₦airaland Forum

2rez:
Womenophobia! Once a cheat, always a cheat no matter how high she climbs the prayer mountain for intercessional session. Meanwhile, they say character is like pregnancy, can not be hidden forever. U see am so? The most annoying thing be say she go pass the buck unto angel Lucifer . Brothaman, wipe ur tears, chop cereal, brace up & hold strong bruh! BTW, congrats as u join the brothers in singlehood. Being single in Naija is lit. Dunno about over there .

@bold:

Interesting.

adonis89:
ppl like u are the ones sleeping with ppls wives. Wat happened to the single ladies out there? No man will escape my fury if he tries such with my wife. He will go down. Do u know how many married women that's giving me green light I've turn down. U know this is someone wive, u go ahead to sex her.

Is it the man that broke your vow?

What really is your business with him?

See a civil man unlike some crazy lots that would expose their faces.

He still thinks about their dignity.

I wish him all the best and like they say, good riddance to bad rubbish.

Easybird:
He should not have blurred their faces

Why?

softbuthard:
I resigned from my place of work after being owned several salaries and some maltreatments on staff. Few days after, I received a call from them asking why I left and was told to come to the office the following day.

I honoured their invitation and when I got there, nothing much was discussed except that they asked why I left them and then promised to increase salary, there was no opportunity for me to tell them what I wanted as per the reappointment, something happened and we had to conclude the discussion. They said "go back to work, your salary will be increased". Before I could leave there we all got payment alert and I noticed 16% deduction on my salary likewise some other staff.

May I ask Nairalanders if its not necessary they give me a reappointment letter stating conditions of service and the salary to be paid?

Wouldn't I need to also ask them why my salary was deducted?

Please your advice is needed.

Do you have another appointment?

Ganjafama:
This thread needs to be erased

Honestly, closing it doesn't do it justice.

Erase is the word.

HRHQueenPhil:
How to know?
1. He never takes u to his house, always ur place
2. Dodges d subject of settling down/marraige
3. Supports freeZe
4. Wants to always remove ur bra 2 minutes after u enter house
5. Dosent apologise
6. Never introduce u as girlfriend to family or friends
7. Always giving u money after sex
8. Church is a NoNo for him or her
9. Dosent like u touching his phone or answering his calls
10. Never seen u off or call to check if u are home

Run!

And what is unhealthy in the above?

The girl is just his fvckmate, a different scenario.

Breaststroke:
Sweetheart, if I don't restrain myself I will get sucked into the very mess I don't like or want in the first place.

The MGTOW thread wasn't even the thread, where some vile comments touched me it was another one. Believe me I wanted to intervene for the person being attacked, but at the time I didn't have a registered account.

And when you go to bat for someone else, the bullies/abusers gang up against you, making you the new target. Unfortunately my vocabulary is limited when it comes to insults & vileness, the time and energy it also takes to engage on that level - I just don't have it.

Bullying is often a sign of low self-esteem.

So many people need to re-validate their choices to others so are either timid or bully in face of opposition.

@missjo,

Thanks for the mention.

That MGTOW thread is birthing another thread in my mind inspired by some of your posts.

@OP
I believe that prejudice and biases are natural and one of the major tools used to preserve cultures and civilizations in time past. Even today where the world is a global village, we still watch our kids' friends, pick friends that reflect our own values, join groups and communities that resonate with our values, pick the practical part of our religion best suited to us.

Also, most people are not taught to respect differences and see their own group as the 'best' or 'right one.' Hello religion!

As you rightly noted, we need to learn to respect the differences of others. We will still be biased however relate with others respectably.

pocohantas:
What is "guy man"?

Anyway, I remember that year- when I wasn't materialistic. I told my guy man how much I love amala. So, I was at work that day when I got a call "Is this Miss *****. Okay, I am Ade from Amaladotcom, I am in your parking lot at A/A. You have a package from us". My people were already looking and blushing on my behalf.

I jumped up from my seat and rushed out. Right there in the package was hot amala, with panla, shaki, roundabout...fuku ati ogufe.

I didn't know when I picked up a sticky-note and wrote a poem for him.

That was then, na next level I dey now.

That was very sweet of him.

Spoilt a fantastic piece with the introduction of their lack of 'African values'.

Once a Nigerian man starts yapping about lost African values, be sure he means no good.

That said, I believe the trio of T-boss, CeeC and Tasha are alteragos of a lot of people hence the cult-like followership.

pocohantas:
That is why this thread is DOA. She would most likely not be caught- she knows what she stands to lose.

I am even referring to the Bible verse you quoted.

That's why I say that the average Nigerian mixes religion & culture.

Anyone who takes the fact that God hates divorce seriously would advocate for husbands and wives to forgive cheating spouses.

The fact that the society only impresses this task on women shows you that the average Nigerian is not serious religiously.

And lukewarmness is worse than hotness or coldness.

No identity, no root, nothing.

madridguy:
Sister read my input again, am not in support of cheating both man or woman as its against my religion. My comment is for the lady trying to compete with men.

This is not about 'competition' and open your mind.

For sex to occur, it takes two or more parties.

Except a man is gay, every time he has sex, there must be a woman/ women in the mix.

The question is that if a man is free to cheat (have sex outside his marriage), who are the women he would have it with?

Wives, mothers, sisters, girlfriends etc.

So telling men to be morally upright to stop adultery on both ends is not about competition: it is common sense.

The more heterosexual men cheat, the more heterosexual women in that community would cheat except if the men import women.

Which still boils down to heterosexual women of another community/ society cheating.

While other vices can be excused for genders, sex cannot because of its very nature.

A community where they have stringent sexual morals would see less complaint of paternity fraud, cheating spouses etc.

madridguy:
Nairaland ladies can be so funny. My sister stop dragging position with men.

Men can cheat and women can't :Pkiss the fact my sister.
A man can stand at the midst of his family, friends and say boldly, " that lady going i don chop her " but ladies can't. Why do you think God Almighty put seals on every woman?

My sister, cheating is not a thing to brag about but its easy for a man to gather his family to beg his wife over infidelity than a woman.
Make i stop here first.

It is a pity you can't understand even your own post.

If a man is free to cheat, who is he cheating with?

pocohantas:
Why didn't the responsible husband divorce the wife, rather than messing around?


They should both be there. God hates divorce.

Only the divorce initiated by the wife of a cheating hubby counts.

modernWays:
The rate of infidelity among married women is so alarming these days, and one keep wondering if there are somethings their husbands dont have that the next man possessed or can we simply call it stupidity or moral decadency. Some are even robbing it on your face by having sex with a next door neighbour or one useless broke guy in the street. Office romance are not left out.


As we all know, a cheating wife is as dangerous as cancer to her husband. Apart from the life of her husband she would put in danger, what about bringing disease or another man's child to your home.

What women should know is that, they have a lot to lose if they're caught. Apart from losing your blessed home, you lose your value and dignity as well as puting yourself in shame especially if your husband is someone who cannot bear the pain alone.

Note: Men are not saint, men could cheat and still be responsible at home, the
moment a woman start having sex outside her marriage, she became an endanger specie to her husband.

So what is the best and fastest way to catch such a woman.

I 100% agree with you.

My question is 'who are these cheating responsible husbands supposed to cheat with?'

I am asking for a friend o!

superlanny:
Sowore i must admit made a very senseless move and is paying for it, no govt will respond to threats of revolution with kids gloves, Atiku protested at the tribunal and lost in a miserable way, you small boy sowore, naw shouting revolution upandan, because you were non existence during the election, don jazzy better stfu and go and marry.
Nigeria will be great

Shhhhhhhh.

But your darling Govt can respond to Xenophobia with......

OH sorry, nothing!

Your ability to defend nonsense must be Commended.

somehow:
Not TRUE

most female animals provide food for their young ones not the male

only humans appear to be different.

You expect females to provide too in a traditional setting?

Then what would be the use of traditional Nigerian husband?

desvi:
Tunde loves himself and nobody else.

He doesn't even love himself

Else he won't be sleeping with four women at same time.

truthsayer009:
Kindly answer below & state your reasons.

Mature Folks please.

None.

Who snapped the pix?

Angeljoee:
Kaduna housewife seeks divorce in Sharia court because her husband does not pray daily


KADUNA housewife Shamsiya Muhammad has asked a Sharia court to dissolve her marriage to her husband Sani Adamu because he refuses to join her in observing the Muslim injunction of praying five times a day.

Earlier today, Shamsiya, who resides at Tudun Wada, Kaduna, begged a Sharia Court ll, sitting in Magajin Gari, Kaduna State to dissolve her marriage. She said that she cannot continue with Adamu because he also does not care for her and always insults her parents whenever they have a misunderstanding.


Source:
http://www.nigerianwatch.com/kaduna-housewife-seeks-divorce-in-sharia-court-because-her-husband-does-not-pray-daily/

I don't know the conditions for divorce in Islam.

sassysure:
Know this; any guy who hates women, body shames them had broken childhood.

There was a topic here asking guys what they hate about their childhood.

It was an eye opener. If Nairaland has 200 male active users, 150 of them came from broken background. Their stories were horrible. Most changed ID to tell their stories.
It's not really girlfriend boyfriend issue.

Daddy mostly abusing them and abandoning them. Beating their mum and always telling her she is nothing.
All these have great side effect on a growing child.

So sometimes, instead of attacking them, just show them that despite how their background looked like, women is never their problem. When they meet the one for them, it will be paradise on earth. Yes we have bad eggs from both sides and as humans we are not perfect but overall the union of man and woman is still the best.

In my hood, u see men and women bonding with cats and animals instead of humans because they can't forgive human imperfections. No wonder they are always scammed online looking for love.

And it will continue if these guys don't change.
They give birth to boys they can't train emotionally.

An average life span of a Nigerian man is less than 65.
Not because he don't have food on his table but because his mind is very toxic. So proud, unyielding and un-bending cos he don't want to appear weaker.

And with their mindset they have been ruling Nigeria since independence. We can see how peaceful and progressive a nation we are.

This is a very insightful post.

Does it mean that despite the previous protests, another lady still had the guts to follow someone to the hotel?

There is no way to sugarcoat this: Ladies need to be extra careful and stop following random men to hotels at least for now.

I am also wondering if he drugs the victims before killing them. Or does he hypnotize them? Or how come no one has heard screaming? The police should also confirm if there are struggle marks, bruises, thrashing in the rooms, semen in the girls (although their semi-clothed state would suggest otherwise. Are there a certain spec of girls chosen? They all seem tall, dark & slim.

Unfortunately, I do not think our police force is skilled enough to handle this. The hotels should also be questioned. Who booked the room the girls were found in? Their numbers, names etc. If two people came in and only one person left, did they find out about the 2nd person especially after the 2nd incidence?

It is really sad.

franklingud:
Am telling you!!

When one has responsibilities, his eyes go clear for this country.

Increase of VAT to 7.5% + introduction of VAT on online transactions (double VAT) + increase in PHCN tariff from 2020 is making it look bleaker.

Who did Nigerians offend?

Anyways, our leaders are a reflection of the people.

MrBrownJay1:
So if your child needs you for important life matters while your spouse needs a massage..... massage should be attended 1st?!

Once you see your spouse as first, it is easy.

You both decide what's important to your union.

There are sometimes you would leave your spouse's wants to attend to the needs of others.

For instance, if a neighbor screams that her child passed out and your wife wants a massage, it is a no brainer to run to the neighbor.

Does that make your neighbor more important than your wife at that point?

No.

chii8:
The earlier couples realizes that children are just passengers who will eventually leave the house one day to raise their own families the better.

stupidity:
this geh abi Na woman. You nor Dey work?

You have work for me?

GreatResearcher:
I am tired already. We argue a lot. She nags a lot and I complain a lot.

What is/are the issues?

LewsTherin:
No offense to all you guys here but any mother who refuses to realise her married son now has his own family and life to live, who is "just missing him" and to show how much she loves him is bringing food to him DAILY, has chosen to bring issues into said son's life.

How can he even cleave to his wife when he is still tied to Mummy's apron?

Acidosis:
Where is her father-in-law? When there's no responsible father-in-law in the mix, some mothers misbehave. Real fathers won't allow their wives try this kind of nonsense. She needs to go back to her husband's house and cook for him instead.

I agree.

Jman06:
Ehn..call us weak, we agree! But no more slaving for women just because of some smelly thing in between their legs!

Marriage does not favour men at all. Isaac Newton saw through all the anti men nature of marriage and women, that was why he never got married nor had any romantic relationship with women!

Many of us want to be like Newton!

Marriage is anti-men?

Obviously not in Nigeria.