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Most likely will but after many years of trial.

Children have lost both parents.

techmo:
I hope he gets death sentence too

Where did you get her life story from?

Callous.

TarOrfeeek:
When sensible and gentle men toast women, they disregard them and claim those men are 'creepy.'


They want a real man. A man who knows what he wants (whatever that means)

And so, they callously serve rejection to the simple, nonviolent and extremely gentle man. Denying him a chance to procreate in this earth.

When the typical Alpha, violent, boxer (who obviously knows what he wants) comes around. They do everything within their power to bag him.

And when they do, and things go from Alpha wet my pants - Alpha psycho wacko.


They bring the news to FP NL so that all of the rejected men who were simple and kind can come and type RIP or Eyah or Chai or OMG.

Or whatever the Bleep women want men to say.

But really, who says Eya! to the several other men that wanted to marry Barrister and were rejected so she could have the Real Man?

The way the world is going, do something online. If no computer knowledge, start just with typing. Try graphic design, writing stories online, etc.

They have to remove this idiot out of that position.

Youre talking like those are small things.

He is married.

FalseProphet1:
I see the community rewarding him with a beautiful wife, chieftaincy title and naming a road and school after him. This I have seen.

Why wait 5 years?

What's stopping you guys from getting married next year?

Is she working? Are you going to be working soon?

What are these life plans you guys have been talking about?

Age difference is not that important. Mutual respect is much more important.

I think you should tell him, if you want, that you'd like a no holds barred tell all talk about your situation.

Let him know of many couples, famous or not, in which the lady is older than the man.

E.g the Beckham's and the Jonathan's.

Depending on your subject, can you do lesson?

Reaching usually has a start and end time. The management job is likely to be 24/7. Especially since you'll be living at the store in 'free accomodation' and with 'marketing car'.

If they pay all car maintenance fees and you have 1 day off, the management might be the better option.

What does this actually mean for most peeps receiving foreign exchange?

Your boyfriend has to make it clear. If he isn't clear to his mother, in your presence, that it is you or nothing, leave him.

Parents, even of the same.tribw, could try to reject a potential spouse for whatever reason.

fiverr.com

Nairaland Literature thread. People are always looking for writers.

Hassanmaye:
Direct me to any where I can write articles and get paid abeg

While job searching and staying home, could you do online work? Can you write articles, do analysis? Have you heard of Fiverr?

The ball is in your court to earn in this modern world.

Switchman:
This will be a lengthy one but I promise to summarize it as much as I can.

I met a lady in her late 30s 18months ago through an online friend. I was working in Lagos while she was based and working in Abuja.

We chatted for a while before she volunteered to come to Lagos for a visit over the weekend which doesn't seem a bad idea to me cos I believed seeing in person is better than 1 million pictures.

Due to her age and desperation, we met and she liked what she saw in me and intensive talks began on how I can relocate to Abuja and get better job. I actually haven't been to Abuja so I was excited to take that move with the hope of becoming a better person and getting a better job.

I resigned from my job due to some issues as at that time which could had been managed but so I can have more time to visit and see how things are in Abuja before making my final preparation to relocate. She supports financially during those time while I use my car for ehailing business pending when I will finally relocate.

Covid 19 lock down came and all plans were halted due to restrictions on vehicular movements. Fast forward to November last year I made final plans and I agreed to finally relocate but on the conditions that we will need to get a new apartment cos I don't want to move in with her to her former apartment which was a one room self contain, we got a 1 bedroom apartment and I moved in with her. She owns 90% stake on the expenses incurred but in the spirit of hope for a better job, I will upgrade the apartment to have an equal stake in the home.

It's been 3 months now I have fully relocated and we have been cohabiting but it's been hell for me and I just need help on how to get out of this mess I put myself. No job was forth coming and due to the fact that I am home always, I have been reduced to a house help cos I am the one doing the chores, cleaning the dishes and even my laundry though she pays for her own, so many other insults and atimes it's with exchanges of words before I can take a walk just to acclimatize myself with the terrains of the area.

It's really a bad experience for a man not to have a steady source of income cos in a twinkle of an eye the love will vanish.

I love the lifestyle of Abuja cos it is less stressful than Lagos and I will really like to get a good source of income so I can get my own apartment and be free from the shackles I put myself in the name of love.

I really need help now cos I know my days are numbered and it's a matter of time before she sends me packing cos I really don't have the right to the apartment. Please house, I need your candid advise on what to do and as always constructive criticism is allowed.

Thanks
Switchman

It is more efficient for the girl to make the first move.

If is not as uncommon as people think. Every girl who does it thinks she's doing something new lol.

Mamarockzie:
After work today, I and few friends decided to do TGIF at the shrine(Fela Shrine), nothing really spectacular about it but we just needed somewhere/ something different from our movies, clubbing and the modern settings.

While we were having our different talks, a very pretty lady walked up to us and asked to see a colleague of mine(a guy). They went afar and when he got back, we asked to know what transpired. He actually didn't want to open up but we're all Gees (Lols).

So he told us the Lady wooed him(like seriously) and with all sincerity, he already liked her for that. I remembered walking up to a guy back then in school to tell him he was cute. But in all sincerity I don't think I have that boldness anymore.

Another (a guy) said he consider it more, preferable and he wished it was immensely more common. And my gee concluded that if the lady is serious about it, he would date her and respect her more.

Honestly, I admired the lady's courage and I think you should go for whatever makes you happy after all, .most guys ends up been turned down, so as a lady also be prepared to handle rejection too.

If it's separate rooms or turning the sitting room into a bedroom, there is no problem.

Don't out yourself on such situations.

If you're taxing a guy in this Nigeria, he will expect you to do these things.

If the relationship is based on equality, I'd be surprised if he demanded stuff like this.

For dating, liberal. For discussions, fundamental.

1Sharon:
Hmm so which do you prefer

Fundamental Christians are honest.

Liberal & non practicing (not the same) are confused.

1Sharon:
Hmm..how?

When I say liberal, I mean non-practising

He should allow the matter rest. He says he's always known.

Good thing his mom took him away from the persecution he would have suffered in this country.

They are.

Kelvin3476:
I can't marry an atheist . As a christian i would love u to embrace christianity. I will preach the gospel to u . I will do what so ever it take 4 it to work, bt i won't manipulate or force u to accept my belief . Go and tell those missionaries that try converting people that they are narcissist.

How many Christians or Muslims actually read the Bible or Quran?

From start to finish and reading to understand?

Ayo2004:
Most Nigerians are not Christians or muslims,they just deceive themselves going to church, mosques,reading Bible's and co.
If a girl is an atheist and has a good heart and mind,I would pick her over a Christian any time any day..The Christian hypocrisy is too much,that's how my friend found out that the female youth leader in his church is an olosho

Anyhow,make everyone do what seem right to him/her

The liberal ones are dishonest.

They like to pretend as though we didn't read the Bible.

1Sharon:
The liberal ones are actually cool, don't write all of them off

It looks that way.

Sad that we are judging people by their hairstyles.

Same logic is used by police and co to harass and kill.

Romanoff:
I could be wrong but it looks like a case of a yahoo boy who married an olosho.

Both lives wasted.

Iheanacho is a boss.

Continue King!

Dont let people, including Nigerians pressure you. Just keep being an integral member of the team.

Take life by its horns.

You have a greater impact on your destiny than any god.

Good.luck my G.

Casham:
Honestly, My Faith is broken, probably beyond repair already. Prayer is just a formality for me because I know nobody will answer. But I envy those with an unwavering faith. They have no idea the kind of peace of mind they got. None of my prayers ever seemed to be answered. I prayed for one thing for years but it only get worse. And now, this year, everything just broke. Years of my life wasted. And God said nothing. He did nothing. I ask the question 'Why?' more than a hundred times every day. I read the book " When God doesn't make sense" by Dr James Dobson over and over again. But I still can't understand why? Why is He always quite. I never believed in Hell, so I am not afraid to leave, but I am already addicted to the idea of God. I just finally choose to live on auto-mode. My life is in my hand now. I don't care anymore. God sees my heart: I am an honest and sincere doubter.

Sorry for what your grand mum went through.

Live your life for you. Make an impact on the world and forget about a nonexistent good god.

masterP042:
I watched my grandma groan in pain day and night, for weeks as a result of cancer, all the pastors we knew prayed for her, she gave her life to christ over and over again. All church members visited us to pray for her. My dad constantly donated blood to her almost on a weekly basis. I prayed, we all prayed, but still yet, she died after the whole prayers and money spent.
What broke me was not that she died, what broke me was the constant pain the innocent woman went through. How can a human die such a tragic death, for something she knows nothing about. She cried to God to soothe her pain, she cried for almost a year, lost all her weight, and later gave up the fight.
How can a good God allow good people to die of cancer I can't even pray for buhari my worst enemy right now to suffer such

R. Kelly is currently in prison awaiting trial for being a serial statutory rapist.

valentineuwakwe:
poverty then in AJEGUNLE. .it was terrible...but mom will sing R.Kelly 'sign of victory 'song then, made us believe more in working hard and being honest.
with that we all overcome - we join the secret service, we became nurses in the U.S., we join the banking sector, we join the entrepreneurship course in Nigeria, above all we thank him for doing many impossible things in our life and families!

Lovely statement.

Your potter and clay analogy is very apt.

You're just 1 step closer to freedom from religious bere berism.

Offpoint1:
Too many unanswered prayers, I quit praying and start working more, building myself more, learning more skills and I start getting results and I say what's the point? Everything you prayed for doesn't happen until you work for it... then what's the point of the prayers? If I asked my earthly father's stuffs and he continuously doesn't give me until I work for it, what's the point of asking? let me start working for it since it's more effective than asking for it.

There are too many things we don't want to speak up both Christians and Muslims because we're too afraid of the hell threats... 50% of humans are serving God out of fear of hell, the rest 50% are serving God out of personal greed which is promised of heaven.

If you're down at accident scene with injuries, no amount of prayers will save you if you're not taking to hospital for medical attention
In sickness it's still the same
In needs your fellow humans will be at your mercy when you speak up or when they noticed the signs.

Maybe the Brain behind our existence Left us to our own faith,
Maybe he made us to be our own gods by having each others backs.

I've gotten to the stage I'm no longer afraid to ask questions, I've stopped buying that "you can't question God" lines pastors and preachers had been giving me... I've stopped buying "the portal and clay" analogy. Clay doesn't complain about how the portal mould it because it's an inanimate object with no consciousness... Don't expect me to be like that.

Don't mistake me for an atheist

Stop believing in this colonial 'god', both of you.

Onyi22:
From my inbox

I met this guy in my final year in school, we almost shared the same view in life, he possesed all the qualities I need in a man.

He's so caring, kind, handsome, a good pay Job n from a humble home, I can't deny the fact that I Love him.

But the issue is that he's a Muslim while am a christian lady.

Pls house does religion matters in marriage

Lack of trust on money issues is one of the biggest reasons for divorce.

However, is it possible for her to not be involved in the business?

Hmmmmmm001:
I am really angry as I type this right now. Sorry to bore you with this epistle.
I have been dating this girl for two years and planning to settle down this year but there are some issues bothering me and one of it just happened few minutes before I typed posted this.

Before the coronavirus pandemic, she told me she would love to go into textile and sell in bales especially imported. I loved this idea as it was brilliant and I love girls who use valuable times for something productive. I offered to even lend her some money to start. I told her to start small and let me know when she took off the business. She started and I gave her 100k to augment the business. She started the business and all was going well before corona came. She couldn't continue the business during the corona period. After normal business resumed, I found out she isn't continuing the business as she gives excuses when I asked. I pressured her until she told me she's given her capital to her mom to do things she didn't disclosed. She crumbled the business just like that. It was only recently she's just about to start off another one which I had to offset 150k to meet up the deadline for the shop she intends to use.

Now today, I have my own personal business which runs into some millions. My sister oversees it when I'm away because I had to travel alot last earlier this year. Now my sister could wasn't free as usual as she's out of the country now. I brought my girlfriend in to oversees the sales especially the invoice and cash payment. Yesterday, I went through the inventory and cross-checked with the records and found about 180k missing. I have only only about 1.4m worth of goods now down from 1.6m I started with this year.
I had to go meet some new suppliers who were introduced to me by a friend. She opted to come stay till I get back. I recieved a call from her that she sold some goods and the person used our POS payment system but the balance isn't adding up. I told her if it's less than 30 seconds, it will still reflect. I logged into the mobile app of the payment platform to check the transaction and found out it was a failed transaction. I called her immediately but she said it was approved at her end. I stopped everything I was doing to come back to the shop and reprinted all transactions for the day, it was the highest and written as failed. The transaction was 290k and she wasn't even concentrating while it was going on. She issued a receipt for it and the person made away with the goods. I even searched around and saw the printout of the failed transaction. It was until then she stopped arguing that it was approved.

Now, I am visibly angry. How can someone be so careless with money the way she is. I am even planning of collecting a refund from her to teach her a lesson. Can I marry someone like this who is nonchalant this way.
I just have thousands of thoughts running through my mind right now.

Extremely disappointing if the only reason they gave is this superstitious suspicion?

Also, of she makes more money, and he has custody of 2 out if the 3 children, why is he playing child support?

'Beauty' should not be a consideration because beauty is relative.

What if she or he is beautiful to you but your friends or/and family think they are not? Do you then mortgage your happiness for 'what will people say'?

As a guy, beauty is probably not the consideration for vain people, rather, it's your money.

As a lady, the vain people will use beauty, 'assets', etc. Some ladies then tie their stomachs, undergo for expensive and dangerous surgery, waste money on slim tea and whitening cream.

To what end? What happens as you get older? What if you lose your money? Will your so called love stay with you?

Marry who you are happy with, who makes you laugh. 'Beauty' should be irrelevant.