₦airaland Forum

Mayflowa:
Yeah a man can ruin your life truthfully. You will be unhappy and briddled. Your decision won't amount to anything, your contribution overlooked. And you are made to carry the burden of child rearing alone.

As time goes on,you will lose your Insanity but your beauty and body hv been so waned that u think you can't find alternative! I feel sad for women.

Alone? Society neglects u. Your family pity u. Your look incomplete and nights are lonely. Your hormone at 30+ is usually ranging and needing. U start wishing for a deadlier man even!

But, there are good men like me who understand the pains of womanhood. Who gives her woman freedom of choice and provide emotional and physically for her. We are rare catch because it in born in US to study things. When you find us. You are whole!

Advice: marriage and relationships should be taught in SS3. That is what we do all our lives but never ever get lesson on it except for the pensive full marriage day were pastor try to bore the couple with better-soup-kind-of-talk.

Take care my friend

See toasting

The Bishop is not saying anything new na.

Even here, is that not is subtly preached?

The bishop is only true to his roots.

If one's survival instincts doesn't work and can't know when to flee or fight, why should I bother?

At least, the family of the woman if true is sure of a hefty contribution from the bishop.

aameyah:
Most women fall out of love with their husbands by the time the kids start coming. This "falling out of love" is often due to the man's uncaring, cheating and autocratic nature.

When the child comes, the mom pours all her love on him/her (have you heard the advise women give each other? Ignore him and focus on your kids) which is so easy because the love mummy is getting from the kids is so unconditional and pure. The kids love her when she is soiled with kitchen work. They love her even when she stinks of stale breast milk and her tummy is bulging like that of a pregnant woman. She remains beautiful mummy.

The child grows up and leaves to get married and then poor old mum becomes a monster in law because she lived all her life for the kids and can't bear to lose them to another.

Very good one.

This mostly happens when the couple no longer have a marriage and all they have left is their family or when the husband leaves the childcare totally to the wife.

If it's one, let them rekindle their love

If it's two, let him pitch in more or get a maid (favorite suggestions now).

Berbierklaus:
That was how one very married man with two conspicuous rings on his ring finger looked into my eyes and said boldly.
"No I'm not married to her,she forced me,I don't love her"

Another one said
"There is nothing bad in both of us enjoying ourselves, I will take care of you and even sponsor your own wedding".

See talk.
Okunrin mi o lorun

The two rings shows he was very forced

Those forces are very strong gan.

Every charming Mercy...

God bless your new age.

Sagamite:
Happy New Year, babes.

Happy new year.

This thread has serious dust.

TOPICS anyone?

greatgod2012:
Wishing you same my dear sister. How are you and uncle and everyone there.

We are all good

Thanks.

Just a little bit married? His marriage is nothing serious?

Pathetic comedy.

If the silent treatment was able to produce a baby... well

greatgod2012:
The truth is that she might not like the way you first turned her down when she first initiated it, and in a bid not to have the repeat of the experience, she has decided not to initiate again but give it to you whenever you want it and also however you want it. The same thing will happen if you complain of her moaning, she will just lie there like a log of wood until you're through.

What can you do........ Assure her that you won't turn her down disrespectfully again if she is in the mood and initiate sex with you.
Also, let her know that she has right to your body just as you also have right to hers.

This is new year, let their be new beginning.

bold:

New year, new se.,X life

Happy new year to you & family.

@OP:
Have you ever turned her down before?

George22016:
Seems you aren't fucking her well.

I banged a lesbian.from that moment she ceased being a lesbian. As in all her magazines she threw them away.My D*ck Changed her idealogy

I guess ur cucumber is not as long as mine

You sure you read the OP

What happened to cutting them away subtly without rubbing it in their faces?

Nobody will take been regarded as a cold blanket or dead weight lightly.

You don't want them to move from dead weights to obstacles.

Have a great 2017.

Acidosis:
Yes.

The daddy tag is old school, and feminism is 100% against our old family values.


A woman who calls her husband daddy will definitely never allow her husband cook vegetable soup and pound yam. A woman who calls her husband daddy will endure a cheating husband and will definitely not recommend divorce for herself unless her life is in danger.

Will you ever be realistic with your views here?

Interestingly, we all can't have same 'reality' and I am amused you think I am not 'realistic' because our views differ.

A woman calls her husband 'daddy' and she is no longer a feminist?

A woman who calls her husband daddy will be more accommodating of his infidelity and excesses? She wouldn't let him cook?

Dude, you are funny!

Mimzyy:
He doesn't refer to her as mummy so why call him daddy?

I'll update the rest of the write-up today. Morning ma'am.

So a woman can't call her husband 'daddy' for whatever reasons because he doesn't call her mummy else she isn't a feminist?

If she has said point blank here that she can't call her husband 'daddy' then you have a point else ...

nNEOo:
Are you sure or u just not sure

The parts I see highlighted, very sure.

First passages are actually talking about wisdom.

kaboninc:
E heavy to type on

You too like shakara

kaboninc:
I better not say what I want to say oh

Talk na

Is the bill only about inheritance (land)?

I saw someone say a wife lays claim to property from her husband's side... really?

To my earlier point; nothing stops a man from giving his daughters a part of his inheritance if he wants to...

And I do not see passage of this bill increasing the number of women who are entitled to inherit.

kaboninc:
Hmmmm.. .

Why hmmmmm......?

MrPresident1:
There are contextual exigences that may determine overlaps in duties and responsibilities in a marriage, such as the health/aptitude/strength/weakness etc of either spouse, but nature has planned out the roles very wall for both parties.

The man rules the home.
The woman runs the home.

Most times, the one who runs the home owns the real power. Or what is the head without the neck?

Like I said, whatever the couple need it to be.

That's why couples court na.

MrPresident1:
Now tell me what you think are the duties of the man and the wife respectively...

Whatever the couple need it to be.

I am all for individuals defining what they want/expect from their spouses.

1bkaye:
I can see how it would come across as overcompensation to some but darker people tend to get the worst end of the stick when it comes to beauty standards that currently dominate most societies. They aren’t as represented and praised as their lighter counterparts and it’s a form of oppression to the psyche so because of this some people sometimes want to highlight, praise, promote and overall go a little harder for a darker person put to the forefront more since they aren’t as celebrated which is fair enough.

I know that ‘brownskin’ people are discriminated against too btw, black people in general to be honest but unfortunately there’s a skin tone hierarchy and darker people benefit the least if at all.

@OP
Beautiful

I get 'lighter' skin tones are preferred everywhere not only in Nigeria however the whole thing sounds patronizing.

Anyways, the girl is beautiful.

safarigirl:
My sister, honestly...I don't even think they realize the hypocrisy in their actions.

It gets annoying these days when you go on the net and all you see is a bunch of inferiority complex goons shoving one average looking dark girl in your face as a 'melanin goddess'

The funny thing about these their 'melanin' queens is that these gals date pale-skinned guys, like guys who are their stark opposites. Like that Senegalese girl, Diop or something, the one who made NL frontpage some months ago cuz of how dark she is, her boyfriend is white and as pale as any white person can get.

So, I ask, if these girls are so proud of their dark skin, why do they feel the need to date white guys?

They need the constrast.

Caseless:
your dp though

What'sappen?

byvan03:
Very important question because I wondered the same.

He's a 'good' boy

How are you & yours?

nNEOo:
Yea just that I don't like the idea behind the whole thing....don't forget that you should not add to the word nor take from it

But she wasn't adding to it, only highlighting key parts.

Like you would underline your favorite passages.

bigcp:
Yeah gurl u r right. ...but a man is a man.....here in 9ja...a baby daddy can easily get married 2 a pretty non-baby mama without stress so long he's comfortable (SOME men de even marry 2 to 3 wives sef)...where as a baby mama might find it very difficult...unless she's going 4 a baby dady(might still b difficult...because of our society)our society sees a baby mama as a Tokunbo (already used property)...we still hv lots of pretty single ladies still searching 4 a comfortable man(evn if na baby daddy..dem no care)...so that's why it's pretty difficult here in 9ja unless with God's intervention...I've seen so many of them.... i hv a young cute male frnd( fada of 2...twins) yet girls de run follow am like Hot currency...he cn evn get married 2 a 18 or 21 yrs old virgin...
SO IT IS WHAT IT IS....
just wish f society go do something abt all these stuff because of our women... (unborn daughters )

Society will not do anything for our unborn daughters...

We will train them to be what we want them to be.

The Nigerian society of today is not strong enough to force anyone into what they don't want.

pchukwudi:
You are missing the point. Do yourself some good and study the origin of the whole fiasco.

1. IPOB issued a release a couple of days ago reminding SOME Yorubas (who shamelessly supported the proposed secret trial of Nnamdi Kanu) that Awolowo - despite being accused of a more serious crime - was PUBLICLY tried and convicted - but was later released by Ojukwu.

2. IPOB reminded the same Kanu haters of Yoruba extraction that it was Ojukwu (a man from Kanu's stock) that released Awolowo from prison after being convicted for treason. IPOB wanted to know why certain Yoruba elements feel that open trial was okay for Awolowo but not okay for Nnamdi Kanu.

3. Rather than doing some serious soul searching, the next thing that happened on Nairaland was the upsurge of silly threads distorting historic facts, calling IPOB liars and denying that Ojukwu was the one who released Awolowo from jail.

4. So this thread is a raw dose of truth (from Ojukwu himself) to hopefully difuse the lies of some senseless haters and propangandists who use Nairaland to distort history and peddle falsehood.

Got it now?

And NO I am not a member of IPOB. But I thoroghly hate dishonesty, injustice and hypocricy.

Thanks for the heads up.

Not really in partisan politics.

Mimzyy:
I agree. It saddens me when I see some ladies proffer advice that they cannot even practice. I know of someone that forms feminist online yet she refers to her husband as daddy. Double standards.

Everything should be done in moderation.

A feminist cannot call her husband daddy? What is feminism

@OP:

What was wrong with Lillian's husband? Incomplete story.

MrPresident1:
She takes care of my home. Simple.

A good man realizes that there will be chore overlaps, he loves his wife, he knows what he passed through to gain her hand in marriage, he does not want her to get worn out too quickly, so in love he partakes of the household chores, not as his duty, but at his discretion.

It is called love.

Interesting.

Goodluck.

cococandy:
As usual

It seems this is 2016 year end trend.