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wany:
Hypocrite but a woman can handle with no qualms right.he should manage her forgive and build his home,no where is better. Put her in prayers he will one day smile.

At the end of the day, continuing the marriage with a cheating spouse is the decision of the offended spouse.

There is no one stopping women from walking away if their husband cheats.

I see a lot of 'women forgive/continue, why can't men forgive/continue'?

Well, it is their decision to/not to.

Besides, women walk out too (if they want to).

arabbunkum:
I'm codedly courting both of them.
I know them deeply and they both have pretty good visions.

How can you codedly court someone?

Is courting a one way thing?

Based on your coded courting, choose however codedly meet your standards.

As others have advised, end your codedly relationship with the older lady; you are not attracted to her and would start feeling you are doing her a favour.

ahnie:
Hahahaha you again .
Always appearing from nowhere lolzzzz

arabbunkum:
It's all about settling down. I have two options.
1. A lady of about 32yrs, working (nurse). Unattractive but with good character and very independent.

2. A lady of 24yrs, student (HND 1), young and BEAUTIFUL. Good character and hardworking/hussling spirit.

NAIRALANDERS, rescue me o!

How do you have two women?

Did you court the both of them?

Do you KNOW the both of them intimately? Their dreams, visions, ideal husband type, the kind of wife they plan to be, vision for family, ideals on child training, ideas on marriage/gender roles, idea on in-laws, ideas on money, idea/attitude on sex, idea on recreation and sooooooooo many other moving parts of marriage?

Or is it just she is fine, she is not fine that you are concerned about?

ahnie:
Just like that?
Owkay awon feminist please welcome me aboard.

You know I will always fight for Papa Zino abi?

Feminism ko, Chemisism ni

Konquest:
Hi Bukatyne, you indicated in the
post that you are not a fan of huge
age gaps. What "huge age gaps" are
you talking about here?

What happened to attraction and real love without society putting
labels on age gaps between a man
of 47 and a younger woman of 27/28?

... Or like the ones in the pic below.

Cheers.

Everyone as they like it.

As for Bukatyne, she is not a fan of huge age gaps.

@OP:

Heard of this trend for a while, might not be as prominent as claimed though.

Social Justice Warriors and Animal Rights Activists:

Is this not animal abuse though? Or do the animals give consent?

When I read men arrested for sleeping with goats and all sorts of animals ( ) shouldn't these women be arrested?

Or is it more of a case that they have not been caught?

Nkan be!

Darlingme:
They're both menbers of living faith church.

Most pentecostal churches would do what is known as vestry wedding or marriage blessing.

They can join/wed/bless them in the Pastor's office with family & friends present.

After that, they can have a reception as big as they want.

They should also talk to their pastor on the options they have.

Goodluck.

jelel6:
I wonder why you were so afraid?

Begging, trowing yourself on the floor without being charged is pathetic. At least, wait till your accuser is being unreasonable before you start trading whatever is left of your dignity.

I can only imagine what positives, if any, your interviewers can see in your handling of the situation.

The OP has shown good emotional intelligence and ability to deescalate situations.

Who knows if the Major was thinking of 'dealing' with him beforehand?

Humility is a virtue.

The OP did not leave his chest on the floor nor did it stop him from getting his masters/or any other achievements he has thereafter.

Emmanuel909090:
Most women are selfish and self centered, they want you to keep doing but find it diffcult to do for you.

Not all, but most.

Interesting.

I believe you are male and subscribe to the traditional model of husband provide & wife chores.

Can you as a husband continue to provide fully and do most/all of the chores while your wife is at home?

I want a yes or no?

JESHAL:
Men rarely disrespect women, the issue is that most people see women's submission as disrespect and a man can't tolerate a woman who won't defer to his authority, no man wants an headache

Hahahahahahaha hahahahahahah

JESHAL:
She must still maintain her traditional responsibilities of taking care of the home and nurturing children, the man must immediately go and look for work opportunities, he must not sit jobless and expect his wife to respect him and fulfil her wifely duties

Hahahahahaha!

When someone marries a church goer in the name of 'I married a Christian'

Please read 1 cor 13 v 1 - 8 and tell us if it aligns with your thought process above.

I am assuming you go to church because you are attempting to explain what headship means in the Bible.

While you are reading that passage, please point out the Bible passage that says a husband should not do chores at home (forget his financial status now).

Romanoff:
That's why a lot have their manhood tied to their pockets. The moment they don't have money, small talk wey their wife go talk, they will conclude it's because they are broke.

If your wife only submits to you cause you're older than her or cause you're the bread winner, that is not a marriage but a master and slave relationship.

When the tide turns, that woman will treat you the exact way you treated her.

Frame worthy post.

Kobojunkie:
Are you serious with the statement in bold?
Financial management skills now tied to gender?

Follow the convo to understand the context of his statement.

He said a lot of women move from their parents' home to their martial home hence they have never been in charge of bills or financial management.

Hence the statement you highlighted.

In that context, it makes sense that most women with that experience need a while to learn how to manage money.

PrimadonnaO:
Not every woman is cantankerous and unreasonable.

These are the things people should look out for during courtship.

How willing is she to spend her own money on things other than her personal needs?

Are there situations where she can sort out certain bills, but she always waits for you to sort them out?

These are some of the attitudes that will tell if she can ever man the home during your temporary downtime...
And her attitude while at it ...
***************************
Problem is people don't date intelligently.

There's an intentionality with which relationships should be journeyed. Look out for signs! Imagine scenarios. Be sure you're compatible.

Romanoff:
Like I said, they are my friends. Very decent Christian family with lovely, and well brought up kids.

One of the families I admire when it comes to Christian values and child upbringing.

@bold:

What do you except?

Jesus Christ that temporarily sacrificed his glory and used his life as bride price still washed the feet of his disciples & cooked for them.

A man that paid N20 as bride price and cannot save a fly will carry hand with 1,000 shoulderpads and cross his legs.

When they say don't be unequally yoked with unbelievers (including church goers), e get why.

Both parties will place their egos and cultural beliefs under the commandments of Christ.

I like the humour of the Police

Eromedic:
Beautiful Nigerian lady causes a scene at an eatery after her boyfriend whom she dated for complete five good years dumped her at an eatery.

According to the beautiful lady ,she said she have known him for the past 5years of her life instead of him to her since that he will not marry her and he waited for 5years before telling her that he don't want again.

The lady who could not bear the heart break decided to create a scene at the eatery while her friends video them.The boyfriend was telling them to stop recording them.

"Some men are really wicked oo".

Watch Full Video
https://www.moneymoves.com.ng/2021/09/lady-causes-scene-at-eatery-after-her.html

Why would he end the relationship in a public place though?

What happened to inviting her to a private place) his house and he ends the relationship in a mature manner?

Even if she was going to throw tantrums or display due to the hurt, it would be private & no one disgraced.

TMKsouth:
South Africa-based pay TV operator MultiChoice has launched a broadband offering.

The company says that the new service, DStv Internet, will provide internet access to those who do not have access to fibre services.

It said that the move to bring more value to customers and diversify its offering was part of its ongoing evolution from a traditional video entertainment business.

MultiChoice delivers pay TV services DStv, GOtv and Showmax to more than 20 million households across 50 countries in Africa.

DStv Internet is a fixed wireless access service, enabling customers to connect to the internet with a SIM card and Wi-Fi router – an option designed for those who do not have fibre in their area but want to access the internet regularly using various devices in their home.

Customers can choose from three data packages, for 25GB, 110GB, and 220GB. DStv customers can choose from bundled offerings that include data options with their DStv subscription package.

The DStv Internet offering also includes an exclusive new premium service called DStv Trusted Home, an AI-driven (artificial intelligence) network security and Wi-Fi management solution developed jointly by MultiChoice’s digital platform security subsidiary Irdeto and technology outfit Minim.

As part of the launch of DStv Internet, the first 20 000 customers will receive a free 12-month subscription to the DStv Trusted Home app. After 12 months, customers will have the chance to opt-out or add a monthly charge of 30 rands (840 naira) to their DStv Internet bill.

“Customer experience is at the forefront of MultiChoice’s continued product innovation. DStv Internet provides South Africans with connectivity for all their household internet requirements, giving them more convenience and choice,” said Nyiko Shiburi, CEO of MultiChoice South Africa.

https://www.multichoice.com/media/news/multichoice-expands-its-offering-launches-dstv-internet

Ona kan o woja

The market has more than one route

DSTV has added a route to grow their revenue.

Emotional answer to an emotional question

PuZZyNegro:
I am happy for you. Can I ask the tribe you're from?

Your story sounds similar like mine, but unlike you, I moved to Lagos.

You're a girl so don't care much about heavy investments like owning a car or building a house thus the reason you can split your earnings to have over 70k in giveaway (parents, siblings, tithe).

A man will definitely spend differently.

As for @chatinent trying to sell upwork training tutorial here, tell them the truth that they need to know.

Getting approved upwork account is not a guarantee for anything. Freelance space is already saturated and takes a lot to break through now than it was some years back.

I started freelancing in 2016 and I work mainly on Fiverr. Only managed to get one job on upwork and even after getting a five stars rating from the client, nothing else yet since that time.

@bold:

You don't see ladies around you doing the above?

Besides, why should the OP who works from home and is an introvert in her words buy a car in Osogbo?

[quote author=BabyGhoul post=106137183][/quote]Lovely lovely lovely

Seun ought to collect tithe from you, NL has really been helpful

Enjoy yourself.

BabyGhoul:
I am not spending all. I cannot be saving at my age. Investment na the koko. Thanks for reading

@bold:

I am sure there is a 'not' in white font there

Davash222:
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A girl with over 300 body count wants a guy with body count less than 5


What do we call this now

Are you part of the 300?

Omicron007:
I have heard about Body Counts before but I did not think it was that serious until I met one girl recently.
She wanted something serious between us but she said she can't date me unless my Body Count is less than 5.

For some who haven't come across the term before.
Simply put, body count is the number of people you have had sex with. It does not matter how intimate the make out was, or how much stuff you have done with someone, if there hasn't been penetration, it does not count as sex in this context.

Body count here refers only to the number of people you have had penetrative sex with.

So my question is this.
Is it necessary to know your partner's body count?
Do you know your Body Count?

It would take you less time to tell her your body count than open this thread.

Abi you be brolosho aka cheerful giver?

If I know the girl, I would just advise that she doesn't tell guys her cut off mark going forward

ahnie:
Plus your caterer mum right?
Stupid dirty thing.

Hahahahahaha @stupid dirty thing.

Ekejoestar:
You ended up not making any meaningful contribution to the topic at hand

According to who?

A woman is an adult person who was BORN with female sex organs.

Abeg, woke people should jump and pass. God created human beings male & women.

Keep your LGBTQ~ to yourselves.

A woman has several roles/hats she would wear in her lifetime and required different competences to nagivate them.

One of these roles (a wife which you have defined with some reservations) is not enough to define womanhood.

This is only a woman in relation to her husband which still needs scrutiny.

Stereotypes and generalizations only make sense when it is peculiar to the group you are referencing.

E. G. Men are physically stronger than women; women spend more time grooming than men etc.

While there might be outliers, the above is generally true.

For the cliche 'women are their worst enemies' to be true, it would mean that men don't offend men, men don't offend women and women don't offend men.

That everytime there is a crime/offense in the world, it is MOST LIKELY woman on woman crime or offense.

We both know the above is not true so the OP topic doesn't make sense.

@OP: the streets are not smiling and with the increased 'freedom' around, we are starting to see the 'benefits'.

siofra:
Lalasticlala move my thread to FrontPage everyone needs to see this scam called DNA test being pushed by Nigerian men.

If Nigerian men could bring another woman's child into marriage without their wives knowing, they would have started doing it since 15 B.C.E

#youwillnotconductdnatestonmychild.

The OP does not deserve a mention.

It is this post for me:

@bold:
I want to assume that you think paternity fraud is ok because Nigerian men brings their kids into the home without their wives knowledge.

Let's assume the above is true (which is rare because he would have to present the kid as his brother's/uncle's bla bla bla):

1. The woman KNOWS that the child is not hers so she is not deceived to invest emotional/financial/physical labour if she doesn't want to. What she does, she knows she is doing for another woman's child and stories of relatives maltreated by the women abound. (Outside the scope of discussion)

2. While the pregnancy is ongoing, the wife does not invest in the pregnancy (emotional/physical/financial) because they husband doesn't bring the pregnancy home.

Whereas, when a woman brings another man's child home:

1. The husband at home THINKS it is HIS child and invests heavily on him/her

2. Bears the emotional, physical and financial cost of the pregnancy. He is rubbed stomach at 2am, going to traffic light to buy Amala with three days ewedu at 10pm, he has sold his car for CS, he has dipped his hands in hot water to massage her tummy,, he sold his best shoe for baby dedication, he endured whatever habits and quirks the pregnancy brought.

3. Pregnancy AFFECTS a woman's body and the husband THINKING the pregnancy is his decided to continue to love version 2.0 of the woman. The increased stretch marks, the added weight, the tummy and every other changes the pregnancy caused.

4. When the child is born, the man THINKING the child is his does everything possible a human father can do to make him/her a rounded child and compete with his peers.

I find it ironic that instead of calling out men on their bad behaviours, modern feminists use that as a justification of their own bad behavior and yet still complain about men

You think sleeping around is ok because men do it; Y is ok because they do it bla bla.

Apparently, you'll don't hate oppression; you hate that you are at the receiving end of it.

Not to worry, you are same with your evil twin: The Redpill; just flip the genders.


P.S.:
I really want to believe you all are trolling when you and everyother female moniker on this site and on other platforms equate paternity fraud to man having kids outside.

Because if you really believe both scenarios are same, we are in for it.

That brand of stupid is like Zee World; extraordinary everyday!