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bellong: The bolded, you finished from IFE?

No.Keep guessing.just joking.There was any work in most campus hostels.

CosmoFab: Like you said, there are "better less crowded amenities and more space for my money," and London as a city, is not a bad place to raise kids. The problem is, most black people cannot afford to live in the decent neighbourhood of London. Instead of moving to another city where they can have a better live and environment for their kid, they will remain in the cheaper neighbourhoods of London where crime and gang culture is a thing to be proud of.

True.I agree.But people should face facts and say they cant afford the nicer places than just blanketly say'London is no place to raise kids'.

All cities have undesirable areas and there are some places in Manchester too that you would not pay me to live in.I know what am talking about cos my husband lived in Manchester for a while.

As for cheaper,thats cos of social housing.In the private sector a 2 bed poky,small as hell flat goes for an average of 1,500 per month in peckham.That aint cheap.Social housing is social housing.Some people live in council houses in Chelsea,my grand aunt lives in Neasden and she was a council tenant till she bought her flat.

I get you and bebe 2 points and i agree with most of them regarding raising my kids.I just refuse to generalise and say people dont want to lose their council houses cos they are greedy or London is soooo terrible.As a matter of fact it reminds me so much of Lagos(i be real omo eko )

greatgod2012: hey cougar, just hold it "ibi ti eeyan ba rin de lo ma ri de"
There was lady when we were in the Uni, that came to school with 2 househelps, she couldnt do nada, i mean it, the househelps cook, washes plates and clothes, including the undies, cleans their 2 bedroom flat, goes for shopping, etc, she was completely useless, infact, one of the househelps was a secondary school graduate, she used to ask that particular one to be reading her notes to her hearing.......... So, just hold it, some, as someone said are not just domesticated at all.

really house helps in Uni. na wa o.Make i no lie sha i used to use all those 'any work' people to wash my clothes while in Uni cos i hate washing clothes.I absolutely hate laundry and thank God for washing machines.As for other chores,even my hubby says i am.OCD when it comes to cleaning,i hate dirty enviroments.My kids sef know mummy hates mess.As for cooking,i can say i improved greatly sef since i got married cos the last few yrs i spent at home i rarely cooked.So i learnt and picked up stuff along the way and now my hibby brags about my cooking.

@OP laziness is a thing of will.Everyone is inherently lazy but we fight it.Who wants to wakeup to go to work?Who wants to really really do chores?I know i dont but i have to cos 1.who will 2.i cant stand filth.We all do stuff we dont want to sometimes and end up enjoying doing them.

So encourage her. had great points so i think you need to go with her post as well

bebe2: Yeah nice areas, Richmond, chelsea fulham, Buckingham palace oh n number 10. How many black pple live there? Ok, how many black kids go to eton school? I beg I tire.

My point was not whether or not black people live in those areas(as far as i know sef if you can afford it you actually can ) its just to counter the hasty sweeping generalisation that London is no place to raise kids.If we want to go further sef,how many people black live in the English countryside i.e The shires.Those are also lovely places to raise kids.

Me for now i cant afford to live in those nice places so i will move out to get access to better less crowded amenities and more space for my money.That does not mean i will just make a sweeping generalisation that the whole of London is not a place to raise kids.

vanitty: We indeed need marriage counselling in Nigeria and I will give una some for free here! Real life, time is money lol

Most Ladies are wired to believe that once the I do's has been said, they should automatically be "Queen" Oh and just give him a kid or 2 and he is tied to your apron forever, that is not always the case

Have you ever asked an older couple that has been in this marriage thing for 25+ years how "love" is for them, they will most likely say "oh I love her/him more now than I did in the beginning, I was just tolerating her/him in the beginning, now we UNDERSTAND and RESPECT each other even though the sex life has diminished shock horror!

Without the sex, majority of newly wed has no chance of survival, because that is what we have to do until we grow in this marriage thing. Sex is communication, sex is love, sex is understanding, sex is the way to finish an argument, sex is the way to avoid confrontation. For newly weds, sex is everything.

New couples needs to stop doing gragra. We need to let our other half get to it in their own time. You don't demand the crown of "Queen" "Man of the house" you have to earn it.

Stop making him choose between you and his family most especially his mother because quite honestly 95% of newly married men (7 years and below) will want to choose their mother but their mothers if he has a good one will be the one to advise them to choose the wife.

If you as a wife and mother cannot behave like a matured lady and you are not contributing financially to the upkeep of your home, then your husband can tell you to get out.

If you are as a husband cannot behave like a matured man, your wife will use your head as "orogun to ro poundo"

In this scenario, that was a family home whatever way we want to look at it. It really doesn't matter that it was the brother that was footing the bill, still a family home.
In most homes, children don't pay bills but it is still their home and in this story, the sister is obviously a "child" as she is not financially capable to take care of her self.

I can just see the wife trying to stamp her authority by being mrs commander. I can also bet my last pound that the wife was very "submissive" to the sister before she became Mrs.

Thats why i said in earlier post that this is not a versus thing.All the parties have different roles to play in the life of a man(or woman) as the case maybe.Its silly to be issuing ultimatums like its ' me or her' cos you are two different individuals in the life of this person.

Soooo as a sister who has the best interest of my brother,i will try to accomodate my SIL whims(whether y'all like it or not its her home be it mansion or 1 sq m room).Same as wife has to understand that sister is husband sibling and has known him all his life.

Respect is what is lacking in this scenario cos as most people have said if you respect someone you wont let it result to petty quarels that will then degenerate to fisticuffs.

Maybe its my personality but if live with you(and this was even in my father's house)i respect your rules.My mum and Dad hated late nights and going to sleep over in friends or boyfriends houses.At 25 or over sef,working and contrubuting to bills in the house,dem still no born me well to stroll into the house at 3am.I was engaged and i still did not have the effontery to tell my parents that i was going to sleep in my fiance house.Dem no born u well to eat and pile plates in the sink.Before i left for work in the morning i would still sweep the living room as that was my assigned chore.This was before i would knack suit.I abided by those rules cos its my parents house.THEIR house.

Alot of people take stuff for granted and are really inconsiderate.In as much as i am not exonerating the wife for MAYBE not being patient enough,sister has more blame to me cos its not her house.Even if she lived there 100 years before her brother got married.

Vanity touched on something though,what you wont take in marriage gently establish at courtship.Not that you were washing,cooking,cleaning,even worshipping said sister before marriage and as soon as you got ring,you go hulk hogan.

MMotimo: Just did # 4

Me: Do we have milk? (getting myself some cereal as I stood at the countertop by the fridge)
Kid: Yes (and started walking away from the kitchen)
Me: where are you going? Shebi I said give me the milk
Kid: You didn't say so ( got it for me,probably wondering how hard would it have been for me to get the milk myself since I was standing next to the fridge)

True African immigrant

Lol.Typical African Parent.

OP i think the title of your thread is exactly the issue.It is not a versus thing.Your wife is your wife.Your sister is your sister.Their roles are not mutually exclusive.Your sister cannot take on the role of your wife neither can your wife be your sister.

I had the same issues in trying to assign boundaries in the relationship between my extended family and my immediate family.But your wife and yourself are a Unit.One. Together you are meant to cater to the needs of both families.The whole inlaw interaction thing is quite tricky cos you have families with two different outlooks to life blending hence the friction..

Its your wife's home as much as yours and i think your sister is the one who has to be more diplomatic(unfortunately however we look at it its not her home).I would leave in a sec if i feel i was a source of friction in my brothers marriage.What if my brother was not in Lagos?What of people who have no brothers in Lagos?Help your sister to be a lil more independent for peace to reign in your home.I cant say throw your sister out BUT i feel she has issues as well cos she should be the one feeling uncomfortable for forcing not your wife now,but her niece and nephew from their own home.

biolabee: True broda but is the joy of parentin really in the kids coming out or that they achieve their goals in life


Some people have lost all their kids in one day


Patrick kennedy nearly almost lost all his sons

True.My kids are the most important thing to me BUT i still believe there is more to life or rather i am called to be a blessing to other people APART from my kids.Alot of people scold me for this but really i feel not having kids is not the end of the world. .

Its just not having the kids ojare,its God guiding us and us being responsible parents for them to turn out right.The serial killers,fraudsters etc of this world are some people's children.

Love this

new paparazzi: Sorry for the dramas from your mum & relatives. i refered u to two articles to get some useful tips on how to handle such acts. They are here again:


Please read these articles to find valuable information on dealing with inlaws and the extended family.

www.jw.org/en/publications/magazines/wp20100201/dealing-with-in-laws/

and

http://www.jw.org/en/publications/magazines/wp20080201/managing-conflicts/

You may also share it with your hubby. If you follow the suggestions, it will help your family. Cheers.

Thank you.I did check out the links.Will share them with my husband as well.

As i said in my last post,i am trying to see things from their POV but also learning to stand my ground.In as much as they are thinking of my interest,i need them to recognise that i and my husband are a unit.I would rather be unmarried than be plotting and scheming behind my husband back.

The Lord will indeed give beauty for your ashes.Being a mother i could feel the emotion in your piece.Gosh i had goose bumps and tears in.my eyes(May God help me anything that has to do with children brings up such raw emotions in me)


God bless you and He will perfect that which is coming.

In as much as those scenarios in original post could also happen if pregnancy occured after marriage,i still think its distasteful to make that a condition for marriage.Yeah having children is one of the reasons for marriage but in this case it just shows that having children is the Main reason for the guy.


Like seriously,does this really still happen in 2013 .Oh well,

Which kain punish me?Abi punishing himself cos na him go hunger tire .My husband is not much of a eater and sometimes can go the whole day with just coffee and toast so if he vex no wan chop my food,that means he is in for a long night .He is also one of those people who dont like eating out alot so no option.

bebe2: yeah i agree, but the environment also has a part to play.

i used to live in old kent road just after lidl, there are lots of things dat happen in those areas. once stood in my living room, looked outside my window and a boy prostitute was doing her job just outside my garden am talking summer afternoon, an there were kids playing in the park nearby. this can happen anywhere, i know.

but some areas are just too ghetto, to raise certain kids. some kids are much mellow than others.

I agree about certain areas not being good influences for certain kids.Its just that there is this current bandwagon that you have to move out to raise good kids.Me i want to move out cos its too expensive and also to get access to less crowded amenities.I have had people boast'My son is the only black person in his class' like that is some kind of achievement.This was supposed to be some sort of argument for the whole move to Erith,Bexley bandwagon.Those places that are chav,EDL headquarters.

There are some nice areas in London that i absolutely love eg richmond,fulham and a couple of other places(also have very nice state schools) but they are quite pricey.

bebe2: Been here for 12yrs, 7yrs in london now in manchester. My observations, nigerians like cheap, free, and the are greedy! Everybody knows london is not a good place to raise kids, but they won't leave becos they dnt want to loose their council flat, and their friends in the community. Pple expect the govt to do every thing for them. I might add more later. Its a say issue.

Uhhhhm not too sure about the hasty generalisation that London is not a good place to raise kids.I agree the odds are not great but not everyone can live in the suburbs.

Even the some parts of so called lil lagos peckham is gradually being gentrified for normal folks to afford.Try getting your child into good schools in dulwich or Nunhead(a few miles away from peckham) and you will see its full of kids from white middle class proffessional backgrounds.The real estate is just too expensive and most people move out to get more bang for their buck.

In as much as i would want to leave london(i hate the hustle and bustle and the real estate is just toooo expensive )you can still raise good well rounded kids in London.The Imafidons who have kids who have attained great academic heights were raised in East London.I have a family friend who raised three of her kids in a council property in London(i live in an ex housing assoc property so wont disparage all those who live in council housing) and her first daughter is headed to cambridge in september.
Apart from academics they are also well behaved.And i know a family who live in Kent and had issues with their son and drugs.He even went to private school sef.

I dont think the solution is as simplistic as most people i know make it out to be i.e. Move out of London.

Wow,wow,really insightful read.Alot of truths about political correctness and people not wanting to address that there is an endemic problem for young black males in the uk esp of immigrant extraction(for some odd reason the girls have it slightly better).

I dont think he touched on all the issues though.And to be honest i dont think the equality and diversity thing is working.

Oh well may God help us all.

Love it.
Exactly my parents to a T esp the academics part.I got 6 A's at SSCE but a P in maths(my weak link)that P cancelled out the 6 A's automatically

biolabee: interestingly it was my house
i will just take it.. wetin i go do
its african and i also stayed at my uncles, cousins' homes when growing up or attending interviews, job assessments
no be everybodi fit do hotel ooo

I wonder where we africans get the impression that we are the only ones who do family.Caucasians,Asians,Chinese,in short everyone stay with family and friends if need be.Its part of human social interaction.A good friend who moved back to Australia is still staying with her sister till they find a house and this is with her son and husband.Oyinbo friends stay with each other sef more than we do.

I think the difference maybe is that they dont naturally ASSUME that because we are family or friend,you must take me in even if i am going to be a pain in the neck.They are also sometimes more upfront and will tell you to your face if the bills are an issue rather than moaning behind your back like we do.

Just to add,Caucasian men are also prone to cheat with their wife's friends as well.If not even more than an african sef.

jidegirl12: Baba Oyo don cause trouble

With your situation madam, If you're dreaming of one on one wonderland then keep dreaming, how bout starting from a night at your fav hotel ( themed room) or movies and dinner or spa ( massage& sauna ) the sex is great after massage by the way.

This is it, stop dreaming and start doing in other words make a move , live's too short my dear. We ( family woman) all go thru your same rant everyday so no biggie, deal with it

By the way madam , I don't mean to be intrusive but but what are you doing with your own earning? Nothing spoil if you buy the vaca/ getaway tickets from your own pocket since both of you are working towards the same goal , no?

Agree with jidegirl if long vacay is being long,maybe weekend away in whispering palms might help.And yeah you might have to pay for it(done that before).

biolabee: @damiso

You are right ma
Guests should be considerate of their hosts' nuances and even understand what is going on in a home

Nothing stops one from helping in the kitchen or buying some groceries. I know tesco will deliver groceries to the home for 3 pounds and it makes the effort of the hostess feel worthwhile
This is also common in the new gen who don't appreciate what it takes to actually host you

My cousin's sister came to stay with me on her internship and ordinary to cook no
Wash duvet (her own room o ) no
Na just to dey ping and download torrent

And this one go wan marry o
SMH

Some people are just a pain whether in naija or abroad that is true

May God help us all

So you can understand if your cousin's friend who has hosted her once before might jejely shenk her or suggest a hotel.

[quote author=biolabee]dear ma... no one will but i have heard people say it indirectly
the family hosting my cousin who went for a visit told her... they even switch off the internet box when they go to church.. haba!

[/quot

Those ones are a bit extreme naa or maybe their data plan is limited i.e 5MB or something.I have had guests who are on internet literarily 24 hrs,downloading movies,on youtube for hours(younger people though).Thank God we have unlimited internet which i have to pay premium for.If i am a guest in someone house even family i try to be considerate.

Yeah i dont moan about groceries and utilities cos i have a small household,2 adults and two under 5's.I pray to get people to eat the food i have at home cos i bulk buy alot and me and hubby are not big eaters.Its now that am at home that i cook smaller portions when i was workinf FT i used to cook in bulk and you dont want to know the amount of efo and moi moi i forget in the freezer.

But some people are on a tight budget and yeah groceries and utilities for one or two extra adults MIGHT be a strain on their budget.You sef as guest use ur shush mind to suss your hosts and be a bit considerate.

biolabee: Really interesting topic considering some of the posters here bunked with people at some point either in naija or when they moved into the diaspora

Shebi na wife friend today
E go be cousin tomorrow and then na parent/siblings una go dey push to hotel.

I never reach where I wan be but May God uplift me and never let me be looking at utility or groceries bill before or after I have visitors

Ish

Oga biola where did groceries and utilities come into this argument naa
I cant see one poster who mentioned it as a reason except you.

Depends on who the friend is and why?And my reasons are not cos hubby might eye the friend cos that is so absurd.I might as well be going to work with him in that case.

I have a couple of friends who are like sisters and i would not hesitate having them over in a heartbeat.But of late some family members sef have been house guests from hell so kinda rethinking the whole always extending invitations to every one to stay thing.

I think debosky, Mmotimo and biola as well(sort of) have brought in an angle which has made my anger fade i.e. Looking at it from their POV.

Looking at their various experiences,(being the first daughter means you get to see and hear alot)i can kinda understand where they are coming from.I guess one way or the other your experiences one way or the other colour your world view.

As MMotimo has said alot of yes mas are going to be in my dictionary from now.There is no use arguing and arguing cos they just cant get it.It still does not mean i am going to do ALL the stuff they want though.Also as jide said boundaries and also having my husband's back when they misunderstand him.

biolabee: The focus of the big aunties is your own financial security but the reality is that it is tied to your man's
They come from a time when men betrayed their wives so dont blame them

Even in the word NONSENSE sense dey there
Pick the good things from the advice and leave the rest

May God help us all

;

True,Biola really true.As has been argued alot on NL that age group especially those from.SW Nigeria believed in having their own destiny in their hands mostly because of polygamy.This same aunty told me before my wedding to have the mindset that my husband will def cheat.No two ways about it.I should just be ready to accept it as long as he is doing his responsiblities on his kids .Just work hard and face your kids.Which kain defeatist and divisive mindset is that to enter marriage with? .

If i acted on like half of the advise these big aunties give,uhhhhm what can i say?To them its a war and you have to be smart so as not to get burned.I will rather remain single than be plotting and scheming behind my husband.Id rather just leave the marriage.

Thanks guys,i just decided as you have all rightly said,its a battle i have to fight on my own.I will not get my husband involved at all and he really is oblivious to all what is happening sef and i intend to keep it that way.

I have said nothing to mum as she has also.said nothing to me.I think i will just act like all is normal.Will call aunty back.and tell her i have heard all she has said cos to these people i dont think my explanations are ever going to hold water.And say thank you ma for your concern.

Its just all these their advice though sometimes well intentioned can be quite inflamatory.My aunty was saying stuff like you cant trust men,you have to do your own stuff and plan for your future.Ehn even if its one shop open in Nigeria and let mummy be running for you so you can use the money to do ur own stuff which your hubby need not know about.I was rolling my eyes .Which kain advice be that.

As jide said though you know yoruba culture,everything is rude to elders.Just cos i told mum that my husband is not dad and my marriage is different from hers,she immediately said i was implying that she was a control freak .My mum can deduce deeper meanings into simple words ehn and twist your own words to make you feel like you insulted her.Its really infuriating. .

God i hope i dont become like that as i grow older

Hello all,Hope everyone had a nice weekend(it was a long one for us in the Uk)and you are all keeping well.

I am soo upset at the moment and typing this might be therapeutic for me.I also might get some of your views cos unfortunately i am unable to share with my husband or my friends as well.I am sure if you take my blood pressure it might be on the high side and i am someone who generally takes things easy.

I never came back to update on the drama with my mum cos she came home on the monday cos my husband went with me to the B and B to aplogise and she came back home.She leaves for Dubai on Sunday before she she heads home to Nigeria but to be honest (i feel so saddened to say this) i cant wait.I have always been a docile whatever mummy says daughteer and i think its difficult for her to accept i am now a fully woman who can make decisions for herself.

Ever since that episide i have dealt with sarcasm and snide remarks which i have just chosen to ignore.'Mummy what do you want to do today?Erm I think i want to go check something at shoreditch can you come with me or do you have to ask your husband first?'.Lil annoying snide remarks like that.

The reason i am upset this morning is cos i got a call from Nigeria that really really pissed me off.I think i mentioned somewhere on NL that i got made redudant in February cos my operational unit got moved to Ipswich and i was not willing to travel that distance due to the effect it might have on our family life.It was a decision i made with my husband.We decided that i go back to school to get some qualifications i wanted to always get cos apart the redudancy i was already bored with being an underwriting analyst.I was not fully qualified i.e A CII fellow and to be honest i really do.not see.myself practising insurance forever(thats another story).So i.am more or less unemployed at the mo.One less income.I got a good severance package but we decided we put the lump sum towards a project(its in an account)and we forgot we even have that money.So hubby is more or less breadwinner for now.I run a small business but proceeds been slow for a while.We are ok just that am.not as buoyant as i was say 6 months ago.Normally when mum comes i buy her ticket,buy loads for her and also gifts she gives people.But for this trip she was going to dubai on business and decided to stop by so i said ok we give you half of your ticket money.She brought up her usual gifts for all.and sundry and i told her mum you know T is the only one working.We are definitely going to buy you stuff but pls all those me buying two boxes filled with stuff for people aint gonna happen.I also explained the logistics of why i really did not want to work full time till bobo goes to reception.She suggested all those under the table live in mamas(her cousins kids use something like that) that collect £100 a week.I said no thank you.I explained and explained that its just.for a while and will be back at work in no time.She said she understands but kept making snide remarks to.me and hubby taking decisions together.In her marriage,my dad just let mummy do her own thing and he went along.I had to tell her her marriage is different from mine.She got angry and said i was rude.I sha started biting my tongue from then on.

So imagine how angry i was when a close aunty called me this morning.She said mummy called her to talk to.me,cos i listen to said aunty.That me i turned myself to housewife in.London that she did not raise me to become housewife relying on a man.That my husband has turned my head to make me stingy(i used to be such a spendthrift)that every lil thing now i just say i dont have money for that.That all i am worried about now is my kids that yes my kids are important but i should remember am a first born.That if i keep saying i am on a budget what will happen when my sister is getting married(my sister is not even engaged). .That she knows what they spent on my wedding and i have to play a prominent role as Daddy is no longer here(i and hubby really did not want that lavish a wedding we argued throughout the prep at a point i just gave up and went along).So all this one that me am saying am sacrificing for my kids i should know i have bukata.And my hubby knew he was marrying a first born.That men are not reliable bla bla.In short it was a 30 min convo with me saying yes ma yes ma.I was like aunty i really cant talk now(hubby was on his way to work si did not want him to hear).I will call you back.My husband could see my countenace changed and he was like wassup,i had to lie she was reporting her son to me.

Gone into say hello to mum and i really do not know what to say cos i am.both baffled and annoyed.

P.S Sorry for the epistle and if i rambled on a lil.

MMotimo: Naija parents in the West have to do a lot more when it comes to setting their kids on the right path. I don't know where it went wrong in Michael's case but I will say - Get your priotities straight, if you bring kids to the earth, you are responsible for guiding them in the way that they should go. At a certain age, if not earlier, you have to realize these kids have excess energy to burn. Be there to help them channel that energy productively.

If it's soccer they like, enrol them in the local, community league. If it's karate, enrol them in a school, get them extra tutoring for academics, whatever you need to do to keep them busy. An idle mind is the devil's workshop.

Extra curricular activities will not prevent every criminal act but it does help.

Gbam.Its scary to be honest this parenting thing especially in the west.I feel soooo sad when i hear these naija names on the news being connected to criminality.

Me and my mum still had an argument about one of the causes of this.Nigerian or rather immigrants have this double expectation and that puts alot of pressure on us to achieve more financially.You want to have a good standard of living where you are and everyone(sometimes yourself sef)is hassling you about stuff you need to do back home.Haa iya lagbaja daughter has 5 houses in Lagos.You have to buy an expensive SUV that you drive once a year when you go home in an expensive 6 bedroom house that is shut most of the time for people to accept that you are 'successful' or 'doing well'.Add aso ebi,lavish parties plus flash cars to the mix as well.

Unfortunately some sacrifices have to be made to achieve this status quo especially if you are not lucky to have a high paying job(how many people even the natives themselves earn over 200,000 pounds a year) so for most its crime or working long ungodly hours.Even with this sometimes 'doing well' is still elusive.Add competition amongst couples,inlaws meddling,irresponsible parents(yes both mums and dads) you find the victims in this sacrifices are often the kids.

biolabee: Dear ma I did not mean to cause any off sorry if you were especially offended

What I meant b money is that people dthat do this thing do it to have access to residency and attendant economic opportunity
I thought it was a thing of the previous generation until I met someone who has doneit with my koro koro eyes

They are working and paying taxes so it's not a criminal act like yahoo yahoo which is fee fraud which know is illegal and I will never advocate.
However I appreciate the comments made that we should consider tge case of the foreign wife who is being taken for a ride
This is true but economic considerations and desire to get a green card/residency are very strong

Also note that some akata or white who do it as a business
Sorry once again - no offense was meant

No offence taken o just saying.I do get and understand the need to want to stabilise,something which Legal residency affords you BUT as you said i thought it was a thing of the past too.The world is much smaller now with the internet so its not like previous generations where people just dove into it and then found out they were stuck.

I am not uppity about the whole residency thing,its just that i think our generation has more info than to just be jumping ship with the wrong means when there are legal ways to go about it.

Me i see both of them i.e.sham marriages and advance fee fraud as obtaining something through decietful means.Some people really had no choice and some even prefered to pay HUGE amounts rather than decieving an innocent party.

That said sha,its not cool to judge someone if i have not walked in their shoes BUT some kind things are just not right.People do it still does not make it right.

biolabee: Across the slug fest of sarcasm and who come from silver spoon or not , good to know that DK and mama jhyde hit the nail on the head

Liked!!! 1000 times

Money na the main thing

Simples

That man wey dey beside you on the subway or that owambe you don't really know he sorted himself

Everybodi on fire today

Oga Biola.Really?Really?Money na the main thing?

So why then do we crucify yahoo boys if money na the main thing?

I know the silver spoon comment was aimed at me but all i can say is regardless of how we sugar coat it some things are just plain WRONG and avoidable if truth be told.

Lying to a woman that you love and want to MARRY(i view marriage as an instutution) her as a means to gaining residency is WRONG,WRONG.If the guy no get american visiting visa till now he wont have died.He would have explored various other options.