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Harvigh:
You mean she should have allowed the monarchy dictate how her own wedding should have played out simply because like you surmised there was already a tradition in place that dictates how things should be done? What makes you think Kate didn't effect changes to the so called tradition on her wedding?
If you followed British media, you would understand what the OP pointed out.
Call it whatever you want it doesn't change the fact that its pure racism and hate that they have towards Meghan. Folks like Piers Morgan didn't hide their hatred for her at all and that goes to show you how deep it runs.

Some people choose to be oblivious, and they have their own agenda. Meghan is a divorcee and a feminist- an evening newspaper according to NL standards, yet she managed to have the best of the crop- a wealthy, younger Prince. That doesn't fit the narrative of feminists going to Shiloh, or divorced women never being able to remarry. Nay Sir.
They are only allowed to marry older men with wives or equally divorced men or widowed ones.
I see clearly now..

Its interesting to see the anti feminist being agenda being pushed on here. Funny lot. We see through the BS. The truth is being exposed by their utterances.
The reason our NL anti feminists are against Megan is because she is a feminist and a divorcee...
Harry and William are both feminists too btw..

crackkhaus:
Lol, stop saying 'they'.

In this whole clusterfvck, only one person can go back to it all if he wanted to and that is Prince Harry.
Meghan got it on a platter, had no regard for it, and lost it. She's not gettin anything back from the Windsors.

If you think this is false, let us keep our arms crossed and pray that God keeps us. We go see it all happen in this life.

Pls kindly find out more about this. They haven't been stripped of their titles. There is an agreement for them to stop using it officially. However, both of them can always go back to it.
They either take Harry with his wife, or non of them at all. It's a matter of pride and ego now. Reminds me of Peter ofbP square.
The future King Charles knows he owes his sons a lot. Not only because of how their mother was treated, but also because of their acceptance of the woman who didn't give their parents marriage a chance to thrive.
He has just 2 of them btw and Harry is his last child. He will get away with a lot. Charles will support his son's marriage a 100%, unless his son decides not to continue with the marriage anymore.

He's a Marlian..

I stan

fairfora:
That's funke for you . I haven't even read this before I posted my earlier comment.. Her fans would understand who she truly is later. There was a time I commented on her twins pregnancy and people rained abusive words on me. We seem to attach emotions to a lot of things in Nigeria. This is the lady I know very well. A local adage says...Bi iro ba lo logun odun, ojokan l'otito maa ba. Funke that I know very closely wouldn't have got pregnant without showing her baby bump to the whole world to see first. Let's assume she was hiding the pregnancy from the village people as some people would call it,what about months after the twins have been successfully given birth to? I rest my case . Gbam!

There's nothing to rest your case on. Gbamest!
The first pregnancy of twins she had that I and the world saw, she lost them in the UK. The second one was closely guarded and remains so. She has never posted the faces of her twins, and that's fine.
Same Funke that some so called prophets were giving prophecies that she will never have children?
Life teaches us all, and she has learnt the importance of maintaining a low profile. She has never publicly been a show off despite her successes.

crackkhaus:
Of course, this whole stepping back from royal duties will only affect Meghan in the long run na. Izz like some of una never still see wetin dey happen oo?
Family is family, Harry has a way back.

Harry is always a Prince and will always be. Meghan on the other hand, has no such sympathies.

They won't be using the royal titles means they were stripped of it, simple.
They had no choice immediately mama Charlie took back what she bestowed on them on the morning of their wedding, so their agreement or not is quite inconsequential.

They haven't been stripped. If they were, they can't ever use the titles anymore. There is a difference.
Meaning, they can always go back to it all, if they wanted to.
The Queen isn't stupid, and she will protect her grandson, her blood, no matter what the public says.

cococandy:
Did you see those protesters?

Did any of them tell you they are feminists?

And how does ashawo describes the people in these photos?

Woman hate is a disease that robs one of reasoning

As in, the protesters look like S.U people that live in the church. Yet, he has called the sisters in the Lord ashawos and feminists
Woman hate is indeed a cancer that continues to eat deep and some people can never be free till they are completeley consumed and finally destroyed by it.
Time will always tell....

crackkhaus:
Apart from one of her Suits co-stars and with the exception of red-haired Harry and her best friend Jessica, please name any other person who has actually gone on record to say extremely nice things about Meghan.

I'm not asking mockingly, I genuinely want to know.

Perhaps you're right and every person who says shit about her has a personal axe to grind, so what about those ones who have nothing against her?
In all the years since she first began dating Harry and amidst the whole negativity surrounding her, who has came out to say the positives in her defense?

I genuinely want to know.


You admitted in your comment that it would take time for her as an American to have gotten used to the microscopic scrutiny, good. Although I don't see the difference between what Hollywood paparazzi subjects their celebrities to compared to what she met in the UK.
But all the same, why was she not just patient instead of pushing Harry to give it all up? Over what exactly?

They have a child to protect now.
That's the difference, and what has changed now.
Harry knows what his cousins (Beatrice and Eugene) have gone through for being spare royals- they are constantly bullied and ridiculed by their press.
What exactly is Harry's fate going to be in the next 15 years as a working Royal?
His uncle Andrew was 2nd in line to the throne at some point in his life (when male children always had the advantage to rule, over female children. The queen only recently changed the law to allow female children rule if they were born first, just before William had his first child. Elizabeth herself wouldnt have been Queen if she had a younger brother), but uncle Andrew is 8th in line now and would only be relegated back further.
Harry himself was 3rd in line at some point, but he is now 6th in line. If big bro has more children, he would be pushed further back.
He will forever be a Prince by birth. They haven't even been stripped of their HRH titles, and have only agreed to stop using it. I think he's having the best of both worlds if I may say.

midnighter:
Thank you. People cant seem to look at her flaws in the context of actual events that have happened which may impact Harrys decisions.

Everybody knows that Piers Morgan is a troll but suddenly when it comes to Meghan his word is gospel smh

Do people know how difficult it is to come out of a trailer-trash/ghetto family and be normal? Even your own parents will accuse you of being arrogant just because you dont want to follow their path

Shes not a saint but all the bashing is so unnecessary

Piers is an arsehole and wasn't liked by the British people either till he started attacking Megan and voicing their true feelings about having her marrying their prince.
Do you know he has once staged fake pictures about British soldiers committing war crimes? Those pictures were staged and this led to a very long investigation, and of course their military losing the support and confidence of their people.
He's always being a snake and was never liked. All of a sudden, he's now the voice of the people?

crackkhaus:
Apart from one of her Suits co-stars and with the exception of red-haired Harry, please name any other person who has actually gone on record to say extremely nice things about Meghan.

I'm not asking mockingly, I genuinely want to know.

Perhaps you're right and every person who says shit about her has a personal axe to grind, so what about those ones who have nothing against her?
In all the years since she first began dating Harry and amidst the whole negativity surrounding her, who has came out to say the positives in her defense?

I genuinely want to know.

Who among those saying foul things about her know her? You've never heard anything from her mother and close friends, and she does have them. They understand the importance of silence and took the warnings about the press seriously. Her father's side of the family never did.
Many people who went to middle school with her only had nice things to say about her. Her teachers had nice things to say about her (and yes, the press dug that deep) She has been known even as a child to show genuine care in things she believes in. There are some videos of her as a child, some letters she wrote to challenge the status quo even as a child.
I'm yet to hear anything bad about her from her friends or people that know her. They have all maintained a dignified silence, as they should. Even Serena Williams is one of her friends (even though they met as adults), and she only says nice things about her if anything at all. Serena hasn't spoken too much to defend her person, because she knows not to put mouth in the matter. Serena too has had her tough times with the press, especially the white controlled media, and mostly they don't have nice things to say about Serena either ( if not for her fellow African Americans who have supported her through thick and thin) Infact, the British people hate her the more for being friends with Serena.
Most of the hearsay have been from her father's family. Even her ex husband hasn't said a word about her, and I'm sure he must have been enticed with money to do so by the press, but he's not a hungry person like her family. Non of his family have also said anything about her.
Her mother's family have never said anything negative about her.
I know she has a reputation for cutting people off, but can you blame her when she has been raised with very toxic people? I'm sure her therapists (I'm almost 90% sure she needed therapy having been raised as a Markle) adviced her to always do so for peace of mind. She has also decided to leave the toxic environment in Britain. I'm sure they were just waiting for her son to be old enough to start walking before they started their attacks on him too ( what am I even saying, the attacks started on the day his birth was announced, comparing him to a monkey in a suit). As a mother, she has said "Not today, pale devils". Very passively aggressive people, tufiakwa
Do you know how the British public have ridiculed Prince Andrew and his children all their lives? The constant bullying of those girls? I always felt sorry for them.
I truly believe they took the right decision to move away from Britain.

crackkhaus:
Thank God you mentioned Piers Morgan, at least he has met her one on one.. Yet for some reason, it is still a silly projection according to you.

Not to mention that British people themselves are largely of the same opinion about her public persona. Even Sassysure who lives in the UK has also mentioned how they always talk smack of Meghan, yet you and some of you still think she's got the best character in the world. Lmao

Nairalanders will not kee me.

The least you could have done was to actually observe her mannerisms in public before defending what you don't know. You not even ashamed to mention Piers Morgan who has related with her in person. Lol

Abeg bye bye.

Piers Morgan spent an hour at a pub with her, and that's it. He wasn't happy she cut him off, and she did that because Harry definitely has no respect or like for Morgan. He still hasn't got over not being invited to the royal wedding, and he realised the relationship he thought he had with her was non existent
Regarding Megan's siblings, you do know they didn't grow up together and had very little interaction. Prior to the wedding, they hadn't been in contact for over 10 years or longer.
Still on her half siblings, her half sister Samantha who has been doing paid interviews everywhere has a mother who doesn't speak to her at all, and 2 biological children who don't speak to her either. What kind of a mother would be estranged from her own children and her own mother? I would take her words with a pinch of salt, as she had little contact with Megan even as a child and only talking because of the money being offered by the media houses.
Her father is another piece of work. It has been confirmed he staged pictures for which he was paid by the media, and also did loads of paid interviews to speak about his daughter despite the pleas not to talk to the press.
The father in question has raised a lot of failures as children, and the only one who seems to have made something of her life is Megan (even before her marriage to the prince)
Oh, there's another older half brother who doesn't speak to Samantha either, and has children also estranged from him, and also a drug dealer.
The truth be told, she is from a very dysfunctional family, and is lucky her mother was there. The only difference between her and her half siblings is their mothers, and I'm not surprised she didnt follow the pattern in her family.
I dont blame her for removing herself from the toxicity in her family. They (siblings) didnt care about her before her marriage, so why all the talks now? They weren't present at her first marriage, so why are they crying they weren't invited to the wedding to the Prince?
Megan has done well for herself and it's all by her own hardwork.
Many are not aware of the British press. Piers has had a vendetta for being snubbed and you can't help but wonder if he was obsessed with her. Perhaps now, he can stop talking about her since she is no longer a working royal.
Megan is definitely not perfect, but I don't blame them for saying feck ya to their people.

Meanwhile, you talk of her mannerisms. She's American and suddenly brought into Royalty/British limelight. Of course she knows she is a fish out of water. It takes time getting used to such microscopic scrutiny.
I simply see her as a woman who knows what she wants, and who has learned over the years to remove herself from toxicity, considering the kind of family she has.

GideonIdaboh:
She confessed about 5years ago and I'm yet to recover from the shock. After we left school, I was innocently nicer to her as we've been through school times. When I relocated to abuja, I invited her to hustle with me so that she could get a job but she couldn't. When I equally got a bank job and relocated to minna, I invited her as well and she joined me but she couldn't get a good job. She eventually had to relocate to her state of origin and confessed to me years later of her crimes over on the phone. In fact, I wish she never did. I wish she took her crimes to her grave in secret. Ever since she confessed about 5 years ago, she's tried to converse or ask for money but I have continued to subtly declined every of her request. I can't seem to get over it. Lord help me!

She only confessed because she thought karma is the reason she's not excelling in her career. She knows she has wronged your chi, hence your spirit is fighting on your behalf.
She thinks she has sold her destiny to you, all for a bowl of porridge/useless phone she stole.
At least, you know the truth. It's just sad that others around you at that time may never get to find out the truth

omlueh:
No matter whatsoever the Late Father might have done, he will still remain their Father, hmmmmmmm it's well with the soul of the Late departed soul, I vehemently know that their Mother has a 100% hand in all these happening, no problems, God is a very good and just Creator, the very good thing is that the married one's among them are already having Children, and the yet to be married will also by the special grace of God will also have their own children when they get married, let us wait and be watching what will be the end of all of them, as for their wicked and inhuman mother, her end here on earth will definitely be so miserable that she will every regret given her useless and cursed children such a disgraceful decision to take at their Father last journey. Bastard children, Awon OMO Ale jati jati. AYO ati Idunu a ji na si gbogbo yin ati Iya weere ti o si ma ko ba yin. Eleribu Dede.

Ti ewúré ba b'ojú weèyìn, á fi èpè fun elépè...

Lordswazz:
Oga, care all you want for your children, if them wan sideline you, they'll do it without flinching. Megan Markle, the American lady that got married to Prince Harry was a daddy's girl. Even she confessed with her mouth how her father supported her with every small connection he had as a small-time director, fueled her car regularly when she was going for auditions, now he has been estranged. He wasn't even invited to her wedding. It happens everyday.
Men should learn to make provisions for themselves at old age, because it seems like when it comes to this marriage and child-bearing thing, the women always have the upper hand by a mile no matter how much you slave.

Meghan's dad was invited to her wedding, but got embarrassed after it was found out he sold stories to the press about his daughter. Hence he opted not to go, and instead lied he had a heart attack. How convenient.
Meghan's father has always been selling her stories to the press for money. Non of his grandchildren talk to him. All his other children /half siblings to Meghan are all dysfunctional and their own children don't even talk to them.
Thomas Markle definitely has something wrong with him. He has publicly ridiculed his daughter because of financial gains. I don't blame her one bit for wanting nothing to do with him.
He sent her to private school, and so what? That's his duty as a parent. I'm sure you will also send your children to private school if you can afford it. Many Nigerian parents already do anyway. She doesn't owe her life to him because of that.

We4all:
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Don't get it twisted! I said no child will die if not breastfed(not bottle fed) for a few hours;especially if the child in question is old enough to take cereals.

But you hastily concluded that I was advocating for all mothers to starve their babies to death. And please, try to assimilate the difference between 'demand' and 'opinion'. The points I raised were based on my personal opinions. That doesn't mean that I was making a demand on mothers.

I am curious though, if you love babies so much, then why do you usually kill the sperm that is supposed to procreate each time you make out with your girlfriend or wife? Tell me which is worse: Killing a sperm or bottle feeding a baby?

Since you admitted that raising kids isn't a joke, then the more reason why mothers should be prepared for motherhood and learn to improvise in case of an emergency.

It's obvious you guys don't know the basics of parenting and are always quick to lash out based on sentiments. Well, I'm not surprised because you guys are used to the status quo, and are not willing to witness a change.

Look at this one. how many children have you successfully raised to start telling people about the basics of parenting?
so each time you masturbate and waste the sperm out of you, what do you call that?
who even cares about your wasted sperm, when talking about a living child who is hungry?
pls, you need to educate yourself further. cerelac isn't just your regular cereal. It's specifically for infants. When children get to a certain age (abt 6 months) you introduce it into their diet with their regular milk/breastmilk. Because you've introduced cerelac doesn't mean you stop breastfeeding. You cannot afford to allow your infant child go hungry, and because a child is having cereal- cerelac doesn't mean they cannot die of hunger after a few hours. They still don't have enough body fat to make energy and hence cannot afford to go without food for a few hours.
What would the mother have improvised with if not for breastmilk for her crying child? She did that and that settled the child immediately. So what improvisation have you being on and on about on this thread?
You are obviously not ready to have children. Please, remain child free otherwise your child will suffer from neglect.. You have no idea at all....

We4all:
Like I said before:"Learn to understand first before commenting. I wasn't talking about 'babies', but a particular 'baby' who is old enough to take cereals.

Yes, orphaned babies may be used to feeding from a bottle, and I'm saying that no baby will die if he/she doesn't get breastfed for a few hours.

Mothers should learn to practice both breast and bottle feeding, so babies can easily adopt to them in case of emergencies. Parenting encompasses a whole lot, and a mother who can't improvise isn't ready to be a mother yet.

What do you mean babies won't die if not breastfed for a few hours? Babies can die if not fed even for a few hours. They can go hypoglycemic easily unlike adults who have enough fat on them to convert to energy even if starving. Raising children is not a joke and don't ever try to trivialise the welfare of children with your pettiness.
You're even telling mothers to practice both breast and bottle feeding so as not to assault your eyes with boobs? You sound very ENTITLED yourself saying that. Who are you to demand babies should starve because you don't want their mothers breastfeeding in public? Who are you to demand babies should be allowed to be in distress and crying because you say their mothers are married and hence shouldn't be exposing boobs to feed their children?
Please, I beg of you, don't have children, get a vasectomy for surely your children will suffer from neglect.
You say mothers who can't improvise aren't ready for motherhood yet? Who or what are you to say such? Are you a paediatrician? Perhaps a nutritionist or dietician?

OkoYM:
[They must have packaged themselves quote author=zionmde post=85907372]how on earth can people who are capable of buying such a property look as wretched as this. So when d chief saw them he couldn't sense that these guys don't have capacity for such a business

anyway wat do I know sef

And why was he alone with them, and also with the property documents? Why was there no lawyer or estate agent involved? Who does such large transaction without a lawyer or even an estate agent?
Who carries property documents about ?
I'm sure we dont have the complete story. Don't be surprised it's a bossom friend that has set this man up, and used the thugs to kill him.

BligsMiss:
it's just painful we haven't spend more time together back in Nigeria then, due to my school and distance. I'm so sad. Feel like committing suicide. If I have done anything wrong, why can't he call me and let's talk it out. I knw no marriage is perfect, but this is a RED flag, and he doesn't want to even change. OMG

Many who hide under the guise of religion are the worst in terms of behaviour. I can bet it that he has always been like this even before leaving Nigeria.
He's a lost cause. Don't stress your life trying to monitor him or change him.
If you are tired of marriage to a promiscuous man, you can leave. If you dont want to leave, accept your fate. Don't spend a dime on him again, as he is not worth it. Build a future with ir without him in the picture.
Learn to be very selfish and always put yourself first. Monitor your business in Nigeria every well too, as you may need to fall back on it.
Save all the screenshots of his escapades with different women in a file. Send to your email too, and archive it. Who knows when you will need such an evidence.
And remember not to have unprotected sex with him...

AstroG:
And who mentioned anything about wars and forefathers . We're talking of how can a full grown man leave his ancestral and royal home to go be with someone that never loved him,someone thats a divorcee,a feminist,an alleged hoe and someone thats way older than him


That's someone been a pussy niqqa,,the woman is a high class manipulator and shes using Prince harry to play the game of Chess love. THERE'S NOTHING LIKE LOVE

He is 6th in line to the throne and has been relegated to the backburner. If his brother decides to have more children, he keeps losing relevance. By the time his nephews and niece grow up, he will still continue to lose relevance especially in his old age. The earlier he creates his own path now as a young man, the better for him.
Not when he is old and can't do so much.
His uncle Prince Andrew comes to mind. He was once 2nd in line to the throne, and now he is maybe 8th in line and as inessential as the P in psychology. Prince Andrew and his children have been ridiculed since time immemorial. Almost all their lives, mainly because of this reason.
I'm sure Harry doesn't want such for his family and himself.

Pregnancy/ periods do make women more irritable, mood swings, etc. All hormonal of course. PMS is a medical condition btw.
Documented medical facts and conditions which all have management in place for them. It can be quite debilitating in some women when they have the extreme form of it.
Do not trivialise it because you have never experienced it as a woman or you will never experience it as a man.
OP, keep apologising. Perhaps some days when your husband is going there to visit, you could send some packed lunch/dinner for his friend. At least you have extended an olive branch . No need to force it though, as I guess he will go back to talking to you when he is ready/ has been able to forget the insult.

They forced you to marry, they're forcing you not to divorce.
When will you ever be accountable for your own life and circumstances?
Did they also force you to Bleep her unprotected 2 weeks after meeting with her?
Your son might not even be yours, and a pregnancy pinned on you, sucker.
You need to grow some balls and take charge of your own life.
You've only seen small breeze o, a whirlwind is still on its way

She just woke up to her own reality check..

Another supposed happy home destroyed

Meanwhile, you should be equally concerned how your children now view their father as a beast who has hurt the most important woman in their life. They will never be the same again, as such traumatic episodes are hard to erase from the mind.
They will probably have scars on the minds forever.
Call your children and apologise to them o, and teach them the dangers of getting drunk.

Money is good o...

Moderation is key

persius555:
That's not true. Iran is friendly to outsiders so long as you habor no intention to sabotage or spy on its government and people.
Iran has a lot of UNESCO cultural sites that tourists from all over the world visit.
There are over 2 million Iranian-Americans living in America and some of them shuttle between the two countries regularly.
The Iranian government does business with lots of European countries.
If not for the Iranian revolutions that brought those religious fanatics into power, the Iranian society and it's citizens are pretty liberal compared to others in the region.
Iranians are majority Persian by language and tribe(60%) while the Kurds, Turks, Uzbeks, Afghanistan, Armenia make up the rest.
In fact, in the middle East, they are known to prosper in commerce and industry.
Some of the most brilliant tech entrepreneur in the US are of Iranian heritage.

I never mentioned Iran is unfriendly. One of the nicest persons that i respect so much is from Iraq. I also have a good friend from Afghanistan. It still doesn't make their countries safe to visit, especially for those with no knowledge about the culture or the people( i.e if you don't have your origin from there).
Yes, majority of those who travel to Iran are of Iranian heritage which is a key point in this case. Majority of those killed except for a few of the airline staff were of Iranian ancestory. The so called Canadians on the plane had dual nationality because of their ancestry. Most I'm sure went to visit family/went for weddings or other functions in their country of origin before they were murdered by their country. Those who will mourn them the most/ feel the impact of their deaths the most are their Iranian families. Perhaps a few good friends in Canada
Nobody is disputing Iranians can be brilliant in technology, (as can Nigerians or any other country under the right conducive environment.) However, you mentioned they are US citizens of Iranian heritage. How has that helped Iran in this case? Is it the brilliant US trained Iranians manning their rockets in Iran?
For example while Somalians may lay claim to the ancestry of Mo Farah (who was initially even raised in Somalia before relocating), his Olympic records has no benefit to them whatsoever but only only Britain. Talkmore of 2nd/3rd/4th generation immigrant children.

Openbusiness:
It was not an accident. They intentionally shot it down. When Iran attacked the joint US-Iraqi army base, they shot dozens of rockets that were surface-to-surface missiles. But for the airline, it was hit by a surface-to-air missile. If you fire a surface-to-air missile you were definitely planning to hit something in the sky. Because the trajectory, the precision, the timing etc everything has to be consciously set to make a successful hit. So it was not an accident. They did it on purpose. Their only regret now is that it killed more Iranians than everybody else.

Iran is a country where you would hardly find other citizens there. It's not a tourist country and many nationals from the West know not to go there even for work related purposes.
They would definitely know any airline flying to and away from their airports will mostly be Iranians.
I belive it was a mistake. Not everyone can think rationally under pressure and stress, while some think better under pressure.
It reminds me of many police shootings of blacks in the US. Many of those shootings occurred due to the irrational fears of the officers for the blackman. They didnt allow their heads do the thinking, as statistics have told them more blacks are criminals and would carry a gun to shoot officers. They just react, only to find out the person shot was only trying to get his ID from the pocket and not a gun as they thought.

Openbusiness:
Sir a fighter jet and a passenger airline do not show up on the radar the same way. A passenger airline moves at steady speed and altitude, a fighter jet does not, it uses evasive maneuver. And how can you mistake a passenger jet as a missile, lol, not possible. The heat signatures are different. This is 2020, not 1975. Military tech has improved greatly. Trump said "shot down possibly by mistake" because it's a sensitive matter, civilian lives were lost and it's wrong and uncivilized to play politics with the deceased. How do you think the families and relatives would feel if word got out that their loved ones were blown to bits out of the sky intentionally. That kind of info is too crude for people who are still grieving.

True
But what could be the possible reason the airline was shot down though?
What could have been achieved by the intentional murder of her own citizens ?
Unless the obvious- Iran has poorly trained military personnel manning their rockets. Perhaps their military isn't as advanced as they would want the world to believe?

CeterisXVII:
Are you minding that clown? See him justifying the murderous actions of the girl's parents, and saying it should "be a lesson to all," as if killing the girl would have solved the problem?

If they didn't like what she did, why not just chase her out and disown her? Why take her life?

Meanwhile, I have seen many girls from his area shacking up with their unmarried boyfriends in Lagos.

He is such a primitive soul, that he believes killing a girl is the best way to preserve their tradition. Tueh!

There is little difference between those justifying the death of Amaka and those in the middle east/asia (whom they hate so much o, and they think are also barbarians btw) committing honor killings.
The worst set of bigots.
How can a young girl-a new mother btw be killed in such manner by those meant to protect her, and we have the guts to say she deserved it?
Has our humanity gone so much to the dogs that this is even an argument?

lavylilly:
I went to donate blood a couple of months back. No one told me my blood pressure would be checked and a series of tests, including hepatitis and HIV tests, would be conducted.
But they did conduct those tests and only told AFTER I had given the blood, and I questioned why no screening of the blood was done.
"We did those already, Ma" was what the attending nurse told me.
And in this scenario here, however, are you sure the husband himself didn't ask for the pregnancy test to be done, perhaps after suspecting his wife may actually be showing pregnancy symptons?

What do you mean nobody told you blood pressure would be checked when you gave them your hand (by yourself) for the blood pressure to be taken?
You also gave them your hand to have a needle stuck in it for bloods to be taken. What did you think they were going to do with the blood taken?
Obviously to check if you were a suitable donor
You're not a patient in this particular example you gave btw.
You were simply a donor, and they would just follow laid down blood donation protocol.
However , if you were inquisitive enough to ask why they're taking your bloods, they would probably tell you it's for certain tests including HIV, blood group etc.

IyaTola:
I want to ask please, but there is something that made me raise an eyebrow. When a man gets to the hospital/lab to run a malaria test on his sick wife, they asked for malaria test only, is it right for the doctor to do pregnancy test on the woman without the couples authorization?

Any particular reason why the couple asked for only malaria test to be done?
Is it because of costs? You don't need blood tests to treat malaria. They should have just gone to a chemist to buy anti malarial.
However, if after treating malaria, and her symptoms still persist, why insisting on only malaria tests, when it's unlikely to be malaria?
Anyway, she should have been told about the tests to be carried out on her especially when she has mentioned she only wants malaria test (unless of course she doesn't mention she wants ONLY malaria tests)
About suing such a case, it's probably dead on arrival because if you know you have malaria, what are you doing at the Drs office when malaria drugs are over the counter?

If she curses your parents, curse her own back too.

If she is rude to your parents, be rude to her own too.

Don't ever let anyone drag your parents on the ground all in the name of marriage.

Why not discuss with the mother that you can provide a better environment for your child than where they are presently. Don't take the child away and keep with a 3rd party like grandparents pls.
Make sure you will be the one providing the care for your child .
Discuss your fears with the mother- the issue of over crowding and fears of molestation of your child. Let her know she can always visit the child and have her weekends unfailingly. For all you know, she may agree to the arrangement.
Go to the equivalent of children services and discuss your arrangements if you come to an agreement. Otherwise, still discuss with them about your fears and concerns.