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bewla:
Ok wait for my comment it's going to be raedy by December

The space is yours

doggedfighter:
bukatyne, you don come again


Tell me, I would like to try .

Double cleanse
Toner
Essence
Exfoliate
Spot treatment
Sheet masks
Serum
Moisturize
Sunscreen

I am not very sure of the order especially exfoliate to serum.

I used to do about four, I want to graduate to 7:

Double cleanse (2 - in - 1)
Toner
Essence
Serum
Moisturize
Sunscreen

fyzaila:
Are all this mixtures of chemicals not too much on the delicate skin if the face?

Well, to me to have a fresh and natural young looking skin:
1- Eat healthy foods in small portions.
2 - Eat fruits and vegetables very well. Infact never miss a day without eating any them.
3- Drink alot of water (Very important) leaves your skin hydrated and glowing. You see that early morning drinking of water, that is first thing in the morning on an empty stomach, don't underate its importance.
4 - Exercise regularly no matter how little.
5 - Avoid too much exposure to direct sunlight especially that afternoon own. Very harsh on the skin.
6- Get enough beauty sleep. At least 6-8hrs in 24 hours.

Are you male or female?

doggedfighter:
All these drink too much water no gel.

Honestly, there's more people do to achieve glowing skin.

You can try the Korean 10/12 step beauty routine

mariahAngel:
Abi?

Na so

ObaKlaz:
Overrated! Corny!! Cheesy!!!

I'm waiting to see Black Adam.

Why is it Overrated, Corny and Cheesy for you?

doggedfighter:
Ehen, drop link let me download


Yet to see it and breaded link.

I watched it on Netflix

Like the simple topic says, this is a thread to discuss the latest movie by Kunle Afolayan.

When it trended online, a lot of 'lessons' came up like:
1. Never trust the humility of the broke man
2. Don't give a man your source of power/wealth
3. Love with sense

Etc. Etc.

While I am not here to dispute the validity of the 'lessons' above, they seemed strange given the movie I watched. For me, it is more of:
1. Don't marry a man for the streets. Saro was a man for the streets so Rolake made a lifetime error trying to customize him for herself. As soon as they were safe, she should have gone elsewhere

2. Know your leverage: Awarun knew marrying Saro was hustling backwards Who has time to be monitoring a much younger man as a result of your insecurities, inadequacies and the fact that he would desire younger women?

3. What goes around comes around: Rolake ditched her husband for other man who ditched her.

4. Do not be evil: Saro's life is the lesson.

What lessons did you take from the movie?

It would take a lot of effort to clean him up.

mariahAngel:
Hehehehehehehehehe

...but they almost always end up as coaches, managers, talent scouts, football analysts or fitness trainers naa.

All na forms of lecturing na

For cruise:

Strictly by profession: a professional international footballer so we can travel round the world.

Do massive investments so after retirement, he goes into lecturing or any productive passion.

While I would write my books in my garden.

Can a relationship survive without sex? Yes.

However, for people in a marriage bound relationship, ensure that there is sexual attraction.

begoniaa:
I have a kind of *blurry, fuzzy* topic idea in mind.

I don't know how it may turn out, though, it sounds and plays interestingly out in my head... I can only hope the nuances and ranges to it come out .

It's simply about "Soft Life." This trend, the rise of it... I don't think anyone who has been on any social media network hasn't heard of that phrase. (And a luxury lifestyle on the side).

For sometime, though, hearing that term has been rubbing me up in some weird, odd way.

And now I just came across a tweet that spurred me again.

https://twitter.com/NonhleBeryl/status/1579571242914713600?t=oPwgeUenuOfKtKeP2zVDLQ&s=19

Perhaps it might pick up more traction later on, but I would love to hear you ladies thoughts.

Saw the abridged version on another handle.

Unfortunately, a lot of young people do not want to go through the growth process anymore. Also, in this age where we have successfully combating signs of physical aging, it is easy to think a 50 year old woman looking 20 is your mate.

I remember having a general discussion in the tweet with an older close acquaintance who said a lot of younger girls in their 20s admire her style and want to be like her now (a 40+ lady working over 20 years).

I stumbled on a thread by one Alex celebrity reporter where guys were lamenting that the pictures made 'hustlers' in their 20s look lazy. The people in the pictures were in their 50s just looking young.

Re: Soft life: from what I have seen, there are two sides to it;

1. The materialistic drive to it
2. The side discouraging 'struggle love' and normalizing women resting in their feminine, pampering themselves (to the level they can afford) and leaning on their male partners (if any).

Nice thread @folake4u

Farfalla:
About this, staying away from social media has kept me in the dark about quite a number of these so-called "trending topics". I only get to know about them from loved ones and acquaintances or when they appear as trending searches on Google. I'll honestly say I've heard zilch about this "Soft Life" trend but I can guess what it's all about.

Regarding the above tweet, I believe people have always strived to pursue certain things in life for reasons as simple as fitting into societal expectations or reasons as crazy as peppering friends and relations. It has only taken a new dimension since the advent of social media because, unlike in the past, where you had to be a part of someone's circle to even know where they worked, where they lived and what their houses looked like, all one needs to do nowadays is to be a friend of a friend on Facebook and a connection of a connection on LinkedIn and all the details about Mr. X, Mrs. Y and Miss Z will be there for everyone to see. Most times these personal (and sometimes untrue) details are deliberately uploaded to have a desired effect on village people, imaginary haters, ex-lovers, former schoolmates, former colleagues, etc.

It's not just about a 23-year old wishing to have the accomplishments of a 40-year old, most times it's peer competition. Jane wants to visit Seychelles because she saw Mary flaunting her travel pictures on FB. Peter takes a loan to buy a car because he spotted John, a guy he knew from his former neighbourhood posting a picture of himself posing in his car.
Of course there are people who are bound to feel like failures whenever they compare themselves with other people on social media, especially when you come from a society where everyone begins their "insults" with "your mates are.....[insert success index], while you're still....[insert index of failure]".

I don't see the situation getting any better. I'm very pessimistic about the effect of social media on young people's mental health. Unfortunately.

@bold:

Same here.

Coupled with the fact that mental/emotional stamina keeps depreciating daily.

Farfalla:
Well, you always have this way of making me reveal stuff I'd rather keep out of Nairaland. CIA material.

What do I do for fun and relaxation?
Cure konji..!! That's the first thing that comes to mind. (You asked...!!)

Let me just say, fun to me doesn't necessarily involve a crowd or anything like that. Never been a crowd person. Never been a party animal, not even when I was Folàké's age.

I do go to the gym on some weekends whenever possible (such as tomorrow). Not fun at all at all. Not relaxing either but I sure do get a good night sleep later that day.

I am a very introverted individual surrounded by extroverted somebodies who prefer the outdoors so sometimes they pester me into accompanying them to explore different places and I do it for them, out of love and obligation.



Loud? You mean expressive?
Hypocritical and obnoxious people are everywhere Klass including where I am currently located.
I admire Nigerian women because they set certain financial standards for men. Why do you think they claim other African women are "humble"? It's because their standards in men are much lower. Non-Nigerian women believe so much in love and romance, and learn very late that love doesn't conquer anything.

Nigerian women learn very early what other African women learn at 38.

@bold regarding financial standard: not all Nigerian women. More like a tribal thing.

Teespice:
You are so right. People gossip about others because certain information about the person is out for all to see. Even the ones who are very private, people would still gossip about them.

Thing is, you can't be in that kind of gathering and not be forced to say a few things but it's to be very mindful of what you say so it doesn't backfire. Learnt this the hard way in secondary school.

@bold:

Not necessarily.

Just smile when they talk

pocohantas:
Thank you!! I was already sick and tired of the leave in conditioner talk. I began to think I am not applying right or using a cheap product. So, I bought two more. Glad to know I was right all along - it is not working mehn.

I’ll try this out. Thanks a lot.

Try Mediana Leave In conditioner. I think it is a local brand.

pocohantas:
Cococandy is your hair relaxed? I did the big chop, now grooming it again and it is so strong. Strangely hairdressers claim my hair is soft. Please don’t tell me leave-in conditioner and all that o. I have various products currently.

I don’t know my hair type, but it is deeply curled. Currently stretches to about 4 inches.

Can I do a blowout? I know heat is not good, but mehn, I currently dread making my hair. Considered locking it, but I shelved that.

You can also try the greenhouse effect 2 or 3 times a week: Apply extra virgin olive oil to wet hair and cover with a Plastic cap/nylon etc overnight then apply leave -in conditioner/moisturizer/cream and style in the morning.

It would make your hair much softer over time.

Stargurl20:
Is it advisable for a lady of maybe 25 years to leave home immediately after NYSC just to save her self from foreseen pressures? I'm still an undergraduate. Will be round off in less than a year by the grace of God and may ASUU not embark on another strike. I've been thinking a lot these days, and I'm just not confident enough to face any pressure from families especially after NYSC.

To those who left home after NYSC, with no hope of where to go, how to start or what to do, were you able to scale through? Did you regret your decision?


Pls, share your experiences, especially if you are a lady who has experienced this. Thank you

Do you think familiar pressure to get married (if it comes) is worse than pressure to sustain yourself without a source of income?

Don't throw unnecessary spanners into your life's journey.

Some detours are very difficult to right.

peacettw:
Any woman banking on love as a key factor to sustain her marriage is simply delirious.

My advice is to handle your marriage as you would a business, with a great deal of tact and very little emotions.

Eziokwu!

Emperor88:
So it is better to have children you can not take care of? It is better to be in a marriage even when there is no love? It is better that our population keep growing and keep producing criminals in the name of marriage? Do you know Japan have one of the highest average lifespan of over 80 years compared to Nigeria 56? Please even if you have children, will they stay with you forever? And who told you Nigerians are happier than Japanese? You people will just open mouth as if you don't have sense.

Japan also has one of the highest suicide rates in the world.

And only very few people are so poor in Nigeria that they can't support one child.

Rather than demonize marriage and child bearing, teach people to choose better and have the no of kids they can support.

planetx:
There are no opportunities for an African in Japan, don't go and fix your country always looking for where to offload your excess population.

As in.

Such a sad mentality.

dfrost:


Not a problem. Let them make their decision as it suits them. All I see is opportunity. Low birth rate in a country equals labour shortage as the article also agrees same.

Brethen, brace yourselves up for opportunities in Japan.

And what kind of opportunities do you think would exist for majority of the non-nationalities?

Praktikals:
More and more men are getting to realise that marriage na scam.

More like the women's realization in the OP.

GeneralPula:
Nature doesn’t understand English..

You’ll always miss the feeling of not having that special one regardless of how strong minded you’re !

It’s natural..

Or a special family like convents, cults, monastery etc.

Botking:
Dey don't want to marry, but dey like to fvck, lol, the only thing their government can do to remedy the declining factor is to ban contraceptive

Well at the end of the day Indian and other people will take over their country, and their heritage will goes unto oblivion

Did we read the same article?

Or did you miss the part that says some men have not found a girl they like enough to marry because they have never dated before?

If extramarital sex is very common, there would be increased birthrate due to increased unwed mothers.

10mobile:
This isn't about women. It's about SINGLES (men and women).

I wonder how he read the shortest article ever and still got it all twisted up.

From the article, the men even be easier to convince than the women.

With better jobs, some of the 25% unwillingly to marry would become willing.

VeryWickedMan:
Gazzuzz is now a marriage mechanic.

GeneralPula:
Believe it or not, no human can feel complete and fulfilled all alone. Everybody needs somebody. That’s how nature structure it..

Threesha:
If you are interested in getting someone and you are 30 years and above kindly send me a mail via my profile using these format
Name
Age
Location
Occupation
Genotype
Blood group
What you seek
Contacts details
Pictures &
Social media handles (please � I wouldn't not entertain "am not a social media person) you MUST be on at least one social media platform

Kindly note it would be posted on newspaper and announced on radio stations

For serious minded individuals

Thank you

Hahahahahaha

This sounds so funny!

DadaHammed:
Na as you keep your market na him people go take buy. Money rules everything in the books of the corrupt Nigeria Police and Army. They are slaves to it without shame.

The Chinese man can't buy flimsy constable in Rwanda, they are not rich but they are unwavering in principle. Go figure!

Very true.