₦airaland Forum

Numero9:
Competing and measuring intelligence with score is something I've always hated and will continue to hate. The educational system is doing more harm than good.

That's not really true.

Excessive focus on grades/grading is what's unhealthy and NOT the grading itself.

Statistics (which is what grading is) provides us with an undeniable measure for assessing performance in all life's endeavor. Note the word undeniable.

Without grades (quantitative measures) how do you asess your child's performance or better still improvement in academics?. How do you differentiate between potential investment options(ROI) ? Potential employers ? Even goods to buy?(i.e. pricing)

I would even make a stretch to say that in choosing a spouse, (amongst potential suitors) we subconsciously grade each and choose the highest ranking suitor — using our arbitrary albeit personal score points.

Without quantitative measures AKA grading there's no way to decide students for admittance into the universities since not all applicants can be admitted.

Grades, while not being perfect, helps to reduce the lies we could all tell ourselves about performance.

Dannyozs:
The incumbent president has been in office for over 34 years (since 29th Jan. 1986)

How is this even possible?

Dictators in power for >20 years can't imagine life without power.

That's why they'll rarely ever concede.

Power becomes an extension of themselves.

I think no democratic leader should lead beyond 10 years. Not to get too used to power. Power intoxicates.

Imagine never having to worry about virtually anything in life again. And not being held accountable. That's almost godly.

gaius01:
I did !

What he wrote was nothing funny ! And besides he didn't insert a laughing emoji to show how jokely he was writing.

A laughing emoji is not a prerequisite for making a joke.

I understood the sacarsm despite not being on twitter.

J111333:
Truth be told, dude messed up big time. The joke was too much to be ignored.

I would not make the joke myself but come on.

If you were to scour the Web for crude jokes against the President across facebook Twitter or Instagram you may be prepared to arrest ~100 people per day across Nigeria averagely. And this is a gross underestimation.

Looks like they are trying to show an example or someone is just being overzealous.

But I wouldn't make such a joke though.

God help us.

obembet:
To me, I think Pep a failure because he can't give a team what they need. he only give them what they already have. Mourinho will give a team what they need and not what they have. that only make Jose Mourinho the best choice, Even Reneiry is better than Guardiola because he took underdogs 'Lecester city from nowhere to win a trophy for them.

mynd44

You're speaking with the benefit of hindsight. And I don't really blame you. We all forget soon.

Go read about Pep's start at barca. Start here:

https://www.goal.com/en-us/news/174/uefa-champions-league/2015/05/06/11458192/how-guardiola-turned-barcelona-and-messi-into-the-best-in

No one expected his achievements. Now it seems inevitable.

I'm not saying who better between both Mourinho & Pep. I don't know. But anyone saying his achievements at barca was inevitable is being insincere.

Shokoloko:
Great question. Its the love languages that let you know what your spouse will consider "been taken for granted". I didn't know these until I saw it play out in my marriage.
I love (acts of service) not really gifts or words of affirmation so my spouse couldn't understand why I was NOT tripping for the human hairs, and watches and shoes and Lexus he bought me - I really don't care much for them.
I found him rather kind and sexy when he was washing dishes in the kitchen with me or joining me in my little farm.

And he always complained that I took him for granted and never gave him gifts. I did give him gifts but I later realized his love language is GIFT GIVING, so the bigger the gift, the more it meant to him.
So now whenever I want to give my spouse a birthday gift I start putting it together months in advance. I would not buy a phone of more than 60K for myself cause it means nothing to him but I know his love language is gifts so I gift him some crazy unreal phones (His eyes widen like a kid's when I hand him the latest edition).
Of course he still buys me lovely gifts but my thank you when he has done an act of service is both in words and in kind.

Thanks.

You're clearly more experienced. I don't have any though.

I always want to be able to buy all I want and consider it tiring to outsource my happiness to anybody else — who could annoy me soon.

Marriage seems like a necessary but tiring trade-off [Losing one's personal conveniences for the thrill and feels of companionship].
The constant need to please another who may or may not reciprocate.

God help us.

Shokoloko:
1. She sent you a really disrespectful text.
2. In her text she says "Its over". When someone is done they will not bother to announce it. Apparently she isnt done.
3. She was upset when she did not get a reaction from you. I think she still likes you.
4. I am very concerned if the only thing your spouse has done in all the years of marriage is pumping out kids. She doesn't even keep the family well fed and the home clean? She leaves the kids to go their own way once she delivers them? You have to breastfeed your kids yourself?! Strange
5. Does she continuously refer to your disability? If yes, she pities you: no love. If no, it was a one time act of foolishness.
6. Please place your boundaries. She should leave if this is about pity and if it is not she should never refer to your disability again.
7. There are 5 love languages. If you do 150% of four and it is not your spouse's love language it means nothing...so check if the unimaginable things you did for her happiness actually resonate with her.
8. Do not abscond from your own home anymore.
9. Saving your spouse's life is not spectacular - it is expected. Five pints of my blood is in my spouse's body right now. Its not a big deal

Is there really anything as love language?

Are there really 5?

I sincerely think it was a brilliantly manufactured concept to sell books and "Relationship" seminars. I could be wrong though.

It seems the most beneficial key to keeping a relationship with any SANE /reasonable person is to not take them for granted AKA respect. Other things are supplementary.

Omihanifa:
I think you allowed your wife to see you finish

How can you be escorting her to go and pee and also escort her back when she's done peeing
Which kind love be that one

As regards the things she said to you via SMS and verbal exchange. All I can say is that you have a snake over your roof.

He probably doesn't mean "Pee" literally.

He probably means that he usually has to take her wherever she wants to go.

euromilion:
Don’t mind him bro,they say who nor go nor know,I know how many stranded Africans I’ve helped over here and I kept telling people on Nairaland to be careful but they don’t listen,anyway anyone that wants come let them come Europe is not like before we’ve been on lockdown since March last year.

In fact I don’t have energy to talk much now.

Thanks bros.

I am convinced by your perspective.

However you should know Nigerians. The thinking is : If it's that bad, how come you are still there (not just surviving) but thriving enough to assist others.

That's where you have to be a bit more elaborate on the profile of those likely to make it in EU and elsewhere abroad.

I presume there is the Professional /Student class that are better positioned to seek better opportunities as they are in the skilled workforce.

And then there is the "hustler" class (for lack of a better word) who would have difficulties due to COVID-19 and economic lull in EU. But this class of individuals already have it tough in Nigeria and can't believe it could be any tougher IF they head abroad.

For a legal migrant into most european Countries, I believe (I don't know for sure) it is easier to live comfortably than most urban Nigerian cities.

Cheers.

Tobichimezie:
It's easier catching someone with drugs than someone involved in cyber fraud... white substance deals always fetch far more money, but it's a high risk high reward odd so that's why lots of Igbos rather take the risk for the higher reward.

Hahahahaha!

Are you giving a course in Fraud viability ?

Really funny your conjectures.

OfficialAwol:
We have agreed GEJ conceding was not as easy as we thought it was after all.

Not really true.

America has had other one-term Presidents. Virtually none tried to withhold power aggressively.

Mr Trump is clearly not the typical american style of leader. And I say so in a not-so-positive way.

Bunnatex:
Maybe Africa have started to recognize that democracy ain't the best form of Government. How can majority of FOOLS determine the fate of the LEARNED. It's quite not good.

Best ?

Best doesn't only mean Perfect.

Best can also mean most beneficial amongst other alternatives.

Democracy is not perfect. Sure. But what would you rather have? Others are more prone to greater evils.

It's a case of lesser evils here.

Unik3030:
which independence
it's like u don't know d level of immoralities in boarding,stealing,rape, lesbianism, Homo, smoking n all other shits.

Children will b bullied n nobody to come to their rescue,it reduces some students self esteem,it makes it easy for d student to become a cultist n many other shits.

untold hardship among others,one senior will steal your money n u will have to starve or steal another person's money

There's no immorality in boarding schools that's not obtainable in the larger society. Heck the boarding school is a little "society" albeit controlled with its own rules.

It's not for everyone. I don't always like it. But it does breed independence in children earlier — when done well.

Alphasoar:
If you study this system, you'll discover that it is the same. The apprentice groom's the individual around what is obtainable. If you are learning trade involving trading Toyota cars, you'll as well be thought what Toyota cars are made of... this is an all inclusive education

Are you saying that our technical know-how in Nigeria nowadays is comparable to Germany in apprenticeship. Is that what you're saying?

Most(Not all) Nigerian technicians (Even most Nigerians) are Incompetent.
You don't need to look far to see this.

It (the incompetence) stares at us daily.myself not exempted. Just trying to do my best.

Beehshorp:
My children will have no business with boarding schools.
I have had conversations with boarders the only thing they are proud of is how they starve themselves, bath together, steal each other's provision, and silly gist about Miss koi koi and Bush babies.
Boarding school is so useless in Nigeria.

Your right. BUT it's not useless. You're throwing away the baby with the bath water.

It helps to forge a child's sense of Independence when done right.

DonFreshmoney:
Northern muslims hardly migrate to a foreign country to stay permanently.. it's very hard to see that happening because they know In Nigeria, the quota system will favor them as compared to western countries...

One thing I am sure is that she is from a wealthy family, so there is no need leaving the country to start again in a foreign land

But the North also has the greater number of poor Nigerians, right?

Apparently your hypothesis is not really consistent.
Since their poor should be more desperate to leave.

OR could it be that there are other cultural /social reasons to their decision to stay?

Exoticity.

The fascination with the foreign.

Masquerades an an evil practice though. Literal Idol worship.

Alphasoar:
We have advocated that this apprentice system be adopted or if not encouraged by the government. This is a system that is capable of generating employment in the long run where entrepreneurs are adopted in time, schooled purposefully and made to stand on their own while as well making millionaires in the process.

Ya gazieeee...

A very nice practice they have. Probably the best apprenticeship system in Nigeria.

BUT it is limited.

In Macroeconomics Value added is what's important.
This system lends itself mainly to TRADE (buying/selling) based skills.

The apprenticeship systems that yields more value is a SKILLED + Trade based system. Kind of the type obtainable in GERMANY. Where a Youth is groomed in a choosen skill for 5+ years and grows to be an expert.

We can start from somewhere though.
And this is good.

Maize621:
I came to Poland and in this short space, I have realised how messed the Nigerian system is. It doesn't build her youth for success, it destroys them. Here, we're hopeful for tomorrow as there's light at the end of the tunnel. We can see it, and it is for this we put in hard work

Nice. If you don't mind my asking, Sometime back I intended pursuing an Msc @ SGH Warsaw graduate school.

What are the after School job prospects for foreign students? Or even going to western europe?

SATANNIST:
u dont want to take bribe but u want instant promotion? what is the difference?
i have an uncle that works with immigration, he was dumb as u. he rejected a 300m bribe years ag when we where kids.
today he is still working like an idiot. he even expects cash from me always but i purposely dont give him because i do not give cash to idiots because i see it as attracting curses. till today he is still poor. i swear if it was this present day he dd it, i for put otapiapia for him food

He didn't say he wants instant promotion.

He said having served meritoriously for 30+ years, he's been promoted only 5 times. Meaning : he has had to serve in a position for averagely 6 yrs for each rank. That's clearly stunted for one without disciplinary issues in Nigerian Police.

I'm not in support of awards though, it can corrupts motivation.

Patriarchy001:
Hmmm.. notice how the 'richest man in Nigeria' avoids Nigerian women??

That says a lot

How goes? He has several children by Nigerians.

Emaxwell:
Kept the dead man for years due to tussle for properties


Smh

This is the reason why I am highly doubtful about a break up being the silver bullet for ALL Nigeria's issues.

These are people within a clan NOT able a put differences aside for 2 years ! For a simple thing as burying a great man!

This is division at the microscale.
These guys are ridiculous at best and petty at worst.

Arrewa:
First of all School promises to be the building ground of basic life skills, of the emotional and intellectual well being of its students. A school also promises to make a student ready to take up the challenges of the world they will be facing.

They claim to instill values that will help students make more informed decisions and distinguish between the right and the wrong and find the best path for oneself.

In a competitive market environment, you need something to help you stand out from the crowd of other applicants. A good degree gets you ‘in the door.’ Then you need to prove yourself, because all a degree shows is that you have studied the basics.

A degree isn’t everything, however. If you have other fungible skills, especially in IT that are demonstrably valuable, an intelligent employer will recognise these.

Going to school is a lesson itself besides whatever subject you study

Hello??

Jeff Bezos actually finished his degree— BS EE & Comp Sci.— at Princeton.

Go check.

Now that you've confirmed that the Richest man in the World is a graduate, go to school!

Just joking. BUT the people you've mentioned are dedicated individuals. They're a rarity in the society.

Bill gates for e.g has read ALL Vaclav smil's books.
I struggle to even finish one (poor dedication).

School is the most structured learning environment that provides credibility to employers through certification.

If you don't mind working for yourself and can dedicatedly learn effectively on your own, by all means drop out. You'll be making the best use of your time.

Cheers.

ednut1:
Sins of the fathers things. None of them made money cleanly

If none made money cleanly who created the original wealth which others stole?

AlphaAlex:
If we all want to be truthful the so called rich kids with wealthy parents know their parents have a hand in Nigeria’s poor state one way or another, nothing happens by mistake if they hate them it’s cause nature is passing the resentment that should have gone to their parents to them.



Another Thing No Rich person in this country of ours got rich without some form of Compromise prove me wrong I’ll wait.

If no wealthy person made his/her wealth from genuine sources, how was wealth then created originally in the Country?
I.e. If everyone is some sort of thief, who was originally stolen from and where did he get his wealth from?

Nanaborga:
Guy you nor even shame sef , see how dilapidated the school environment is , what is the established old student association doing to bring development to this school . I attended hussey boys model college Warri, we are doing all we can to support and develop the school , we keep improving the school standard on a yearly basis more than the government , I can boldly tell you our science laboratory , art gallery and other school facilities are more equipped that most private universities

What is he doing? Really?

Alumni associations are supplementary organizations. They shouldn't be the core of an institutions' funding base.

They may well collect alumni contributions and not put same to good use of they don't put core budgeted funds to good use as can be seen.

Nice! Those stores have an Arewa-esque Architectural touch to them. They're actually different from anything I've seen. Simple too.

Nairalandian:
Sorry
Never knew she was mixed race until recently
If I'm mixed, nothing will make me live permanently in my African parents country. Not that I'll totally forget my African roots sha.
Even if my white parent is from Afghanistan, I'll leave this shit hole continent.

Nobody 'from' Afghanistan IS white.
If you equate light skin to white you are in for an awakening soon.

By the way people like the woman in the story clearly lives as good a life as she would anywhere else in the world too.

FarahAideed:
Through which embezzlement? This man opened May and Baker before your dad and even met your mum

Not true.

May & Baker Nigeria Plc was founded on September 4, 1944 as Nigeria's first pharmaceutical company. It has its origin in England, the United Kingdom in 1834 where three chemists founded Grimwade, May & Pickett, a firm for manufacturing chemicals for pharmaceutical products.


Could he have founded M&B @ 6?

He is wealthy though. Ultra wealthy.

pocohantas:
Na Chairmen like Logobenz/Nwanneni suppose dey go this kind place. Liquor merchants.

Men wey dey drive Benz and Lexus.

But jokes apart, with where Quilox is located- they would have a high overhead cost and it is normal they spread it into the cost of their services. That is how they stay afloat.

You are not paying for the water, you are paying for the experience, the goodwill, the bragging right, the picture you will take and say “Chilling at Quilox”, the people you would meet. You pay for it all.

Not that it is any of my business or that they are doing anything wrong BUT chalking it up to "operating costs" to "stay afloat" doesn't cut it really.

LUXURY goods/services everywhere have no relationship with costs. They're arbitrarily and perceptively priced, targeted at aspirational consumers/taste makers.

Most of these HUGE margins go into the lifestyle of the promoters. Do not you see them spraying money excessively at shows/programmes for the buzz? Or it is the jet lifestyle? These are supported by the huge margins NOT costs!

Good for them though, they're doing no wrong.

Blossomfirst:
If you work, save up and travel! I know travelling and adventure is strange for an average Nigerian

While it is no one's business who foots the travelling lady's bills, Travelling is not strange to the average Nigerian.

The average Nigerian is very poor. With little disposable income, it isn't expedient for Nigerians on a tight budget to make 'experience adventure' trips.
Trips are for the very necessary reasons.

The OP is clearly a fairly well off individual and can afford it. Good for her. The fellow asking her about her source is being disrespectful IF he isn't joking. People should use their money however they choose.

We humans tend to have an unbridled thirst for fame/popularity.

As a check on myself, I try never to accept any award for excellence /good done. This may seem extreme, but it trains me to derive satisfaction from the work done. NOT on others appreciation of the work done.

In doing so, I take control of my satisfaction and keep the enemy (ego) in check.