₦airaland Forum

ashewoboy:
what is your own take on the topic?

I can't relate.

I have never fancied 'bad boys' as they have nothing to offer me.

wealthtrak:
From a male POV... Well
structured article.

Thanks to 'The Adult Man'.

THUNDER4real:
Walking away is a broad name. It means applying wisdom. You can walk away, invite the security there to intervene or passersby. The more you confront him, the more the tension build.

It is better to explicitly state what walking away means.

The father was the instigator, he should have respected his family and behave properly. What exactly is he teaching his daughters? See how he also disgraced them.

Hopefully, the OP has learnt to involve the security next time such situation occurs.

I am sure the father has also learnt his lessons and would not behave that way again.

mariahAngel:
The question is what are their values?

It is very clear the title was bought.

Toor.

At least, they would have access to Oko Regina's very deep pockets.

butterfly777:
Another popular wrong stereotype is that women (implying that most women) like alpha males/bad boys. Whereas alpha males are just domineering choleric men, who are naturally compatible with gentle phlegmatic females, which explains the attraction both personalities have for each other.

@bold:

Interesting outlook.

Your observation, analysis or you have data to back it up?

If yes, links would be appreciated.

Is she an embodiment of their values?

CsRockefeller:
Always walk away, you don't know the good you are doing to yourself when you do.

Avoid troubles always.

In this situation, how would he have walked away?

I am not supporting violence, I am just intrigued about your solution for the scenario.

MufasaLion:
More reason a man must love with his head and heart at same proportions.

If it were easy, we would not have a plethora of such cases.

I will say choose with your head and love with your heart.

Every one should have value systems and core values they work it which also guide their choice of partners.

Also love your partner as you love yourself.

MufasaLion:
May we never be unfortunate because of people we assumed they loved us.

This I think is the actual prayer.

I watched a story recently that echoed this.

bjprodint1:
For d love of my kids,am ready to sell sex for cash,d hardship is too much 4 dem.pls contact me if intrested or link me up.pls nobody should judge me,i thought living with their father would make d kids happy and stable,but i was wrong.pls contact me,i am in Abuja

If you need cash for sex, there are more chances of you meeting them offline than online except you subscribe to a hookup app/site.

That said, are you saying in the whole wide world, there is no one you can cry to?

No family? friend? church member? neighbour? mosque? association? former colleagues/co-workers/market women/friends etc?

I though you started a booming fruit business a while back?

The thread should have been 'Women! Women!! Women'

To fulfill the three times calling stuff.

If you don't want to help women, don't help them.

Case closed.

phineas:
She has every right to sue them,we will not progress as a nation of we don't challenge these kinds of wrong appropriately to prevent them from happening again

The narcissists that were the teachers abuses their powers,why came a child 20 times for her hairstyle? Btw what's wrong with that hairstyle set,it's quite nice,but then it's ekiti

Sue them under child abuse laws,open a go fund me page for the girl and let Nigerians get her a better school

Ekiti people we see you,backward set of aggressive people nonsense

But the father brought Police men to beat the teachers, not so?

The School should counter sue them.

Depressed101:
Ohhhh. What a time to be alive... So wowww

As innnnnnn............

crafteck:
Been hit by the realisation that no matter how hard you try legally as an average Nigerian you can never make it

What kind of defeatist attitude is this?

Fountainofyouth:
I'd rather you locate the boy's parents and offer to sponsor his schooling up to tertiary education, that would be putting a good use of your seatrade money, don't you think so, my Christian brother

Mbanu, it would not work with these people except he pays for the fees directly and the boy stays far away from them.

They see nothing wrong with their circumstances; you are the one pitying them.

And they have crab mentality: they rather drag you down to their level than let you pull them up to yours.

WoundedLamb:
That's actually a figurative statement. If hitting kids with rod makes them better adults, Africa would have been producing the best humans. I believe a child raised without being hit like an animal has a higher tendency of being honest, open and compassionate.

You have gone an extreme to prove a point.

Not all parents hit their kids like animals; some beat their kids with love and explain why they have done so.

I am not saying the Nigerian way of child upbringing is totally right: Nigerian parents punish their kids.... They don't set clear expectations, train them on what to do, engage them to understand their personality or reward good behavior enough and they can pick that from this article and do better.

Don't mean they have to discard flogging in love when necessary.

We can read people's good points to add to ours instead of throwing ours away like zombies.

blackboy:
You spoke of your wife as an incapable person : she cant walk or locate anywhere in Nairobi ( a 36 years old woman ) . She is a housewife, she could not have thought of going to the USA.. I guess you treated and looked at your wife as a second class being and thought it normal as an African man.
Guy, fear women. When you underestimate them you are planning your doom.
I know of a husband that maltreats his wife for over a decade and they day she left him he was shocked. She also travelled to a far away city and when he found out he called her and the most annoying part was he said he has never wronged her or done her any harm. A man that throws his wife out and beats her.
Guy tell yourself the truth, you messed up. Blame yourself not her family.
The USA embassy wont be able to help you . You reporting her she will seek asylum from you and tell them what will make them never allow you get a US visa.
Move on. She might change her mind and come back to you if you truly change but ....
Be a better man lesson learnt

Hmmmmmmmm.

No in-law (except a bad one) would accommodate their married daughter for months because of normal couple's fight without seeking a resolution.

No husband (except a bad one) would abandon a wife he loves and kids at her family house over a 'small' fight.

It is either the wife's family is bad or the husband is bad. Given the account of the husband, I would wager it is the later.

The husband thinks her very incapable amongst others and if he can be like this in a story he is narrating to justify himself, one wonders what he would sound like to her.

Since the wife has most likely moved on, there is the issue of custody of the kids. In reality, the husband can't care for a three year old so she would go with the mother. The 14 year old should be able to stay with the father if he wants to.

I am sha a very Nigerian girl when it comes to these issues. The wife has ran away with the kids; if the husband wants them or wants to see them, he should demand for that right. Or better still, just show up Naija style to the ex's house, send a sympathetic neighbor to call the kids and play with them to your heart's content.

Investigative:
https://www.google.com/amp/s/thenationonlineng.net/im-originally-igbo-says-rihanna/amp/

Igbo is a tribe in Africa ke?

Hope mama Riri does not think Africa is a country

Anyways, Rihannachukwu, you are welcome.

Mikecold:
if they get mind they should challenge the biggest misogynistic religion where women are dressed like masquerade to cover their appearance yet left as furniture at home because they are unfit to worship with men

Reminds me of a trailer I stumbled on:

Girl: "Do you like me?"

Boy: "How I can not like you but I don't want to die".

In this life, life is very paramount

ORIENTATION101:
Weak clapback. Would have been more sound if they counter oyedepo with verifiable biblical passage to drive home their points.
The truth is you feminist dont have business in marriage.
Feminist movement was for economic and political liberation for women.
As far as marriage is concerned there is no equality in marriage. You re only advised to love each other as spouses and be submissive to head of the house which is the man

@bold:

Extremely weak.

Well, they can only use the Bible to counter him if they believe in it.

If they don't, they can use whatever they believe in to do the countering.

Doradorwa:
Obviously I'm so angry and I just have to type this to feel better.

2 hours ago I decided to buy 1 lacasera and 1 donut to eat before seeing my project supervisor. Total sum of my purchase was #200. I bought what I wanted and a fellow coursemate saw me and she was like hailing me to buy her something. I was like "Babe no worry, I go do you well soon, abeg just chilax everywhere go good.
I was saying all this because that was the last money with me. Then to my surprise the man selling the stuffs was like " shey padi da na ( Don't be stingy to your friend nah). Me that I know my pocket I continued to scope the girl but this man just continue to interrupt me so I had no choice than to buy the girl a pie and that was #150. So plus my own purchase everything got summed up to #350 and I gave the man #500. My last card ooo... The next thing the man was like "Ra drink fun ore e nah, ma shey ore ti ko pe " ( Buy drink for you friend nah, don't be stingy with your help).

I was just looking at the man like shey this one dey whine me ni. The stupid girl was still like she will manage bottle water. And I continued to tell them that the remaining change is for bike back to the hostel but the yeye man was just adding salt to my wound. Las las the man pushed the drink into the girl hands and was like " Aunty, owo yin ti pe" ( Aunty your money done complete). Haaaa... God will judge that man ooo....

I ended up buying #200 thing while the girl bought #300 thing. I'm done with my project supervisor but I have to trek back to my hostel. I swear I'm so angry. Why are some sale-people like that.

Have you ever had an encounter like this?

Sorry OP, you fell into the hands of a good salesperson

Next time, immediately tell the girl that you 'have plenty money' or 'no extra cash' {depending on your preference} so you would not be able to buy anything for her.

Give the salesperson the money and request for your change.

If he continues to be too pushy/forceful, drop the stuffs you bought and collect your money back.

Mercy has a very feminine face structure.

She still looks like a fine man in a feminine way

The MUA did a very professional job though.

Ishilove:
Kenyan girls

Kenya that they do wife swapping and other odd things

FreeIgboho:
Scrapped? Notice they said nothing about one-finger testing

Go and free Igboho and leave me alone

Queenslander:
Blame the dumb ass men, who would rather think with their genitals instead of their brains..

100%.

How can the same thing that killed your grandfather and father kill you?

How much does the dude earn monthly that he is paying $200k/mth for Child Support?

Hopefully you would be with her father then.

SimplyFacts:
Anyone who fails to discipline himself/herself would live to have some regrets. You start dating as a minor, leaving one for another as the years pass by, why won't you shout all guys or girls are the same? I've only known one girl & that's because, at my early years, I refused to tread the same path as others.

Praxis758:
This is the highest form of inhuman treatment. that's female molestation.

Most of these Islamic countries are pure hypocrites.

Imagine a senior male officer dipping his fingers into a genital of a helpless recruit.

That officials should be charged for attempted rape.

Do you know what rape is or do you guys change the definition per second?

Someone is carrying out an official duty and you are talking rape?

The only solution was to scrap the test which has been done.

Freestainworld:
But virginity shouldn't be a prerequisite for military enrollment nah

I am wondering too.

If they are doing any reproductive organ test, it should be pregnancy.

Thank God it is scrapped.

E be things!

sola12:
What if she built the house in d name of ur kids?

It is still wrong.

Never seen it.

Peeps are saying it is burnt fufu; why is he dragging it on the floor though?

Why couldn't they break it into chunks for him in a plate or nylon?

kangminhyuksho:
Lmaoooo I do not watch a lot of TV these days but I accidentally came across that show one day and it's literally the only thing I watch on Telemundo whenever I have the time for TV. I've always been a fan of trashy reality shows and case closed is everything plus the host raps her theme song, I mean it's so bad it's good.

Hahahahahaha @ 'it's so bad that it's good'.

The stories are a wonder.