₦airaland Forum

Konquest:
Aha! Alright then... Lol. 5 years
max is consistent with females
who got married in their 20s...
That "strong desire" for different
aspects of youthfulness.

Ladies in their late 20s to 30s
would most def choose an age
gap of 5 to 20 years for men
who they respect, men who
are adventurous, and who
they are attracted to!

Hand on! You used "kwa" up
there. Are you Ibo-speaking?
I've seen you chip in a couple
of Yoruba words over the
years in your posts, so I kinda assumed you're from the
S/West.

Signing off.

I am a Nigerian

Some young girls like them old.

SeeHim:
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Ha!

Thank God for protection.

This was a very close shave

pansophist:
Rubbish. Total, arrant, rubbish.

Using your logic, Nigeria is 50% men, how many women are electric pole climbers, shit packers, truck drivers, thief catchers, bricklayers, panel beaters, cow killers and more ? All my life, I've never seen women do these jobs. A question for you Mr equality, do you know any women that applied for these jobs that was rejected? Just one?

One more thing to add, the Scandinavia is praised as being the region on earth where gender equality is a reality of life. The government in Sweden comprises of women mostly even, just go to youtube and search for "Swedish House of assembly", its mostly women. Still, women don't do this jobs. Infact it is proven that the more equal a society becomes, then the work disparity widens.

Men still earn more than women everywhere because men do the jobs women don't want to do. Everywhere, there are advertisement about recruiting more women in STEM fields, but few applies. Now put advert about models needed, then it would be filled with women. The failure to accept that men and women are not the same, and also do not want the same thing is the basis for expecting 50/50 everywhere.

Nonsense

Posts like the one you responded to gets very irritating fast.

@bold: a very nice point.

If the most 'equal' society still has these disparities, isn't it common sense to conclude that men would naturally default to some things while women would naturally default to others because they are different?

Isn't it common sense to realize that me & women don't want same things?

Ask the women wailing how they are marginalized or how many of them have been stopped from doing the things they list, everyone would be MIA.

Open the presidential slot for Nigeria today and say only interest would make you win; more men than women would still indicate interest.

Infact, many women who have the opportunity to write their names WOULD write their husband's names and dream how their first lady office would be.

Men and Women are NOT SAME and DO NOT WANT same things.

There can be equal opportunities (which has been achieved largely in Nigeria); there WILL never be equal outcomes.

I will exempt the North because they have a more complex problem; when you talk of child marriage for the girls, you are talking Alimanjri and child soldiers/banditry for the boys.

The OP has listed his points; those who feel women are marginalized should counter his points logically.

PrimadonnaO:
Enlighten the good people of Nairaland then.

What are the real issues around women marginalisation today?

laiperi:
I did it all for older and younger siblings.

The same with a friend of mine. He hated washing dishes.

Guess what? He went to America, got married and became the dish washer in the house.

Remag666:
No difference btw rules and chores for naija family try missing one and you'll know it's a rule not even a house chore

AbdulAkpan:
you nailed it bro. This is exactly what I am passing through. My wife is a Feminist, always willing and ready to shout at me. Sometimes, she goes physical.

The day her cup will full, she will look up the meaning of Regrets in an Encyclopedia.

Instead of waiting for her cup to be full, why don't you address issues as they come especially if you want a good marriage?

And didn't you know she was a feminist before you married her??

Emperormartin:
I was watching a football game in a viewing center and decided to come back home after first half to take a cup of water and lo! I was presented with the news that my sick uncle has passed away right there in our house.

I was summoned to go call the ambulance and on my return a chunk group of wailers have gathered at our house.

When the ambulance left with the body to the mortuary I immediately went back to the match I was watching to complete my second half amidst the wailing and crying. I didn’t drop a tear. Even some niggas were asking me in the viewing center why some people gathering and crying in our compound I just replied curtly “my uncle died but I need to focus on this match”

Till today that act I pulled still surprises me and the said man was a good uncle to me.

Anyway, I mourned him on his burial day.

So what’s the weirdest act you’ve pulled that surprised you?

It is possible you were in shock and his death had not sunk in.

Iyaebe:
You better go for vitafoam since we all know you are not good in bed,leave mouka foam for guys who can do their bedroom work very well,don't make mouka foam scarce for them.kikikikiki

Ki re?

crackhaus:
I just dey look you with one eye...

Anyhow though, your post is quite understandable given that you're more of a traditional woman in words, actions, and overall philosophy.

If I see statements like the above coming from our beloved pseudo-feminists and faux-modern women, I start laughing at the joke on reflex.


BTW, what did you mean by women developing men?

Are you referring to the generation of our mothers, or this modern set of over-entitled snowflaked wig-wearing social media addicts?

Should I lend you my glasses?

Women developing men no ni.

The women might get better jobs so groom the men to get top jobs, revamp his carriage, his spiritual life etc. etc.

The OP fall hand jare.

I think it was just a sexual relationship that progressed into marriage.

angelfallz:
The bolded,
How would you do all that walking around and still have energy to cook when you get home? Me I'm in and out, and I don't cook on the day I go to the market.

Sometimes I cook same day, sometimes I don't.

I don't see walking around the market as a chore so I am not mentally tired.

Konquest:
@Bukatyne
You're dodging the specifics that I wanted you to give me here... LOL.

What's your "ideal age gap?" 5 to 10 years?... Give me the specifics about your ideal age gap. I'm simply curious about your own female logic behind the "man/mate selection" process.

By the way, you've got insightful
posts on your threads. I've been
reading them for some years
now.

Enjoy your day!

Ciao.

Female logic kwa?

Five years max is okay for me.

Thanks on the BTW.

wunmi590:
At least you know how to clean, some slayqueen don't know what it is even called, but they would be the first to request for pounded yam

What is the joy in asking for food I can cook when I have options?

I am not a fan of pounded yam though.

pocohantas:
You are getting me wrong. If one person has to cook, it would most likely be me. Not him. He Nothing wrong with my mindset.



Isn’t it?

I went to night school, I don't even know the definition of sexist

Is it someone who plays se.x?

Sometimes I wonder how these people sleep at night.

These girls have done your country proud and the only thing is to steal their allowances

I think corruption, stealing and other related crimes should have the capital punishment.

descarado:
Do you mind these people, you can never please them. Can't remember the last time I watched nudity, gang related or sex series. Be it music or drama. We can still sieve out the good ones and enjoy. Nudity or sex don't sell in all parts of the world. Mainly USA and Nigeria the copycat is right behind them.
Abi na only USA or so called west have good series or dramas?

Tell them

descarado:
That's shows what you go for on Netflix. If you hadn't been going to 18+ dramas or series, Netflix will not suggest dramas or series similar to what you search or watch. You go for 18 and above, you get 18 and above and you are complaining.

I have never seen nudity or sex in any Netflix series I watch or Netflix suggesting such for me to watch so stop complaining.

wunmi590:
There's nothing bad for men to be in the kitchen...

I don't know how to cook, but believe me house chores, mostly kitchen, I make sure that everything is clean...

One of the things my wife enjoyed about me is, I don't joke with neatness, once she's done in the kitchen, I go inside and learn everywhere up if am around....

Abeg stop chasing your brothers away from the kitchen, even if they don't know how to cook, they should learn how to keep kitchen neat and clean...

I can't pound yam however I am a master mortar cleaner

pocohantas:
If he is a professional or good at it, fine. Most (Nigerian) men are VERY clumsy in the kitchen. They take ages to cut ordinary onions. Mess up the whole place and are totally clueless on how to do many things at the same time in the kitchen. The sight of this infuriates me and I would rather I don’t see such. Not forgetting that the meal would most likely be basic at best.

Sounds sexist, I know. Men feel the same way about female drivers.

I would personally not have a problem with a man not cooking. The problem would be if/when he opens his mouth to say it is below him. Just like the ediot in the OP’s house.

@bold:

Is it sexist though?

Abetterperson:
I respect your opinion. I am going to tell him to be a man and Leave our house because if a man can't provide for himself then what's his purpose

elonmuskbaby:
e be like say she be all this civilised modern day oyinbo mom

Typical African mother go don drag her by her hair and fling her out with cane, broom or water.some go even pour kerosene for her body or soak her clothes inside water and drive her out naked


Fear sef go dey catch the girl to near that house again

The son and the girl are the same.

What son has the guts to bring his girlfriend home daily?

What girl has the guts to keep sleeping in the guy's house after the mom has sternly warned her not to?

It is well.

I believe over pampering played a crucial part in this mess.

The OP is still not seeing that her son is a major problem in this fiasco.

TOPCRUISE:
African Jazz is not in the same circle as Nigerian jazz. Nigerian jazz are mean, powerful and can make a man do the ridiculous.

E say na Nigerian jazz.

elonmuskbaby:
lol be real.what decent girl will allow a man sneak her in at night

The babe is a street girl and the reason why she's polite is because her hand Never touch wetin she dey find

@op when Belle enter her stomach- which is likely her main goal,to send her out wilt be harder and story go change.the people telling you to mind your buisnness Will say shebi you saw when your son was bringing her in,why didn't you do anything about it.by the way,if she sees you're beginning to be a threat to her goal,she will start targeting your husband.street girls are extremely clever,funny and shrewd


Yoruba will say enikan online kerenidi eru e.no matter how small you might be your house is still your house now this is what you should do


Put your feet on the ground and tell her not to enter your house else you will get her arrested and warm your son that if she sneaks the girl in you will chase him out of the house or Remove your hands from his matter.anything him eye sees,he should take it.if you live in an estate,show her picture to the gateman and tell him you don't want to see her in your estate that she's a criminal or prostitute.however you will need to be tipping him whenever you pass the gate.e.g giving him like ₦500 sometimes

This shi*** when it blows,I guarantee you you will be roped in even when you have nothing to do with it

The girl will emotionally blackmail you and threaten you to allow her marry your son. @ wisemum I have experienced something like this so I know what I'm talking about

As in, the OP is still speaking English.

Let belle enter, she and her husband would know how far.

God forbid, something should now happen to the babe.

Iyaebe:
I don't think you are serious to put a stop to it,you are the cause of everything.

The comment I was looking for.

@Madam OP, when you are ready to stop the girl from sleeping in your house, you will.

A lot of things bargained like coins are perishable goods.

I remember when I saw a fish selling crying after sales that she sold at a loss.

My mum used to price like that and I inherited my negotiating skills.

I however try to be very fair and leave little change (N100, N200) for people (especially women ) I buy perishables and other little stuffs from. My 'comma' is that I will walk round the market to find the freshest version of whatever I am buying. So I buy ugwu at Kano, Pepper at Kaduna, crayfish at Oyo, Rice at Lokoja, periwinkle at Lagos etc.

If you follow me to market, you go waka tire. It is also an opportunity for me to see the new fragrance of Morning Fresh, the newest packaging for Blue Band, the revamped version of Dangote Salt etc.

Besides, people willingly buy same goods at a higher price from supermarkets.

Beebah2000:
E good make them dey price, because some sellers sabi cheat person.

Nigerian sellers don suffer for Nigerian mothers hand.

Interestingly, you would pay twice for the same goods in a supermarket.

@Topic:

No straight forward answer.

I would have a problem with it IF the woman did not/wouldn't beat her own children for similar offenses.

If a woman dashed slaps to her kids while they were growing up, I would not be surprised she does same to her helps especially if she sees them as foster kids.

I would only point out other ways she can correct the maid and advise she sends her/him back if there is no meeting point.

EndRape2:
Money without peace ,the old man is done with her, he needed her for popularity ,for his political ambition, he has moved on to the next victim.
She is trapped ,because she can not divource him.









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Regina daniels spends bonding time with her son, munir in London away from her co wife and husband

Regina Daniels is a victim in this case again?

Sonnobax15:

Normally,if na home wey love dey,that one no suppose to be issue because na good news be that.....
But if na home wey love no dey,just know say if you mistakenly make that mistake,na from that day you use your own hand dig your own grave

@bold:

Has closed the thread.

theForth:
Must men do everything for women, chai!

Forget, men dey suffer abeg.

Don't women develop men where you are from?

The husband in this case is the 'enlightened' partner and should have developed the girl to his standard or influenced her to the point she is thirsty for the next level.

She is not even thinking of becoming an auxiliary nurse or chemist to complement her husband.

What were they discussing?

Was marriage even on the table or it just progressed to marriage because they have benn together for 8 years?

Xman12345goat:
Good evening all, I am a medical doctor who just graduated about 5 years ago. I have completed my mandatory one year internship and NYSC program. I now work in a Federal medical Center in the East.

The reason why I created this topic is to seek advice on the risk of getting married into a very poor family. I love my girlfriend Chioma very well. I have been dating her for more than 8 years now and would like to settle down with her. I have met her family and paid her bride price.

The problem here is that she comes from a very poor family. Her dad is late and her mum is a petty trader. She is the first child and has six siblings. She is very beautiful, hardworking, God fearing but not educated. She only completed secondary school. Immediately after introduction, I kind of became the bread winner of her family and had to support in training her younger siblings in school not forgetting that am the first son/child of my own family and I have to cater for my own siblings too.

My mum is now bothered and wants me to call off the wedding and marry someone from a middle income family, at least some one with a degree certificate, am beginning to reason with her because of the nature of our economy, but I love chioma very much and I don't want to disappoint her.

Your situation is a fallout of the confusion we see in marriage roles and traditions today.

In our parents' time, you would not wait eight years before Chioma's poverty becomes uncomfortable for you as the traditional expectation of catering for her family is clear. You also did not develop Chioma to a point she can contribute financially to the family purse or cater for her family without your input.

While you were going to Medical School, what was Chioma doing? What are/were your plans for the future?

As it is, you have paid her bride price hence married to her; you can decide to cut her family off and care for only yourselves (Chioma + future kids) or become the beast of burden for both families.:
> For yours, they trained you and want to reap where they sowed
> For hers, you are their daughter's husband and should bear their burden

In addition to the concern your mom has, she is also protecting her investment (you) so you don't neglect the family and face your in-laws.

Whatever you decide, your story would teach people to count the cost of any venture before they embark on it.

I also hope we will see an end to people having more kids than they can cater for.

Dskillful:
Please don't mind my errors but I need help because I am really confused...

To cut the story short, I dated a girl for 2 years which her family and mine are fully aware, she's an Igbo girl and I am from Rivers State.

2018 I wanted to get married to her all of a sudden her parents refused, they started talking about tribal differences, I told them even my mum is an Igbo woman but they don't want to to listen. It got worst when the Rev. Fr said no they should not allow her marry me because they are Catholic. I felt very bad, but how will I do, I moved on with my life.

That same year they gave her out in marriage to one guy who based abroad, I congratulated her without any grudges. They got married and this year the man died but they have a son, the man has been buried but I still love her and she is willing to come back to me, infact as it stands we are more than lovers.

But I am giving her space so that she will mourn her husband very well and I don't want people to feel I prayed for the man to die so that I can take her back, because she said nothing will stop her this time. My problem now is should I let her go or marry her because I love her so much 100%?

Her parents did not like you/she was not able to convince them while she was still fresh and single.

Have you changed your state of origin or it no longer matters because she is now a widow with a kid?

Bros, have a bit of self respect and know when to walk away.


Before some posters get into a fit, a divorced/widowed person (male or female) is second hand in the market of marriage