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[color=#cc0066]Nice write up. I'm glad I read it.[/color]

[color=#cc0066]You have both become cheaters? As in, you're both 'secretly' seeing each other whilst in your separate relationships? You both know that what you're doing is not advisable as you're hurting the people you are currently with, and wasting their time. You both made a decision to move on, yet you are not taking the necessary steps to do so, hence why you're both crying to each other on the phone. I don't know why you two split in the first place but if it was for the best, I think you two should really try and lessen the time you spend together, well to be honest it depends on the situation, if you two want to be friends after the breakup, you should still take time apart and then when the wounds aren't so fresh, you can start to bring back some sort of amicable friendship. It'll be hard but if the breakup was for the best then it's what you'll need to do. I'm afraid I need more info before I can say anything else.[/color]

[color=#cc0066]A world without women would be as terrible as a world without men .[/color]

[color=#cc0066]Well, I personally think that there is nothing wrong with honesty. Liars probably can't handle the upfront-ness of someone who is honest. I personally admire a man who is honest, it takes a lot to bare all, I can tell you that.

I also think that maybe your exs didn't believe your honesty at first, but when they realised that they dealing with the real deal, it might have made them feel out of their league.

I repeat, you don't get that many honest people (not just guys).

I am not sure that the girls simply left because of the fact that you were honest, they probably had different reasons, I'm still not quite sure what you were honest about, that may have scared them, but really it shouldn't matter to you because you ideally should want someone who accepts you the way you are, completely.[/color]

[color=#cc0066]Lol, you're a little late to start the year, it's almost ended!!

In response to the OP, it depends whether you mean a professional prostitute of just a very promiscuous person.#
You see the assumption there is that I would let myself get close enough emotionally to such a person, close enough to fall in love. If they were my friend and I would only fall in love if I was able to move past the number of sexual encounters and such, it's not just enough for me to click with someone these days, there has to be compatiblity, and I require someone who is very into their faith and beliefs, sleeping around casually with different people is not on that list. I may be asking too much from such a person, but it is a requirement for me, so 'No' I probably wouldn't want to marry a 'prostitute'.[/color]

[color=#cc0066]Nah that's not what it means! Does it just mean you're frustrated?[/color]

dyabman:
one married now in London,UK and the two other i just don't know their whereabout, maybe decieved

[color=#cc0066]Deceased? That's terrible. Well, only God knows what will happen in future. Care to share the reason why they left/you left them?[/color]

[color=#cc0066]Nigerian men are great, but what about Nigerian women too, we are pretty great ourselves, might I add![/color]

[color=#cc0066]Cool - this reminds me of an idea I had (well it was someone else's suggestion) that I'd put all my Agony Aunt questions and answers on my blog.[/color]

dyabman:
three good and loving girls

there eyes are full of real love but they are gone forever i think

[color=#cc0066]If you could get any of them back, would you? And what do you mean forever (you think), are they married, deceased, nuns?[/color]

dyabman:
wetin sef

[color=#cc0066]I'm not good at pidgin, what's 'wetin sef' mean , [/color]

Ezinwannem:
@topup , not, he said "his cousin's sista", lol, read it well

"He told me that he wants me to marry his cousine sister."

[color=#cc0066]He (the friend of this guy), told him, that he (the friend) wants this guy to marry his (the friend's) cousin's sister.
If he meant his cousin, he would have said; He told me that he wants me to marry my cousin's sister, which would mean his (this guy's) cousin. I did read it well, now you read it again.[/color]

yomi123nl:
i have dated a married woman before, believe me, she was sweet. If i see any married woman that i trip for, i will go for her. I think i'll love to have sex with beautiful married women.

[color=#cc0066]And equally, you would love for someone to have sex with your wife/wife to be/future wife. [/color]

sistawoman:
To all my GOOD Nigerian men:

God created you just for us, there are no other men on the face of the earth like yall. Good Nigerian men work harder, love harder and respect harder their women than any other men on the face of this planet.

The reason most of us are here is because of you.

This is one sista that no matter how many times her heart is hurt I will never turn my back on my brothas.

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[color=#cc0066]Sorry to all those people who lost someone they loved because of the distance. Who knows what might happen in future, I know how all of you feel.[/color]

[color=#cc0066]With anything that is worth it, it's not easy to get it or get there. When you are in love, there is no other comparable feeling, it's just divine, though you may be later heartbroken, you should just love openly and honestly, trying to hide your heart can work against you.

The journey may be long and tortorous but the destination is well worth it.[/color]

[color=#cc0066]This is the 21st century, yes you may have decreased your chances but it doesn't mean it's still not going to happen. There are many factors, also your spouse must be healthy and have a high sperm count too, just go to your doctor and ask for options.[/color]

[color=#cc0066]No no no, and I don't think I would if I was male either.[/color]

[color=#cc0066]Technically she hasn't sex (yet) with the son.[/color]

[color=#cc0066]I don't know what to say. . . (hahaha ok ok I do).

You need to look independently on how much sincere love you two have. Not just fancy, and I hope you both aren't attracted to drama, and he's being fuelled to pursue your relationship further because of the idea that your love is like Romeo and Juliet, and that it's worth it.

I am not saying your love is not worth it, but if you believe that nothing can tear you two apart such as the father threatening you to call of the wedding or the father threatening to cut all contact with his son during your marriage.

Any children borne from the marriage will be missing a granddad, also your husband may come under a lot of pressure.

It also depends on how strong the father & son relationship was like to begin with, because if they never cared too much about each other, this would make barely any difference.

What are the threats the grandfather is making (if any) by the way?[/color]

Ezinwannem:
hmmm why "my cuzzin's sister?", why didnt he just say his cousin?

[color=#cc0066]Because it's not his cousin. He said the friend's cousin's sister. So the friend's cousin.[/color]

[color=#cc0066]Because people have become hard, and they look at those who still love openly as fools who are bound to be played and will eventually learn their lessons. I love openly and fully, and most of my friends think I shouldn't that I should play games, I have been HURT in the past too, but I think it's futile to try and put up a front, it stands in the way of you finding that connection. 'Cos you withholding back or playing games can actually speed up the demise of one's relationship. That barrier you put up to protect yourself, works in both ways, stops any real emotion leaving, but also stops any real emotion being received, you won't know when love is staring you in the eye, and you might miss it.

I know lots of people who don't want to get hurt so play 'hard to get' and are always bothered about keeping their guys in line, but the guys get tired of being so open and giving so much of themselves that they walk away to find a girl who'll respond to his love and attention.

With OP, I noticed that too, but I don't listen.[/color]

[color=#cc0066]Well, Bukky shouldn't be letting her jealousy blind her. Tope is not worth all this argument, I am not saying Tope is worthless, but in terms of Bukky's and Tunde's relationship she is not a worthy reason to break up. I believe some people might wonder why Tunde would hold onto Tope if he loves Bukky, but the fact remains that he knew Tope before Bukky AND a incredibly jealous girlfriend fires warning signs to a guy and this might make him feel like taking a wuick escape route (hence the threat of the break up).

Advice? - Bukky should try and see it as harmless, she should give Tunde more credit, until proven otherwise Tunde and Tope are in a platonic relationship.

*Added stuff** - After reading more replies, I am hearing that 1. This is a TRUE story in which more than one Nairalander knows about. 2. Tope and Tunde really do have something goin' on and 3. Bukky did try to befriend Tope but now Tope seems to want Tunde and is disrespecting the relationship Tunde has with Bukky.

What took Tope SO long!!! She realised that she missed out on a great guy when he started going out with Bukky instead of waiting on Tope.

I hope I never come across a Tope, if my best friend needed to see my less often because of a jealous girlfriend I, personally, would actually comply. I want to see him happy and want the best for him, the only way I wouldn't comply is if I wanted him for myself.

Lastly, Tunde has the upper hand here![/color]

[color=#cc0066]Lol, now you gotta do better than that! Sell yourself.

How lazy are you really [/color]

babygirlfl:
We should also realise that we are teaching people the unatural thing (holding back when u love)  as compared to the natural thing (giving all when u love)

[color=#cc0066]Agreed![/color]

[color=#cc0066]It really does sound like a joke to me - but it isn't. Right?

Just try the nice and stern approach.

"I have no interest in getting married to your sister." - then give reasons.

If you would like to get to know his sister or think there is a possiblity you might get together i.e. you're looking for a wife, then tell him;

"I can not get married to someone I don't know. I would like to get to know her first."


Some people are strange like that, if you go along, he may even tell his family back home and his sister that the arrangements have been made and plans are underway for the wedding.[/color]

Quote from: Chamotex on Today at 03:48:12 PM

@ topup

please stop writing essays jare . kilode!!!



Quote from: Brash! on Today at 03:53:31 PM
"she no dey hear word

her and sistawoman, na swear wey them swear for them!!

precise, simple and non-eye hurting responses are required not write KEYPOINT as if say the poster wan study jamb!!! Grin"



Quote from: chamotex on Today at 03:57:13 PM
"no mind the woman

i dey always try to avoid any thread wey i see her name becuz i no say na novel i go read for there.
person go sleep, wake up, and e go still dey read her post. Topup ko da oo. Help us now"

[color=#cc0066]Thanks.[/color]