₦airaland Forum

Robertgreene1:
Interesting...
A man I know was boasting that even if Tinubu gives him 10k on election day..that he will reject the money and still vote Obi..and we were all cheering him on...But that was before all this madness started...
Now that man is literally a beggar...all his money stuck in d bank and he cant withdraw shishi..he now goes around begging and borrowing...just give that man 1k now and see if he won't vote Tinubu..
Even me that volunteered myself to work as a Labour Party agent on election day through my dad that is a friend to the LP chairman in my LGA...how will I even see the money to transport myself to and fro the polling unit they will post me to?..just where?
The LP party chairman said the little "tips" they will give us is via transfer..I even helped him transfer some cash to some party agents the other day (or some of u peeps think LP don't need cash for the elections too?)
I heard some big PDP Men in my town (some of the richest men in Igboland) are planning to share dollars on election day( See eh.. those big men will always find their way around any hurdle..that's how they became rich in the first place).
If bubu is really serious about curbing vote buying..what happened to posting two or three agents of the Nigerian Army.. EfCC..ICPC..DSS..SSS..Civil Defense e.t.c..to every polling units nationwide to stop vote buying( l didn't even add police sef..cus those ones are useless)...
So Buhari that ruthlessly fought we Igbos during d civil war and has never hidden his hatred for us.. will now suddenly be fighting Tinubu and Atiku..so that an Igbo man Obi will become President and immediately release Nnamdi Kanu(Buhari's nemesis)... Interesting!!!
Emefiele and the villa cabal are the ones behind this mess.. Emefiele for personal vendetta against Tinubu for loosing the APC primaries..then d cabal wanna cause anarchy..so they can impose an ING and codedly retain power...They are just using Bubu...

u talk like these guys will see the vote you casted. Or because of temporary suffering you will forgo the next four years. Like the 10k won’t finish. Can’t one take d money and not vote dem?

ebubeson:
Whom will you prefer?

I prefer none. I can find a faithful girl with a good character

Truthsoldier:
I don't want to bore us with details.
I have this relative that has three kids with a man,though she broke up with the man because of the man has some character issues and some shady businesses he does,now her kids stays with her mom,currently there is this young man that wants to marry her,this young man takes her seriously and would go any length for her,of which I am aware,but this my relative currently is in Port Harcourt and I see her with another guy,the thing pains me that I know the other guy and as a nice guy,very nice to a fault.
I have tried giving a parable to my relative concerning this case and her actions but seems she doesn't understand, I am pained but I don't know what to do now.
I am thinking of confronting that new guy and giving him a warning of his life or diplomatically tell me to stay clear off her,since this my relative still collects funds from that other guy who believes in her

Or I should just collect the new guy's number,and send it to the other guy or hack her account, infact I am confused...

please what should I do..this thing is paining me

anonymously text the other guy

LittleBigDick:
My worst fear came true.
My ex came crawling back after I started getting serious with another girl.
We broke up 7 months ago. We'd been together since uni. I'm 25, she's 23. She said she needed some space and wasn't sure we would work out long term. I tried to fight her on it for two weeks but eventually gave her the breakup and went ghost mode

First couple of months were rough but I applied myself at the gym and other things and when I was feeling better about my physique made a Bumble account just to gain some self-esteem back and also take my mind off her. Met this girl about 2 months ago and we've been fwb since then. We Bleep every week and recently we've been talking about making things serious. I confess I'm starting to become infatuated with this girl, and she's already head over heels for me.

The problem is that I still love my ex, way more than this new girl. She reached out today saying she regrets breaking up with me, she was depressed and got some therapy and realized I'm all she wants. She says she went on a few dates but "didn't have sex or even kiss any of them."

She said I could check her phone if I want to. Obviously she could have just deleted any proof but I'm inclined to believe her considering she was very prudish when we were together and also I was the one that disvirgined her

The problem is I don't know whether I stick to this new babe or accept my ex back

loo funny . Tell her you can’t leave this girl. She has gone to try a different preek, b like e no work out na him she remember u

NezzyMike:
Shhhhshhhhhhshsh! Stop that advise in this 21st century. I lost a 16 year old niece six months ago of sickle cell anemia. She was the 3rd child and mum's favourite

did u read d comment?

Sleekfingers:
He has 3 kids , one is SS ......he is really spending a lot of money on her.
Are you ready for such?

Mine won’t even get to the stage of bring an ss child to this world. I will take necessary precaution to avoid it

funkmrflexx:
My wife and I are both AS and we plan to do prenatal testing once she gets pregnant. If you have the means to do these type tests or go for IVF then you should get married to the lady u love. I've already made up my mind to spend up to like 500k for test anytime my wife gets pregnant. So if you have the means you should proceed with marry her.

A lot of people are suffering from these issues today but I decided no to let it stop my happiness

hi can I email you?

Saintmary:
Do you have any idea how risky amniocentesis is?



They will insert a needle into a pregnancy belly from outside to extract something from inside the belly, thereby puncturing the belly, uterus and placenta.


How many Nigerian medical practitioners have successfully performed amniocentesis in Nigeria?


How many hospitals in Nigeria have such facilities to protect the mother and foetus in such a delicate situation?



How many patients are willing to risk precious pregnancies for such a procedure?


All because a man is too lazy to find a suitable bride?

shuu if you don’t know much, keep quiet.

izombie:
Just look at the trash you dey yan. We all know that getting married because of love is the koko but this is not about love. This is reality. AS and AS shouldn't get married and that's it because there is a very high chance that they will give birth to SS and then the happiness, the love, the peace, the calm, the monies saved will begin to evaporate.
Op, if you love yourself and your lady, end that relationship now. Don't bring children into this world to come and suffer. Don't take that chance. I know why i dey tell you. My friend married his university sweetheart not knowing they are both AS. Their first child now na SS. They are now more in the hospital than their house. Dem don tire.
Use your head bro not your heart. There are millions of AA ladies in naija. For your lady, there are also millions of AA guys in naija.

there was something you said dat caught my attention. They both didn’t know, so they wer not informed.

Sleekfingers:
If you really love yourself don't marry AS no matter what.....i don talk my own ooooo....

A friend who did that is regretting now.

why is he regretting?

Freshtruth:
kNo she is not she is a usher in the church I.know her too well she is very descent from.a well brought up home
I know what he took me to.win her heart

lol you are so funny. I can bet my money that she told those guys she had no boyfriend and she was there with her cousin. Na hu woman never teach lesson Dey believe dem

Freshtruth:
Me and this girl has been for dating for over 7months now I have even.introduce her to my parents . so last week I decided to take her and have a good time at the club on our arrival there is this young guy who order for 7 Hennessey and 10 Andre at a spot Dorime sound was played for him. This guy use full Andre to watch his hands in our presence. I ask the Bar man how much is one bottle of Hennessey the Bar man told me 22k. I order for Andre which cost 13k and me and my babe were drinking it . so me and my babe began dancing I became press told my babe am coming ,when I finish using the rest room I came back and find my babe at this guy chair that just bought those drinks I was angry walk up to my babe and told her what she is doing there the guy was with a group of men and few ladies then the guy ask her why am I angry he told the guy I was his cousin and I am.very protective of her , the guy apologized to me and gave me a bottle of Hennessey at the spot . I told him thank you and walk out with my girlfriend.
The problem is my Girlfriend told me she don't want the guy and his group to attack me that she save me by saying am his cousin so guys this girl have never cheat on me before she was always open to me about anything I trust because she use to leave her phone with me. Should I still go ahead and continue the relationship?

hahahaha e b like say u b pikin. Or maybe she sees u as a mumu cus how would she use that scope for you. Your babe na runs girl

Chemicalboss1:
Just today I was wandering though my WhatsApp status when I came across an old friend status. Dude was videoing his moment in airport flying plane and displaying the big man life.
Well I started reminiscing on how this dude started. How we were together in 100l 8yrs back.
Dude was a slight above average student who had a profound purpose in life. Very focused.
He started his unidays through writing article on both national and school politics.
Dude wasn't making profit but was instead passionate about being a media man.
Gradually during our 300l, he started advertising his blog on WhatsApp with some very creative political contents.
Usually they look bored to the majority of student but I've always maintained a positive contribution to friends even though it looked bored, I still took genuine time to read his content which in the end sometimes grab my interest other times I don't finish but I try as much as visiting his site.

Well dude was the slightly below average lifestyle spender. He wasn't having enough and sometimes go broke and rich.

I'll tell you how he grew up in fame

As at 300l dude was already a recognised name on campus, he had already made some political headwaves to gain some level of recognition on school affairs. Dude got into politics fulltime but never contested..
He was quite influential in our final SUG last election which his candidate won, But dude dint stopped there.
He's always on the media for several reason, I got to know this website through him, the way he picks up our phone as friends and the first thing he does was nairaland. Dude was so addictive to this site and was always typing.
Today dude is a member of the Nigerian youth Parliament, I checked his twitter page and even though he's gat good contents, dude has less than 5k followers. Deserves more if you ask me.

Well he's a low key individual with potential cashing out big time from politics without publicity. I got a good FG programme which I earned a drone for from him two years back and today dude is living the dream life, moving with kids of influential men. Well he's that good without much publicity, he was found so people needed him.

Today I decided to check the price of flight from lagos to Abuja and I got to know that its around 160-180k🙄🙄
Ive never entered plane in my life and that dream doesn't look like happening sooner.

My earning level won't make me spend 160k for service I can spend less than 20k for. Only that time factor. We'll 12hrs is enough time to save 140k in a bus ticket.

If there's anything in life I've learnt is that.
Some have wealthy destinies other just have to strive.
Very few of my coursemate are settled.
Besides if you take only the men as sample study, you'll find less than 10% as fully settled. A good number are managing can't say for the rest.
It's 3years since I finished service. No profound job, besides the jobs coming in don't look attractive enough. Imagine a stressful job of 150k a month with over 50k going away for transport and small chops when I can just dedicate 2weeks to my bolt driving and earn that same amount. I've made comparison and I'll rather stick to my job but yea, Im not gunning for a manageable lifestyle.
We've heard people sharing their their life experience on how they make their breakthrough.
But those who didn't make it, its true no one wants to hear your story but I'll love you to share you fails and trials rather than share nothing.

u Dey even earn 150k. When I finished no be 30k I Dey earn for 3years. Oga u self no Dey do bad

Shrunkwriter:
I've been dating this Girl for over a year now and there have been some red flags. Like, she always hides her phone when she's chatting and I once caught her talking to this dude in Manitoba, Canada. She said he was just an old friend who didn't mean anything to her. I asked to meet her friends or family a few times, but she never let me. I still don't even know her parents or anyone else in her family. In hindsight, I should've dealt with this better back then. She was to Japa to Canada for School and so of course we decided to run long distance, I took leave from my office and escorted her all the way to Lagos to see her off. she said she was staying with her best friend in Ontario where her school was. Before she left, I noticed that she would always be on a call whenever I wasn't with her and if I were to approach, she would immediately end the call. looked a bit sus to me but I say make I cool down.

So I saw her off at the airport and we said our sad goodbyes before she took off to Canada for school. We promised to stay in touch. But after a couple days, she called me using a new Sim card and when I checked, it showed the call was coming from Manitoba. I asked her about it and she gave me some BS excuse. As time went by, I started to feel like a fool and confronted her. I threatened to end it, but she finally opened up and Said she was staying in an AirBnb in Manitoba and this same guy only just came around once to pick something up from her. Na when I know say Omorrrr!!! this girl dey lie skarra. I already had my answers. Its safe to say that the Minute aunty left Nigeria for Canada, she entered new relationship. The average time for flight to Canada is 18hrs. Use 18hrs to fear woman. Still in the relationship though. Dunno what I plan to get out of it tbvh. I'm just coasting lol. What are you guy's opinion ? should I break up ?

lol, do u want me to confirm for you? Give me her location make we confirm the Airbnb. I Dey off work on Tuesday, I go use am help a brother for free. Just use style get the location make u tell am say ur cousin Dey come visit am

Tumbuleke:
A friend studying in UK was matched with a Nigerian lady that has been in the United states for a long time. He has been struggling without residency or a job witg sponsorship in UK.

He confided in me that the lady they match make him with is not his spec, also her age is the bigger factor discouraging him.

Should he damn the consequences, settle with this lady and build love afterwards or just go on with his life and see what fate have in store for him (remember, that’s giving in certainty for uncertainty)……

My people, meat don land

oga na u

IMASTEX:
Well, AS can marry AS but must be under medical supervision. I know of close person who did with full knowledge of their genotype, when I probe further he told me there are medical procedure for them. They have got a none carrier child already. Though, it costs money.

hi can I get your email please

Creamypie:
that means u didn't read to understand. Iine 7, I said at least one of em has to be AA, irrespective of genotype of the other. Whether ss, as, aa.as AS can't marry AS or SS

don’t say they can’t marry. Just say they shouldn’t give birth without taking necessary steps. People marry and decide not to give birth, do you know?

GentleChief:
So why waste money when you can easily find an AA to marry?

you call spending money for love waste of money? So one should marry bcus of AA. Funny

Meektunz:
A neighbour of mine whom we stay in the same compound borrowed 30k from me on the 3rd of January, 2023 with the promise to pay back that same week. Before i knew it, that week passed but he didn't pay back, he even kept quiet as if nothing happened. After 3 weeks i decided to ask him about the money two days ago(Sunday), telling him i'll be making use of the money on Tuesday which is today, He then promised to rally round and raise the money yesterday. I waited on him but still didn't hear anything from him again, not even a call knowing fully well i'll be using the money today. The funny thing is that his wife came and borrowed just 1 thousand naira from me through my wife last week friday promising to pay back that same day too but till today she has also not payed, she just kept telling my wife please today, tomorrow, next tomorrow and so on, that's just the language.

Please guys what action should I take? Now i see why alot of people do not help no matter what.
Honestly, I didn't give him out of abundance of having, but for the value of friendship. There was a time he borrowed just 3k from me, he took alot of time before paying back.

u didn’t learn your lesson when you borrowed him 3k. You still gave him 30k. If you are a first time borrower, I use the money to test you. If you default, sorry for your self

Goodlady:
Justified. She's 100% justified.👍
You men don't realise that women don't like too much visiting from relatives. It brings unnecessary clashes. Moreso, will you lie that you don't v sex with your girlfriend? When your sister is around, will you be comfortable to sleep with her in her presence or you share different rooms?
Your sister is suffering from bad choice in her relationship life.
Assist your sister in getting apartment and settling down asap.
Your girlfriend is your future wife, you won't marry your sister.

na una go still say, until marriage, una Dey single but for men now he should consider person wey him never marry

She no serious. I won’t call this a mistake and I have no pity for her. You use ur clear eye first born six, u still too in.

Yinkaolola:
IF you have money. There’s an option. Not the one you will abort o. Check out good fertility centers. This is if you have money or can work towards saving the money.

I am currently saving up for it and I know it will be complete soon

questioner:
Opinion needed here

I just got transferred back to Lagos in October last year and met this girl who is a secretary in one of our client office.
We sort of vibed and I asked her out, so we started dating early December.

On Christmas eve, I decided to spend the day at her place and on my way in, I met a familiar face driving in,
It was a guy who lived in the same hood with me before I left Lagos. We weren't friends really, more like acquaintance who greeted each other and knew each other on first name basis but never hung out together.
Apparently, he lives in the same apartment as my gf, He upstairs and they (my gf and family) downstairs. let's call this dude X.

When I told gf about X and how we once lived in the same area, she wasn't happy.
She said X was a bad guy and not the kind of guy to relate with bla bla.
I insisted that though I wasn't close to X, my impressions of him were an easy going dude, who rarely had trouble with anyone.

Beau insisted that he had a lot of friends coming around who were unruly and irresponsible and she just didn't like them.
I didn't really give it much thought since it wasn't like X was a close pal.

Last weekend, I had gone to pick her for an evening outing, we were outside when X was driving in again, I wasn't sure he saw me since it was dark,
so I decided to walk towards where he was parking to say hi, only for her to hold me back and insist she didn't want me to even greet him or have anything or discussions with him.
I acted chill and asked her why was she so persistence, she repeated the bad boy, rubbish guy talk.

Frankly all this has made me so curious and I am considering finding away to approach this guy and talk with him.

The opinion I need from esteemed peeps on this forum is -

1. Do you think I am being 'unnecessarily' curious by wanting to talk to X about my gf
2. If I do decide to meet him, How do you advise I broach the subject with him considering I don't even have his phone number and might need to go meet him at home
3. If you were in X's shoes would you consider it clumsy or agbaya behavior, me coming to meet you to ask about my gf - I am quite older than X, by my estimate, by 5 to 7 years or would you be cool with it

bro approach the guy

YellowbaMoslem:
There is nothing wrong in spending on a woman.

The problem is, that pussy she's offering would she keep the pussy for you alone?

Abi after investing on her, she would still carry the pussy she's offering and give another guy?

So what's the point in investing heavily on a public bus? Just pay your fare and go your way.

If na private car, eehn you go know say na only you get am, then you can spend anything to maintain that car.
This is not about cars..

perfect answer. Nothing wrong spending of your are committed to just me. Not when you be Alan sharer and u expect me to spend on you. E pay me to go pay olosho than maintain the girlfriend of the public

Banilla:
Mods, take this to the front page. Thank you.

Hi everyone! I have a boyfriend, we've been together for a year. I absolutely love him, he's my whole world! And that's the reason I'm pressuring him to save, if we're going to have a future together. And he's down for it, he makes nothing less than 200k monthly. I'm still a student, searching for a decent job. I can't invest sh** presently but I hope to start soon. Yesterday, I brought it up. I want him to send money monthly to my bank account, no matter how little. I'll save it for him. He's hesitating. He said I should be patient, he'll give me everything I need but he wants more time. I don't want to ruin our relationship but I need his co-operation. I'm scared he might leave me, after I've given him the best years of my life. I subtly threatened him that my family would force me to marry a Nigerian but he made a joke out of it, saying I would never, that I'm his...

What should I do?

NB: I've never taken a dime from him. He drinks often and I don't want him spending 'our future' on alcohol! I'm way better at saving.

I'm worried if I press the subject, he'll get mad at me.

I also told him I want to leave Nigeria, he thinks it's a good idea and I also told him I can't afford it alone. He said he needs time.

Doesn't he love me? Should I let it go? Or insist we resolve this?

what abt finishing school, start making your money and start saving in your bank

onyeego:
You know her more than we do.
The question you should ask yourself is this;

Will she still marry you if you are the one with her medical condition?

The answer to the question should guide you accordingly.

good

iPrincess:
Giving your woman dating allowance is something most guys should do more often.

It's not easy been a girl and honestly maintaining the standards you like as a guy takes a lot of effort, resources and time.

While it is not implicitly a requirement for dating, it's something you should do without even being asked to do it.

So, if you have not been doing it, oga try and be giving your girl something at the end of the month.

Make she de look fine and sexy for you.


If you do give your girl dating allowance, how much do you do per month?

is it the one u will do, if you tell am not to give man number she would say she doesn’t know where her husband would come from. But you want me to b doing husband duty but u cnt b loyal as a wife duty

orohbiro:
Me and this guy has dated for over 6months without sex, he has been caring he bought me nice clothes and shoes, and he also but me the latest Samsung. We both slept with each other yesterday for the ist time, I was surprise after he finish having it he starred frowning his face the idiot told me my pussy is overrated I regret ever opening my legs for him. He will never in his life are it again. Girls be wise this men are pretenders.

Mtcheew but you have been enjoying his money since. The guy don finally see say it wasn’t worth it na.

EbenezerTriumph:
I decided to end the relationship last year by ghosting her cos I didn't want any pressure this year.
I have lots of goals to achieve this year and having a girlfriend would slow down my financial progress.
She has been so clingy in the relationship, obsessed and emotionally manipulative and always get so mad if i don't call her frequently at night despite an intensed communication during the day.

To be frank I usually spend more than 1k daily on airtime daily, worst of it all we're in a no sex relationship as she says I should wait till marriage.

Despite my efforts in maintaining communication, she still complains and tells me she isn't impressed with my efforts in communication, she started getting angry and snubs my chats. Also she has been so obsessed with marriage for a 25 year old girl like her, she keeps uploading engagements and rings on her status and tells me boldly that she wants to settle down before ember month this year.

Two weeks to the Christmas I ghosted her, she called and never heard from me again, sent all sorts of messages that she has moved on but I never responded.

During Christmas.she stopped calling and on the 31st of December she sent a breakup text but still got no response from me. On the 2nd of this year she called umpteen times but I didn't answer, I gave her the massive silent treatment for 4 weeks.

Now just today she called again using her colleague's number, i finally picked up and she told men bluntly she wants to see me this evening by 7pm and it's urgent. I asked her what's wrong and why she wants to see me and she said I should just come and let's find a place and see that it's urgent.
I'm confused and scared though but honestly I don't want the relationship anymore, got goals and target this year.

meet in an eatery. No meet for private place make she no pour u acid

Smartguyboy:
Lol
That how one saw my car and nice environment she just join to date me I collect wotowoto when she see nothing come out she withdraw me no send move to the next one . How Xmas list she gave me was close to 1m her words “ honey I am used being spoiled by my boyfriend and taking good care of “ for my mind you don jam mumu nah. She stop chatting with me .

haha

BigBashiru:
What does the man get in return for the provision is the question these girls aren't answering....

They think provision is free and that a man will just be suffering himself for nothing

and when a man who provides for them demands just loyalty, they begin to say as long as u never marry me, I can date others, but u want me to provide so dat I would be on the losing end

Bobdaddy0007:
You never married ur boyfriend u want him to take d role to provide for u always come on ask ur dad � or u both married together, stop pressuring guys with money

Wetin Dey burst my head abt girls be say, they want guys to play d role of husband to dem by providing but you will see them doing videos on tik Tom saying they can’t play the role of a wife to their bfs , and they are single and can’t have just 1 bf till marriage, but this girls expect us to find dem. So I. The end, the stand to gain all and we lose