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chenzen:
Education: 87%

Good manners: 89%

Morality: 79%

Beauty: 98%

Etiquette: 99%

Intelligence quotient: 99

Exposure: 100%

culinary skills: 100%

spirituality: 50%


pls ask if u want me to break it down

Unfortunately morality and spirituality should at least be up to 70% to be considered as a good wife from my viewpoint.

Though those values are arbitrarily spewed out by you and in no way represent the reality.

destinyy23:
Please loud it for those at the back..

We need proofs.

Buhari won't go for a third tenure. The whole third tenure agenda hullabaloo is a smokescreen.

akdjr:
I admire the way you educate the guy without insult. Once it is Africa, it is primitive but if it's western world it become worthy of emulation. I saw the other day when Queen of England was making a human sacrifice and I wonder what people we say here if such is done here by an African king.

Where did you see the Queen of England do a human sacrifice?

TheSkyIsBlue:
My Sister Is About To Commit A Serious Taboo All In The Name Of Marriage

Hello Nairalanders!

Please ignore any typographical or grammatical error. I just want to pour it out the way it is in my heart.

I am seriously confused and worried about what is happening in my family and I will appreciate your candid advice.

There is this guy my sister has been in a relationship with for over seven years now. so he actually asked her hand in marriage and decided to come see my parents for introduction, about some months ago. My family decided to take their time to find out more about the guys family background as is required in Igbo tradition.

After several questions asked, my family came to find out that the guy is an Osu (an outcast). On knowing this, everybody in my family told my sister to cut ties with him and discontinue the relationship because it is a big taboo to get married to an Osu in my place . If you do, no family member or friend will attend your wedding or even have anything to do with you again.

But my sister refused to listen to anybody claiming she really loves the guy, that they have been together for a very long time and that she is not getting younger anymore (mind you, she is in her early thirties). Everybody (my parents and extended family members) tried to talk her out of it but she still didn't listen.

After much pressure and her continues insistence, my dad decided to give them his blessings, although against his wish (my dad is actually not really deep into tradition). Now the guy has done all the traditional rights and paid for her dowry. Their wedding is coming up soon.

But the problem now is, according to tradition and from what I heard, if she was allowed to go with the guy without my dad giving them his blessings, the stigma would have just been on her and she alone would have been considered Osu, since she insisted to continue with the marriage. But now that my dad has given them his blessings, it is considered that all of us (her siblings) will also have that link of Osu too. Except if she decide to put an end to the relationship and discontinue with the wedding, which I don't think my sister is ready to do.

I am really worried and depressed about it, cause I don't want anything that will affect me tomorrow when I want to get married just because of my sister's mistakes.

I will really like to get opinions and sincere advice especially from those that are familiar with tradition, cause I'm seriously bothered. Thanks!

If you are a Christian, the Bible does supersede the tradition of your forebears and community.

"For ye are all the children of God by faith in Christ Jesus. For as many of you as have been baptized into Christ have put on Christ. There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither bond nor free, there is neither male nor female: for ye are all one in Christ Jesus." Galatians 3:26‭-‬28 KJV

The only taboo would be if your sister wanted to get married to an unbeliever.

Now if you're not a Christian, then you should be very very worried about your sister's choice but then it is her life. And I bless the wisdom of your father, he has insight.

EgusiShankly:
they scare me especially their midfield-very organized.
But hopefully they drop points against this sides...

You mean you're scared of Leicester when there is Manchester City?

Lucyliz:
Please I am really scared and confused right now. I need serious advice.

It happened when I and my boyfriend broke up due to some misunderstandings, we were not engaged then.

We broke up and didn't contact each other for weeks. Then I traveled to Ogun state at my grandma's place for somethings. I met this guy and we got along well. We go on outings, had fun and eventually had sex. After that it dawned on me and I regret it. I ignored him for some days and later came to my grandma's place to look for me.

We talked and he told me he want us to start a relationship. I declined and told him I have no feelings for him.

After a week I left Ogun state and came back to Lagos.

Afterwards I got back together with my ex and now we are engaged. We haven't picked a wedding date yet but we planned it to be next year.

Fast forward to last Month, my fiance told me he needed to rent an apartment for one of his friends coming to lag to stay permanently.
He got the apartment and the guy came to lag..
I didn't get to meet him until after a week...
I was in a mall with my fiance and he called him telling him he need to go out since he was bored. He came to the mall and behold it was this same guy I met in Ogun State. I knew I was doomed .... I got really scared and nervous at the same time cuz my bf never mentioned or showed me his pics before...

He was only looking at me without saying anything except to my fiance... I was even scared of leaving their midst cuz I was scared he would tell my fiance....

Later that week he called me with a different line and told me it was him. I ended the call immediately on hearing his name....

I can't tell my fiance what happened btw us or he would never forgive me...

The guy has been calling but am not picking his calls am scared of what he might say...

I told my friend abt it and she asked me to have an agreement with the guy never to tell my fiance but am really scared about everything and confused....

But then I remember have seen his face on my fiance phone before but didn't pay attention cuz he was on lowcut there...

Have been acting funny around my fiance especially when the guy is there and he is starting to suspect something is going on...pls help me...

I can't lose my fiance and I don't want the wedding called off...

Pls kindly advice but I can't tell my fiance cuz he often tells me he can't have a taste of what his friends have tasted...

I can't stop thinking and crying...

Pls help me I beg u all

If this story is not fictional, then you're one of those girls their fiancé abandoned on the day of their wedding and refused to marry because they finally heard the dirt on the day of the marriage. I suppose you've seen a couple of videos like that flying around recently.

Full disclosure beats anything. Come clean to your fiancé and if he wants to go on with the marriage then good but if you don't tell him, I assure you someday he will find out and it would be a lot worse.

Finally this is exactly one of the reasons you must flee fornication.

Dude I suppose you are subtly looking for a girlfriend on Nairaland. But you no fine reach for these girls.

Some even think you're too immature for them.

Beremx:
Rochas number nko?

Is Rochas your senator? Why are you looking for his contacts?

franchasng:
Nothing new, me that they dicked severally in uncompleted buildings back then, let's not be hypocritical here, we all have done this or something similar.

Sometimes the heat can start from nowhere and before you know it, you guys are sweating it out.


All these school management staffs that finger girls in their corrupt offices forming upright, just like tribalistic corrupt Buhari saying he is fighting corruption, nonsense!!!

Dude speak for yourself. Not everyone is morally depraved and bereft of simple decorum as yourself.

johnkey:
Hmmm I pity many future husbands. See wetin person go carry put for house lol

The girl was not having sex with another girl. It was person future husband she was having sex with.

See wetin woman go dey celebrate tomorrow say she don find husband. Husband umu mmuo.

The concept of handing over to the husband implies that they are two separate people but that is not how God planned marriage to be. "And they two shall become one flesh".

So her inheritance is his, and his is hers. No need to hand anything over.

I'll add that my answer is how things should be.

Law that would not affect anything is the law we are passing.

What about target to provide clean drinking water to all Nigerians?

Open defecation is not remotely a health hazard in comparison to the kind of drinking water available in the North.

She is transmitting the transmission. Lol

AwkaetitiBabe:
Cum swallowing is d new deal in town.. Nasty

New deal in town. Nawaoh!

AwkaetitiBabe:
Hypocritical moral standards. Na who dem catch b thief. I'm sure so many will copy the girl's tactics this night.

Tactics umu mmuo.

She definitely is unworthy in character, hence Babcock did her a favour by expelling her now instead of waiting till graduation to deny her a certificate because she didn't meet the character requirement.

Humor, a coping mechanism for some in severe pains.

He was laughing at Akpabio, now Akpabio might just end up in the same senate after all. If he is daring enough.

So all the shaking of Buhari with two hands did not save him. Lol

All hail APC the rigging maestros.

maestroferddi:
Rules may not stringently apply but Jonathan will further drift into irrelevance in PDP.

People are watching and taking notice.

Dickson has been a misfit and an ingrate but PDP will certainly re-appraise Jonathan's place in the party.

People will see it that he is taking the party for a ride.

It was he who handed power to the opposition because of manifest weakness and non-performance.

It is he again who claimed to be the leader of the party in the state yet he couldnt whip an ordinary Dickson into line when Wike nay Secondus are his loyalists.

Something must give...

Jonathan has never shown himself as someone who had the willpower or scheming mentality to control outcomes. He is too docile for my liking.

912:
Oga Jona wants to port. Baba don dey tire for PDP

What will he gain from porting? He has got to the top already and he can't beat that.

pumpkinbug:
Congratulations to Sinach..But the last time i saw her which was early this year, she wasn't looking pregnant at all. We bless God

How could you notice a pregnancy that was less than 1 month?

Area4Area:
I hope we won't blame Buhari for this if true but GEJ, he wanted Bayelsa for APC.

Wetin be my own? They can rig in whoever they care, it is none of my concern.

The moment a man stops expecting anything from this government, then you sure have found the key.

HowDareU:
Whose responsibility is it to fix the road? Some top echelons of the military are cashing out big time. The war has been sacrificed on the altar of tasteless bloodshed, garganjuan greed and political shenanigans. : the war is blood money! For the war to end, 1. The military must apply intel gathering. 2. Change the top echelon of the military regardless of tribe. 3. Collaborate with experienced militaries. 4. The FG should kit the military with advanced weaponry. 5. Train and retrain. 6. Overhaul their tactical approach to the war. 7. Plant spies to monitor betrayers. 8. Recruit recruits who are there to serve not because there no jobs. 9. Introduce a code of brotherhood. 10. Improve the welfare of recruits.

None of your 10 points addressed the main problem. You cannot win a war that no one wants you to win.

A great number of Northerners subtly support the Boko Haram because their ideology conform to what the people believe in.

Unless that ideology is changed and the people see Boko Haram as enemies. Every of your 10 points will always be sabotaged.

CuriousX:
That is why Jonathan went to see Buhari in Aso Rock and left Aso Rock without telling journalists what was discussed

He went to tell Buhari that he authorizes him to rig in APC, and that he is cool with it.

This picture was before Bukola stabbed his father in the back.

udeze2000:
Scammers scamming scammers
Inside life

I don't think they were actually scamming the scammers. The article does claims and I quote

It was also discovered that they have made several million of naira sabotaging the Commission’s efforts and live large therefrom.

If that were so, then they did actually provide the services the yahoo boys paid for.

Now the question, is how did they sabotage a supposed reputable institution like the EFCC?

And if the EFCC is smart. These ones will provide them with a list of yahoo boys in their client list.

noblealuu:
If only the electorate would be wiser

The electorates have no say in this election. Bello has won it already.

This story is clearly a fabrication. Do you have two daughters and a son or three sons? When you want to fabricate a story, do be consistent while doing it.

But I don't understand why someone will fabricate stories in the first place. To engage people in unreal gossip. What?

hypertension:
Hi beautiful Nairalanders, We thought we should share a few of our prewedding pics with you all..

God bless u as you join us in prayer to make it a success.

Dr. Akpos the man. Congrats brother.

This your wife want use style resemble BBnaija Mercy.

Rape is stupid, then raping a 13 year old who is probably just experiencing pubertal changes is utterly stupid.

For the Northern elites, it is all about a power tussle between the North and the South, so they encourage reproduction in order to maintain a larger population than the South.

I don't like this kind of posts, and yet it made front-page.

Seun should know there is a certain level of professionalism that should be achieved in the reportage of a post for it to make front-page.

It shouldn't always be about anything that can drive traffic.