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Just wasted my time reading this!

Some of us are "Stand Alone Husbands" When our wives go on strike, we cover up and let them know, our world will not standstill because of their stubbornness!

Your brother can wake up and dress the kids for school! Take them there and figure a way for them to come back in the afternoon.

if he was a widower, wouldn't his children be going to school!

I have seen men do that!

Madam, am a married man with experience, if a man or a lady does not want to marry you, please, let them be, you cant force a man to marry you, and stop bringing God to this matter! God did not give you permission to fornicate with Victor!

You might end up hating this guy if he does everything you want!

Marriage and love are by choice!

The mistake has been made

If you love him, like you claim, dont block his access to the child

go on and improve yourself

Time and chance have a way of healing us and bringing us happiness

Uche1993:
If I did not love him let me die, I was literally obsessed with this guy like he was my everything, my only friend outside my family, my only boyfriend. I am my family’s responsibility, I am not his responsibility. From today we don’t know who he is, he doesn’t exist to us and I don’t exist to him, let’s God’s will be done and let him fight for me and my child. If we did mister victor any wrong I will publicly apologize and own up to my mistake but if he is the one that lied to me and is still lieing here let God fight for me.

She's manipulating you! I hate manipulative people! Dare her to go ahead with the pregnancy without you, lets see what will happen in 6 month time! I dont think she really loves you!

Call her and ask her! When I newly got married, I had to block my Mum! Because she was always calling and asking if my wife had taken it, and it was bringing a lot of problems to the young family, so I had to block her, but I did not tell my wife, but I told my siblings, just in case!


My cousin a lady had to block and stop her mum from coming, because every time the mother came, she kept pointing out her husband flaws, so as a sensible wife, she did the needful.

Some of my friends blocked and ban their mums and siblings from reaching them, because they refuse to understand that them are married now, that attention has to shift a little bit to the new home and a new wife.

This december, my baby cousin did not travel with her husband and children to the village, because, she needs to avoid her mother-in-law, not that it is good, but for her sanity. She said, her mother in-law lives very close to their house, and she deprives her of being with her children. Her mother in-law picks her kids from home to school, brings them back from school and keep them in her house till her son, comes back for them, every friday, they pack their clothes for the weekend to grandma house. She hardly see her children nor play with them, grandma has taken over them.

So, all I am saying is that your wife must have a reason to do so, talk to her, find out and resolve the issue and let peace reign!

badoh:
Though I'm yet to confront my wife on this as I need to gauge public comment if this act of her is tenable. This is how it goes.
My mum called me last week to know how we were doing( myself, my wife and our children). In such greetings, she will pray for us on the phone and wish us well. However, she told me she has been calling my wife's line for a couple of days but the number always returned busy. I never attached importance to this cos I thought it could be network issue. This week again, she called me to extend her greetings and told me to inform my wife that she has been trying to reach her on phone but her number is busy.
I was curious and wanted to know what actually happened. Around 10pm yesternight, my wife gave me her phone to charge for her as she was already feeling dizzy. I collected the phone and remembered what my mum told me. I went to check if my mum number was blacklisted on her phone, alas, my mum's number was actually blacklisted. I can't really comprehend why she would do such. I'm so disappointed in her for what she did. I had to snap the blacklisted part in case she wants to deny it if I eventually confront her. My mum is not the troublesome type, very calm and kind.
I dont know if I should confront her on this or I should keep it within myself. I can never think of doing such to her own parents.
Has anyone experience this before?

Thank You JESUS!



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Tell you friend that he is a stupid man! Period!

Demigod22:
So my friend have this girlfriend in 100 level, although he just graduated. They have regular and chronic sex. But the girlfriend is always scared of pregnancy.

The problem is that last night they were having sex and the condom burst and he poured everything inside. The girlfriend got angry and left. He advised her to take salt and water, Andrew liver salt, or any gas drink, but she ignored him.

My friend is angry with her because, she is always scared of pregnancy but will never take those things to prevent it, it happened yesterday and she is thinking it will lead to pregnancy. My friend is leaving school on Monday because he has graduated.

Although I have advised him severally to reduce the sex, but the deed has been done already. What is your advice to the girl?

Women! Women! Women! Your husband knew you have a health challenge and he still choose to marry you, in 13 years, just had sex 5 times, not his fault, but because of your health challenge! Madam! In all honesty will you marry your husband, if you knew he has fertility challenges!

Biko, see the good part of that youthful young man and correct your opinions about him joor!


What guarantee do you have that you will not die early before him!

Madam! Go and fix your health challenges with your husband! Na you dey push am away! In 13 years, sex just 5 time, Baby came by IVF, which is costly, you dont leave with him, but you want to punish him.

What is the color of your wickedness?

You need healing, both in health, physical, spiritual and psychological

That man is not your problem!

Fix yourself!

You have done your human best! You don't want to loose both your family and your daily income, which will be the worst my friend! At this point let GOD and Time! Heal your marriage!

Trust me, you need to put your self together! If you loose your job, this battle will be very difficult for you!

Keep praying, Keep making your money, Keep keeping your sanity together! You will need all of them.

God loves you, we all make mistakes and we are not our mistakes!

In anything please dont loose your job! Dont loose your sanity please Brother!

One Love!

Noah9:
I want to thank everyone for their advice and I really appreciate everyone involvement about the thread I created 2week ago. Here is the link.
https://www.nairaland.com/6933724/regretted-actions-please-me

Great people of this forum, honestly things have never been better ever since that incident and I wish our minds are like show glass so that y'all would see how sorry I am inside of me. I messed up and I'm really sorry.

5 days after I created that post above, My wife traveled with my daughter to her parents house to stay without telling me. Since that incident my wife haven't said a word to me, Not a single word. Sometimes I wonder if she's the same woman I married. I'm frustrated, incoherent and I'm losing my mind.

I've been good to her, I provide 85% for my family while she bring just 15% yet I don't complain, I'm romantic and good looking, since we married I don't keep female friends not to talk of cheating. Yet She denied me sex over 2 months without any reasons, that was why I acted that way and I'm so sorry.

On Tuesday here, My friend and I traveled to her parents house, they did not even welcome us well, I don't know what she must have told her parents but I explained myself, knelt down and asked for forgiveness.

She refused to come home with me, her parents were just starring at me like I'm some demon, I requested for my daughter but she refused to release her and I've already paid my daughter's school fees for the term. Her parents said they would register my daughter in a new school, that my wife need some space for now.

Please don't call me a weak man, I'm family oriented, I don't want broken home, if she needed some space that's not a problem, I can give her all the space in the world but let her come home. It's not proper raising a child in a broken home...I'm really losing my mind.

I faced query today at work because I traveled without informing my Boss which I know he won't allow me and I know how much would be deducted from my salary. what I'm going through now I can't wish my enemies and I wish I could turn back the hands of time. I messed up.

Beloveth Pls I need advice.

Stop visiting ashawos and stop watching porn!

Get your degree, your parents have tried, then go back to boxing, one year is enough to achieve that!

There comes a time in every man's life, that you will learn not to throw a stone at every dog that barks, you just want t be at peace as much as possible with everyone around you!

You just want to be at peace with even your enemies!

Parrot69:
And you’re still condoning that marriage??
Oya clap for yaself.

So sad Bros! One of the problems I am having in my marriage is because I am a very tall and huge guy, marrying an average tall, very slim lady, who has a baby face. Everybody believes everything she says about, because of the huge gap in strength! But thank God she is not a good liar, the few times, I had to defend myself, people were screaming, and once she starts crying! Case close, she wins again.


Men are endangered species!

Thank You Jesus!

Thank GOD For The Holy Spirit! One Day I Nearly Lost My Cool! And I Nearly Beat Madam In Front Of Shopping Mall! Marrying Your Enemy Can Turn A Man Into A Beast!

Funny Enough his kids are one of the most well behaved kids I have seen, notwithstanding living in ghetto! Because at one point in time, apart from the little girl, the boys have worked for me, just like their father!

Kobojunkie:
Isn't it obvious from your story that there is no privacy in some of these cases?

I wonder instead of the psychological impact such exposure has on their kids.

Well I have a friend who once had a girlfriend, now turned wife as desperate as yours! We tried to warn him, but he refused, like he said "The Sex is good"

Now, he is regretting his marriage!

The only 2 things, he now enjoys in his marriage, when the wife decides to intrigue him is just (1) Sex and (2) Food that is when she feels like it.

And Oga wetin done! Continue pouring into her, hoping you are shooting blanks, your village people go come omugo for you

Thank You!

donolatunji:
Op kindly change the *copy* to *cope* in the sentence

I know it's a typo.

To your question, I think they'll cope by all means but the main issue here is that, may we not be broke for long...

I went to visit my laundry man, who has worked for me for 10 years, all those years, I have never visited him, to see where he lives, now his 16 years old son, works for me, every weekend, and he is such a hard working young boy and I am beginning to love him like my son, so I decided to drive him home, and to visit his dad.


When we got to the house, the man was surprised and welcomed me, he asked his son to quickly have his bath and go somewhere for him.

Wow! He stripped! Since the bathroom is facing where I sat, he went in and came in front of us. No privacy! Changed and went for the errand! As if it was no big deal.

When I was about to go, the dad asked to me drop him somewhere, which I obliged, and he needed to change into a better clothes. I wanted to step outside to give him the needed privacy, but the door was very difficult to open, he begged me to relax , wait for him to change, so he can open the door for me, that only them know how to open the door, just like him son, he stripped, but it took him longer to sort out his clothes, and I was wondering, is this what he goes through every day with his family (Wife, 3 sons - Oldest 25- Youngest 16 and a 12 years old daughter) And he had all his children in that one room apartment.

families that live in one room, how do you people cope with privacy?



families that live in one room, how do you people cope with privacy

Let her go! Thank GOD she did not kill you. Change the locks of the house! And let bygones, be bygones!

Just ask God in prayers to help you put it the right use!

First Thing First, before I forget!

Tell your mother to remove his door(s)!

Both the bedroom door and the toilet/bathroom door!

16 years is still fresh! We can save him by tough love!

My 21 years son, just started locked his room, which he has grown up to not lock, just because he is now an undergraduate! Some I have to show the good boy some respect! But before then, I his daddy needs unrestricted entrance to his room at all time. I dont have a girl, but if do, it will still be the same thing

DjBigMoni:
No other reason, she even had to threaten my life again after my mum incident, wanted to pure me hot water in the presence of her mum all because I said I'll still deal with her after all the pleading. she still begged for forgiveness that night

Make this wife no go kill you for us Oooooo!


I no know understand her vexations!

Where we dey see all these wives we dey marry? Madam fight Mummy in-law! Maka Why? So E no go one day become mummy in-law? All these wives must collect Oooooo!

Please let her go! The worst thing to do, is to live with An Unhappy Spouse! And why did he allow his wife unmarried friend to come and live with them. When I started having issues with my wife, the first thing I did was to warn her friends personally, when they visited for lunch, never to come to my house again in their life time! They left my food for me and never came to the house again. They are part of the problem! I had access to madam phone then, and I read all their horrible chats!

The grass is always greener at the other side! But na person dey water the grass!

Let her go, before she go kill you!

Badboibipo:
Sup g, I’m fine o. Just been busy it’s all, appreciate the love bro

Good To Have You Back!

More Blessings!

JooEeL:
What if someone is sleeping with ur wife while she's away from u?

Doesnt that disturb u?

I dont let anything disturb my peace! Thou Shall Not Be Caught! That's My Own! Caught! And You Are Gone! Period!

What nonsense is that? Let the pastor help them now! Just like my useless neighbor came last night to ask for NEPA bill from me, for 3 years he did not pay the a dime for light and owned house rent, till he was kicked out! Now he had the audacity to come and ask for NEPA Bill!

Be careful Boss! People are evil! For them to report you to a pastor, na God wan expose their evil plans, biko be careful!

GOD go help us Nigerian Husbands Oooooo! Na so madam carry our Family Feeding Money ATM Card, give her people, they went crazy internet shopping with the ATM card - or My ATM because na only me dey put money for that account for family upkeep. And she refused to apologize or see anything wrong in that!

omonla10:
that was 12 years ago. It's d other way round now. I can accommodate d 4 inlaws now sef.. But my mum and wife just won't gel.. Na forced friendship dem dey do

What's the problem with your wife? Will she not become a mother in-law someday? Will she like to be treated the way she is treating your mother, and for you guy, for not putting your feet down, you go collect as a father in-law! What nonsense!