₦airaland Forum

Essenza01:
I really don't know anymore, i just did my budget for the month and i am scared, i have cut from everywhere possible and i fear for my self.. i dont have a GF, Wife, Children.. my salary is N400,000 and i have added side businesses and one or two's to even survive.. but with this fuel increase, what else is left... zero savings..

- Rent - N108,333/mth (1,300,000/12)
- Fuel for car - N180,000 (36k for 5-6days)
- Auto maintenance - N30,000/mth (service/repair)
- Fuel for generator - N50,000/mth (20ltr/wk)
- Feeding - N62,000 - (N2,000/day)
- Health miscellenous - N5,000/mth
- Dstv - N4,500/mth
- Data - N7,000/mth
- Recharge card - N3,000/mth
- Dry cleaner - N4,000/mth (Starch/iron)
- Hygiene maintenance - N10,000 (body spray/perfume, roll on, soap, cream) etc..
-  Gift to people - N10,000/mth
-  Family House contribution - N20,000/mth
- Eko electric - N10,000/mth
- repairs and maintenance - N12,000/mth
- Clothing, footwear etc - N10,000/mth
- Outings, restaurant, sit outs and provisions - N30,000/mth

Total = N556,500...

My rent is average rent for where i stay, its a two bed flat, i use the other room for home office..

Feeding is N2,000/day.. its not anything out of the ordinary.. tried cooking and spent more with time wasting.

Fuel for car is at the new rate of N500/ltr, my car is a 70ltr car tank..

Auto maintenance is basic brake pads, shocks, service 2mths, tire guage, police pr, tire purchase if any, minor touch ups etc... nothing major.

Fuel for generator is 20ltr/day (2hrs or less daily)

I need help.... how are you people doing it, what am i doing wrong? The rat race is killing me..

Your rent & car expenses is too high for your income.

If you are a bachelor living in a 2 bedroom flat because one is your home office, then you should be saving on fueling for car which would also reduce the maintenance.

If you have to go to the office more than you work from home (anything from 2x a week), then rent a smaller space.

Outing of N30k per month is too much considering your lifestyle. While N400k per month looks like a lot, you have loads of fixed expenditure that you have very little to play around with.

I don't know how you buy food daily but stock your house with provisions and garri.

Some afternoons, soak garri in cold water with groundnuts or Kuli Kuli or sugar or milk or milo or coconut etc depending on your preference.

Also have beans in stock; it is a one pot meal that you don't have to tend to continually while cooking.

Sometimes, okro is bae (can be cooked according to your pocket) and super fast.

Clothing and foot wears also shouldn't be monthly.

NoToPile:
Buka buka, @ bolded you are right.

Anyway there are posts one will read and you just shake your head and ignore.

Very annoying.

Congratulations to them, very beautiful family ❤️ 💙

They are prepping for the 16th anniversary now.

This thread sadly shows the quality of Nigerian education and lack of Critical thinking skills.

How can someone rebut that crude oil is found in SS therefore should be cheaper there when told that the disparity in cost is due to logistics from Lagos ports?

Another person said Tinubu is doing wealth transfer to the SW;

First, Tinubu just resumed office less than 48hrs ago
Second, he doesn't set the price for NNPC either the new or old.

Take your Grievance to Buhari who knew that the innermost part of the North paid N10/l more than Lagos and kept quiet.

It is well o

PoliteActivist:
Igbo amaka

* Though it is only payment for contributing handsomely to his campaign fund. They are not fooling anybody. Is she the only business woman in Houston?

Other Nigerian businesses in Houston are free to do same to get a similar recognition.

Abi the Mayor reject other campaign funds ni?

Na wa o!

Na real wa

Congratulations madam Ifeoma. Such a honor to be recognised for your hardwork.

More feathers to your cap.

Kudos OP.

Pythagoras001:
unfortunately I was also part of that protest. I galvanised my siblings and my mum. my dad was the only person who didn’t buy into it. he kept warning us until he gave up because it was him against many. same thing with buhari election. I have come to realise that having university degree does not necessarily equate with wisdom or been immune from the ability to be deceived or gullible. critical and rational thinking skills are lacking in our school systems. less than one year after buhari first term I realize it was all part of a well designed fraudulent scam to win the 2015 elections.

@Bold:

Well said.

A lot of people lack critical thinking skills.

EDOLUWA:
No need to mention the first wife, the court just established the fact that the sale of the house is cancelled due to the fact that there is no clear consent from the wife that brought him to the court.

In other words he must seek the clear written consent of his wives in the future for such transaction. So the old wife now has mouth to demand her own right too.

So the man should return the N20m paid for the house and retrieve the documents (real/fake) from the buyers?

Does this mean that if they all consent to the sale in future, they all get equal share from the sale as co-owners?

EDOLUWA:
No need to mention the first wife, the court just established the fact that the sale of the house is cancelled due to the fact that there is no clear consent from the wife that brought him to the court.

In other words he must seek the clear written consent of his wives in the future for such transaction. So the old wife now has mouth to demand her own right too.

So the man should return the N20m paid for the house?

Does this mean that if they all consent to the sale in future, they all get equal share from the sale as co-owners?

oluwaseyi0:
some men are just mad

if you go through the write the woman even directly contributed to the house

1. the woman contributed 200k as part of the 400,000 payment
she paid another money after loan people nearly sold the house

2. and married for over 35 year,

yet the man thought he own the house fully and exclusively alone

Was actions 1 & 2 taken by same woman? If yes, the first or second wife?

This judgment feels somehow to me.

Or maybe the story is not clear enough.

When did he marry the second wife who took him to court? What about the first wife's stake in this going by the law used to judge the case?

If the story was about a man with just one wife, I agree with the judgment.

Still chill first.

Baba oni baba is still thinking of how to recoup his dollars used to fund the elections and how he can put systems in place to financially engineer national funds into his pockets.

immanuelsize:
i woke up to see that fuel is now #500 per litre. Jagaban has landed. Shettima is rejoicing!

This fuel subsidy is not BAT'S work; it is Buhari that removed it effective 1st June.

So it is Buhari that is still working.

We are yet to feel the effect of Tinubu's regime.

Electorate:
Emancipate yourself from mental slavery, A Pastor that was silent during election campaigns and now suddenly found his voice cannot be trusted.

The bible already told us that by their fruits we shall know them.

And what did you want him to say o jare?

If as a Pastor, God did not tell him anything about the elections, should he have come out to state otherwise?

There is nothing that would please some people; some pastors emphatically said BAT would not be inaugurated: the prophecies ranged from he would die before May 29th to he would lose the elections to there would be no inauguration.

Today is May 30th in Nigeria and BAT is the president already. You people are dragging them as false prophets.

The one that did not see anything hence did not say anything (he said repeatedly that God did not tell him anything about this elections), you people drag him again.

As a Pastor, shouldn't he encourage the people and pray for a new Nigeria abi you don't want new Nigeria ni?

Ebenezer Obey has said it: you can never please the world. If you do, talk; if you no do, still the same talk.

Hathor5:
Statistically daughters and sons from divorced homes are more likely to be divorced but statistics tell you nothing about an indivdual.

Many people from divorced homes will work extra hard for their marriage to succeed so that their kids don`t have to go through the same experience.

If you have a good lady there, hold on to her and don`t judge her based on her father and mother`s decisions.

EOD

I pray God console his family and all he left behind. Amen.

inoki247:
Any filling station that hoard fuel without selling it out there license should be seized.....



Nigerians always trying to take advantage of everything....


Some month back Ghana remove Subsidy no single queue like this or fuel scarcity in derr country buh Nigeria greedy people everywhere....

@bold:

While this new government is not my cup of tea, the bold part of your post are the major issues.

conquerorsword:
Dear Nairalanders, I am at a point where I can say I am ready to marry and who to choose has been an issue.

I have friends that are really decent but no strong feelings attached.

I know the will of God but their Shakara too much and another thing is that them no love you the same way, they will also tell you that God did not tell them anything.


I also have a lady that I am in love with and when people see us, then say we are couples. And she loves me same way.
Please in situations like this what should I go for?

This your post is not clear and I concur with the poster that said you are not ready for marriage.

If you are truly a child of God and He has shown you His will for you (I.e. your wife), then you will be praying she confirms same instead of opening this thread.

Secondly, you said you know His will but they are doing Shakara and said they did not hear anything.

Mbok, how many 'wills' of God did you hear/see?

Are you sure it is not the devil or your own will you are seeing here?

Felabrity:
He was dragged for taunting the opposition with his song, not attending


He wasn't the only one that was invited

@bold:

I suspected same.

The song is too provocative given the current political terrain.

He did not use sense to do his own performance.

Aposteli1:
God bless you abundantly in Jesus name.

Amen and you too.

zeusdgrt:
Good advice, don't go looking for trouble.If ur man takes care of u,luv u, knack u very well, give u attention then stay off his phone.

Stay off his phone; why?

ebukajay184:
https://www.instagram.com/reel/CsvXqoQAzPV/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link

Seun Lalasticlala Mynd44 nlfpmod

If she said phone checking is indicative of lack of trust and both parties or wives (depending on the audience) should work towards a trust marriage, I concur.

If she said wives should mind their business and stop intruding on their husbands' privacy, I absolutely disagree.

In a Christian home, there is no privacy and no personal business to mind. This is a 'worldly' wisdom and principles creeping into the Church.

That's why every Christian owe himself/herself the duty to study the Word and understand for themselves.

okoroemeka:
will Jesus leave fresh young puffy pussy and dip his holy dick in a 123 year old abrasive pussy,our father will not forbid such to happen

Onisokuso!

You need holy slap to shift your jaw so you know that some things are beyond expression.

Ma, if you could not find a worthy suitor on your own in your youth, what makes you believe that someone else can perform that herculean task at this age?

folake4u:
Lmao. You can talk oh. Feel free please. What did Gen Z do again?

If you want to talk more, and not derail the thread, we can take it to the Pinkpill thread if you wish.

Hahaha. It's true. Na we start that "Ode" tag.
That word too sweet abeg.😂😂😂😂

I want to follow peace this evening

Gen Z, the mental health generation.

Even for we late millenials, we are as far apart as year 1999 to year 2000.

I remember a Gen Z colleague who was talking about mental health and claustrophobia like you guys just invented the words.

I looked at her and told her that I have been claustrophobic since before she was born and it is not limiting me or affecting my 'mental health' in anyway.

Na patience we go dey use deal with una.

Eunoiaa:
As it's always like.

Samantha124:
This one requires 40 days and 40 nights fasting...

It is well.

shiki:
Please don't be stupid, cos you are sounding like...

Brother Shiki,

A simple reason why you were mailing her would clear the air especially if you have never had any prior discussion with her.

Your defensiveness makes it seem you were caught doing something wrong and you are trying to do 'ogboju'

It doesn't look good on a man who posted his wedding notification some years ago after eight years of relationship.

Also use this opportunity to examine yourself and state of your marriage; only you know your intentions when you initiated the private mail with her. If they were wrong (adultery/ sexting/ flirting/ emotional affair etc.), use this as an opportunity to repent and desist from such online and offline going forward.

It is well with you and your home.

Eunoiaa:
It's my fault.

I just realised.

The conversation was actually happening here, before I took it (Folake's comment) to the Pinkpill thread, 'cause I didn't want us continuing here.

Don't be sorry; decided to go through the thread and it went down real quick!

Samantha124:
I find it funny that your personal text states that " watch and pray so that ye don't get into temptation."

Clearly you're not praying, else you wouldn't be emailing other people's women when you're also married.

Pray harder comrade, go on 40 days and 40 nights fasting..🤣🤣🤣

Warris this?

folake4u:
Thank you soooooo much for this.

I'm definitely giving it a try.😋

Eunoiaa:
The e-portals' network are probably scrambled.

I understand.

Apparently, I clicked on her post you quoted on the ladies thread.

I was done and noticed I was on the 3rd page which caught my attention and started seeing pre-wedding pictures and post-wedding fight.