₦airaland Forum

LynnnCHI:
Na real gamble jare.Marriage be like alcohol, sometimes you get high and sometimes you're sober.

How can you lose in your gambling, if you put God right in the center and middle of all your affairs? Aha!
Because many people wish to marry for SEXUAL and material reasons only. They totally push God out of their marriage, then expect wonders to happen.

bedspread:
My Experience....

My wife is not a Nigerian and Mom was afraid of I going for her after my Elder bro had also Married a Foreigner..

I would have listened to her but what kept me was that I heard Clearly from GOD on where I should go , which happened to be the Country of my wife Even when I had better Places to go ... That Privilege I had hearing From GOD Kept me...

Dad had little or problem agreeing as long as He was sure that I heard GOD..

it's being Great! Mum has Accepted wifey tho she still not so happy about it!
I am so Happy as We see The HAND OF ALMIGHTY GOD, who brought us together daily in our Home...

I Remember telling people that if I didn't hear GOD on my Marriage , I won't Marry!
My Advise to Anyone seeking for marriage is to Have an empty and open mind...
Tell JESUS CHRIST in prayer that you wanna marry.. ( don't give him a choice)
He will tell u your choice wherever He/She is..
As long as u have a Honest Mind

The creation of Nigeria as a country, is God's call to break uss out of our small-small villages and mix up with each other. Jesus died for all men - Everybody. He didn't select any village and his personal choice. All men. Your family learnt to extend love beyond physical boundry of Africa.
The problem with Nigerians is that no matter how much we love and cherish our village and culture, you will not carry it to heaven when you die. Just focus on loving as Jesus asked us to love and all will be well.

sacramento1212:
Agreed but can you also do justice to the aspect of Culture and tradition just as you did to language.

Without a common language we are completely disunited. Anybody marrying another tribe will need to find his own tribalistic reasons for marrying. And you know we have none. Our Chrisitianity has not entered into our cultures. So you can't say because you are both Christians. No way. Nigerians are Chrisitians in English and Juju worshipers in Native Language. This is how we decieve ourselves. And since each person's juju is different, different tribes will never marry. Marriage is a risk you must take into Christianity (Love one another as I have loved you). And this is closely tied to Education (all human beings are thesame). If you trust God, take the risk, show your faith and enjoy your marriage to another tribe person. Tribe does not matter. If you are still afraid; well it's not by force. But Jesus has called you to love one another as he loves all of us, without any exceptions, or excuses.

sacramento1212:
Yes, We lived in separate villages and kingdoms because we all never shared several things in common which also include language. As a country which to me is political but despite the mix up, culture and tradition differs among tribes.

To create a country, the first thing the British did was to establish a common Language amonst us. English.
English used for writing, for TV, for Radio, for Newspaper, Church.... Those who keep refusing to learm or speak the English are in a permanent state of protest, suspicion or fear. When the two families speak English, there's not much problem. English is spoken by persons who were educated in school. And once you are Educated, you learn that all human beings a are thesame. Black or white. What is still the reason for suspicion again when you and your fiancee know eah other?

AFONAMARO:
Got married without mom's consent. She declined becaue of wifey's tribe.

But today wifey is her best daughter in law

Before Nigeria was created by oyibos, we lived in separate villages and kingdoms. The meaning of Nigeria is that we are all mixed up now. Anybody who is still refusing to mix up is part of Nigeria's problem. The politicians use this weakness against us.

hammerFC:
Marriage is not personal but a family matter.

It is an abomination to marry without parental consent.

Afterall, the marriage is as much in the interest of your parents as it is yours.

So if your family is a racist family, you too will continue to be a racist?
You (Man) are the head of your own house. You and your wife are the ones to set the standard you follow in your new home.

ceejayMAX:
NA DEM

Better stop all this "na dem", "no him". This is blatant racism. When white people display their racism on you because you are
black, you will say they are wicked. Now you are displaying your racism on your fellow black neighbour.

hardbody:
How would you know all these to be true....and you started by saying you are sure...

Such a shame

I live in Lekki, many "fine" cars like this Honda. Every single day, many drivers are using at their phones right at the steering wheel, typing out whatapp, scrolling texts, with the eyes OFF from the road.
Because the car is air conditioned, with power options, automatic transmission and very comfortable inside. It's only statistics that a foolish accident will happen when people do this.
Overseas, it is an instant fine of £100 or more. But then again, they have CCTVs on the road to snap your picture as evidence. We can't do that in Nigeria because we just cannot get 24/7 electricity anywhere to power the CCTV.

I once tried unsuccessfully to put out the fire of a burning Audi. One very beautiful model like this shown in the picture below.
the car burnt totally to the ground. The driver was just crying. I asked what happened. He had mistakenly hit one useless kabu-Kabu (Opel or something) in front of him. Just a TINY BUMP. That was enough to set the engine on fire. And slowly the entire car went as well. This was in Ibeju area of Lekki.

Onechancearmy:
You can have your SH.IT-REA court as long as you pay for it yourselves and as long as it is restricted to presiding over your religious and private laws.

We cannot be having democracy, system of government, and sharia, another system of government under the same umbrella. What stops the ordinary citizens from being condemned by the unfavourable form of government?

LeoThaGreat:
Your discovery, coupled with the importance of a fire extinguisher should inspire you to go for a more trusted brand of fire extinguishers afterwards.
God forbid, but what if that emergency was on your car?

Kindly spread the word about your experience with a quack extinguisher, you will save lives in return.

I would've recommended trusted brands but, I no car, and no knowledge about fire extinguishers

The issue is that a very good extinguisher is sold in shoprite for about N4500 - N6000. The roadside fake ones are N1000 to N1500.

If somebody is using 1990 VW golf and buy a N6000 extinguisher. And you are driving a 2015 Toyota Prado that catches fire, do you really think he will stop and use his extinguisher for you? The money and runs that you made to buy the Prado jeep that you didn't share anything with the VW golf guy, you should have use it to buy N10,000 extinguisher as well. This is how Nigerians think. You can't oppress me with your fine car 24/7/365 and expect me to help you when trouble lands. It's only sorry the guy will say and drive off.

ofiko123:
To the ladies dress nicely and modestly..

Wear long skirt and pant underneath. Don't climb okada with skirt. If you must, wear trouser. Don't wear tight trouser. The people who will attack you do not give a fu"k. Don't try their patience. Do not give them any excuse to look at you and feel tempted. Police can only arrest them AFTER they finish dealing with you. So why take such foolish risk?

Dinho20:
WHEN YOU START GOING AFTER ANYTHING IN SKIRT, IT MEANS YOU NEED DELIVERANCE.
NOW THE WORK OF THE FLESH ARE EVIDENT: SEXUAL IMMORALITY, IMPURITY, SENSUALITY, IDOLATRY, SORCERY, ENMITY, STRIFE, FITS OF ANGER, DRUNKENNESS, ORGIES, THINGS LIKE THIS.
I WARN YOU, AS I WARNED YOU BEFORE, THAT THOSE WHO DO SUCH THINGS WILL NOT INHERIT THE KINGDOM OF GOD.

On whose side are you? Are you defending the lady or the men?
Adam and Eve realised they were naked and that their innocence was gone. They covered them selves up.
Are you claiming to be more innocent than Adam and Eve?

samysmoothfresh:
TBH, this is plain sexual harrasment at it's apex.

But mehn, wtf is the lady wearing?!!!!!!..........

A strong wind would have certainly done the job those perverts did...............and to think she wasnt even wearing panties.

Spits.

In don't understand. A fire is burning furiously and you went there with a full 30litres plastic jerry can of petrol. What the hell did you expect?

SA is the aids and (fu*king)/capital of the world. And you decided to carry bare nyash and Toto under mini skirt to enter public transport. Now you are complaining that the man pulled up you skirt. Is that not what you wore the short skirt for? Is it not fu*king that you were looking for before?

KingSango:
Dread lock is made of woolly hair. Nobody mentioned straight hair.

Making dreadlocks is different from having it like that from birth.
The one you make artificially is wooly hair. It is rather neat.
The one that comes from birth is something else. That is dreadlocks. It is never neat. That is type you see on the head of mad people. Dirty.

inoki247:
So in our constitutions now Dreadlock is forbidden

As bad as all our politicians are, do you see any of them with dreadlocks?
If Buhari had dreadlocks now........Hen! Hen! Heeeeennnn!

emkz:
It is a crime of passion. No one knows what he can do until he is confronted with this situation.

Marriage is for the emotionally and mentally mature. One needs to be careful in chosing a life partner. This man just ruined his life because he made a wrong choise for a wife. You have no right over anybody's decision and you can't force someone to love and respect you. Once she said yes to an outsider (her ex), she already said no to her marriage. The sane thing to do is to release her from the marriage and don't do something you'd regret for the rest of your life.

When someone follows you to church to swear before God's alter, "Till death do us part", and seal it with a wedding ring, that is total covenent bond. You don't mess around after that bond is made.
Well, some can take a cheating wife, others cannot. You will not know which one you are until it happens to you.
Marriage is not dating.

LeoThaGreat:
Why the heck are people driving by without helping?

Aren't they suppose to have fire extinguishers in their cars?

Na Africa we dey na. It's in our blood to help.

I once stopped to use my fire extinguisher on a burning car. That's the day I realised my extinguisher was not even good. The gas came out leaving behind all the powder. Many drivers probably know their extinguisher is already bad and just drive on.

koolguy88:
...in your widest dreams

In their wildest dreams?
You are pressing phone now. Were you alive in this same Nigeria, when NONE of us had phone to press? When we used to queue up at Nitel office, by rechard card to make international calls one at a time? We never knew that there could ever be a thing called Smartphone. Absolutely no idea!
Today you can whatsapp call any fu*ker any part of the world with N100 recharge card.

Larryfest:
Some guys are naturally crazy, i Wonder what's so sweet about taking turn to sleep/rape a lady in the presence of other guys

When young men have filled up their heads with pornography on their smart phone and N150 DVDS, the next step is to destroy any victim young girl.
Many of you are here on NL.

Franzinni:
black man!!! Politics is a joke in nigeria...
Just a bunch of failed actors on the national stage

Rather than insulting the whole black race, do you have a suggestion or solution?
(My parents are black, Me and my wife, My Kids too. God made all of us black. We are not white. We will never be white. Is that a crime to you? Watch your words).

Lordbellish:
I understand you have to use such word just to express how u feel for the shyte I'm passing through..
so no offences taking..

Buh honestly I'm not a weakling Bro, I'm just deeply in love and my woman is taking advantage of the love I have for her... Buh ain't no weakling

You are not yet married. You have no legal obligation to this girl. BREAK the engagement NOW.
Find someone else. Is this how you want to be sharing your PRIVATE marriage problems on social media every time?
My parents married for 50 years. They never discussed their marriage with anybody. I their son am totally unaware of any of their problems. Is it strangers that will come and hear it?
Find a relationship you can enjoy without the gaddem smartphone being used to transmit and disrupt the union between you and your wife.

countsparrow:
And i want to go to VI This morning... Smh

Go to IV instead.

ofwest47:
if he or she has gotten a fire fighter he should have applied it or other vehicles with fire fighters should have helped as well. Fire fighter is very essential in vehicles.

I once stopped to use my fire extinguisher for another person's burning car. One latest brand Audi. The heat of the fire did not even allow me get close enough to the car. E be like Hell fire.
We threw water, threw sand. The fire quenched, and reignited to finish the whole car. The yeye driver just carry Blackberry dey ping him oga.

Just2endowed2:
Which car is the best that will not cause this kind of scenario?

Pegeout 504 with no power steering and no AC. Manual gear. The driver will concentrate more.
I'm sure this Honda driver was listening to music inside AC and pressing Whatsapp on his phone. He was totally distracted and didn't know when he hit something

AllenSpencer:
Japanese vehicle sabi catch fire

If they are not burning, they are somersaulting in the air


In other news, How do people who ply that road from mainland to Island everyday survive

Damn! One can never leave long doing that 5 times a week. To and fro Its suicidal

In the late 90's, i schooled in island and lived in mainland. We passed the bridge everyday without issue. I even trekked it for experiment once. Those were the days of Peugeot 504 with no power steering.
Today's cars all have power steering and automatic everything. Na so-so accident everytime.

BuhariAdvocate:
Good development.

Make una begin use electric bus O. The last time i entered main Lagos, Yaba, CMS, Ikorodu road, it's only smoke, black sooth and engine oil that was all over the ground and road. My shoe was gumming floor.
Diesel and petrol don do. The whole place is dirty. BRT busses are just dust pack. I'd rather ride my bicycle and breath fresh air.
Shey we are always copying oyibo. Copy electric bus.

LaCremy:
People with limited funds always complaining... did the groom complain?

Mtchwww

Make sure you account is still has money. Nothing stops grooms like this working in the bank to "do something" to any account they like.

I met R-Kelly too when i went to the beach in Iceland. He was buying akara. So I bought bread for him and we locked nyashes.

9jaRealist:
ZOO!

Problem without solution. We already know it is a zoo. Things are all messed up. What do we do? This is an online platform. Throw suggestions.

BuhariAdvocate:
they are all foreigners from Aba,Enugu, Anabram,IMO I mean they are yebos.they should go back to their village .

Jokes aside, we are in a democracy not dictatorship. If Newyork People cannot tell Chicago people to leave New York. All of them are white.
Same with us. The days of village are gone. So far we are doing democracy, anybody has every complete right to go to any part of the nation, live there, die there and be buried there. If you are not doing it, you are not exercising your constitutional right. You are still hanging on to village, remaining suspicious and creating an avenue for trouble. This seems to be our main problem in Nigeria.
Everybody comes to Lagos to buy land and build house because Yorubas give you. Why don't you in other areas and villages also let "foreigners" come and buy land and build house and do business?

Yorubas make their marriage very easy. They can borrow cloth and jewelry. Lie down for ground, Marriage don finish. Many "foreiners" can easily marry their girls without problem. But when it is time for you to marry the foreigners girls, difficulty upon difficulty. Them go turn you into UNICEF - feeding the villages and building suspension bridge for the community. How people go gree come your side when you make life impossible for them?

Where are they to go? What are they to do? Something or the lack of carried them there in the first place.
They will still come back.