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Ishilove:
My sister I suspect world people because after baby girl number 18, he went back to our hometown to do something called 'changing leg' (i forget the native translation). After 'changing leg' the next child was a boy from wife number 4. He has two boys now.

Wawu....
Unbelievable.
He now has 20 children
Abeg, shift lemme faint first

Since you know these females and their groups who plan to murder men, kindly inform the police quickly. It is your civic and moral responsibility to do so, otherwise you are also culpable.
Unless, of course you're just assuming things and being dramatic, otherwise pls kindly report to the police. Send a tweet/post to the social media handles of the NPF, also their PRO in Lagos. Thanks

Ishilove:
Why are you complaining? My kinsman had 18 girls from 4 women

Chai....
The man can only produce female sperms, Walahi. All his males sperms have been genetically destroyed (abeg , na joke o. Nobody should quote me)
18 children!!!!
All same sex?
Na Fuji house of commotion be that..
Or is it the hand of world people?

Some Africans and plagiarism sha. Na God catch am. Go do your own work jor

BigJoe19:
Wrong. Life won't be hell for man, infact it will bring freedom to mankind, the only thing women have over men is sex and masturbation has come to replace it. I have a babymama and two children and I must say I am living the best of my life. I have no need for a woman again!!!

You've probably done the right thing for you.
You were only able to do this because you're financially able to.
Contrary to popular beliefs, it seems more women contribute financially in their homes than men otherwise most children won't be allowed to go with their mothers when things fall apart.
We see how Churchill is fighting tooth and nail for his son, we saw the way Babangida's son fought for his children with the ex wife, we see how Emeka Ike grabbed all his children from his wife.
However, single mothers doing it all alone far exceeds the number of men who do.
To those shouting in outrage that a woman left her children behind:
I really believe the most capable parent should raise the children, and not necessarily the woman.
It's the normal thing for fathers to also raise their children, but it seems it's only the black race that has a problem with this. Other races will do everything to have access to their children, infact complete custody but here we are arguing that a woman should have complete custody of her children and a father shouldn't have that privilege.
It's a joy to instill your principles, values on your progeny despite the challenges of raising them.
Life in itself is not a smooth ride, and it's time for many men to face their fears of directly raising their children, and conquering those fears.
Women have done it for centuries, some other men are doing it gallantly too. It can be done. You don't need the brain of Einstein , nor the experience of Metuselah. You learn along the way, just as the woman too would. Nothing special when a woman raises a child except for breastfeeding in the first year (maximum). The child will get nourishment, but after that a man can comfortably raise the child. Even without breastfeeding, it can be done with formula, and the child less than 1year would still thrive under its father.
BigJoe19: Please, kindly share with other men on here practical steps you take to raise your children, and how you cope doing so. It might go a long way to dispel the special magic people think they need to raise their own children.

Infact, who remembers the custody battle just recently resolved between Babangida's son and Indimi's daughter? Na fight to finish dem take am do.
The husband was battling to have custody, and so was the wife. If either of them was a poor man's child, the richer parent go gladly take custody of the children o, and the poor parent might even be banned/prevented from seeing them.

SBL28:
I'm a woman and I blame the mother of those kids. I'm not saying the man should not step up o but I don't understand why a woman would pack out of her husband's house and leave her children behind!

She obviously does not love the children. So she's eating and sleeping comfortably somewhere knowing she left her little children behind? That is a terrible terrible mother, she does not even deserve that title.

The one I hate the most is when women remarry and take the child(ren) from their previous marriage to live with aunties or grandparents. That is never happening with me, you love me, you must love my children too. Na package deal, buy one get two free!

Is the father going to eat his children? Why can't children be left with their fathers?
I don't support the woman, for not coming to check on her kids and sending money for their upkeep though, but there really is nothing wrong with a father looking after his children o, unless he's an irresponsible man.
Infact, I've seen a case abroad where a 3 week old child was given shared custody by the courts (they broke up when she was pregnant), and the man took fantastic care of the baby. Feeding times, nappy change times etc. It was not easy getting daycare and help when he was away at work, but he survived. That's what a true father does. Regardless of the challenges, he protects and cares for his children.
Usually, it's harder for single parent households. Much more challenging. Infact, some challenges are so unbelievable that one cant even talk about it. Even this case here sounds unbelievable, but it happens.
If the man had a better paying job, his struggles would have only been a fourth of what it is now. So at the end of the day , Poverty na bastard.

Arsenate:
Women don't love their children like we were told. Obviously, if women have their way and things get rough like in this case, they'll abandon their kids without a second thought. I'm not angry or sad about that, I just want men to understand that and see women as the selfish and not-so empathetic gender that they are.

When you know someone is capable of disappointing you, you won't be heartbroken when they eventually do.

For every woman that abandons her child(ren), there are 10 men who have done the same. If we're going to talk about selfishness, remember you point an accusing finger at women, and all the other fingers on your hand are pointed at you.
We see such cases day after day on NL.
Until the family courts in Nigeria are truly serious about the welfare of children, the children will always suffer when their parents decide to be stupid.

Tmb78:
well said.
Just that I wonder why people like you don't come out strong like this to defend your womenfolks when her people are calling you Yoruba girls ugly,dirty and other derogatory names. I wonder why you are conveniently mute.
Hmmm,just wondering

I don't know what you are talking about.
Yoruba girls are not dirty, and they are doing just fine in all their endeavours, thank you.
They set the pace, and many achievements by women in Nigeria are by Yoruba women.
In real life, they are getting married to prime men every single day.
Why should lions lose sleep over the opinion of sheep?

Why are some people so pained that she is getting married?
They don't even know her. What has she ever done to you na?
I guess it doesn't fit the narrative that girls that have sex will end up unmarried.
Bambam did her own, and got away with it. Nina too had her own sex and is getting away with it.
That's how things work in real life, so chillax and enjoy the ride.
Live your life to the fullest and when it's time to achieve a milestone you will.

You are very lucky to have met such good people.
Some corpers aren't as lucky. Imagine going to a strange town, knowing nobody.
No accommodation, no family, nothing.
Just some days ago on front page, a female corper was raped by the proprietor of the school she was posted to, the very first day she resumed there.
I don't have any suggestions, but I just always feel sorry for corpers

fairfora:
I'm not surprised. We have got lots of billionaires of yoruba extraction globally. Something is synonymous with them, which is why some people think they're richer than most of our people and that thing is humility. We don't play to the gallery. An empty barrel makes the loudest voice.

I completely agree with you.
I have met an elderly gentleman like that. He is more or less a recluse . No noise at all.
He lives amongst other billionaires, and you can't dismiss him when he talks and casually says he will branch to one country to see their president , on his way to another.
He is a very simple dresser too, and you only suspect he is rich when you see how fresh his skin is, his wristwatch and shoes.

RisenPhoenix:
It is unfair on business owners period. Why would I want to pay someone for adding zero value to my business for 6 months; and still pay her replacement for those 6 months as well? If they know pregnancy and choldbirth will clash with their contract of employment, women of child bearing age who wish to have children should stay at home and do so until they think have had enough children; then look for jobs.

I am seriously considering whether insisting on tubal ligation as part of the job requirements would be illegal?

While I agree with the need for parental bonding during the formative stages, the specific presence of the father is not necessary in those early stages. The child should preferably bond with his stay-at-home mother, while she is recovering from the mental physical blah blah blah.

Don't worry, a time is still coming men will become true equal carers of children after birth. When that time comes you can advocate vasectomy as a prerequisite for employment.

RisenPhoenix:
Maternity leave? 5 months? Not on my time.

While it may sound unfair for business owners to employ women of childbearing age who will keep going on maternity leave, the importance of their role to preserve the human species cannot be overemphasised.
Nature has bestowed the greater role of reproduction upon the female gender, hence women getting pregnant is necessary for the survival of the human specie.
Now, what is the purpose of maternity leave in the first place?-
Other than giving women time to recover mentally, physically and physiologically, from the rigors of pregnancy and labour, maternity leave also gives them time to bond with their children, learn to care for them and finally to give them a good start in life so they can blend well into the society and not be plagues on the society.
The unconditional parental bond (whether mum'sor dad's) in the first 2 years of a child's life is very important otherwise there would be more misfits in the society. Many places now give paternity leave (usually 2 weeks) , and are even pushing to extend it for longer.

Korllami007:
So, why would he lie of being a Zimbabwean on a Nigerian forum? Is their any benefits like salary or stipend being given to a Zimbabwean on nairaland?

Probably the same reason he has female on his moniker when you know he is male.
He alone can answer why

Korllami007:
Thank you. Lol.
State one benefit of being a Zimbabwean on nairaland. Lol

There is not a single benefit.
What is however surprising is a true alpha male claiming to be who he is not. Some have even added female gender on their monikers, when we all know they are male.
A true alpha will not do that.
I will keep reiterating it, many do not know the meaning of an alpha personality.
Those on here shouting alfafa have been seriously hurt by a woman in the past, possibly due to their financial status and they are just lashing out and having grandiose ideas on NL. It's allowed to live your fantasy sha.
A trained psychologist will see through the bulls#it of what has been said, and most importantly what has been left unsaid.

Many have been scammed.

So disappointing...

Anyway, man must wack.

Everybody go dey alright las las

OcVoice:
Raising children is the sole responsibility of both parents. Women are good at looking after and taking good care of children. That's why God made them as helps to men.
Par adventure she dies, the man can re-marry and allow another woman help him, so they can both take care of the children.

Marriage as I understand is for better, for worse. That he's facing challenges now doesn't mean it will end that way!

It is not right for a man to solely take care of his children. It is not also right for a woman. That's why a man and a woman need to take care of their children together, no matter the hardship that comes.

Can you abandon your kids with your husband because of hardship? Pls be factual.

The kids should be with either their mom or dad. In this case, they're with their dad.
She left them under a roof with their father, and she walked , but that was before they were thrown out.
It was better for those children to be with their dad when she left with her rich Alhaji ( according to the OP). Alhaji cannot adopt those children while their father is alive.
It's morally wrong to abandon your children and not look back.
The man should sue her for child support.
Every parent should be responsible towards their children.
It may be advisable for the man to take his children back to his village to live with his parents if he still has any. At least till he is able to get a roof over their heads . A bar is unsafe for any child

pocohantas:
Nne take plantain.
Forget about cakes.

You dey wicked o..
Anyway, your own dey better. At least you post burnt offering. Some people like us are just commentators .

Btw, you've been squeezing some balls too tight, and alfafas are feeling the heat from ya kitchen o.

Local woman is loving this thread..

Drama kangs

IamD18:
Would you have complained like this if she was your own sister?

Aren't you proud of being an alfafa male again? Why did you and your crew decide to be using female as your monikers? Or you think deception makes you a true alpha?
Is it another form of mental illness?

I will leave this message on this thread.
Perhaps when I have time, I will create a thread on it:

" Until men stop seeing sex as a conquest, they will continue to be conquered by it"

healthserve:
Dude take it easy on your self. I run my company and this societal issues must be spoken about. We see how many men are ruined in marriages and how good wen support their husbands. It's the good women this seeks to celebrate and aims to praise so the foolish ones can change their ways

Being alpha is way more than your romantic life. Simple as ABC

Skepticus:
The pussy cartel trying to deflect in their typical manner.

We've heard you, cûnt!

Can you know do us an honourable favour of getting the fúck outta here!

Fool
Son of a thousand fathers
We see the number your LovePeddler of a mother did on you
Spits

I dont think people realise the deviousness it takes to set/frame someone up. Not just by telling lies upon them, but to go out of your way, employ people to orchestrate such a plan.
The bigger picture shows the man and woman in question can actually frame others up for murder, fraud even without batting an eyelid under the pretence that they deserved it because of one slight or the other.
I'm almost sure what they have also done is a criminal offence. Where are the lawyers and the law enforcement guys here? Malicious intent could possibly be one of the charges, and harassment of the sis fiance is another
And some of you expect any sensible person to support their action?
Its same way people compare physical violence to verbal violence. but the law doesn't see them comparable.
While I couldn't give a rat's ass about OP and her shenanigans, there is no justification whatsoever for what she did and that's not because I care so much for the sister either

ubunja:
I read the first two paragraphs and the rest I just skeemed through. Try to keep your responses at a manageable length.

Continue spreading your gospel. Our daughters need more like you. And soon soon we'll even send our wives to scam you.

A fool and his money are soon parted.

Only time will tell...

ubunja:
guys like you are the reason I'm raising my daughter to be a gold digger. No way can she slave 9-5 at some job while naive fellas like you exist. And guess what? Guys who reason like you are about 80% of the male population. She's gonna have such an easy life...

You can raise your daughter to be a gold digger. Nobody should tell you how to raise your own child.
Meanwhile, the said Ciara we're talking about on this thread is worth over $20million dollars even without her husband's wealth. She had her own money before meeting Future or her husband Russell.
Like I insinuated earlier, the real life out there is beyond your beliefs. Being a true alpha male is way bigger than getting some random chicks. Wayyyy bigger. Ponder on this before it's too late and you realise you've wasted so much time on irrelevancies, and not made hay while the sun shone.
An alpha male is top of the game in ALL aspects of his life. Not just in romantic relationships, which is just a small fraction of life in itself.
Russell doesn't need to get married to get sex. He was married to a white woman before who screwed him over. He had women chasing him, before he met Ciara and hit off with her. He decided their relationship wasn't going to be sexual till they got married. What is sex? Anybody can get sex. Even mad people on the streets get sex.
He's the true definition of an alpha male with self control, who knows what he wants and sticks with it. Ciara didn't get Russell because of her head game, he set the tone for their relationship.
Who has better self control? A man with 5 baby mamas or the one married with children? And you dare to call him a simp?
In ALL aspects of Russell's life, he got control. Serious control. You hardly hear about his 1st marriage, because she did him dirty and that situation was put quickly under control.
Being alpha is an all rounder status o. High emotional intelligence is just a small part of being an alpha (male or female), and that encompasses both your relationship with other men and women (not only with the opposite sex/those you're interested in romantically)
You cannot be an alpha only in women affairs, but also in financial, social, healthwise, etc affairs. True alphas are impactful leaders.
Professionally they're the boss,
Financially in control,
Mentally strong kakaraka,
They always harmonise their group, Always. People are drawn to them, and they make things work for everyone including the females around them
They are known as solution providers by everyone around them.
Strong sense of family and not dysfunctional like your guy Future whom you used as a reference for an alpha- he is estranged from his father who was never present in his life unlike Russell with strong family ties. Future has 5 to 6 baby mamas, and still counting. Raising more dysfunctional children.
They are Highly ambitious people
I could go on and on about alphas.
Being a red piller doesn't make you an alpha, so do not confuse the two. Perhaps that's where NL red pillers are making the mistake by thinking they are synonymous with each other. Same way being a feminist doesn't make you an alpha female either.

Future is so much an alpha, yet keeps sweating about whenever he hears anything about Ciara.
She has moved on from him.
Russell has also being burned by love in the past. He is a divorcee btw, and he has met a woman who values his 'beta-ness', that woman is Ciara.
Russell is all things Future wishes he was. A respectable member of the society, a gentleman to the core. Being alpha doesn't mean you have to live a thug life.
It would make a lot of sense if the so called alfalfa males on NL can get their lives in order. Settle your 'future', and don't wake up tomorrow bitter about life.
Russell is enjoying his little family, devoid of drama except the one future brings when throwing tantrums. Future is seen as a joke, a scorned lover. Ciara is pregnant with her 2nd child for her sweet husband, living the life.
What better definition of an alpha male than Russell Wilson? A physically fit man, a goal getter, courageous, who has his shit together, not afraid to say his mind including announcing to the world Ciara is for him and he for her others can chop s#it. A purposeful man.
Why do self acclaimed NL alfalfa are only alfas in women affairs? Is that all there is to being an alfafa male? You guys are such a joke, and a disappointment. You don't seem to have any purpose for your life. There is more to life than getting soaked up in relationship and women matters. You will look back and find out your mates have left you behind.
When have you ever called yourselves together as alfalfas to discuss business ideas and professional courses to up your game (pls, not talking about upping your game as per women matter)? When have you ever encouraged yourselves to stay healthy, make better lifestyle choices such as practicing safe sex and not visiting ashawo joints, stopping smoking, reducing your alcohol intake, regular exercises by exchanging gym contacts or even meeting up at the gym to stay healthy? Have you even ever discussed the scourge of prostate cancer or even kidney failure killing young men about these days?
Why do you limit your alphaness to only women matters? Don't leave it too late till you get disillusioned .
A word is enough for the wise. Woman matter is the least of your troubles in this life.

PureMind2:
Just here to put up lesson to all my fellow men out there just look before you jump into that marriage all I have to say

Yes, its advisable to look before you leap into any marital union.
But in this your brother's case, tell me:
1. specifically how the marriage contributed to his death/how it had anything to do with his death
2. what exactly is your sister in law's fault? What has she done wrong to your family and why do you hate her so much?
(Perhaps not informing you guys of his illness, is what angered you. But your brother may also have insisted not to bother you people)

PureMind2:
Note taking him abroad was not really for treatment if it was that it could have been better but only to perfect there relocation stay over there now brought back the hussy to die here in Nigeria terrible humans every were

You were not close to your brother oga, and had no idea what was going on in his life.
All you have been saying since is very haphazard/scattered everywhere. It just shows you are telling us third/fourth party narratives, meaning 'dem say, dem say'.
You do not know why they went abroad or even if they had relocated. Did they go on holiday, or for medical opinion? Both travelling at the same time ( and perhaps even with their children) to perfect their relocation sounds very vague.
You do not know anything about how your brother made his money or his investments.
You do not even know his children
You have not known your brother for several years. You left it too late.

PureMind2:
Am not here to exchange words just a words of advice for my fellow men don't put your wife over your family lesson of the days thanks for you comment

I still don't understand what putting his wife over his family has to do with his death.
If he had stayed close to you, would you have stopped his death?
Perhaps the only thing that would have done was to prepare your mind for the inevitable, as you would have been aware he was ill enough to pass on. At the end of the day, this whole thing is about your feelings of hurt. However, while you are hurting, don't forget there are 2 young children out there who have also lost their father and are probably hurting deeper than you, and at the same time they and their mother don't feel safe amongst their father's people.
You haven't said anything concrete about how his wife directly or indirectly killed him, or even how the poor relationship he had with his family killed him.
You are grieving, and you need someone to hold responsible for his death, and you want someone to pay. You are probably going about this wrong way, as no amount of anger towards his wife (since you hold her responsible for the bad relationship between you and your brother) can bring your brother back.
You are pained at your brother's choice of distancing himself from his extended family, but that was his decision. The choice to distance himself has no correlation with his death.
Would you all have contributed money for his care to stop him from dying? Don't forget Steve Jobs bowed down to death when it came, despite all the unimaginable amount of money in his pockets