made a threat of killing herself or she kill me if the marriage didn't hold. She even suggested we proceed with the marriage and break up after few weeks of marriage because of the shame that may follow if we stop the marriage or maybe she was desperate because of the marriage certificate, I don't know. I maintained my stand of backing off the marriage but she reported to my sisters also. Her sisters and my sisters later tried to encourage us to go ahead with prayers since we have chosen the date. We were advised not to disclose our genotype result to anyone again because people will discourage us.

Even though I was skeptical about the marriage, it later commenced with less spending because the Nikkah was held in a mosque and a tent for refreshments.
After the marriage we tried to talk about it, and she told me, she was afraid, may be she was pregnant before the marriage that's why she insisted on going ahead with the marriage. She also revealed to me that she was not happy with the decision as well, means she also know the implications but she have to avoid the shame of stopping the marriage after inviting guests to the occasion.

During these period genotype before the marriage, my love for her reduced drastically because of her desperation and her refusal to understand the risk we are about to take. I tried to avoid pregnancy from our first month of marriage but I later gave up and she conceived immediately. Now she is closer to her delivery. We hardly talk or play together inside. We only discuss about feeding, maternity and things to get for the coming baby.
I discovered we quarrel over little things that can be over looked by lovers. I'm not happy in the marriage, I spend most of time watching TV or stay outside all day because of unresolved issues.

I'm planning to arrange for a divorce after she delivered the baby because this is my first baby and I would love to have 2 or 3 kids more. I can't take the risk of allowing any of my children to be a sickler.
Advise is needed if my plan for divorce is a good one and do I stand a chance of loosing anything?

I will encourage you to go for a second test to reaffirm what you were given.
I have heard about error in results as a result of mixed up samples or something.
Try go have at least one more test from another laboratory before you take any decision.

Aizen123:
Please I need advice. I lost my Dad over 2 months now and he hasn't been buried due to the pandemic. My Uncle's are all in Lagos and can't come back.

So after the lockdown was over we decided to go to the village.. On getting I discovered that his shop was open and all the money going into the first Uncle (first son) account.. So I called my uncle because he told me it was locked and he was saying did he need my permission before to open the shop and i decided to just control myself because i like peace and i decided to go to the house in the village...

On getting there I called my uncle and he told me the keys are with them in Lagos ... That it was waybilled and i said ok and went back with my brother and sister.

Fast forward today... I got a call from someone in the village that my Dad's burial death has been fixed and i was wowed because as the first son i haven't been told yet by my uncle's. So right now i am about acting but i need advice.

Act 1 Scene 1
Speak to a lawyer who will help you with a restraining order to prevent them going ahead with the Burial.

Act 1 Scene 2.
Get another order preventing them from touching any of your Dad's property.

Act 1 Scene 3.
Go and brace yourself up spiritually, because it's gonna be a long and big battle

Happy989:
I started dating my boyfriend months ago and even before we started dating we've been good friends. He is intelligent, funny, has a great personality and takes good care of me. When he asked me to be his girlfriend I was so happy, because he is such a great guy. My boyfriend is in his final year in the same university that I attend. I'm still in my second year.

There is this guy in my department who is very good looking and also intelligent. He isn't jovial and extroverted like my boyfriend, but he is cool in a very confident and attractive kind of way. We started talking recently and he told me he finds me attractive. I told him that I have a boyfriend and he didn't seem fazed and never talked about the subject of my relationship. He still complimented my body and looks from time to time even though I didn't respond to his compliments in a way that indicated that I was in support of his actions.

During this covid-19 break we began talking more often over the phone and through texts and I always found our conversations interesting. A lot of times we'd talk till midnight. He is very witty and creative with words and I always smile whenever I see his texts or receive his calls.

Few weeks ago we talked about sexual fetishes and I realized we both had similar fetishes. This made him even more interesting because I found myself able to talk about stuff I hadn't talked about with anyone before, not even my boyfriend. This guy is not like anyone I've ever met before. His views on life are very unique and original and his personality is so complex and his sexuality is very intriguing.

The problem now is that I am beginning to develop strong feelings for this guy. When he calls me on the phone I don't wish the call to end. I find myself talking to him for minutes not minding the time. He is beginning to occupy my thoughts a lot and I don't know what to do. I still love my boyfriend but there is something about this guy that just seems to draw me to him.

I don't want to do anything that will break my boyfriend's heart.

We know what it is,go ahead and fulfill your fantasies

Righteousness89:
I Pray For you ; May the Hands of My FATHER in Heaven Come upon your Eyes in JESUS NAME.. Amen

Must Everything have religion affiliation?
Someone was given a wrong diagnosis and wrong Medication (glasses) was prescribed and you dey here dey Pray.
He should go to a well equipped and we'll experienced Hospital/Doctor,no amount of prayer will prevent him from going blind if he refuses to heed that call

UzorChinonso:
Good day Nairalanders, I have been married for just a year now and it has not been easy here! My Husband wants to know every thing about my finance. He has disturbed me to know how much is my salary worth of.

I have always denied him of the fact, what I know is that I used my money to refurbish our flat, got some new things to change the outlook of the place....

But I am not really finding it funny any longer. As we speak, he collected my ATM card since last two weeks, said I must tell him the pin or I should forget having it back. I went to my bank, told them that I lost the card and they changed it for me last Friday and he collected it again said it's either I tell him the pin or he will do something funny ...

I don't know what funny thing he's gonna do but I am worried! Pls is this how marriage is?
He claims to own me and own my salary! Is it fair? This marriage is too early instead I would have quit and I am pregnant at the moment!
What do I do? I don't want anybody to know anything about my finances including him till I have my baby whom my spirit accepted that I should make my next of kin.

What do I do ?

You do not need to succumb to his threat,go to your bank or another bank,Open a separate account that has no card attached, Download and activate internet banking on both accounts, transfer your savings from the known account to the new one leaving small balance and keep watching him.

GuestLog:
It was WAR for me to reverse a failed POS transaction from UBA to First Bank. I consider both banks as thieves and fraudulent in nature and charges.

My best experience has been STANBIC BANK. I have never had a reason to call their customer service or know anyone who has complaints beyond what they expect from service. I transact 4-6 times daily and have no complaints whatsoever.

One of the very best bank around.
I have two accounts with them and I have never had cause to regret.
My complain has always been through Twitter DM and they always resolve my issue in less than 48hrs

Ezennwa:
hmm!


If South West dare to contest for 2023 Presidential Election, it means they are the most greedy Region of the millennium.

It's turn by turn, and it's not their turn.

so whose turn is it?

lalasticlala:
Abuja To Akure: Outrage on social media as video of a lady travelling from Abuja to Akure being molested by a male passenger emerges.

Twitter user, The Rough Hair Guy @DanielFaithArts, shared the video and narrated what happened. He wrote:



Source: https://mobile.twitter.com/DanielFaithArts/status/1267548624118038534

What happened to giving him a heavy slap and turn the whole bus into a battlefield?
You wan make me wey I no dey there to come fight your cause abi?
Next time you learn to defend yourself with whatever you have or else you will get raped

festacman:
The core functions of the Department of State Security (DSS) revolve around counter-intelligence, internal security, counter-terrorism, and surveillance. So what business does this intelligence organization, which ordinarily should be ELITE, ENIGMATIC and REVERED, has to do with investigating mere alterations on NYSC certificate?

At moments like this, I think this kind of this routine task should be done by Criminal Investigation Department (CID) of Nigerian Police while DSS focus on its core functions especially using undercover agents to infiltrate the heartless bandits in the Northern Nigeria to cut off their roots.

One of their key mandate is to vet anyone going for higher elective position, a comprehensive report on from their school days till the present time shall be unearthed, unfortunately that agency has been penetrated by the politicians

chykmoni:
This snake(Python) that swallowed a whole antelope was killed in my village by my friend (Boy-O-Boy) in the bush this morning.

We have a double meat here.

This is not an Antelope it is a Deer

Hightser:
Hello guys, so I'm skeptical about this decision I'm about to take, my girlfriend will be joining the next batch of NYSC and I have been thinking of telling her to work it to Lagos.

Truth is, she learned fashion design sometime and she likes modelling for clothing brands and she teaches too, I believe with all of this she stands a chance of getting something tangible in Lagos than going to serve in one village.

My fear is this, (I recently got an accommodation, a single room self contain on the island, haven't even told her yet)
So I need time to plan my future, I'm not fit financially to start fending for someone, if I am then my younger sister should be the one to come over ( though her service year is next year)

But if my gf is to come here, the agreement will be clear and concise, you fend for yourself while I fend for myself, don't worry, the relationship is that defined and she understands.

My reason of wanting to do this for her is cause she has been very nice to me and she has helped me out financially and otherwise in the past though I repaid her.

But guys, my major fear is living with a girl in the same house, won't attachment get serious, what if she gets pregnant? I don't want anything to hinder my plans, I'm 29 actually and I'm not planning to settle down anytime soon.

Please I need advice and contributions.

There is always a price to pay for free and unlimited subscription.
You already know the price but you don't want to admit and accept it.

Positivechick:
I broke up with my boyfriend today,

I met him while I was serving, he was nice and the only friend I had, I served in a village. While we were serving he doesn’t give me much, I practically kinda fed him cause he was always in my place. He had a roommate and I didn’t. Before he gives me any money we always had issues, not like he doesn’t hv to give. He just doesn’t want to. I don’t even ask for much.




After service we continued dating, he had no job so I told him to get a teaching job he said never ever, he rather follow he’s friends up and down , I kept quite watching what his plans maybe, I hv never asked him for a dim since we finished service mid last year, got a teaching job so taking care of myself.

My birthday would be coming up, his just passed, I told him that I would be expecting some cash on my birthday. We talked today and he’s telling me he spent all he’s money for he’s birthday, that if money comes he will send but right now he has no money, placing me on the probability table, so I said u couldn’t keep the one u would send me, he said people were buying drinks and buying drinks and he couldn’t tell them to stop. Am like are u serious ? I had to remind him that my birthday is few days away and he started saying he won’t be able to send anything. I told him without him doing the needful that there is no us.

Am tired, he has no vision, No focus , no aim , he depends on his friends and it's annoying. I think about he’s future more than he does , he’s always in the present. He’s making me feel like a bad person that he would make it. I hope he makes it but the relationship is so draining and I am 100% faithful to someone with no sense of reasoning. He’s Saying I am dating someone that’s why I want to leave him. He isn’t even addressing the issue we hv on ground .

Thoughts??

If he had given you money you could have continue with the relationship knowing fully well he's not focus.
look woman,your boyfriend is not your pension plan neither your atm,you are not doing him or any man any favor by dating them.
Stick to your job and plan your life on the little you earn.

9jaHustler:
I have a tokumbo can in Lagos that I want to bring to Abuja. What is the going rate to have someone drive it from Lagos to Abuja?

Are there any conditions usually given?

Any thing that I need to know please.

₦10k for fuelling the car.

₦10k for his/her transportation back to Lagos.

₦20k for his efforts/service charge.

Extra ₦10k to sort police and Road safety official's if the Car is not registered.

Oluromantic:
Yeah if he's someone he doesn't know, it's small. If it's someone he knows, it's ok

So how does the person gets back to Lagos after driving down?
You mean a man should risk his life down to Abuja because of paltry ₦10k considering how unsafe our roads are?
Guy you wicked

Great100000:
A Nigerian prodigy, Damilola Arowolaju, has bagged a PhD in Law from The George Washington University, in the United States of America.

Damilola, who hails from Omuo Ekiti, in Ekiti East Local Government area of Ekiti State is the son of a former Special Adviser to Governor Segun Oni on Due Process, Dr Bayo Arowolaju

Damilola, who was also the President of the 2020 PhD graduating students, was garlanded at the university’s virtual convocation ceremonies held on Thursday, May 21, 2020.

The former Special Adviser who confirmed this to journalists in Ado Ekiti on Saturday was elated that his son could be decorated with such a high academic honour at the age he secured admission to the University of Lagos, where he studied Sociology.

He said:

“My baby, Dr. Damilola Arowolaju, with the grace of God just graduated with a PhD in Law from the George Washington University School of Law, Washington DC, USA.

“He gave an address to the fellow graduands as the President of the GW Bar Association. Graciously, he did this at 24 years of age, when I was just entering the University in Nigeria for my first degree. May our children be higher and be more successful than us all. Amen

“I am overwhelmed, speechless and flabbergasted by this outstanding feat. I am excited and more motivated to do more to uplift humanity”.

Arowolaju appealed to the Ekiti State Governor, Dr. Kayode Fayemi, to rejig and expand the scope of the State’s scholarship board to be able to benefit the children of the poor, who are outstanding in their academics.

In a video clip containing his speech to the graduand, Damilola said he shall continue to promote justice for all manners of men, irrespective of creed, race and class.

The swaggering academic added that no sacrifice is too much to make to protect human rights and promote self-respect among humanity, describing these as the best way to entrench equality in the system.

He said:-

“Justice means making huge sacrifices that would guarantee all constitutional freedoms for all and sundry.

“When I say justice, I mean for both innocent and guilts. The one that brings equality, stability and raise the hope for a better society. That is what we should all pursue using morality and the instrumentality of Law.

“My graduation today was a result of the sacrifices made by my parents to ensure that I excel in my academic pursuit”

https://tribuneonlineng.com/24-year-old-ekiti-indigene-bags-phd-in-law-in-us-varsity/

Hope those idiots who queue up behind the father as political footsoldiers are reading this.
Na another man pikin wey dey send on Nocturnal errands

Futuragetty:
It's considered a bit of an oddity for Christians to feast with moslems in iftar feast.

Today, I joined my friends in their iftar feast. It’s called being polite and a good neighbor. For years, I have invited Muslim friends to attend our Easter party and they have graciously attended year after year. So when they have a potluck when their month of fasting ends, I go to their party. It’s a Jesus thing. I wish more Christians would reach out in love as Jesus did.

Ok, That's my opinion, I need to hear your thoughts on this.

It is not out of place for anyone to eat from either Christian or Muslim home during any of the celebrations,I am Muslim,one of my closest friends of over 30yrs is strong Baptist,he Comes around during big Sallah (iléyá) And I do go to his house during Xmas.
In the past I with another Muslim friend usually slaughtered their New year goat.
Food from other Religion body is not Sacrifice,Allah has never forbid me from eating their meal.
So if you find anyone who tells you otherwise,know for sure that they are these confused Pentecostals who are hell bent on destroying the interreligious relationship.

LinLinGentle:
Disclaimer: I AM NOT A SAINT AND MY WIFE IS NOT THE DEVIL. I HAVE JUST BEEN UNFORTUNATE TO BECOME A VICTIM OF MATRIARCHY WHICH MANY MEN SUFFER ABROAD...

I have been hustling abroad for a few years while wifey was working in Nigeria and living with children. Marriage has always been turbulent and we even almost got divorced after I travelled out. We somehow worked on our issues with the help of pastors, family and friends, and after a few years of ''roughing'' it abroad to pave way for them, I finally succeeded and my family arrived a few months ago.

I used to be hot tempered, but I have had enough time to gain insight into my inadequacies and reflect on them. I am now significantly calmer due to the determination to make my marriage better and as per ''abroad levels''. My wife on the other hand is fully taking advantage of me and the environment we find ourselves in. First thing she did on getting here was to cut of my entire family. She said she doesn't want to have anything to do with any of them anymore. She has also not been too keen to kickstart her career, as all she does is endless picture taking and editing for social media hyping. I know this might be due to the initial ''euphoria'' phase cos she is coming abroad to a big house, big car and having no limits on most things we used to manage back in Nigeria, and she thinks things are bread and butter. You would never think for a second that she is a married woman if you check her profiles on social media!

She has become even more toxic person than she ever was in Naija. Now very bossy, never backs down, always the attacker, ever ready for a fight, lazier, always on social media, communicates with me as little as possible, embarrasses me in the neighbourhood with the constant noises from our house, and finally her threats have now tripled! Madam is now so fierce that I have become the house chicken. Just within a few months of being here o! She tells me that she will show me for all the ''gra gra'' I used to do back in Nigeria. Friends advised me against bringing this woman here but I no wan hear word as per responsible family man wey I dey claim to be.

The popular threat is usually ''I will end your career''. I wasn't taking this too seriously initially, but she then started following through with the threats by constant calls to the police and other services, making spooky and baseless career ending accusations and allegations against me.

I have never been the one to first lay my hands on her, but I have spilled drinks on her before when she attacked me. My wife now gets very physical without having any element of self control, fear or restraint after the simplest argument and sometimes, she damages things out of anger. She does this so often and never hesitates to dare me to do my worst.

I discovered that she has signed up on dating sites and when I even caught her chatting about sex to a particular guy in our area, she said that it was all my fault. She did not apologise for this. She even referred to it one time after an argument that if I am convulsing like this over just a sex chat, she's waiting to see what I'd do when I see a man on top of her.

My productivity at work has declined significantly and I am now on the verge of depression. Neighbours called the police on us one time after a lot of noise from out house. She accused me of domestic violence. The police had to separate us and I was stuck at home for an extended period and could not go to work due to this. I am now being investigated for domestic violence, which is a serious crime as madam wants it and I have had to report the situation to my company! The whole thing is so messy that I am scared that I have not seen the worst yet.

I am so afraid of losing it all and returning to Nigeria broke cos I spent my last card and even racked credit card debt to bring them here hoping to pay off gradually. I still have a few years to get my citizenship and if I lose my job now, that is the end for all of us!

For now, I don't know what is going to happen to us, as this woman is so determined to cause great and irreparable damage that could ruin our lives, just to get back at me and she is being cheered on by her family and friends.

THE SITUATION IS SO MESSED UP!

UPDATE:

Divorce has now been filed. I also recently got lucky as I was able to secure a restraining order when she messed up again and hit me daring me to do my worst. I called the police and made a proper case and she was arrested. She has been banned from the house for a month. The police advised me to talk to my lawyer and extend indefinitely if I want to. I hope to get this done ASAP. The law here does not only protect women but also protects innocent men. All you need is patience and wisdom. Thank you all for your ideas. Still several hurdles to cross but I am on the winning side for now.

You have done well by seeking for divorce,you are a very brave man.
But before the one month restraining order lapses,make sure you install couple of cameras within your home,so you will have more than enough evidence to end it and live your life in peace.

Kingpele:
Ok, i don't know whether the governor is now councilors that have the mandate to checkmate government at the grassroots, empower the councilors and enlighten them to what they should be doing.... You won't need to risk your life traveling to the den of bokoharam...

Councillors and LG chairpersons are not elected to learn on the job,they are not meant to be enlighten or empower by any governor.
Those position are meant for already enlightened person.
People like you are the reason Nigeria is the way it is.

GamalNasser:
Upon the huge capital free profit they are enjoying in this corrupt Bus business they can't still manage it well,..Despite being a private business I am sure the owner is waiting for Lagos State govt to bail the.out once more

it's a strategy to obtain the government by trick.
Sanwoolu go soon sanwo For them now

martineverest:
air peace isn't licenced to fly in canada

This is not a regular commercial flight, it's an evacuation flight of which any preferred airline could be use.
Always get your facts right before making comments

richeeyo:
Our politicians go always dey mumu for white man,
Dem sabi where all the looted fundz dey,
Dem no fit stand their grounds

Allen Onyeama Allegations of Money laundering in US is coming to Hunt the airline here.
unfortunately it is the Nigerian economy/Brand that will suffer it via capital flight.
#SAD

Dpharisee:
Uber is the biggest Taxi firm in the world and they don't have a single taxi not to talk about taxi line

Are you telling me E-Money is into e-shipping?
As at the last check there is nothing like ship hailing.
Na Audio Mogul him be

Acmepreneur:
This my guy is not serious at all.

I used to tell myself change is the only permanent thing in life bla bla bla. And I really believe that once you take the right steps, you can be anything you want to be. This made me to be very soft with people.

When I started dating my Boyfriend, I really was not choosy or judgy. I accepted him without a second thought. I'm not the type of lady that actually do all those lady stuff, I'm a very serious person and I don't play games at all.
My BF is very cool, like not bad looking, normal behaviour etc and I like him a lot.

I'm a very ambitious person, with an extremely big dreams, my boyfriend is also hard working, but I'm not seeing any future at all with his career/prospects/life. When I say I'm with big dreams, it's means I'm working on discovering (new innovations), planning big business that would compete with top brands etc. I'm that big in dreams.

My children is also very important to me, I don't plan for their sufferings at all.
I'm an introvert, I find solace in my aspirations, dreams. I have books I work out those formulas (I mean how I would execute my business plans), I research a lot, think a lot etc

Our fight now

Since day 1, I do tell him to do this and that. I really hate company works, so I would tell him to have savings, and be building something sideways where he works. Also, I wanted him to do Masters, since he said he would love to travel out, he's always saying he hates Nigeria bla bla bla. His dad also wanted him to do Masters, but he's in the crew of Masters is a waste of time, and he can't do Masters in Nigeria bla bla bla

Baby try this business, he would say he doesn't have money, he needs 2 million to start a business etc.

Meanwhile, he doesn't have money to travel out of the country to do Masters, nor 2m to start any business. So I would tell him to manage what he has first, and that would propelled him later, but he likes to talk like illiterates that Masters is meaningless.

Meanwhile, while that is true, those things are just like investment, you don't know when you will see an opportunity to use your Masters certificate, and since he studied computer science, I told him that it can even help him get a job outside Nigeria when he leaves, that it can be useful there. I understand the situation of the country, but not having masters doesn't mean you will get a job as well, so why don't you just have it.

My bf would shut me off, and also his dad, the dad even asked him to take job at the federal university where he works, but my bf said he can't work in that place, this is a federal government job o, he would say the salary is too small and people there already knows him, because his dad is in a big office in the university.

So it won't seem like I'm disturbing him, I went quiet, but might chip it in in discussions, but I don't fight him on those things. He works in a small company, and he rose to the position of a Manager, he spent all his time in office, the little time to waste with his friends. It's a good thing but I'm not comfortable with that, the pay is about 90k, which is not enough for his expenses, also he's the first born.

Fast forward to last year, his dad died, it looks like a film trick to him, he now have to take care of his siblings and mum (mum is nurse, but retired long time ago, her pay is little because it wasn't normal retirement). Everything I was telling him finally came to pass.

He rented an apartment with His friends, he later hated it, and said he wants his own, he went to rent an apartment of 600k (he gathered it from different places and he borrowed), which I really hate and we fought on that as well. Because he could have used the money to secure his life in a better way, since his complain when I told him to start a business is that he doesn't have money bla bla bla

He will not apply for better jobs as well
He's practically doing nothing to grow, and would say he hates Nigeria and he would like to leave, but he can't even apply for scholarships or even google schools.

So this 2020, Jan 1, I started fighting him, that I'm not going to continue with him like that, that he should go apply for MSC, start a business or just do something. He now started saying that he has responsibilities which are his siblings, I told him this is the nonsense, he would do till the year ends, we will fight and later resolve it.

He won't even talk about it, or get reminded, he makes me feel Hus boss is using him. I have told him several times how he would be used and dumped, in fact, he makes me say negatives sometimes, and that's because I have seen people that get dumped while working with companies and they fall back to grass, my mum won't even accept him because he works in a company, small company, not cocacola or big companies. My mum hates company works like shits because we've heard and seen people falling to zero due to company jobs.

The problem
1. He says I'm disturbing his life, and not allowing him to rest

2. I'm not happy with him living that way, with no future, no investment, hes not building himself while working, hes not doing courses, not learning any skills, and I think its too risky.
His current salary is not enough for him, not to talk of me collecting part of it. But he gives me money though, has not been more than 1k, 2k and data subscription which I really appreciate.

3. I can't introduce him to my family because I want him respected. Truth is I don't know what he would say to impress my parents because I'm not even impressed with him. And I want him to be superloved and respected. I believe in first impression would last very long. He has introduced me to his family and all friends

4. He never ask me about my own life, aspirations, advice me etc, I'm always the one to do that. Yesterday he had the gut to tell me I'm not caring because of just two days of not showing care

5. Corona has turned his company outside down and he's highly affected. Just like all what I was telling him finally happened, and he has nothing to fall back at. He has a car,

6. I can't marry him or anyone this way, and I'm getting old, though and I want marriage next year. He said he wants too, but I can't marry him like this. And I don't want to get to late twenties, and he breaks up and I start looking for husband, people would be thinking maybe I have a problem that is why I'm yet to marry, they won't know that its him that caused my delay. Plus I have a very high esteem, so I would hate to be desperate for marriage with a man or be the one to be wanting marriage so much in a relationship

7. Right now, we have temporarily break up, so I'm asking if I should break up or make up? Because he was saying rubbish last night

Note: I'm not a fan of dating and rubbish, I love him very much and I don't want to leave him at all. I don't think there's any man I can date as I do not like dishonesty at all and 95% of men are dishonest. My BF is very honest and good I'm every other aspect

You want a full grown adult to do things your own way and a full grown man for that matter ooo,it is not going to work.
Did you even bother to find out his area of interest and how you can support him to achieve that?
I know you have made mention of traveling,but traveling could not be his only area of interest,he must have several other interest,he must have other things that excite him when those things are talked about,that is what you should look at and encourage him to go for.
Msc is not even the best for someone that read Computer related courses, encourage him to study and sit for Professional certifications which will give him a better job opportunity anywhere he finds himself,so many of those certifications that he can have in less than 6 months that will enhance what he's doing.
Lastly, don't force your opinion on him,you will never have his attention and cooperation

rali123:
Billionaire shipping mogul, first time I am seeing that title.
After Naija police interrogation is the beginning of wisdom...

Shipping Mogul wey no get shipping line

JasonScoolari:
Please I want to ask, what is the major occupation of this E-money?

Instagram Yèyébrity �

Demmtek:
One Nigeria agent will go bid for that old cargo now forgetting how old it is.

A380 is old?
You sure say you know wetin Dem dey talk about

ademidedavid:
It's no longer a story that pastors divorce their partners, imams divorce their partners, highly educated people do same and even the so called marriage counsellors are not left out in the order of the day and it has always been a thing of worry for me with the thought that they never loved each other before marriage but getting married has changed my thinking and has made me realised that marriage only takes the grace of God to work out.

I have been married for 3 years with 1 beautiful daughter with a loving wife (maybe before and some years into the marriage). I have always believed that I cannever raise my hand on my woman since my father never did such but I find it hard to believe I did the unimaginable today although It wasn't intentional.

It was due to annoyance after she asked me to stop sitting at home and go work for more money like other men even though I am a federal worker with above 100k monthly income and still do personal work as a civil engineer apart from the federal job despite the lockdown.....

It really got me aggravated because I have been the one fending for the family and the kid for the past 3 years and never asked for a kobo from her.....

Although I have noticed the urge for very flamboyant life style in her lately and has even asked me to get more money at any means, that money is everything in this life even though I have tried telling her its a gradual process, she still doesn't listen and even asked me to raise money for her to travel out of Nigeria.

I have never thought of raising my hands on any woman let alone my wife.....

Please how do I change her sudden mentality towards this sudden extravagant life style because I pray it doesn't lead to something else since I can't do illegal things to acquire the type of wealth she dreams of?

That you are here seeking advice means you are yet to lose it.
Dude,Put your feet down and stamp your authority on that Marriage now,if you accede to her demands ,she will dump you and move on when she gets whatever her target is and you will feel used.
I repeat PUT YOUR FEET DOWN AND STAMP YOUR AUTHORITY ,if she wants to keep the marriage she will stay.
A friend is in serious trouble now for not curtailing his wife excess,they are both abroad now and this Woman keeps pushing my guy and making life unbearable for him.

tyup:
The truth is I see no other Career than joining the Nigerian military I know alotta people here would say I should look into doing something better but I do manage part of my Dad's business down North, either I'm there or not I'll still get my profits plus schooling in the south west has also opened me to lotta people and business opportunities like crypto currency trade e.t.c and it has been doing great lately but I really don't feel career fulfilled unless I join the military.

Now, the problem is not "you'll need connection joining", my dad got connections in the military to help me but the big problem is the grade I'll be graduating with (2.2/3rd class) I read the military don't accept such result and the thing is, its not that I'm not brilliant but I just never took reading and attending class seriously cause I felt I'll never need the certificate to search for work n that's even why I even opted for an Agricultural course to ease my stress, I'm currently in 400Level.

My immediate elder sister on the other hand graduated with 1st class in Linguistics and got the necessary support and help from Family friends in the Force needed in joining the Nigerian Navy. I wouldn't have problems if I intend going back to the North after school but it's cool down south west over there (Ibadan to be precise) and I also intend residing over there. I'm the last born and the only guy with 2 sisters the first born is in Canada. Tho she has hint me severally on coming over after school but going abroad to stay permanently is not at all in my Life plans I love it here.

Nairalanders, I'll need every career advice I can get from you guys on how I can go about it. I initially thought doing PGD first then masters(I'll be serious with studies this time) but I heard even if do masters my Bsc cert is still what would be used in the recruitment n that's a disqualification. I need real help folks on what to do like seriously Thanks in anticipation

mynd44 lalasticlala solatium ehissi Dagger111 I need ur contributions

If you come out with pass don't wait for too long before you top up with Masters,the truth is that you might not need it right away,but it will come in handy in near future.
Those certifications always count at the end,even if it's for a day.
As for your military career,you can still give it more push since that is what you want.
Soldiering is not all about academics,they look at your strength In other endeavors to place you where you will fit in perfectly one of the major reason they always seat for an aptitude test before final drafting.
Whatever you do,make sure you stay out of trouble,wish you the very best

Ayomide11111:
If You've Done This Job Before, Pls Tell Me Your Experience Too

This my thread is just mainly for single men and guys outside there and I would like to share my experience with you guys on what I have undergone and experienced as a Security guard.

To be a security guard is not a job I can advise my enemy to opt for let alone my friend or relation. The job is a regardless one and very disgusting.

As a security guard, you are more or less a beggar in the street, should I say beggar has a little regard more than you.

When people see you, they see nothing in you. Most especially when you're trying to speak to them in English making them to know that you're educated...(laugh..) You just did it wrong, to them it means you are having mental problem.

The image impression of 98% of people on guys who do this job to hustle for their lives rather than involving in criminal practices is that they have no future; is that they cannot make it in their lives; e.t.c.

Since I've started this job when I finished my program in the polytechnic, any lady I made to know about the job I do turns me off later, some said it's a beggars' work.

And currently, I hardly have female friends not to talk of girlfriends or marriage.

Though, I didn't mean to start this job before if not condition, but now I'm planning to quit the job and find another.

Sometimes, I cried in my room, begging God to show me another way.

One of the workers in the place of work that I'm guiding once told me that his dog is better off than me. This is even the person that cannot even compose simple correct English, he said his dog is better than me.

Your experience too is allowed... Thank you.

Security guards are not USUALLY RESPECTED anywhere in the whole world,it is now left for you to carve a niche for yourself and display a rare sense of professionalism.
It is then that people will respect you, people take note of the Security guards behavior when they go places, unfortunately the behavior of security guards in Nigeria is not different from that of a begger.
When they are not begging they want to exert their authority over people in other to gain some form of recognition or Respect.
All you need is to do your job dedicatedly and be as professional as you can,your training manual comes in handy to guide you.
I was once a security guard and it's a career that I enjoyed so much,that informed my decision to take another certification in Criminology and Security,all through my day's (2yrs) as security Guards,I can't remember a day someone walk up to me to disrespect me verbally,my carriage won't let them.

SpecialAdviser:
Did you understand his testimony? If not, why not shut your mouth. We all know its the mechanic fault.

But what is the external force that helped him limit his speed before the shaft pulled off? This is where God comes in.

I know idiots like you will surely surface,the motoring rules says not more than 100km/h on trunk A road,he was on 100/120km/h on a city road and he was talking about one idiotic testimony.
If we are living in a functional society, aside from the incompetent mechanic that works on his vehicle,the senseless Sammy should also be answering to traffic rules violation and finally a slowpoke like you would have imbedded common sense instill by a sound law that govern the society

johnnyn1:
https://www.instagram.com/p/CAQ49ATpw07/?igshid=bz2nx3tr6104

No be everything be devil work,no be everything be witches and wizard. The last mechanic that worked on his car should be answering questions now.