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How did I get to this thread?

Thought I was on our ladies thread.

folake4u:
Oh okay. I'd look for it then.

Hahahaha. I love wheat bread come rain or sunshine.

Wheat bread and peanut butter is HEAVENLY!

Also try Wheat bread with butter, lettuce and scrambled eggs.

Spread a thin slice of butter, lay the lettuce on and spread your scrambled eggs (fried with little olive oil, garlic, carrots and spring onions) and eat away.

folake4u:
Yes. Context matters A LOT.

Well, you're the Millennials generation and it would look insulting for a spouse, friend or family member to call you such.

Meanwhile, it is not so with my generation, the Gen Z. A lover, friend or family member can playfully call us "Ode" and it would be endearing.

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I was going to say 'You Gen Z' but I decided to choose peace this evening.

You guys were kuku the ones that started the Ode stuff.

@bold: Very true.

Geminita:
Good morning, everyone.

I saw a thread on Twitter and I think it's nice to bring it here.

What is that one thing you really tried to get, that thing you went all out for but didn't work out for you? Can you share?

PS: You can also tag other females.

I tried to move to another unit I preferred at work some years back. Love their job and understood it (which everyone knew).

Infact, the Head of the Unit spoke with me about the opening, knew I loved their job (would send requests to them and give them recommendations just for their approval and they follow it) and I was glad.

Took it to the CEO who said preffered a much more senior person for the role. That was how my dream of moving there pafuka'ed.

In hindsight, in addition to wanting a more senior person, the CEO did not want me to leave my unit because I am a strong pillar there.

Interestingly, I would make the same decision so I didn't feel too bad

pocohantas:
For a woman as rich as her, it would be quite hard to get a non 50:50 arrangement. But I wouldn't like that to be me. Definitely not with a Nigerian man.

For me, I find the anxiety strange because she is married to a rich man who can fund the household.

If she is worrying about spliting bills 50/50 in this home and funding other household (I am assuming her ex), then when can she bring her feminine essence in the home and take charge of home keeping?

Even if she outsources all the chores, she still needs to manage the home and breathe her feminine into it.

People bashed her on that post sha, Nigerians whey no get chill.

I think of Ciara and it seems she has a more traditional household.

P.S.: splitting bills 50/50 rubs me the wrong way. I prefer a joint pot or a husband providing what he can afford for running the home and the wife contributes what is required to fully run the home.

Wetin our Nigerian men do na?

pocohantas:
Please tag me when he answers. Maybe he meant helping her with windows update, because I have never had a man do my office work for me.

Will do sis

@ Windows Update: that's if her IT Team is not like ours that passworded everything so we rely on them.

Even to add printer already on the network, you need password

folake4u:
Uhm, depending on how you use it. Context matters.

I don't know about you but I playfully call my lover/folks "Ode" and they don't see it insulting.

You are right, depends on how I see it.

I find it as an insult and interestingly, others around me think it same.

I have never had a friend, family member or husband call me such. Ditto same with me.

I guess it is popular with younger folks.

Don't even see anyone my age and above do such.

What inspired them today that couldn't inspire them in the last couple of matches?

Rooting for them next season.

folake4u:
Imagine marrying someone who fights you cos you called him Ode.

Why would you call your husband 'Ode' which means stupid in the first place?

Calling someone Ode is already provocative; if a 'fight' comes out of it, your luck.

tojahh:
Dating a career lady makes you a career Man. Infact you'd be the one doing most of the office jobs for her except you've inferiority complex.

Again... You'll become king of gossip because you'll know everyone and everything in her office.

Just again, don't stay idle and don't always feel dejected because she will always chose her work before you. Get busy and make sure she sees you're grinding.

@bold:

Please where are the jobs your spouse/ partner can do the bulk for you mbok?

And where do they see men who leave their own jobs/ sources of livelihood and help their women do most of their jobs?

I need one of each so I can flex with my husband also engrossed in his job.

Infact, help me look for such a lady too so they would be doing our jobs and we would be flexing.

This seems to be the update.

😆 😂 😆 😂 😆 😂 😆 😂 😆 😂 😆 @ topic.

Career lady? What about a career man?

Topic tells me more about the OP than the ladies termed 'career ladies'.

Sleekcode:
You're destined to be somehow useless.

It's not your fault you willingly surrendered to poverty

What kind of nonsense talk is this?

Let's assume the OP is true, do you who the OP is or his level?

Are people not doing well around you in Nigeria?

plaindealer:
The first and second sons, with PMB and the President-elect, Asiwaju Tinubu and the incoming First Lady

Oh! First and Second Sons like First Lady etc.

So the second guy is Shettima's son.

Anyways, Irrespective of their fathers' inability/ ability to preside Nigeria or move us forward, my family and I would enjoy the good of the land. Amen.

PECON1:
The little u know about him,u have told us,what then will happen if u know more about him😹
You are the enemy our parents warned us about

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Sirchiboy:
Waste of time.
I have applied for over 100 jobs
yet no invitation

Have you consulted any CV expert (paid or free) to work with you? Is your CV properly written? Is it generic or tailored to your desired role? Do you have the right qualifications for the role you are applying for? Are the roles you are applying for a right fit for you?

The 100 jobs you applied for, are they same role? If no, did you use the same CV to apply for all of them? Did you follow to the letter the specified formats and modes of application as stated by each employer? Do Do you send one mail to different companies? Do you forward mails used for application A to application B? Is your email address official (name.surname)? Is the content of your mail official? Is the content correct?

So many questions.

Check what you need to improve on and work on it. People are getting jobs in Nigeria everyday.

Goodluck.


Cc: Edipet

Dimejimichael:
I earn 100k per month after tax.. I spend close to 1800 every day on transportation excluding feeding. If feeding is added, that will sum it up to 3000.

I leave on debt , i do use my salary to clear debt every month and the trend continues.


I spend over 150k every month .

I'm tired

What are you eating N1,200 everyday when you can't afford it?

And why is your T.Fare so expensive?

While your take home is small, it is suicidal to owe debts monthly due to lifestyle and not a temporary thing like professional courses.

Reference:
Subsidizing their soccer league, subsidizing their banks, and financial markets, and on and on..... It's called globalization. Where wealth flows from the un-serious to the serious nations.

You can imagine how much subsidy your President has made/paid to their health care system in the last 8 years. They will dearly miss him.

Hmmmmmm,

Sad.

LordIsaac:
Imagine the amount accrued from foreign students in a single cohort...

As in!

They are cashing out seriously.

jowhyte:
Confusion between the UK govt and UK universities. Let’s see who blinks first first.

Premium drama.

Tito24:
🤣🤣🤣🤣

If you check am well

He my not even be providing enough for the family
But he wants to ruin her life and career

Don't mind him.

Goalnaldo:
Dear lalasticlala, that you are no longer a supermod doesnt mean you shouldn't visit here again, i will miss you. If you see this and you have an alternate moniker please call my attention, ill follow asap. You are the first moniker i knew when my brother introduced me to this forum back in 2015. He said you were a lady who is fascinated with snakes! It was later i discovered you are a man.

@bold:

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1stola:
So must women offer themselves to those men?
Is it a do or die affair?
So what does men offer to get to "positions".

It's only women with low moral values that gets entangled in those mess.
How many devote and virtuous Muslim or Christian women offer sex for favour?

You need to re-read the poster you quoted with understanding.

A man is a boss of XYZ. He determines how the place is run.

Him the boss, leader and not the female followers aka subordinates.

If a male leader is moral and decent, even girls willing to offer sex for promotion would conform to his standards or leave the organisation.

Even the OP affirmed it; immediately a moral leader was brought, the same girls having sex for promotion suddenly became well behaved.

What changed?

Leadership.

Like they say, everything raises and falls on Leadership.

Except you are saying men are not able to lead in such capacity. Then that is a different discussion altogether.

DrAda:
I recently discovered that the filters are even more important than the makeup

It is my sister.

Reminderz:
exactly bro... but now, the entitlement is now much pronounced in this modern time due to the behaviours of these simps and weak men..

the thing is that, when simps are the bosses and directors of a company, the productivity of such company reduces.. they begin slacking off and this can cause the downfall of such company or organisation.. simps and weak men are dangerous..

This is what i want to hear.

I do not believe that any organisation riddled with sex for promotion would make it in the long run.

It is not sustainable.

Paretomaster1:
No be today now, just yesterday our performance appraisal came out, an officer came to me to complain he got step increase while giving an example of a female that was promoted.

Someone that bearly do anything was promoted ahead of guys that work their a**s out...

And these guys that 'work their a**s out', are they visible? Do they comport themselves like they deserve the next level? Do they project themselves where it matters? The so called girl not working, is he her boss? Does he know the certifications she has?

If you work in a standard organisation, not abe ile like the OP's own, even your bosses have to justify why they are presenting a candidate for promotion else it is a flak on their decision making skills.

A lot of us complain about promotion because we are working 'hard'. Sit your boss down and ask why you were not promotion, you would be surprised at the little things you did not take cognizance of.

omoadeleye:
So since you are wondering who they fvcked to get promoted,

Can we also know the person you also fvcked to finally got your own promotion too?

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1stola:
Believe me, you can't blame men and it's ignorant for anyone to blame men.
EXCEPT IN THE CASE OF RAPE, WOMEN CONTROL ACCESS TO SEX.
Greed and laziness is what drives all these oloshos you're seeing engaging men.
IT VERY EASY TO HAVE HIGH MORAL AND MAINTAIN IT.
IT'S VERY EASY TO RESIST LUST
IT'S VERY EASY TO SAY NO.

Women control access to sex in sex for positions/promotion/marks when the male has what the woman wants?

Is this a joke or usual fashion, you think men are simpletons when it comes to sex because that's how you sound.

If a woman is not sure of her results (especially in Nigeria where there is no 'reward' for claiming a sexual victim), only few women would have the guts to proposition sex to her manager or lecturer for marks or promotion.

hardbody:
Where the fok do you all work? No dress codes? No ethics? It all sounds alien and unbelievable.

E reach to ask.

Like when they are promoting them supposedly based on sex, what is written in their files?

Or they don't do appraisal meetings ni?

Don't customers/ visitors come around their office or they have visiting days?

Just sounds super weird.

Moneyyman:
I'll keep preaching it:
90% of the things women do are enabled by men.

If all men learn to control their third legs, women will fall in line and the world will be better.

Go to universities. Some male coursemates live in perpetual fear of their female colleagues simply because one word from them can get them COs.

You'll see a group of guys scared to knock a prof's office, but young 100lvl girls will breeze in and out like it's their room.

You see old men that other lectures are scared of being played by young girls that in turn respect those bros outside.

All, na men dey cause nonsense.

I saw it at my dad's working place. Highly-placed men won't help other men get jobs. At most, they help them get casual labourer jobs but when it comes to women, you'll see a single office with more than 5 women having the same job description. Basically doing nothing all day.

Na man do man.

Idiot simps sacrificing their dignity on the altar of sex and lust.

Saw one tweet where one guy alleged his company (abi boss) was called to clear up blocked cesspit at a bank and they found it was condoms blocking the pipes.

Farmtools and farm animals!


Tufiakwa.

Well said.

This one the OP is ranting, if they sacked one of the men who promoted a lady for sexual favours, the rest would seat up.

Ironically, some women not into such in his organisation would also be lamenting because they would be dealt worse hands than even the guys.

UstazAhmed:
I was waiting for the office romance story, I didn't see

My brother, I tire.

When did sex for position/promotion which is as old as time become office romance?

hotwax:
For the past years, our workspace has been witnessing high rate of career growth of our female counterparts, especially young girls. We guys feel so dejected and demoralized whenever promotion list is published.

It is a norm that ladies who don’t do anything at the office, those who don’t work get promoted while guys work like donkeys. This has made us lose many of our talents to our competitors.

You see female IT students squaring up to fight a Manager, threatening a Manager. We had a case where a Manager was summoned and warned to desist from correcting a particular female industrial attaché. He was told point blank that he would lose his job. When its time for promotion, ladies (both married and single) wear skimpy skirt to the office, expose cleavages e.t.c.

Late last year, we had management shakeup, the new management is dominated by women. Our MD is a woman. This has changed things significantly. They published promotion list last month, men dominated it. I got promoted too.

Things have now changed. Suddenly ladies are courteous and respectful. Office spaces is now always full to the brim. Our female folks are now working seriously. They are now nice. They are learning some processes they care not to learn before. They don’t use to work, now, they are learning the Hardaway.

In those past years, I lost respect for women in offices especially those career miniskirt ladies working in offices. I used to wonder who they fcked to get to where they are.

Is this office romance or sex for promotion?

Well the management of your organisation were to blame. It also shows that the organisation lacks integrity and might not be capable to deliver the services they are into.

Like they say 'don't hate the players, hate the game'.

To the actual topic: the direction of office romance (two people coupling up) depends on the management.

In my office, it is very encouraged so we have had more than ten couples get married. Some even work together for a more than a year before moving on to other places.

Because it is encouraged and supported by management, everyone behave themselves. You do not want to be known as the guy/girl jumping about so if you just want casual sex, you either over code it (detectors would still cana) or preferably meet people outside the office.

Good to hear she would be charged as an adult.

She needs time away from her crazy mother.

Who knows, she can still be salvaged.