₦airaland Forum

stedan:
Some people self you just comment to be noticed making emphasis on virginity, this is where the traning comes in parents of boys should train them well so that our daughters will go out without being raped or cajole into premarital sex. If you are training your daughter to keep her virginity and your next door neighbor is seeing her as a prey to feed on what is the essence. Most of this teenagers that are sexually active today may not have been if the society will wake up and invest the same energy the use to tell the female gender to close their legs and tell the boys to Zip up.

fawaz050:
This matter is delicate, but the answer to it is simple. The root solution is to imbibe the fear of God in them from their crawling days.

I know of a boy born in 2009. Whenever he lies, his mom reminds him of what Allah said about the liars in the Qur'an and he starts crying � and begging his mom to help him seek forgiveness. His mum would say you need to seek forgiveness yourself then he does ablution start praying and making funny prayer points. If he doesn't want to pray, his mom reminds him of what was said about people who don't pray and he runs after us to the Masjid.

In addition, She does a lot of Positive reinforcement. For instance, she might say you are a good boy, right? Good boys don't play rough and he would stay quiet. She asks him his role model and gets him to imitate his role model after watching him on YouTube.

The outcome of all of that is wonderful. This boy is so modest, shy, upright. I pray God continues to guide him. I know all that seemed Islamic but I believe it can work with other beliefs too.

My point is - Inculcating the dear of God in children goes a long way.

NoToPile:
Ermm let the bolded be virginity of both boy and the girl that are to be married.



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KennethEnyi:
No they were created to serve men
Simple

Cypress042:
This is their new format to get ladies attention, preach and glorify them, then see your small church boom within five days.

Woman

God1000:
He's a joker, I've seen hardworking women who are the breadwinners in their families

InvertedHammer:
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The economy no support dating. Buy wholesale and deal with the repercussions if any.

You waste money and time dating...then one smooth-talker will arm twist you .

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Fuckyoumod:
Before our time, we had women of pride. They were reserved with dignity and some sense of responsibility for their husbands only.
Nobody count.

They were well groomed, virgins,respectful, caring, less dramatic, loyal to the core and hard working. They were Mentally, sexually, emotionally, psychologically and morally intact. At most 21 years they are married.

Back in the days you don't need to date them before marrying them. Because they were pure and undiluted it was the responsibility of any fortunate or lucky man that marries them to dilute them. So when they are married they are married.

But today, what we have are boreholes, loose girls, runs girls, sex tools, slay queens, drama queens, sex for money, very irresponsible set of things. No dignity, no value, heavily dependent on you, no respect, disloyal and poorly groomed.. what we have now are morally, psychologically, emotionally and sexually battered women littering everywhere... body count na no go area.

They don't need to be rewarded with marriage. But if you must reward them with marriage, you must date them for a very long time to be able to know them inside and outside. Else you go cry later!

No wonder at 25yr - 30yr they are still I'm their parents houses causing problem[/b]s.

[b]Don't let anybody deceive you to marry a stranger. Na you go regret, no be your pastor or your adviser.

Never make the mistake.

Helpout12345:
I am sorry to say this.

Only a decent man deserves a decent woman to marry.

If you lead a wayward life as a man, you deserve to marry a wayward woman because I don't know who you think should marry those you helped to damage.

Munzy14:
A woman is the centre of the marriage..She keeps home.

If she fails, the home has failed to stand.

Newborn27:
The problem about Nairaland men is generalization...... you kept putting all the blame on women.....there are millions of ladies out there that still maintain proper African woman virtues as you disclaimed ...but what did they get in return? Abuses all around..... such ladies are tortured by men taking their choice of being an original african woman for granted.




I'm a living example of such women..... although I'm not legally married.....but there's nothing I haven't done for the past 10yrs to keep a home....I shoulder responsibilities, made huge sacrifices .... lost a child and almost died.,... yet my commitment and sacrifices are being rewarded with abuses..... despite the numerous abuses.....I stood my ground never to cheat despite having all that it takes to cheat.



All the reasons I read on daily basis why people divorce kept me thinks I deserve honorary award for all I've been doing.....many ladies are not ready to suffer with guys again cos your gender don't appreciate such ladies...... they now go for already made guys and can't endure little trouble cos of the people's stories they've heard and seen in the past. the major thing is..... finding a soulmate is the key in marriage....a committed spouse will remain committed.. come what may.... while a traitor will remain the same.



"Ba gunyan ninu odo, ti a sebe ninu epo epa....eni toma yo a yo"

Konjiboii:
It will still get worse,not until this women folk admit to drop their shoulders down and accept their roles and be submissive. I doubt we still have women out here that still maintain the proper African woman virtues. The powers that be have finally succeeded in enslaving all Africans mentally before the proper war begins.

1Sharon:
How can a student have dependents? Such a stupid UK policy.

nahzyla:
How old is the Op's wife?
She behaves like a thoughtless child, imagine adding another man to listen to a personal call with your husband without telling the husband himself, where is the loyalty she is supposed to have in marriage? She just embarrassed her spouse and made him look stupid to another man.
And she is still relating with the guy and telling her husband to help him even when she knows the man has his eyes on her.

I wish you good luck ooo, Op. Sorry to say but you need to be very smart with her in your marriage after you get to UK.

Focusmind:
Oyibo and simplicity

Call one Nigeria interior decorator now, she/he would occupy those spaces with fugly looking heavy sofas and thick dinning table, wall papers and heavy curtains. We still have lots to learn from these people. They always have class of touch in all their works, especially the artisans. Their finished work is always superb. I love my interior to have lots of space. Not occupy everywhere with furniture

CrisNews:
"I Wants A Broke Guy, Rich Men Are Arrogant", Says A Lady Looking For Poor Guy

https://pejoweb.com/articles.php?epr=view&pagename=1666769763quotIWantsABrokeGuyRichMenAreArrogantquotSaysALadyLookingForPoorGuyCrisben.html

Medianna:
Its like this sister is yet to meet the broke and arrogant ones.
If a rich guy is arrogant,it might be understandable but those broke and arrogant guys,,, i wonder what they'll look like when small small change begins to flow into their hand.
No wonder God extend their period of being broke so they can learn small lessons.

virginprincess:
Nigeria men can never be understood,if she says she wants a rich guy you men will call her gold digger now she wants a poor guy yet this one is saying nonsense .

thesicilian:
She should come to Nairaland

1Sharon:
Why is she revealing this? To pander to black people?


Mixed ppl are not your friends!

Persephone1:
Trouble in the Chan's family

thorpido:
He should be executed.He's useless to the society.

Lilosio:
I saw this same news far back 2018.. why is it up again?

Don't forget that her mum is a beauty queen and a celebrity too..

I guess a reason for her being homeless might be her gay decision.. just my assumption though..

Maybe this article might help you guys understand het situation better..

https://www.google.com/amp/s/amp.scmp.com/magazines/style/celebrity/article/3184065/who-jackie-chans-estranged-daughter-etta-ng-chok-lam-love

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