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NwanyiAwkaetiti:
I perfectly understand all you've typed. All these arguments changes nothing. If a ladies financially capabilities is now the yardstick for marriage, you guys should voice out.

Its not yardstick

But i think the message is dont burden a man to look after you when yourself you cannot

Eg i hear lots of guys here talking of “upkeep of girlfriend” its as if he has takenover the girl’s parents responsibility to look after their child

If she is financially stable in her own right, no guy would feel obliged to give upkeep money

In the western world especially among black americans, financial stable women now look into credit history of the guy she think she might marry becoz once she marries him her own good credit history might be affected

spiceadole:
I don't understand why this topic is still an issue.

Social media and reality are 2 different situations.

On social media, Nigerian men claim to love /prefer working class, independent women who do not have to depend on them for anything.
They say they prefer women who can pay their bills on a date.

In reality, Nigerian men prefer to marry dependent women.

Many jobless broke dependent ladies are married while the working class independent well to do, financially stable ones are single and avoided because they are seen as too "proud".
They are tagged "ashewo, olosho " and other unprintable names because the Nigerian man doesn't believe that a woman can be financially sufficient without selling her body to men.
In Nigeria, every financially successful woman must have been involved in some form of prostitution before she made it.

Even married women are seen this way, how much more a single lady??

As a lady, try taking up your bill on a date... That man will never want to have anything to do with you any more. In his mind, "what kind of lady pays her bills? If she can afford to eat without my money, then what can I offer her? "

That's the reason why some of us are advised not to show that we have money so that "men will not run away from us".
Society advises us "Do not buy a car while you are single"...

It's very easy to type and argue gibberish on social media but we all know that in reality...
If you put Miss A, probably an undergraduate or a jobless graduate or low-income salary earner
And Miss B, a working class well paid, business owner, financially stable lady...

90% of All Nigerian men would rush and go for Miss A.

A dependent woman is the Nigerian man's ideal woman. Nothing feeds a man's ego than woman who depends on him for "survival".

Such woman is easy to manipulate, use, disuse, abuse, maltreat and she won't bait an eyelid.

The smarter and more independent you are, the less attractive you are to men in reality.

Very true

I also think men think buying material things is love but sometimes its not as love cant be bought but expressed without much material things eg doing things that most people dont do within your culture and beliefs eg cooking for wife

So sometime as men we think buy materials things is love but what happens when you bought all what you can ? U wont be able to express love

Also women have been made to believe material things are love,

The whole thing is mix up

This thread backs me
https://www.nairaland.com/4667399/money-millions-still-no-girlfriend

He think money has answers to all

He has the money but girls turn him down

Maybe its his attitude which makes girls not like him

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
What if he's the one disturbing for marriage?

Na Hard economy cause all this useless talk. Giving the rise to gold digging in men to escalate.

You are using emotion to think simply becoz you are woman and the statement is against women

Let break it down

All abuse in marriages and relationships have links to financial stability

Ever since the begining of paid work men brought average 80% of family income meaning traditionally men were financial providers and meaning women would be attracted to someone who is financial provider in his right, without her looking into what she can provide financial. Hence we have women who ask “can you look after me” meaning she wants to be look after without providing but managing what the man brings on the table

We have women who set bars for men eg i want a man who drives a car but herself has nothing to her name not even a cat

So basically traditionally women have been depending on men financially and men have been taking advantage abusing women becoz a woman can not walk out from marriage becoz she was never a financial provider but depended. And becoz of year of being a depended they dont no were to start so many stay in those abusive marriages

So if a woman is financially stable before marriage, she wont marry to be looked after financially

So having her own income helps her if things turn sour in marriage

Many marriage from african born and raised couples who moved to the west are failing becoz most women are financially stable, women nolonger depend on man for finance she works and even brings more money. No more advantage for men eg he cheats and forgiven becoz without the man financially she is stuck, no more than you find most men being kicked out and also most women being abusive and in any small issue the man is being threatened to call police on him(in the west any violence towards a woman is big issue)

So basically from tradition women have been leeches they look for the fat man who can look after them

A financially stable women wouldnt be a victim of abuse via finance aka man being the provider she can easy walk out than a woman who depends on a man financially

Hope you got my point

cmoney22222:
My Power steering for Camry 2009 muscle now requires lite force to round or its partially stiff , like it isnt sharp like normal. Pls what can be the possible solution to fix this. Can this be a faulty power steering pump? There isnt any leak and the steering oil is at MAX.This started 2 days ago.

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such a problem needs physical inspection than to diagnose the problem over the internet

i once had renault that had problem with power steering, i changed the pump and no joy then by luck we managed to find the problem it was the steering grommet cover that would turn along with steering therefore it would became stiff when it reached the last twist turn of the grommet

ephy6774:
There is this my neighbor which will not allow me sleep each time him and his girlfriend are making love. The girl always make this sexual arouse noise like, " am enjoying it, faster now, suck my breasts, give it to my harder" and other sexual sounds. I have confronted this guy many times, the answer he has been giving me is that his girlfriend always denied her making such noise. He however admitted that he always heard her shouting but he never knew that her noise could be heard outside.The question here now is, how can he stop her from making these noises or is there any medical solution to it.

Why should he stop her ?

Simply becoz you hear the sound

Just turn up the volume of tv ot radio

Seal33:
Why do men cheat in relationship and marriage? And also why do women cheat? Do u have an answer to this? Pls let me know.

Pls our men tell me why do u cheat because we all know u men cheat more than the women. Pls I need answers, real answers from u all.

And women how did u handle cheating in ur relationship?

Wrong question

Men dont cheat for the same reason

Each individual cheats for his own

handsomeyitayo:
This evening she almost kill me with doggy style.and she is from calabar.....I pound hell out of her..if I want to change style ..she will insist on Doggy style...there is another one she called "abang ubong style" first time of hearing that..she said it is their slang for doggy .. Even her ass will be making sound like ..phati pkaka fouch fouch..her pussy will be sounding kweety ..fuchti..is she an olosho ni? And she screams like a wolf saying in her vocals baby fek dat Puri..bung me well..pond it..yeah yah..wooih ooih wooih .... even my landlord always quarrel with me concerning her moaning..it is too loud..her moaning is affecting his wife and his wife will be fingering herself..he warned me.. because my apartment is closer to their own..I am suspecting maybe she has join olosho group... because she doesn't act that way before...am fed up..

This is nigerian porn script right

With doggy the man does the banging to make work, so how does she want to kill you when you the one who the movement that makes the doggy work

Affecting his wife well cant he Bleep the wife the she start touch herself


Stop writing stories that dont make sense

obekediamondfuto:
baba after this one, some other groupie are saying u r an APC member always advocating for change..... abeg is this true or this is a soft drink seller on spree that has come to augment the gala



lolz....
finally some fireeeeeeeeeeeeeweeeeeeeee in car talk..... I Don tire for romance section....

zimdrill and lexusgs430 come back to cartalk

The cartalk is dead full of adverts and spam adverts

moderator are just watching it die

dubemnaija:
To the ladies, would you love to marry a man that does and behaves like your father?

I asked my current girlfriend and she said NO! Her father is an Anglican Reverend

If the father has been a perfect role model
Most ladies would pick a guy that has her father characteristics

The same with guys they would marry a women has his mother characteristics

ritylove:
i see interesting heard men who cook properly are always troublesome

May be but remember people are just individuals

Also i think also its a challenge for some women as they feel useless here and there, simple becoz they cant use cooking to get even with husband. Eg she is pissed off she tells me i dont want to cook, i will go to the kitchen and cook my favourite meal job done

She would have used it against me simply becoz if i wasnt a good cook or not being a good cook but just being able to prepare a decent meal i would beg her to cook. traditionally men are raised to be non cooks and taught to leave it for women therefore we depend on women for good decent meal

Its the same concept on women who got there own money, a guy feel useless here and there becoz he cant use money make the woman depend on him

bbyby01:
I met this girl through some mutual friends online, we kinda knew ourselves but have never met. I started some mild flirting with her online and then she fell for it totally. And gradually, we fell in love. She is an intense lover I must say. She told her friends and sisters about me and I have even spoken to some of them on phone. The girl is so submissive, she will do anything I tell her to do. She tells me of how she had been heartbroken and how she was never going to love anyone until we met, how she is grateful to God for sending me her way and all. She made me promise not to break her heart and all and one time we had a quarrel, she cried for 2 days for fear that I was gonna break up with her.
Finally she came to visit me. She cooks so well and she took care of me very well too. I also loved the fact that she was so real, like immediately we entered my house, she started taking off her clothes, and asked me to help her take off her trousers (that's the first time we were seeing each other) and then asked me for the bathroom. And when we made out, I also realised she hadn't had sex for a very long time, she was very good in bed too. Me sef I gave her the best nacking she had ever received.
Problem now is that what I saw is different from the picture online. I actually don't like her facial features. That means I am gonna end the relationship at some point. It scares me because she might kill herself if I do. But I can't settle down with a girl whose face I don't like. I don't know how I'm gonna end it.
I could use the excuse of her education. She just has o level. Or the excuse of her not being my tribe, or the excuse that my mother will not like her (true but not an issue) I just don't know.
I don't want to end it leaving her with the notion that there is something wrong with her because that will hurt her more. Or should I get another girl pregnant and use that as an excuse?
Please advice me

So before the sex she was ok, but after sex you then noticed the difference

ritylove:
u actually sound like an elder

Am 42

But i was taught at a young age to cook and clean for myself

a woman cant bribe me by being a good cook i can cook myself

obekediamondfuto:
baba, this is not true..... maybe in Mars of Mexico...... but in Nigeria, marriage is the ultimate and final destination! those that married @18-29 pride it amongst their peers that they arrived sooner.

They wear it as a trophy even tho the marriage might just be one sick joke. it gives them bragging rights as they are respected in their circle of influence.

if u wanna spike up any young under 30 single babe.... just tell her that u r not sure if she'll get married with a certain kind of attitude...... she will be depressed for weeks for that simple statement

you are missing my point it is

if their given another chance they will marry at later age than they married

am taking from experience am 42 i got married at 26 and when i look back it i was very young

given i another chance i would marry at 32

remember am not disputing to say marriage is the ultimate and final destination to most girls and boys

you reflect like people me in my early 40s i was way too young to marry ye in african culture thats the right age but after maturing with at 18-29 thats way too young

DrDauda:
WHY MEN SHOULDN'T MARRY WOMEN ABOVE 30
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"Firstly women over-30 have a lower fertility. If you want to build a family with these old donkeys be prepared to possibly have a downs syndrome child.



2. When you marry a 30+ woman, you’re marrying her 30+ joysticks she's had over her long life on earth. She has more bodies than a grave yard.


Women over-30 are very bitter from the wasted prime spent on failed relationships she hoped would lead to marriage. Now that you’re marrying her, she should be grateful, but she’s not. She's always just angry

By marrying a woman over 30+ you are investing everything in a rapidly depreciating pleasure provider that has already lost a lot of its aesthetic value... She will be wrinkled in the next 5 years and already having back problems.

Many guys these days are marrying early 30’s women, and then, almost immediately – Bam!. It’s over almost before it began. Its because you are trying to make ancestors housewives. Leave these dinosaurs.

Marrying an over-30 woman is like buying a used car 1Km short of its 120,000km servicing. The over-30 woman can fix herself up enough to fool the prospective provider/hubby for a short while, and once the line that is dotted is signed her true colours come out.

Many women who are not married in their late 30s today never saw it coming. They had a plan: finish their first degree, masters, a job, a promotion, make money, be independent and settle down by 30, latest 32. ��

Over the years, they turn down potential husbands, go on a partying spree like they have frozen time, only to arrive at 35 with nothing to show for it other than a dead end job, a car, and sometimes a child from a relationship that never quite worked out

So, now they are stuck in a phase where they will never find a man of their dreams and have to settle for any man who will be gracious enough to even suggest marriage. By now, all those flimsy and shallow standards they used to have are gone, humility is their second name.

I have seen many women on Twitter in their 20s buy into the misguided, feminist belief that men & marriage are bad for their academic & career advancement. What feminism does not factor in is that the older a woman get, the less a chance she stands of marrying someone desirable.

This is a fact of life, don't come here with your Nywe Nywe Nywe misogyny... VOETSEK

Very few men would marry a 35+ woman when we live in a highly hypergamous (act of marrying someone wealthier than you) society. There are plenty of young and hot beautiful women ready to settle into a marriage where they play the second fiddle as long as the man provides.

It is good to be ambitious, even better to break the stupid glass ceilings, but at what price? Bottom line, at some point, you will need a man in your life. My experience of having observed women 30+ has proven that they mostly live a life full of regrets.

Let me share with you from my observations the signs that a woman is likely to end up single, and lonely and stay away from these types!!

1. She values education and career over marriage and relationship. She's always throwing statements like "Marriage isn't an achievement"
2. At age 30+ she has more liquor in her refrigerator than fruits and vegetables.
3. She can take down more shots than any of her peers at 30+ who have kids
4. She’s into smoking cigarettes and addicted to weed.
5. Her idea of fun at age 30+ is a night out with the girls.
6. At age 30+ she still insists on only dating men based on what their career is. "He's a lawyer" "He's a doctor" "He's an engineer"
7. The idea of cooking for a man is a total turn-off to her.
8. She has never forgiven her father for abusing her mother, or her first boyfriend used to abuse her and she now thinks every man is violent and controlling.
9. She is so much into fashion, and hair-styling she doesn't want to be identified as being old in her circles
10. Her job involves a lot of travelling.
11. She can easily find a parking spot at Taboo than her way to church.
12. She believes in absolute equality in marriage without any sacrifice or compromise.

My brother if you find an ancestor over 32+ Love yourself...... run away from these dinosaurs

Culled from female baker

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Toks2008

Come back when you are 40 and we see that would be saying the same things


Its am african culture to look down on single ladies above 29

Go to those who are 40 now and got married between the age 18 - 27, most would tell you that if they were given chance to do it again they would marry at 30

ritylove:
An argument broke out early today at my residence so i decided to share here,to get the opinions of what others thinks also. during my early days of childhood i have always being told that THE KEY TO EVERY MANS HEART is his stomach but growing up as a young girl from what i see here i am now being forced to believe that almost almost every guy is into relationships primarily for the sexual benefits attached.


surprisinly sexual satisfaction seems to be very crucial in a guys point of view in any relationship,some would say they can never go into a relationship without sex,some guys are just all about the sex making them ignorant about other factors,you will always hear them say the want a hot girl with big this and that seriously am not understanding oh...

Now my question is going into a relationship supposedly to lead to marraige what do you consider most, or which do you dim more importantly

A lovely person whom you consider hot and satisfies your sexual urge to the fullest who cant cook properly.

Or a wonder cook who prepares the best dishes for you at your disposal but doesnt satisfy your sexual urge.

Well a woman i bed is the best

Its easy to teach your woman how you like your food, my mother can also help in teaching her how to cook my favourite dishes, Remember as men what we call a good cook, is the comparison based on what your mums cooks from childbirth till 18 yrs or longer

Then as for sex no one can help in teaching your wife how you like accept yourself but most men are selfish they want to be known to know everything including sex, instead of giving a chance to the wife to lead or try new things she ready about that improves self life in the bedroom we shut our women down by traditional values to say a woman didnt be the leader during sex or in introducing something new in bed

So for me i love a woman who can fucck ny brains out without teach her anything

The saying “way to a man’s heart is through food “ is now outdated

Why i say that

Traditionally gender roles were women look after kids cook etc and men go work brings food on the table. You would marry each other as virgins sexual preference as being good in bed was not there as both you would learn on the job

I think we should ask to say when we say a good cook what do we mean, a woman who cooks food thats tastes like your mothers cooking or a woman who is able to cook anything and it comes out nice ?

If you want know that good sex is everything
Think of those women who are married and got who all material things but cheat when hubby is rubbish in bed or moan about being neglected sexually

Material things or good cooked meal will never substute good sex

Oi

olsome:
Please I want to settle down in marriage, but I hear or read news about ladies who sleep with their ex few days to their wedding day. Please I am hoping to settle down not too long in marriage, and I need to be sure of this news; if it is a fate all guys must accept or there are some ladies that do not sleep with ex before their wedding day. Again, it is good i know the percentage.

I was kind of weak when I heard someone tell me he slept with a lady that goes to a living church, even after her traditional wedding. Should we guys see it as a normal thing for ladies to sleep with their ex before wedding or can something be done? I need assistance from the ladies on if these are really true or it is mere exaggeration. Because I truly cannot be in love with someone and such a person will sleep with ex before wedding day.

I saw a statistics reading 17% of ladies sleep with ex before wedding day. I felt relieved because the statistics was small. I will indeed be grateful if it is even lower.

Please ladies, what can we guys do to prevent you people from sleeping with your ex before wedding day. We can be of help if you ladies want.

Thanks.

Stop focusing on statistics

Focus on understanding the women you are dating

Whether she cheats eventually you have tried your best, you can never stop someone if they really want to cheat

Women call man dogs becoz they cheat but women are still getting married today why becoz they aint focusing on numbers of cheating man

Clubs are full of female prostitutes and man call women bitches and have cheating wives and girlfriends but man are still marrying

Becoz the focus on what u have (girlfriend) and not what your hearing from outside

CastedBlog:
Twitter user Blaze has shared a painful Story about a woman who was raped, even tho she was unconscious, According to Blaze the woman was in coma for 4Months, When she came out she was tested 1month Pregnant, Apparently someone has been sleeping with her in her unconsciousness...
See her post below!


From Ebiwali---
https://www.ebiwalisgossip.com/2018/07/lady-reveals-how-male-nurse-raped-woman.html


Cc; Lalasticlala

@ 1 month it was showing/getting fat

Is the brother related to elephants hippos etc

That at one month its already showing physically

IamAirforce1:
I LOVE my girlfriend ..
her upkeep and that of my baby she's carrying, my responsibility.

I will keep on assisting her the best possible way I can till she puts to bed.

#AwaitingDaddy
#YoungDaddy
#2018Goals
#PapaJayden

Do you know the meaning of baby mama ?

Is she your girlfriend or baby mama

There is difference betwenn the two

majestique:
I seriously hate topics like this!! so what if he spent 5000 on the date? so what if she ordered 7k takeaway for her friends? he shouldn't have presented himself to be who he's not if he wasn't ready to spend. Better still, he should have looked for a N500 girl to go out with!! Boys everywhere pretending to be men!! nonsense!! as if women don't spend on men too....

majestique:
I seriously hate topics like this!! so what if he spent 5000 on the date? so what if she ordered 7k takeaway for her friends? he shouldn't have presented himself to be who he's not if he wasn't ready to spend. Better still, he should have looked for a N500 girl to go out with!! Boys everywhere pretending to be men!! nonsense!! as if women don't spend on men too....

Stop being biased becoz the story makes a girl look bad

Lets seperate facts from emotions

I shall be hash, for you to quicky see my point

1 when your mum married yo father it didnt mean your mum can also fucck your father’s brother NO
These two agreed to go on a date, simple not with proxy friend wanting piece of action from the date aka food

2 From the screen shot nothing says the brother played to be loaded

3 Does it make sense to say the date costed you 5000 and now you are being asked to buy/pay for friends food and it cost more than what you spent on the date food ?

4 lets not defend stupidity becoz its s fellow woman. Lets reason and agree to say some women are just gready without thinking through

5 the girl states that “ these are the friends that asked me to go out with you they encouraged me “ either the girl is being introduced to the game of sucking money, gifts from men by her friends or she is just stupid she thinks her need to paid for the encourangement they did.

If they need a treat they should accept dates and be treated than asking a friend who is on date to bring food from the date

6 Lets say the girl was going to pay for friend’s, food its an awkward situation for a brother as dating tradition usually is if a guy ask a girl on a date he takes care of the bill right and also small things eg you now having walk you see a flower shop you some roses for her. Her friends shouldnt come into the picture Also a proper lady shouldnt ask for things thats make her look cheap or unreasonable on the 1st date

Whether the guy was trying to look loaded the girl had no manners for a 1st date encounter

majestique:
I seriously hate topics like this!! so what if he spent 5000 on the date? so what if she ordered 7k takeaway for her friends? he shouldn't have presented himself to be who he's not if he wasn't ready to spend. Better still, he should have looked for a N500 girl to go out with!! Boys everywhere pretending to be men!! nonsense!! as if women don't spend on men too....

Stop being biased becoz the story makes a girl look bad

Lets seperate facts from emotion

I will hash for you to quicky see my point

1 when mum married yo father it didnt mean your mum can also fucck you his brother NO
The agreed to go on a date, the two of them simple not with proxy friend wanting the cake from the brother

2 From the screen shot nothing says the brother played to be loaded

3 Does it make sense to say the date costed you 5000 and now you are being ask to buy/pay for friends food and it cost more than what you spent on the date food ?

4 lets not defend stupidity becoz its s fellow woman. Lets reason and agree to say some women are just gready without thinking through

5 the girls states that

nickxtra:
In fact, I went with some workers at my building site to my friend's wife Restaurant to eat. While eating, we needed more food, but no one was on sight as the sales girl had gone to buy savert. We tried reaching out to my friend's wife, but she was no where to be found and she did not even hear our shouts or calls, then I got up, went towards the kitchen to approach her, I found her held on to her phone to her ears and what I heard this woman saying baffled me, telling another man(I suspect) that "my Oga will travel over the weekend and we will see...Me self dey miss u, but you must use something o... No go give me belle o. Should i come over or u will come? .., I will give it to u as u want. Na u go tire".
After all these, I just shouted madam and she calmly told the person on phone "I will call you later", turned to me and said bros. I smiled and told her we have been calling her to serve us, but no response, she simply said "no mind these customers when no dey allow person rest"

Pls don't get it twisted... I strongly believe she was talking to another man. In fact, her younger brother has hadban issue with her in the past and he once told me in confidence that he suspects his sister of having a lover outside.

As for me, I don't want to scatter a family by telling my friend, her hubby to watch closely his wife, but I have told the brother to watch closely nd if he discovers anything funny, he can report her to thier parents.

As for me, until the husband catches her "korokoro", I sidon dey look.

I will break it up in two parts

Is she is really cheating then its easy to catch her now. She have you a clue in the conversation “ i will travel over the weekend “ meaning she always travel and hubby is always told a bulshit story for the travelling besides the woman runs a business here and there most common would be anything related to business

The hard thing to tell the husband to trek the wife movements. For him to do that has to spill the beans to him, are you ? We leave that one to you

Then finally i guess you called for someone at the front desk/till/counter and no responded but then you went to the kitchen were you heard her talking on the phone . Strange indeed where i come, you should have contiuned towards whilst you are still calling/shouting away to notify your presents.

Was she using ear piece that she couldnt hear you calling from the counter ?

Its sounds as if sneaked yo way into kitcken (might be wrong ) but for her not hear calling from counter then making your way to the kitchen (whether still calling or not) she might have been in deep sexual healing over the phone

Mavrick2012:
Gooday house, please i want to know how right it is for a married woman to go out with a male friend her husband doesn't know

Your Question is too broad

It can be work mate, do you know all male employees from her work place ?

It can be business partner eg husband director wife manager in their on business, can she turn a business lunch with potential invester ot customer?

If she wants to cheat she wont go public for launch

This is were she let the cat out of the bag


She clearly say” these are the friends that even asked me to go out with you “


Roughly

So they sat down and planned how to milk the guy

The girl got remote controlled by the other girls

Even if they had dated the relationship was going to controlled by the friends

African raised girls dont know what is going on date is, its simply going out to eat mainly while you charm each other to ser if you date

Enjoy the meal, whether or not you end up seeing each again it doesnt matter. Dont order food for friends even if its you paying (lady) traditionally the guy pay for the date so will jump in to pay that foods for your friends due to that traditional rule of man paying the bill on date.

Your friends would be the last thing on your mind if your are on date, talking and thinking about them might be a bad sign to say am bored , dont let the nigga know straight away that you are bored

UyiIredia:
I am liberal in that regard. As far as I am concerned it is not wrong because she is not engaged or married to her boyfriend yet. So at that stage she needs to meet with other guys to have options for marriage.

What will make it wrong is if she lies about it or if she is really close with her boyfriend and still does it because in such situations there is deep emotional involvement and other relationships can hurt. The best thing is to sort out this issue on a first date whether the girl can go out with other guys. If you as a woman want to go out with other guys while at the boyfriend stage make it clear to him and don't hide it, that's also bad.

I respect your views

The keyword here is “IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH”

Until you engage to those who do, it means you are knowing each until u decide to engage or marry

So how can you know each other when one is going see other pontential partners? You are meant to pay attention to each other seeing whether you can function as couple etc

Remember the saying “ you can only save one master “ Going on dates while in a relationship will make you loose focus of the current relationship, you will start looking for faults in your current partner when there is none simply becoz you fancy the guy you want to go on date with.

Have you ever noticed what most men who cheat on there wives do, they finds faults in there wives and argue over nothing, simply becoz there are getting attention from the girlfriend

Lets not complicate things by throwing none normal aka platonic relationship or open relationship. those are not our average normal relationships

isholak21:
During my bachelor life alot of peoples use to tell me that when u are married you put all your income into better use than going around with one slay queen that will be sucking all your money. Now for almost one & half year that I have been married I still can't comprehend the one that's more expensive to run.

So dear married nairalanders I want you all to share your experience on this......thanks

This is a stupid question

Why becoz u didnt think it through

With wife you are both responsible to run your home, to make things simple you and wife got no kids. So rent, food must be on the table nomatter what

Girlfriend you are not responsible for either of those, u buy her airtime few gift etc you are fully responsible

Whereas with wife you cannot say i dont want to pay rent this month etc

From what i have noticed here, most nigerians you sound like dating a girl is takingover her parents responsiblity , “MONEY FOR UPKEEP”

You are meant to spoil her here and there if you have the means. I understand that we spoil women to win hearts but dont do it as its now your fully responsibilty aslong you aint married its not your duty to takeover responsibility its still her parents untill the is handedover to you aka marry

These killed what type of woman would love to be called

Pooh ——- any grown up will think of the actual poo

will you be dating 3yr old that give reference to winney the pooh ?

Lemon — any adult would think of a sour taste

Lamb —- cant think of anything but maybe a farmer’ s daughter

Donuts —- fat and round not sweet & round

Snuggly —— sounds like a dis

Button —- another dis how can you compare being cute to a button

My All —- shows how limited is your romantic english vocabulary is

Hot Staff —— same as the above

Lover-Girl —- do you another lover who is a boy ?

Magic —- is she a product which is said to be magic ? Eg surf does magic in cleaning yo dirty clothes

IntrovertedK:
So making this your point without including Bolded would have killed you, right?

Its simple question that quickly makes get my point without going in circles

IntrovertedK:
Best friends are best friends irrespective of the gender. Some of them are not meant to be left alone and forgotten just because of marriage. Don't marry who you don't/can't trust. Some best friends are part of us and some of them are bigger than marriage. They are like our blood that we can do without. If you think i'm lying ask jada pinkett smith. She'd choose 2Pac over anyone in life even though they are 'just' best friends. I'm sure even will smith wouldn't have been able to separate them if 2pac should still be alive. Best friends are great gift. Sometimes we need them more than our family cuz most of them are more than that.

The only thing the woman is to do is to try her best to give the husband the reason to trust her. You lots should stop being insecure.

It doesnt work to married people, let me ask you has your mum ever had bestie male friend that your father knew of? , Back to the guy’s story if the person is true bestie why he hasnt introduced his own wife to this bestie married woman?

If he had then this guy would have talked to the guy’s wife 1st before coming to this forum

As for jada pinketts dont aways believe hollywood stories, tupac & jada were young around 25 when they dated, there were not bestie to the point of one being married in both of their lifes tupac, so the bestie friendship was never tested becoz tupac died before got married to smith

Though they dated i think jada also took advantage of being one the women who dated tupac, the more she talked about them especially around time to release tupac movie, the more the chance of making money as tv stations would want interviews and she gets paid

In the west you get paid for interviews if you s story tell about someone famous

Gabrie300:
Hello Guys my name is Gabriel Johnson,Am 31 years.I have been married to my wife whom is 29 years for the past 7 years..We are blessed with two kids.
But the thing is that,I see her chats with a Guy she knew 2 years ago. My wife says the Guy is her best friend nothing else.
Though I have not seen anything related to sex or that,but I don't feel comfortable with her chatting with this Particular Guy all the time.She claims the guy is married and I am not interested to know.All I want is for my Wife to cut him off.She's married for Christ sake.
Please narialanders help me with advice.
Am already loosing it.

Its never a good idea for a wife to have male best friend, your wife doesnt respect or consider you feelings

would the best friend feel comfortable if his own wife had best male friend

If it was me i would ask the wife to phone the guy around midnight if he picks then i would ask him to speak to his wife or my wife would ask to speak to his own wife, the chances of him saying NO are high becoz he know morally the wife would ask what the lady wants from him

He will likely not even answer the call becoz he will be in trouble with his wife

This approach would be to show my wife, that the guy has no respect of our marriage but he has respect for his marriage, either by not answering the call or by not allowing either of us to talk to his wife means he knows his wife would be pissed and also know that he would disrespecting his own marriage


Any man who has to fear in being a besti to married wife means he has respect for that marriage or the woman husband, a reasonable married guy should generally feel for the other guy

If he doesnt its either he is already shagging the lady or waiting to shag her

Admin401:
Everything you have said is wrong.

Cool we differ in how we views the subject

adedayoa2:
the fact remains he got married to the lady because she's working, guys like am plenty for Abuja here, whenever they ask me 'are you working', I tell them I'm a student and I stay with my aunt and that's the end o, they start avoiding you.

who doesnt a women works ?

unless if your a multi millionaire even though still you watch your spending otherwise you would be broke

Admin401:
Here we go. Blame the white for everything guy.

you are my point we are far behind the most white countries by at list 100 years

all these developed countries went through what we are going through as black nations

you dont expect black nations to check up that which NO we have to learn by doing mistakes which educate us in process

they used to burn witches, women were not allowed to vote, daughter not allowed to inherit father's property same applies to wife she couldnt inherit her husband property but eventually the saw it that it wasnt good and made law etc

to back to history and how old are these countries there are on average 200 year above old since forming governments that really built a country and average african country is 60 years old after independence we are still learning and more still divided