₦airaland Forum

JeffreyJunior:
Married men especially the ones with kids should spend less time at the gym and help out more at home.

The man deserves to go hungry or better still upgrade his gym membership to cover his dinner since the gym is his first home.

There can't be two adults at home and only one will be sweating on home chores.

This is my two cents and anyone who doesn't feel alright about it should not attack me but please remain single.

@bold:

Good gesture.

Take it a notch higher by getting him a gift he really needs/wants.

You Iive with him so would know that.

pansophist:
Sweet. Let me add to this.

A sense of belonging, closer to family and friends, no psychological burden of being racially conscious (eg not doubting if you couldn't get a job/house/partner because of your race).

social know-how (you know someone that knows someone that can help you get something done), your type is the default (eg the president, governor/soldier looks and talk like you).

No romantic visibility (immigrants are typically romantically invincible), not being too self-aware (also known as "double consciousness" by the legend psychologist Web du Bois), no racism.

Home may be bad, but it's not hell. Moving abroad is just transition from one difficulties to another, so pick your poison and carry with grace the one you can bear.

@bold:

Very well said.

This life na wa.

Cuppy is acting like a good wife material na war because na Oyinbo.

If she says she can't cook until the ring, wahala.

Except the guy has a public track record of irresponsibility, I don't see what the hullabaloo is about.

Keep flexing baby girl o jare.

Hope the food was nice

StrongAlphMale:
A man gains absolutely nothing from Marriage. women gains so much from marriage. Women only get married to your money, the moment you're getting broke or she's sees another source of income she'll divorced and dump you ASAP,

All the good things you've done for a woman expires immediately another man shows up in her life. Know this and know peace

@bold:

Yet you collectively shame women into marriage (with men) and remarry as soon as the first wife is dead/divorced/separated.

For a gender that benefits nothing from marriage, you are so invested and invested on marriage.

Perhaps you all are masochists.

With all the resources available to him, he settled for a fake woman?

Is he a fake man or gay?

Money cannot buy class/taste sha.

creatorsverse:
Once women start to make money, dey no longer endure

What do you want them to endure?

pdppower:
Only God knows the type of sand he used to create us Africans. Or else, why do we completely different mentality from the whites?

Hahahahahaha!

Solofresh2:
How can you have different opinions and ideology with your partner and you are calling it marriage
I mean how do your marriage want to last long when you have a different opinion with your partner

Couples don't have differing opinions?

cybriz82:
France represent africa which is why aav always wanted them to win... Coach wud av allow griezman n co play on second half..they all tried duh.

@bold how?

It's like saying Moroccans represented Arabians.

And Argentina did it!

Messi my Messi!

The Team put up a great fight

Reussite:
It’s so refreshing seeing the noisy Moroccans in the stadium looking downcast & quiet.
Rubbish & ingredients!! they want to play on the big stage with the big boys.
See them crying

What a strange post!

The Moroccans that has won an additional slot for Africa in the next competition.

You have issues with African competing on global stage?

Very strange sentiments.

Kubernetes:
Well , no qualms.
It's still Africa that won with the so many blacks in France team

Which Africa?

No matter the delusions, the France Team are French & the Moroccan Team Africans and not Arabs.

pocohantas:
Lol. Buka is in utopia.

How many security men does an average private school have? Abi you think say na Atlantic Hall?

They can be two or three na.

I just think it is off to be the gateman.

skentelelady:
Thank you. Negligence of parents nor emotional needs of a child had nothing to do with financial status

Quite a number do not understand because they are still in survival mode where money seems to be everything.

Marshmallow hierarchy of needs.

ahnie post 118913483: Welcome back iya wa.

Na real iya wa.

Thanks

Truvelisback:
Women labours too, but can still find time to cook. There are women who do wake up as early as 4am to prepare meal b4 going to work. If a working class woman can do that, how much more a full housewife. What is she doing there? Is she just there to produce babies and gossip around the neighborhood?

Do you think it is normal or ideal for a working wife to wake up 4am everyday to cook?

When does she sleep?

@Other parts of your post: I see. You were actually directing your topic to housewives. Yes, they expected to be available to cook more often.

BigBashiru:
Young girls aren't asked wat they bring to d table....its only older women that are asked that and the guy spends his moni on younger women (side chicks)...its nature...is cos the ladies in question hv started losing their attractiveness that they are asked "what do you bring to the table"

This is well, another perspective.

Parizz:
good morning ma, i have sth to discuss with you

You have my attention

DaInferno:
Tough one

My questions are thus:
1. Why didn't you arrest the rapist as well?
2. What exactly are you offended at your wife for?

Do you really think it's divorce worthy?!
She isn't the rapist.

@bukatyne needs to see this

What do I need to see here mbok?

Foodie1:
because most of the hook up girls I know, used to wear it. The worst is leg chain and nose ring , I hate seeing it.

You know a lot of hookup girls?

Hello hookup boy, how are you?

Richy4:
100% YES.. I am..
I learned from childhood what Christian means... Christ-like... So I am always bold to say that I am...
What will Jesus do?

What does the Bible say about homosexuality?

@topic:

Depends on my mood and interest at that time.

Richy4:

You see gay topics, I scroll and pass. ... Many Nigerians makes it look like those people have Ebola... And they are not human..The way they talk about them on Nigerian social media,... if u haven't seen one before, u might think that they have horns

There are few in our organisation both males and females.. I have had conversations with one.. I worked on a project with him as part of 5man team for our company ...

I discovered first hand that he is a good man character wise... Just the way some of us are...
But where do you start from to tell a righteous Nigerian citizen, who is 'working hard' to make heaven that a 'hell bound' guy like that is good?... Even saying it will sound like it was an airborne disease that might turn them into it ..

@bold:

Are you are a Christian?

Truvelisback:
Most men are very busy labouring endlessly to make ends meet and they may not have that chance to do the cooking.

And the women are not labouring too?

Or the insane work hours men have, women don't have too?

Kollins11:
I no like to dey brag for social media. Come and see my real doings by yourself in reality.

However, I will continue to see Nigerians girls as sex slaves and sex objects till I die. Nothing good can come out from a Nigerian liability dirty hoes.

That gender are all 4th class citizens while animals are 2nd class citizens.. Spits!

@bold:

Tells more about the quality of women around you than Nigerian women.

If you have examples of good women around you, you will automatically know that other families have good women and strive to find the good one fit for you than thrashing 'all women'.

Leave the comfort of your kith and kin so you can see good women.

Ire o!

NigeriaIsGreat:
She didn't chose her father and brothers but she can chose her husband

Very simple

Begobow:
They shouldn't Japan cos you want to keep collecting their tithe

The people who go to her church can afford to pay multiple tithes in different locations.

If I remember correctly, she was/is based abroad before coming to build her mega Church in Nigeria.

@ her sermon/talk: a number of friends have also raised that concern and I have heard some people discouraging peeps from bringing all the family over.

Some reasons include the 'liberal' society, intense pressure from single people of both sexes willing to offer anything for sex and the work style most immigrants adopt before they find their feet.

There is a substance to what she said. It is to find out why and prevent it.

@ OP:

Did she have this conversation with her parents? Are they still alive? How is her life now? Is she still into the lifestyle (sex & drugs) or changed? Is she married? Does she have her kids? Is she now financially independent? Still on food stamps?

No update on her life after Secondary School.

cunny88:
She had a golden opportunity to skul abroad which millions of Nigerian are looking for, she misused it and is looking for an opportunity to apportion blame, ppl like me attended public skuls from primary to university level with very minimal supervision, cos our parents were poor, yet we manage to kip our heads above d water. She is the master or her fate and architect of her misfortune.

Did you read the OP at all?

Even if your parents where poor, were you neglected or treated differently from your siblings?

At least, if you were hungry, you were a hungry together not that all your siblings were eating while you were feeding on air.

Make una dey read to understand.

I would not feel comfortable in your father or uncle's shoes.

It is like a woman employing her sister as a maid or cleaner.

If I were your uncle, I would make your dad the Chief Security Officer in charge of the gate men, security men and general security.

Since he has taken it, the kids have to ignore the mockery of their peers. Unfortunately, both the kids and the peers are not mature.

You said he wants the older kids to be teachers. Well, If they had more decent jobs, he would not offer.

Funny at Family School: the uncle has probably watched too much African Magic

Naijatask:
After reading the comments, I had to woke up my mom from sleep, and told her about the my displeasure on how she handled the situation.

She said her marriage will crash if she were to take an action, and she's also concerned about the future of my sisters if a word were to be led out concerning the issue.

Right now, I'm just confused to be honest, and I also believe that taking the matter to the police station will cause the same issue my mom has been trying to avoid.

Overall, I've definitely decided and know how to deal with the situation. Thank you all for your advices

The bold provides some explanation for the weird reaction to the issue.

Since everyone seems to be roving mad and care more for their reputation than the lives & future of your sisters, can you get all of them to sleep in your room? Or you sleep outside their door? Or they all sleep in one room with the door locked at all times?

I wonder who would protect them when. You go for service.