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The first programmer is a woman...let that sink in for a moment.

There is something called subconscious bias. Basically, you act like a jerk to women but you really don't know you are doing it, once confronted you deny it but then you do it because she is a woman. If at a job interview, a female interviewee bargains hard like a 'man', you subconsciously like her a little less because you are not expecting a woman to be that difficult. Sometimes your salary offer may be less in comparison to what you will offer a man with the same qualification. You may be less inclined to give her a job because of that.

And so on many examples.

I am not complaining nor am I tagging these men beasts. I find it hard to blame them for the bias. My problem is the way it is handled once confronted with reality. A good sensible person will make amends and be more conscious of how his subconscious and stereotypes affect how he acts. This person will self reflect and try and work towards a more liberal approach to the opposite sex.

Now, my opinion is not dismissive of the fact that some women are liars, incompetent, complacent and manipulative however thesee do not change the reality of 'most' women in the labour market.



Take a look at this link

https://www.google.com.ng/amp/s/m.huffpost.com/us/entry/us_58c2ce53e4b054a0ea6a4066/amp

h8rr:
This is utter bollocks. Women don't face any form of discrimination in the tech world. They are simply not good enough to break in, hence the need for favorable policies and quotas to have opportunities, which is in this case an actual form of discrimination to males in tech industry.

https://www.susanjfowler.com/blog/2017/2/19/reflecting-on-one-very-strange-year-at-uber

Women in tech are going through exactly the same thing women in medicine went though before it became normal for women to be doctors.

I am going to post more links when I find them

pocohantas:
As in, they are payed differently?

This one isn't on tech world though, this is 'driving'.

Actually, women in the tech world face discrimination.

I am standing with western women on this. This tike around they are not crying wolf or being absurd about this.

pocohantas:
Are they working same hours/job role as the men?
If yes, they should get same pay. If no, they should keep kwayet.

As for being discriminated against, on what basis exactly?

I think some of these women need to realise they don't just wake up and decide where and when they don't wanna be discriminated against. Same way most of these women won't hire a male nanny, that's how some men won't want a female driver.

Sometimes, these choices are not due to hate.

As in I don't just understand.

Everything is religion to them.

pocohantas:
Don't mind them.
Lots of them sleep with these naive teenage girls.

This happens pretty often everywhere in Nigeria. You see a teenage girl that thinks a man loves her. You try to talk sense into her, she runs to her lover.

It is surprising how this has become a religious issue.

A step in the right direction. However, some bigots will need more than laws to change their mentality.

How does biafra affect you?

Ejimagift:
People that are segregating themselves with Osu cast system yet they want Biafra. God knows biafra will not survive 6 months before they fight another civil war. We don't need such unstable country near our borders

You can't always appoint the most qualified. That is factually impossible.

We are in Nigeria, it won't hurt to have a couple of Muslims and females on board and there are a bunch of qualified ones out there.

HungerBAD:
MURIC again?

What happened to appointing the most qualified not based on religious affiliations? What happened to appointing the most qualified not based on tribal affiliations?

Religion and Tribal sentiments is the bane of Nigeria.

For the first time, they have a point.

Fulani herdsmen wahala is not about Islam. Please don't drag Muslims into this. MURIC shouldnt have done that either but who take them serious anyways. It is also not about the Fulani people or the President although he is complicit by his refusal to acknowledge that some fulani herdsmen are beast.

Whether you like it or not, some fulani herdsmen actually go about destroying farms, raping women and matcheting people. Thank you.

This association is basically a group of farmers who want political favours. They don't speak for farmers n the North or down South especially in Oyo state.

Ejimagift:
Thank God Muric and we Muslims have been vindicated once more. This is coming from the farmers themselves who knows cattle herders from inception are only armed with kettle and stick to guide their herds. I wont be surprised if these killings were sponsored by some Christian groups just to paint this administration in bad light. Every time crocodile tears from Christians just to demonize Fulanis and Muslims. It's unfair how low we have descended as a nation. Christians were said to be training 300 mercenaries in Israel. If those ones start killings, Muslims will be blamed. Let's give cattle herders land in all states to avoid clashes, Christians will say no. What do these people really want

They don't speak for the Agbekoya

What ia going to happen when it gets to the point where you can't afford to keep the hospital''s doors open (not to mention upgrade), cloth yourself, help your family and your children starts to die from hunger?


It is easier said than done.

Ayoswit:
I understand their reasons for demanding payment or deposit before treating a patient but if I was the one, I would treat the patient regardless of the fact that money wasn't paid because I can't watch a patient die when I can be able to treat him, it's hard though but saving a life is worth it.

No one is saying men should not have xustody. If the parents have the interest of the kids at heart, they will agree on who to have custody. If the father is the better parent, a good mother who loves her kids will let him have cus today. If the better patent is the mum, a good father who cares about his kids who leave custody for the mother. There are other yardstick they could use.
The other parent can get the kids for weekends and vacation.


It is not right to deny kids the opportunity to grow and bond with another because the parents are mad at each other.

Hanseel1:
Wait ,why shouldn't the kids be shared?

They both produce the kids so why should the mother get the 4kids?

I don't know why women are so desperate to have the kids to themselves in a divorce. Men have taken interest in child custody these days. We can take care of kids.

If women don't want the kids to be shared then they should allow the man to have custody of all the kids. Nonsense

High protein diet?

King big deal with four eggs. She should have been considerate though, she is in someone else''s house. The guy is a control freak, he could have asked her to buy more eggs to compensate.

@OP, he slapped her because she poured the eggs away not because she wanted four eggs for herself.

Yes thanks to branding. That wasn't the point of the topic though.

Bluezy13:
But she tops the list of female musicians in Nigeria and Africa as a whole.

What type of parents share kids? What type of parents drag their kids into their mess?

I hate that title called Alfa and I hate those who call themselves such.

I don't blame them.I blame dimwit that patronise them. If you think one idiot that probably batters his wives, fu.cks around, lies through his teeth whom you have no blood or familial relationship can intercede with God for you because he thinks he knows one or two Arabic words and juju, you are the worse!

If you can leave your grandparents, your parents, your siblings, all your fanily and your friends to ask an idiot to pray for you, you are the worse!

Someone tells you that you will be dead in two days and you can't ask God to strike him and his jinn dead, you are the worse!

Which versatility? Tiwa cannot sing most of her songs live without sounding horrible.

Bluezy13:
Tiwa is versatile.

She can sing like Simi if she wants to and she can be crazy like lady gaga if she still wants to.
Simi isn't versatile, she is limited to a pattern.

With which money?

Yeah, you are quite lame.

Read what I quoted and read my response again. Take your time to read slowly and understand every word before you quote me again.

Rubbiish:
This is quite lame...Seems u don't even know what u are saying...
Most of these young girls lure lecturers into these things & when d lecturers decide's not to do their biddings they set them up.

Haven't u seen young ladies falsefully accused men of rape just for their own selfish reasons?

It could have been an omission on his part. No one is perfect. If he didn't bother, he clearly didn't think twice of HER CONTRIBUTION when he asked her to pack out.

You may be older than me but I know that men have asked their wives to pack out for something less than a word or two. They use as an instrument of control and blackmail. Besides, it is very condescending, arrogant and selfish to ask your wedded partner to pack up and leave like a fhucking guest. I really don't want to know what happened. I don't care! Do you know how fhucking long it took her to move in? No wonder men are scared to live in their wive's house. You can't bear to go through what you put women through because you own a fhucking house, do you? Hypocrite much? :-Disrespect or not, what should a woman do when her husband disrespect her? poison him or ask him to leave if she happens to own the house? Because I really don't understand what could justify asking your partner to pack out like a guest.

This is the same man that is now insisting on being the sole bearer. It sounds to me like a man who likes to control by fire or by force.

You think it is great to chase out a partner. I don't think it is. I don't care what could have happened. If you have a problem, you sort it out or you could make arrangements. You just don't ask your partner to pack out or throw their properties out!

olalat:
You really make good points here but I need to ask some questions.
Why do you think the man did not inquire or bother to inquire whose name is on title of the property before now?
Do you think the just ask her to pack out of the house based on one or two exchange of ideas words rather a prolonged argument and utterances which depicted some level of disrespect?
Do you a man who doesn't bother to have custody of their property can chase his wife out just like that?

What? you don't think with your manhood

Oklander:
Thing? I have chosen to not go the path you are pushing me, I clearly stated my opinionated contribution up there, you should really mind the push.

Very insecure thing

Oklander:
Lol, smh...

Did the woman put a gun to his head and said if you don't have sex with me I will pull he trigger?

Did the woman threaten to kill his family if he doest disobey the ethics of his profession?

I really don't like stupid thinking. We have to engage our brains to reason not like zombies.

pacifique:
I have nothing to say. But fear women! They can ruin your destiny in a second. I don't do one sided story. And how about if the man had planned himself to put on Spy cameras before now, how would the story be?

Consent to use only her name? I don't feel bad your wife. Only insecure wives stick to inseure men.

Obason22:
You are not wrong to use part of ur money to support ur husband, but u are wrong to use ur name as ownership without His consent, in as I'm not in support of him throwing u and kids out of the hasu, our elder said that when u beat a child with right hand u draw him with left hand, I advice u to do the needful because he was the one that brought u as wife, if u actually want peace, for me personally I cannot leave in a hasu built by my wife and has her name attached as ownership its wrong, so I pray for peace between both of u and total reconciliation, u shall over comes ur challenges and not ur challenges over coming u, Peace and restoration upon ur family.

No medicine known to man can fix your problem.

Oklander:
So, when I just read the post, this question was what came to my mind. Unfortunately nobody on the first page asked. And, I do not know whether I missed it, but I couldn't find the response from the 2nd page that you happened to ask the very important question to around the 5th page that I could reach.

Madam op, the crap that most feminists wannabe and the so called feminists, and the disrespectful girls here who hasn't experinecd the marriage institution, and those girls who kept on criticizing the African marriage instituion, and the ones who totally lacks what a good man wants in a woman and the rest others who couldn't think far to what exactly you have done to turn a 'good man' into a monster(only a monster would want to chase out his own family JUST LIKE THAT), will not help you and the problem. The craps may make you feel better now but certainly for a very short period of time. As far the most important issue is not factored into what they are telling you here now makes it crap.


Do not tell us what happened is private and can't be revealed here, you made the post already.


With the little you presented up there, the man is now seen as a monster, very wicked and unreasonable? Agreed. But then, tell us, what have you done to a man you knew to be a 'GOOD MAN' to turn him to a WICKED MAN as presented in your op.?

HEseesall

You and your husband had an agreement but somthing came up. His dad was sick and he could not go ahead with what you have agreed on. Your husband did not spend the money on parties, he spent it on father's sickness. Your story and action make it seem like you are more concerned about him not keeping to the agreement than the reason he broke it off.

Lucky for him, he didn't spend all the money on his father's sickness. He added the remainder to the building of the house which means he should have a share of the property. However you chose not to amend the title documents even though he also contributed.Why? Well, you were wrong to do that.You would have hated him if it were you.

It is sad your husband has appeared to be very selfish, arrogant, illogical and immature. His subsequent reactions have trumped yours. A husband who is comfortable to ask his family to pack put because he can do so or because his name is on the title document is wicked. You are fortunate that your name was on the title document. That action appears to justify and nullify your bad behaviour. With a man like that, you are very lucky.

You have done well to want to amend the title document to reflect his contribution. Don't let him use seperation and divorce to blackmail you into using his sole name. It is a wicked and selfish idea. His actions have proved that you will regret it if it is in his name only. I wish you the best. I hope it works out between you two.

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Queen''s connection?

Seriously Bro?

myners007:
Fans fighting pre or post match is English trademark believing that with their Queen's connection they cannot be arrested anywhere in the world. I trust the Russian no nonsense police to handle them. the truth being told all these fights are alcohol induced ones.

She has a recorder

pocohantas:
When you see unserious students, you will know.
That handbag can't contain book or handouts, the only thing it can contain is...diary, powder, lipstick, handkerchief and two phones.

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Okay sir

Lorenzop:
Huh?...jus because of a tour...chei...now we know why we keep going backwards.... If this can impress you so much then Liar Mohammed have got you cheap....