₦airaland Forum

iwaeda:
Still more expensive than danfo on same route.

but it is faster

beekind:
I am in my mid 30s, very comfortable and a dual citizen of Nigeria and a first world country.
I decided to relocate back to Nigeria because of starting a family and having my own children.
Since arriving the country and based on my experiences so far, my plans have changed.

I decided to first focus on having children as I found out that the Nigerian society has become almost worse than the west in terms of sexual debauchery.
People have sex for indomine, girls commit abortion without remorse, the worst thing is that no one here uses protection and by the time your average Nigerian girl reaches 30 years old, she has aborted 4 times, slept with almost 100 men and contacted several stds in the process.

What this means is that disciplined men like me are left with these category of girls, worst still is that they come very entitled and empty and can even ruin you with their lifestyle as they are usually impossible to reform.

Solution:
I had to go back to the drawing board and re-evaluated my plan, I have an ex-girlfriend (29 years old) whom I am very close with. She fits the bill in terms of who I want as a life partner but she is a single mother.
So I gave her a choice.

Have 2 children for me, those 2 children will automatically become dual citizens and I might consider marrying you and adopting your child but even if I don't marry you, your 2 children that you have by me will be taken care of and being dual citizens of a developed country they can turn to a blessing for you and your whole family in future.

Now, let me explain, I still love this lady and my decision was premised on how uncertain I am of what my choice will be in the future as such I wanted to be very open from the beginning, but even at this point, I can not guarantee I will marry her but I could depending on what happens in future.

She's going to give me a feedback later and I am quite positive she will take the offer.

If it were you faced with this option, what would you do ?

I would walk.

Who your dual citizenship help?

jackmrandy:
So this morning I left my house going out to MY place of hustle. Boarded one of those commercial bus, and off we go. On getting to my bus stop close to a bridge, I saw crowd looking at a sack of waste bin. the look on their face, you could tell something was wrong. I got out from the bus and went and view for myself, behold a dead baby (about 8 or 9 months) placed in the sack and no clothes, not cleaned, unblical cord dangling out. I would have snapped but the site rolled tears from my eyes and as such no need to bring out my phone to snap.

what could make a woman after carrying pregnancy for over six months, and still end up killing or dumping the baby in waste bin ?

secondly, even if that baby was dead on delivery, are dead babies supposed to be dumped in the waste bin like normal waste?

We all know the economy is hard on everyone, but its not a yardstick for a man/woman to have unprotected sex, resulting in pregnancy and at the end start looking for where to do abortion.


this act could have been done by young girl/lady who probably didn't know what to do or the person who impregnated her absconded.

Babies are gift from God if you can't take care of a baby, no need carrying a pregnancy. and even if you will carry the pregnancy, make arrangement with an orphanage home and keep the baby there.

So many women in their 30's and 40's are still looking for this gift, but they are yet to get it.

Church, Mosque, Traditionalists, and Institutions of learning should educate more on this. And most especially, parents train your girl child in the right way so that society will not be seeing things like this.

Photo: used for illustration

This is why abortion should be made legal. What is the point of carrying a pregnancy where there is no one to take care of it.

Is this an evil act? Yes.
Will I blame the mother no.
Should she go to jail, yes.
Should the father go to jail, yes.

AndrewTate:
you didn't tag me correctly now look at my Monika again and tag correctly then I can answer you with what you're looking for.

I am talking of the real AndrewTate, not you, his made in Aba brother

ubunja:
you this Feminist you're still alive?? Smh

Still gonna die lonely I see.
Come and advice your stupid brother who worshipped your teachings and is currently eating dogshit

ANDREW TATE and Ubunja should come and carry their brother.

thesicilian:
Lol. You don't reason like an educated person at all.

Neither do you

[quote author=Jman06 post=125316586]Why is it frustrating for a woman to win bread for her own family A family she'll eventually be the biggest beneficiary of??!

Honestly, the way you ladies hammer on the man being the provider thing ehn, is suspicious! I find it hard to rationalize that notion in modern marriages. If it were in the stone age, I'll understand. If it's about taking care of the one I love and care about, It'll be a different ball game and I can go all out to care for her out of LOVE, but making it my responsibility I think is unrealistic given the prevailing economic realities where both men and women now have equal access to wealth.

If this story was the reverse, I'm sure the man would be blamed for not opening a business for his wife after losing her job or not helping her get another job. Since op is working, what efforts has she made to help her better half back on his feet This is why many of us are seeing marriage as a very big scam against the menfolk.
[/qmum. She tried getting him a job but he said it was below him.

thesicilian:
Lol.
Another feminist on the prowl
You do realise I'm not the cause of your problems?

so I am a feminist because I stated the obvious abi?

If you like go and beat your wife, Or allow someone's poorly trained son to beat your daughter to stupor because he can't provide for her and be looking like mumu.

Vinnie2000:
OP, you are a BAD WIFE and Mother too.

A Man that wedded you and married to you for Years
You called Police to Arrest him.

Because he is Poor. If he was a Millionaire, would you Arrest him? 😏

We have Lots of Bad Wives These days. 😒

She called police on him because, HE BEAT HER!

She is not a bad wife and mother

capnies:
YOU JUMPED THE TRUTH, BECAUSE HE WAS JOBLESS YOU STARTED REFUSING HIM SEX; THAT'S WHAT LED TO THE DRINKING AND ERRATIC BEHAVIOUR. THIS IS THE MISTAKE 90% OF LADIES MAKE.

Is he helping in the house?
Even an overworked and tired man will deny his wife sex. Where will the energy come from when she is working in two fronts.

superemmy:
It's a clear case that your husband is going through depression and transferred aggression.

You should have just left the house for him with your kids to stay with your parents.
Laslas you don show am say you get power with the arrest. I can't judge you though...

But the man will never forget it.
I can't say whether the arrest is right or wrong. We live in an era where spouses kill each other.

Just understand he is frustrated...

Was the beating right?
Why should be raise his hand on another man's daughter because he has no job?

thesicilian:
A man can feed his family for years and no one will hear about it. He's often proud to bear the responsibility. But the moment a woman starts bearing the responsibility, all hell must break loose, sooner or later

The way you ignored the part where he stopped being a functional member of society or his household, the way he started drinking and committed domestic violence and rape is astounding.


Selective blindness, deafness, muteness and foolishness is your problem.

Op shouldn't feel guilty. She's basically a married single mother living with a hobosexual who is using weaponized incompetence. The next time he pounds on her she may lose her life.

Dafresh:
Cough and catarrh but I took AZITHROMYCIN TABLETS since 5pm I haven't coughed again

why?

Why are you using a bomb to kill a rat?

jaephoenix:
Its a Covid variant. Some come with sore throat

who knows really. It could be.

Augmentin is now 18500 naira. It is well.

doctorjohn:
At poster , i dont know were you got your malicious and unfounded story from or what you hope to achieve.
Dr eric is my friend and a colleague .we work in the same paediatrics department in FMC owerri. He took his annual leave and travel to Lagos were he wanted to spend his annual leave. Eric is an ardent chorister who loves to sing,praise and worship hence joined the nearest church choir there in lagos. On the 4th week of his leave while in choir practice he slumped and was rushed to the hospital were he was diagnosed to have a hemorrhagic stroke. We eventually died 2 weeks later. No body at least in the department knew he was hypertensive ,neither do i know if he really knows if he is because he hasnt told anyone before now.
I dont know what the poster of this outlandish and insensitive post hopes to achieve by posting this despicable narrative. I belief Dr Erics familt deserves to mourn this irreplaceable gem of a doctor in peace without someone drawing traffic to his/her page at the expense of other peoples pain.

ok.
My condolences.

But you see, things like punishing residents with extra call should be stopped. It's a bad and evil practice.

This is why doctors don't even want to go for residency in Nigeria again.

Asquare84:
Just imagine the way the colour his death as if he died in the hospital.

The hospital contributed to it. They are responsible

Call is 24 hours straight work.
He worked for 2 weeks straight.
Try doing that kind of work and see if it won't affect you.

Dafresh:
I used to open my fridge in my shop to receive air without knowing I was harming my self it started with malaria I treated it then I started having cough. The only thing disturbing me now is cough
Can ulcer cause cough and catarrh

That's is the common cold you have.

There's been a nasty cold going round these days. It's not malaria and typhoid.

The police can arrest her because suicide is a crime in Nigeria.

This law has been in place since Britain colonized us and wasn't even changed in 1999 constitution. Even the original owners have scraped the law

It's an archaic law that needs to go.

Obavoh:
My family is filled with joy!

I’m a proud father of 3 boys and 2 girls.

My wife went into labor yesterday morning at around 10a.m. She didn’t make noise, she just left the children with her younger sister and took her hospital bag to our local birth center.

She asked a Nurse to call me and I took excuse from work and rushed down there.

Pic 1: This is the birth centre. Women always sit at the entrance and sing loudly to drown the cries of mothers in labor. While the men sit at the back waiting for their wives and babies.

Pic 2: Mothers and babies waiting for vaccines.

in this economy?
It is well

Congratulations sha

theophorus:
Okay, this Doctors should please do 8months strike just like ASUU.

They should not resume to work ooo, until FG meet their demand.

Make we see who go collect Laslas.
Who no get sense go collect sense by Force and Greed is being checked gradually.

See as ASUU just quiet no fit do Gragra again.
It is sure they will never embark on strike in 4yrs cos the No work No pay thing don teach them lesson small.

Lol!!
The average doctor works in 2-3places
Government will lose on this front

omoadeleye:
So because of one person death it's now a normal thing to cause other people that need medical attention to death ba?


Bunch of moronic health workers

Thunder fire you.

nosa2ekundayo:
If they continue working ,no one will listen to them... Again, did you even read the post?

Well if you did, what I can deduce from your statement is that they should continue to die to ensure that no other person dies..am I correct with this?

Don't mind the person. Right now I am angry 🤬🤬🤬

Larryndelaw:
That's exactly what I'm saying. Many people have died carelessly in the hands of doctors in Nigeria, Why did the doctors failed to declare a strike actions for that. If they strike they should not be paid.

Should doctors continue to endanger our lives in unsafe work environments? We have families too.

It's not doctors t0hat kill your loved ones in nigerian hospitals. It's the failed health system in the country. It's the government and their insensitivity that killed them. Stories like this everyday are the real reason many doctors run away abroad. It is traumatic for us too to watch many people die not because we don't know what to do, but we don't have the things necessary to do it. Strike is the only language that government understands.

Working as a doctor in a government hospital today's like going to farm with only your hands, you are not supplied farming tools, or pesticides and you are expected to harvest 5 acres of land.

Take this from a doctor currently on call now in a government hospital who just lost a patient because he had no relatives or friends when he needed referral to a higher centre. The person who brought him said he had no transportation to come back to the hospital, because he spent his money on hospital fees for the man. I tried seeing if i could stall and buy him time till tomorrow, tried to hustle, and fight for blood. Tried calling his bosses and contacts on his phone for assistance and many kept saying they didn't know him well. A colleague of mine spent his personal money on the blood screening test. (Many more things I can't say here)

Finally got blood that I was told was for a person's surgery this morning.

He died in the early hours of this morning despite everything I did. TRIED TO Call contacts on his phone, to tell them the bad news,nobody picked, so I sent text messages to who I could.

Died because he is a stranger in lagos. Died because cost of living is high and the economy is bad.
He was married with a wife and mother in the village.

I want to see the drama that will unload this morning when acquaintances crawl from the woodwork to collect his corpse, because in his darkest hour, all we heard was excuses.

I even have worse stories than this.

Dear men and women. Please donate blood in any nearby government facility once in a while. It would save lives and could even save yours and your families'

chaseblack:
Reports were that people had complained about the elevator before sometimes last year. Everyone in the building knew it had issues so it's definitely negligence.

that elevator has been having issues for years, since the building was reopened to be used for house officers.. They would patch it up, it will only work for a few months and stop working again.

I remember getting stuck in that EXACT SAME elevator in 2018 for 20-30mins as a houseofficer back then because NEPA took light. Nobody deserves to lose an only child like this.

tonywonder:
"When I told my father I was going to marry Jake he said, ‘If you marry that man you will never set foot in this house again.’⁣
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He was horrified that I could contemplate marrying a black man, and I soon learned that most people felt the same way. The first years of our marriage living in Birmingham were hell — I cried every day, and barely ate. No one would speak to us, we couldn’t find anywhere to live because no one would rent to a black man, and we had no money.⁣
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People would point at us in the street. Then I gave birth to a stillborn son at eight months. It wasn’t related to the stress I was under but it broke my heart, and we never had any more children.⁣
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We were at the same technical college. I was having typing and shorthand lessons and he’d been sent there for training by the Air Force. He was with a group of black friends and they called my friend and me over to talk. We didn’t even know they spoke English, but Jake and I got chatting. He quoted Shakespeare to me, which I loved.⁣
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Jake returned to Trinidad, but we carried on writing to each other, and a few years later he returned to the UK to get better paid work.⁣
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He asked me to marry him, quite out of the blue, when I was only 19. My father threw me out, and I left with only one small suitcase to my name. No family came to our register office wedding in 1948.⁣
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But gradually life became easier. I got teaching jobs, ending up as a deputy head teacher. First Jake worked in a factory, then for the Post Office.⁣
Slowly we made friends together, but it was so hard. I used to say to new friends: ‘Look, I have to tell you this before I invite you to my home — my husband is black.’⁣
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My father died when I was 30 and although we were reconciled by then, he never did approve of Jake.⁣
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Today we have been married for 63 years, and are still very much in love. I do not regret marrying him for an instant, despite all the pain we have suffered."⁣

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if she married today's generation of black men she would have regretted it long ago

Depends on many things.

What do you mean by impotent?
Is it a half flying mast?(limp 🍆/ED)
Or is a gun that is firing blank shot? (AZOOSPERMIA)

Are there any other things he can bring to the table called marriage to supplement the faulty plumbing?

Should we plan for an IUI or a sperm donor in case of azoospermia.

Is he ready to consider a childless marriage (Double income no kids or DINK)

What of adoption?.

There's more to marriage than sex.

UMUAZEE:
These guys listed below no sabi work and cannot shift a woman's womb. Give them 10mins on top they start panting like molue wey spoil in 3rd mainland bridge. They are legberes..

Ayo
Dele
Demola
Akintoye
Adebanjo
Wale
Tope
Femi
Kayode
Tunde
Obasanjo
Tinubu
Gbenga
Fayemi
Yemi
Wasiu
Ola
Olu
Tolu
Adetola
Abidemi
Ayinde
Abiodun
Abiola
Deji
Afolabi

Ladies please avoid dem so you don't waste your time.

there's no Emeka and chinedu on this list

Serendipity2023:
Men today have bought a pig in a poke.

We have just substandard, useless, low quality goods-- women.

Our fathers married virgins. They enjoyed tight, creamy pusssies alone without headaches.

Our fathers had little or nothing.

Some started life in single rooms.

Women then were loving, chaste, SUBMISSIVE, caring and cool headed.
They were stronger too.

My mum gave birth to my brother at home before going to hospital.

She started business few days later.


But today we have women with high penile mileage, high body counts.

Women who wasted their youth riding cock carousel, doing hook ups from local to international.

Women today are UNSUBMISSIVE, uncaring, promiscuous, arrogant, wasteful.

Women who will give birth to one child and expect cars as push gifts.

Women who can't even push out babies.

Today same women with overused bodies still want a rich, wealthy, educated man.

They want a man with houses and cars.

What is the man getting after having all these?

Overused bodies on a toxic feminist mind ready, to destroy him.

WHAT an albatross. Sad!




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women didn't have options then. The only thing they had to do to be financially stable was to marry a man, bear his kids and deal with his bullshit.

Women of today learnt from our mothers and grandmothers and are choosing better.

A number of men in the past had nothing to offer but money their personality was💩💩. Some men of nowadays are still using their grandfather's format in the 21st century, chasing money without character development.

The truth is not every man is going to make Emoney, dangote, davido and Obi Cubana money. Many men today are average just like many women today and nothing is wrong with that. The sooner we realize that, the better for all of us.

Today's average man cannot be the sole breadwinner like their grandfathers. Tinubu and the nigerian, even the world's economy will not agree. As a result of this women have had to step up financially, in addition to being a homemaker and rearing children which a a thankless and unpaid job. They've had to pick up men's slack. The relationship is no longer 50:50 and men wonder why more women are blindsiding them with divorce.

Yet we have men like op whining and bitching, wanting to have his cake and eat it. Yet he is not doing the necessary work of improving his character to be a more decent human being. They refuse to meet halfway.
The TRUTH you all don't realize is the the true high value man is not the richest but the one with high quality characterthat won't be a man child, an abuser, a lazy and dirty slob who can't wash his asscrack, a deadbeat, an addictan and overall a burden to the woman and her kids.

If you can't give her PEACE OF MIND, then Bleep off your dick and money.

Ijelenwanyioma:
I am legally married to this man and we have 3 sons together. Recently he purchased some land which he actually told me about but when I checked the documents of all the land I only saw Mr(his name in full) and not Mr & Mrs (his name and surname) or Mr (his name ) and Mrs (My name ). This really gave me great concern and when I asked him, he told me it doesn't really count because the properties also belong to my children. Later he started accusing me that I am nursing ulterior motive in my heart and maybe I want to take over the properties which is blantly lies. I just want to feel ownership of the land too

Please am I overreacting on this issue truly or my husband is planning something behind me ( maybe remarrying)

did you contribute money to the land?
If not, it's his property.

If I were you I would also work hard, get an income and buy properties in my name too.

Good evening, do you do discounts on large quantities?

froxydydx:
If you need a fairly good health care at an affordable rate, jejely locate any military hospital around you and register your family. Military medical facilities (army, navy & air force) got no time for your money. Their doctors doesn't japa because they are military men and women.

That's a bloody lie, especially if you're a civilian. It's civilian money that runs those hospitals cos Healthcare for the military is free