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How about you wash the toilet before they come knocking?

oweniwe:


I dey us am

But neighbors coming to come knock your doo when your sleep is sweetest early morning to come wash toilet/bathroom is one hell of an inconvenience.

If you want to piss, you have to go outside the house

If you want sheet you have to go outside... Every time, every day.

I only stayed 5 months there before I moved to self contain room and parlor.

Growing up, I am used to having whole house to Myself alone. I only decided to manage the face me I face u when I needed accommodation when I got a new posting in new town so I wasn't prepared for the drama

You no dey use the toilet.

oweniwe:
Most annoying as a young man staying alone there.

Imagine neighbor's wives/small daughter knocking on your door... "Uncle O, come and wash the bathroom and toilet"

Wakanda nonsense is that?

This is a good list

chatinent:
1. When you cook with less or substandard ingredients, you'll keep covering the pot and hiding them. When you want to fry egg, you'll bring everything outside.


2. All the low budget Rihannas entering your home without invitations.


3. I Pass My Neighbour generator is your muscle.


4. Too many slippers at your neighbour’s door when there is no light is a bad news.


5. If NEPA interrupts the light and your neighbour has it, let all hell loose till democracy is achieved.


6. Wives are girlfriends to neighbors. If you know you know.


7. SlayQueen putting their custard for urine under their cupboard.


8. There must be one womaniser always playing loud music.


9. There must be one woman with multiple children and an irresponsible husband.


10. Where two or more women are gathered and you pass with a friend, forget it. It's YOU 101.


11. The army of beggars. If you mistakenly borrow them ₦500, they'll never leave you and will keep coming back.


12. The female children of other neighbours wanting adventure coming to your room.


13. The problem of washing bathroom and toilet.


14. There's always sb who will use the toilet and leave Abednego floating for others to see.



What is more?


That's the worst place to be.

Madam, where is the Nkwobi I ordered?
M ga-echere ruo mgbe ebighị ebi?

Of all the issues plaguing SW

Exactly. Two people made some hard and difficult decisions. I doubt it was easy for the brother to record his mother or the op to disown their mother.

Their mother's hatred is on another new level I can't fathom. One can wish the mother comes to her senses and the issue is resolved.

aroundtheearth:
I'm sorry but none of that makes any sense. What you've done there is make the MIL out to be the victim when she isn't.

1. The brother was right to have recorded the mother because it would've been difficult for the OP to believe him without that proof. I reckon the OP is aware the mother didn't like his wife before this situation but he would've still had difficulty believing she would make such statement towards his wife, especially after losing her baby.

2. I doubt the brother set out to record the mother for any ill intention. He was probably pressing his phone at the time and for him to have gotten those words recorded meant the mother must've said them a couple of times beforehand /before he started recording.

3. He (the brother) was likely in shock himself at what he was hearing their mother say, hence the need for him to record her, kinda like, "Did she just say that?".

Idk why you're blaming the brother when he did absolutely nothing wrong. I bet if the mother had said she wanted to kill the wife, you would still blame the brother for recording her. The brother is not the problem here at all.

When I was a teenager I had an Italian neighbour who kept having miscarriages. The husband's mom would sometimes visit and I would see her embrace the wife and they would gist outside. I actually didn't know about the miscarriages until the wife told me. She ended up giving birth towards the end of that year. I'm just recalling this story because the MIL never showed any animosity towards the wife, ever, and because what any loving MIL should do in this situation or least upon hearing about the wife losing her baby, is to ask how she's doing and feeling, if she needs anything ― anything to console the woman ― not utter such hateful words. As a woman herself, she should've known better.

Yes, the mother should've apologized to OP. Idk why that's even up for debate. Her refusal to do so shows she isn't remorseful and that this was an intentional statement. It takes a hateful heart to wish someone dead, especially after such a traumatic experience. It's like kicking someone when they're down, which is no surprise because according to her own words, "she is not an hypocrite, she never like my wife and she can't pretend".

All your scenarios do not reflect the reality of Nigerian homes and many homes outside Nigeria. Many homes are too poor to survive on a single income. If women don't spend according to your concocted fact, we should be richer. What else would we do with those extra cash?

Plus when women earn low, it is either because of her family commitment or the society's or biology.

Maybe it is time you ask your mum how often it was her money many times she told you your dad gave her money or your dad sent money to you?

Ikjosh04:
A Nigerian financial stable woman is different from the norms.


99.5% of Nigeria financially stable women living in Nigeria and even to some extent in the western world hardly contributes their own quota financially in the relationship.

Imagine this 3 scenarios.

Family A: Both hubby and wifee earn 12 million naira annually respectively but wifee still expect hubby to be financially responsible for above 50% of the family day to day financial activities.

Family B: Hubby and wifee earn 12 and 9 million naira annually respectively but wifee still expect hubby to be financially responsible for above 60% of the family day to day financial activities.

Family C: Hubby and wifee earn 12 and 5 million naira annually respectively but wifee still expect hubby to be financially responsible for above 70% of the family day to day financial activities.

Which of the family scene will you want to be your reality when you get married?

As for me, I'll go with family C cause, I'm sure of total submission from my wifee and I prefer paying above 70% of the bills. Every man loves peace of mind.

The Bible said women are our helpmate but only 10% of Nigeria girls from age 22 to 30 have the virtues and are willing to be helpmate. It's quite disheartening!!

Btw, i think Benue states still have decent girls cause I've met quite a few and the vibes I'm getting from them are different from the norms of Nigeria girls.

Why?

The5DME:
Their lesson teacher will be the one to hande that.

Godly status on top homework

WoundedLamb:
@bolded: lol... African men their excessive desire for a godly status.

As for me, I wouldn't like to make it anyone's task or even a workflow (like yours where it arrives on your table after wifie's failed attempts); it's my home and not an office with SOP's. I'd let anyone available do that. If I see anyone I can't solve I'd either claim to be busy and ask them to go to wifie or ask them to come back later and then quietly ask wifie to help. I'd expect her to do the same if she finds anyone too hard to solve.

'people that instigated civil war'

This man is definitely crazy!

They probably have better lecturers but the Nigerian in you must find an alternative explanation to hardwork and brilliance. I wonder what is stopping you from switching to those courses in UNN..

vickydevoka:
In unn is mathematics n civil engineering is de easiest department to make first class.

I could remember in a class of 30 I mathematics there where 8 first class.
Na so 2 of my class comot with 2.1 that year, I begin de lag am

Lmao. One out of a million. Still a gamble

Randy91:
What a motivation !

This is one of the reasons why you should NOT think of SUICIDE no matter what you are going through right now !

Stay motivated !

First class in Mathematics isn't a joke. I wish him the best of luck.

At the expense of many lives?

Ermmm, I don't know of anyone that considers money cake as an alternative to actual cake.

You have overanalyzed this issue.Calm down!

Peterobi90:
Job can be defined as employment, work or occupation, it is a person's role in society. More specifically, a job is an activity, often regular and often performed.

Jobs are not created from the blues, they are created via our daily specific activities.

They are coined from our daily habits alongside country policies..

The main purpose of this thread is the new habit of money cakes in place of actual cakes.. some might call it bluff, but its becoming a trend and gradually becoming a norm.

The activities that involve cakes are diminishing daily..

Weddings are on an alltime low, Birthdays are barely celebrated these days. How then do we want the bakers to feed when we deliberately kill jobs with trendy habits.

Of what use is a money cake to the society, what economic gain has it added to the economy?.. zero/zilch, but has taken food out the mouth of millions from that created through cake-baking.

Please let's be cautious, our money cake trendy habit kill jobs, our economy is at the brink on employment.. we cant keep harming ourselves. Coming from our so-called celebrities goes to show most dont think beyond their noses.

Note: I am not a Baker, just a concerned citizen.

Your babe is too complacent :

Why are they using 'we' though? Does that include the middle belters?

Are witches and wizards synonymous to vampires as well?

galantjoe:
That is what I used when I had my first child. Yes, prayer is very powerful but spiritual ointments and sacramentals are still important.

As you know that witches and wizards don't like silver and cross. So make those things near where you keep your child.

The second one to the last paragraph describes my baby brother.

pozehnani:
I'll start by tackling constipation in children.
If you notice a child can't poo due to hard stool, and he won't take veggies by mouth, pump him through the anus with some herbal solution ( I can't remember what it is called in English) to prevent pile from forced poo.

Then make sure he takes a lot of fruits specifically pawpaw and orange. You can juice and bottle it for them to take to school. That way they'll never suffer constipation.

As for how to get them to eat without being abusive or hard on them. Get some chewable multivitamins ( they are quite expensive). This will induce hunger and make them eat very well without being forced. Its also very good for their skin. A 250g size of the chewable multivitamins goes for like 30k upwards.
Alternatively, you can give normal multivitamins syrup.

Now, there are some children who defy this multivitamins and still won't eat. Just try to find out what what such a child likes and let him be having it pending when he begins to eat very well. Every child has what they like.

Never force a child to eat what he or she doesn't like.

Many terrorist organisations were able to find their activities through hostages. These monsters won't stop, they will continue to be inhumane and hold the country to ransome. We need to start creating a world kidnap victims would be seen as matyrs while their loved ones make peace with it.

At this rate if I ever become a victim of one. I would rather commit a murder suicide. No chance in hell a group of morons get fat, buy more guns and kidnap more people because they have me.

Their marriage wasn't interesting. What they has was very strict marital roles and obligations. More like a manual

thebosstrevor1:
Those days, our great grandfather will marry 3 wives and each of them will have their own hut only when he wants to service them or if they wanted servicing will they come to the man's hut.

This infact made the marriage more interesting

Nowadays, husbands and wives stay in the same room, they see each other each day, why wont the drive die, over familiarity kills marriage.

Alright

doxijaw:
The big picture matters!

We on the same side though!

Yoruba people are on this table. The time I have spent shutting 'proud Yoruba people up'

Wittyduchess:
Moral values?

The same country that ranks high on the corruption table, scam, fraud, ritual killing, terrorism, terrible justice system,hypocrisy etc.

Which morality are you talking about? Oh because you know how to greet in the morning and evening?

I am not. Please download our app. Our rates are relatively affordable

Odoogu:
You a doctor?

The thread is about parenting. Family is the basic unit of a society. What goes on in family reflects on our society. I don't care about whatever else you want to drag in.

doxijaw:
The big difference between Africans and europoids is not morality, parenting, culture.


It's ethics!

That was sarcastic. Neither parenting culture is perfect. There is nothing wrong in emulating some aspects of western parenting especially the ones that encourage independence, responsibility, and individualism (that to an extent).

doxijaw:
Western culture isn't beautiful, it's a babaric, hate fueled culture of genocide, wars, dominance hierarchy's, extreme capitalism by proxy of the gun and finance.

African culture was beautiful, but now diluted due to inferiority complex.

The African wants to be westernised, rather than copy the White man strengths, he copies his weaknesses.

Africa will remain backwards but adopt the sickness of the western man.

That's the future.

I see your political touts, cultists in your high school and universities, bandits and those rapists your society seem to love protecting agreeing with you.

You would assume the natural consequences of raising your children to be so African would be honest politicians, ethical police officers, law-abiding citizens and children that can pretend to respect themselves, others, and those they consider beneath them

Jashub:
Are you ready to see homosexuality and other vices in the life of your child? If your answer is yes. Then go for western education.

You are as wrong as he is.

No culture is perfect. There is a lot wrong with a culture where most children need to take a drastic step before their parents begin to respect them as a person.

Rukkyken71:
Notin is really wrong with our way of life when it comes to bringing up a child, our way is the best with good morals but the problem is in the education and the environment. Our leaders have killed everything here in Nigeria, no good school apart from the private primary and secondary schools and most of them in some part of the country re not up to standard, they just have nice building and equipment. Our universities are finished, honestly there is notin left of our universities except maybe the private ones which u must be well to do before u could afford it. our health care centres are zero. if u hav the money to live abroad then pls do. Don't mind people telling u otherwise.

Yeah because the Western culture is always so beautiful, so civilised and so perfect

BadRadio:
Truth is that I am African but I dispise the standards in Africa. Africa seems too primitive, naive and backwards in terms of everything... and I've usually thought of raising my kids the British or American style.


of what importance is an African parents culture and tradition in raising their children the African way rather that the British or American way?


Would it be sensible if a child is a genius in English language than mother tongue.

Are there disadvantages.

You would think these people would move Medina in Saudi rabia or Isreal if they are so particular about the stupid names.

Because she buried placenta... .

MIL, you and your wife need a good spanking.

Praise God, another motivational speaker..

Lmao. Cross-dressing for entertainment is not new or western sha.