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justine94:
I know...I have learnt from that...though am a temperamental person...but I don't physically abuse ladies...I have assured her that it won't happen again

Good to know. Keep it up.

justine94:
she has offended me othertimes and I did not Lay Amy finger on her...so this time it was really different. .but I have apologised about it

I understand what you are saying, but just advising you on the anger part. Even as she knows that she was at fault in the first place, she didn't expect the slap. You have every right to be angry, but it is how you decide to channel the anger towards her that matters most.

justine94:
I intend getting married to her ..she knows already. ..I don't want to be the one who decides on what to do in the relationship

I quite understand you but you have to try as much as you can to control your anger. If you really intend to marry her then make it an assignment for yourself to control your anger as it may affect your relationship and marriage. No lady or woman will like to live with a man who slaps her or beat her at any slight provocation.

Before I give you my little advice, I need to ask you some questions. What is your intention for this relationship, where will this relationship lead to? I have seen your age and you are no longer kids. What do you want for yourself, is she type of lady you will like to spend the rest of your life with? From your write ups I see few problems, why do you like using the relationship as a threat to her, you always threaten to leave the relationship each time you have issues with her. That is not good at all for your relationship. You are really confusing her. In her mind she is always afraid of you leaving the relationship. That is not good for the relationship, which is why she fell victim to the other guy who is trying to get to her. Why should you slap her, you have no right to lay your hands on her as you are not married to her, you are just in a relationship. Apologizing to her is OK but, it has not left her mind. She is still afraid that you may slap her again tomorrow when you have issues. You need to control your anger. Now concerning the morning which the other guy gave to her so as to lure her to himself, she has the option of either returning it to him or spending it. Asking her to block him on all social media outlets is also good to save your relationship, but may not be the ultimate solution. He may still visit her thinking that his trap has caught a big meat. You have to convince her with your intentions for the relationship if she is the type of lady you want as a wife and also marry her, to stop being afraid of you quitting the relationship. If you know that you will someday leave her, well if she OK with it which I doubt, then convince her that you will remain with her till the end of your relationship.

Amatarasha:
u are innocent sweethrt , U are blessed already cos u are a non hypocritous gay

Queen of the river has blessed u

Thanks so much

IANAGI:
Yes oh I've done foolish things too no doubt.

Good to know.

I am surprised that the person that posted this is also a male. Well since you said men are fools then it includes you the poster.

My dear OP from one Igbo person to another, what exactly did we igbo men on this forum did
to you? From your write up you mentioned names and added etc which includes me. So I will like to be what exactly I did to be part of the etc.

Thanks

Chukwunulu (boxer022)

You were paid money for round of sex but out of it you got pregnant, please who owns the unborn child? It's a tricky one as curled from a friend on facebook. Give it your best answer with reasons.

What is she even speaking, it looks like calabar or akwa ibom. It is difficult to understand.

OP your info is wrong, the president extended the lock down by one week from 4th May, not ending on 4th May. He also instituted a curfew from 8pm to 6am from the same 4th of May.

karnap:
thanks very much sir,I appreciate you.

You are most welcome.

OP what is your intention of posting such a graphic picture here? It is uncalled for and should be discouraged.

Congratulations in advance my brother, what else can I tell you; always put God first in your every day life. I don't want to repeat what others must have said which are good and commendable. Treat her as you treat yourself, also as it is written in the Bible, the two of you are now one body.

What I can say concerning this issue is that not all men are like that. I believe that there are some of us out there who are sincere and also willing to always tell the truth no matter the circumstance. I for one, not to boast, currently I am single and will always tell who ever asks that I am single. When I was in a relationship, I don't deny it, claiming to be single. So as I said earlier, there are actually sincere men out there.

It is indeed very painful and also a high level of betrayal. One thing is certain, the child will be collected from the woman in question and also he will surely abandon her ( he will never marry her). If she could do this to her husband then.....

Ilamina:
Just wanted to feel beautiful

Not that I am in support of what you are complaining about, but my issue is must you show your cleavage to feel beautiful? Bear in mind that to you it may be just for the beauty while to others it may look like a green light indicating indirectly that you are available for relationship or sex.

My brother I am not going to insult you but will tell you the fact in black and white. That girl in question never loved you, she only used you as a school provider and maybe school boyfriend. You made a lot of mistakes while you were with her. How can you do all those things for a girl who never loved you in the first place? You made nasty decisions which I know you might be regretting now. One of them is that you would have been outside the country studying and gathering your studies. What I want you to do now is dust your ass and move on with your remaining studies. Forget about her completely, focus on what you want for yourself and don't allow this to distract you. Take heart my brother.

At this point there is nothing that you can do than to prepare your mind and also arrange to get married to her.

I am not against the close down of banks, markets, etc due to this virus. My only question is how come the Italian man that brought this virus to Lagos Nigeria is well and tested negative? What was used to treat him and the second person that has been discharged? If the treatment can work on them, why then can't it work on the other patients, also why can't the state government advice residents of the state on the medication and also advice other states of the federation for them to implement it?

SassyGem101:
Are there still good guys?
They are only good at the initial stage.

Im done with all that pretence.

I believe that there are still good guys out there waiting for the opportunity to find a good lady to build a happy home with. Don't just give up hope all because of your past experiences in relationships and marriages. I know that in no distant time you will find a good guy.

SassyGem101:
I had always wished and wanted to but with what happened recently, after 6 years of not having a relationship. I eventually gave it another try this year and then boom! It hit the rocks even before it took off. So For now, I'm not looking forward to it anymore.

So what happens if a good and genuine guy comes your way. Will you reject him?

GOFRONT:
Why should I be forced to marry a lady I did not Love??

You don't love her, then why did you play the bed game and get her pregnant? For you to impregnate her you must have loved her and weighed the risk of getting her pregnant

It is not today oh that Emma Emordi left my lovely cousin Mary who is a caring and hard working lady. He got married to her just for the fame and money he could get from her brothers. This should be at least the 3rd or 4th year he abandoned my sister and their son. She has since moved on and I pray that God will give her a good man to take care of her and her son.

I have a question for you to answer. What are your plans for the girl, do you intend to marry her or only date her? I believe she is under pressure to dump you and follow the other man due to his financial authority. How is she sure that he will do all those things he said he will do for her if she gives him a chance? Tell yourself the truth, if you don't intend to spend the rest of your life with her, let her go.

My brother take heart, such is life. It is good she told you the truth than cheating on you. I know that it is very painful but take heart.

Clap for yourself, kpa kpa, kpa kpa kpa yourself.

So people still indulge in such a thing. How can you take your life over someone who is not related to you in any way? How can you end your life in such a shameful way over a guy you are not sure will marry you tomorrow? What will she tell her maker that made her take her life?

It's just a simple wet dream and maybe you may have been thinking about her which led to that.

They broke in through your window that backed your house and still went out the same way. The people that did this stay around that area. My younger brother stays in the same neighborhood and complained same thing, they broke it through his bedroom window checked for money didn't see any then left.