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Dear ladies, don't tell your man about the bad parts of your past. Just don't do it!! You are an angel in his eyes, don't mess that up.

Also, stop jumping from man to man, sort your issues and heal before moving on.

abdeiz:
A friend of mine poured out her heart to me and I am at a loss on what to tell her.

Her long term boyfriend isn't treating her right and she is not happy in the relationship despite being in love with him. She has been with him when he had nothing, now he owns his house, two cars and a business and job. He is also handsome so I guess that gets into his head.

Ever since he became financially stable his attitude changed. Video calling girls in her presence, not respecting her, emotionally abusive and stingy (according to her). He still stocks up his house with food so she never lacks but whenever the topic of marriage comes up. She gets shouted down on and tells her she's in his plans.

I guess love is really blind. But the fact that she isn't financially independent is more reason why she is still with him IMO.

Should she leave him or wait it out incase he changes?.. Love is really wierd asf.

i think she should cut her losses and move on. Next she would know better than to build up a grown man.

Angelacruz:
she is too busy for your love,I guess

He doesn't love her.

RealEzee:
u just realised Dat ur hard guy hard guy strategy don backfire, now she no call back, ur heart is doing temple run lol
Oga I no get advise for u Ja re

blame the redpillers. It's their favorite advise

flackoFlint:
but it's not it

it's worse off and doesn't necessarily stop it

bodybuilder:
Nairalanders I need help

My penis is itchy and rough with peeling and injuries.

Any affordable cream or drug?

show us pic so that we can help, are you sure it is not STD?

flackoFlint:
better than masturbation

it's the end product of masturbation

flackoFlint:
Bro
Get a steady Chick
You can get two on a Saturday......
Make you dey alright, you go give testimony

that's fornication and is putting him frim frying pan to fire

fatymore:
From your write up, you are not even mature

I swear, she dodged a bullet

realonecrilar:
I met this girl around march and we started dating,though she's a moslem but not a practicing one and I told her my do and don't.
I hate been treaed as a fool,been disrespected and she said she already knows me for that.
So as we continue the relationship i told her if she really want me ,she has to be religious.
All these days we always meet at a friend's place very close to her house, I told her to be coming to my place not to always see at a friend's place , she said her parents won't allow her to go out.
I told her relationship is about commitments she has to show it .
Though we only had sex twice and she told me she can't trade me with any woman after those actions, she calls at times and i always recharge her simcard when i have something with me and doing some neccesary things a guy should be doing for her girl.
She always call in the morning and night and I always do that too,we planned our life together and to get married lately next year.
Her sisters and her friends knows me already and we always do things together.
But it happened three weeks ago, whenever we had an agreement to meet at weekend she always turn me down but during the week days she always call and express her emotions , we can't see during the week days,we were both busy with our works about the relationship but don't always sees during the weekend again and I noticed something was wrong and she promised she will always be faithful but now opposite .
She like staying around me.
Last saturday she called like 4times and I did like 6times too , we gisted talks alot on phone and we promised to see on sunday but on sunday she didn't pick my calls to know how to meet, till night she didn't pick my calls,it was around 10pm that she called back when she knows I couldn't make it to come again and was already late,she told me she was charging her phone since morning somewhere, and I told her how can that happen at this period of civilization when people always have their phones at hand,lies..
She has been doing that since three week now,won't pick when we are to see , avoiding sex..
I noticed she has been avoiding me because of sex or probably she's cheating on me.
So on that faithful sunday I told her how I felt that she shouldn't be too smart to someone who loves her and cares for her and I hang up the call.she called back I didn't pick her calls,she called back on monday too thrice and once on tuesday and I didn't pick it cos i was angry with her , and she stopped calling since tuesday, till yesterday, Friday ,I guess this was a SHIT TEST i didn't bother to call too since then,so on friday when sheb didn't call , i tried to call her to forgive her by 10pm to take her apologies cos she always apologize when she call back at night, and what she said on picking my call was "what happened" and I told her "are you telling me what happened" the statement was worrisome and I hand up my call, she didn't call back and i didn't too.
Around 12:30am I sent her a break up message and I told her about her attitudes .
Too disrespectful.
Not religious.
Sending call me back despite having call card on phone.
Not considering my emotions.
So she received the message immediately and she didnt call or text back and I lockedup, life continues..
I guess someone is lecturing her on me to have me strongly becausr she always tell me to be faithful with her and promise to mary two wifes or she's alredy moving out with another guy which i'vent confirmed.
I need your advice , i love this girl, though she's not up to my standard academically,religiously,understanding issues,and how to talk to me. so i'm working on it and she's improving..

sounds like you weren't worth the hassle, giving her rules and regulations, telling her to be a completely different person because she's around you, You sound like a narc and an immature boy to boot

You haven't even paid bride price and you are controlling someone's daughter, threatening her with extra wife.

Thanks for doing the right thing. Fix your attitude. Good luck.

I can remember when my grandma hid packets of knorr, maggi, and benny hinn sachets, wrapped it round a white lace material and give my dad and us without him knowing to take to my aunt in the states.

It was when we gave her and she unwrapped the lace that we all started laughing. The struggle is real.

prciouschika:
in my case am not the last born but the only girl, when we were growing up I did all the chores,cooked, wake up early every day prepare my younger one for school including my elder brother oo then take the younger one to school still come back to the house to get ready for mine. I did a whole lot in the house even the chores wey pass me infact my growing up wasn't rosy as my other age grade

The last born should clam down though I feel his/her pain because I felt it but he/she will gain if not financially but otherwise

Even though we're all still struggling but the respect this guy's give me money can't buy

exactly

obembet:
That generator part is the most annoying.. You'll be fast asleep, person will wake you to goan off Gen.. Something they could have done themselves

First borns suffered more than last borns.

Yes self respect is there, calling a child to pick the remote in front of you is wrong, but we are not going to pamper and spoil you rotten then you come and ask for money, buy this, buy that for me when you cannot wash everyone's plates, sweep the place as at when due, it is to instill responsibility and discipline.


The poster of this letter is not earning a living, the least the person can do is to contribute by doing housework. Issues of life never deal with this one yet.

If i was the eldest sister, I'll tell her to start paying bills or convert her pocket money to housechores. You can't be freeloading in this house

adioolayi:
Sincerely, there are some things that will be factored as a fixed variables...for example.. irrespective of the numbers of patients..Healthcare providers allowance will remain the same....Somehow, there will be jara ontop what Mr Commissioner qouted

yes , but i doubt the jara can be up to 20%

adioolayi:
1. Feeding will cost more than #1000 per meal.... CoVID19 Patient are given very rich balance diet...fruits inclusive in their meal.

I will say #7500 per day for meal.

2. Medication: This is not just supplement alone, they take antiretroviral too...and others with underlying ailments with take medication for such.

I will say #3000 per day

3. Allowance to healthcare professionals..
Let's say 1Dr, 1Nurse, Pharmacists, Cleaners

I will say #20,000 per day

4. Accomodation ...let's take average hotel rate in Lagos #10000 per day

5. Other logistics #15000

Total : #55,000

I think I am generous enough.....that #100,000 seems to be on the high side

ICU admission 100- 500k daily depending on hospital.

Hospital consumables

Providing PPE, face mask, gloves and so on.
Cleaning supplies

Cost of viral drugs. Pls consider that too

MT:
Lol...1million naira for a pandemic wey get no cure. How can Nigeria be great if people still loot with reckless abandon?

ICU admission is anything between 100- 500k per day. Pls do the math.

gtbng:
forget drugs,was once in da same situation.my friend,use garlic.take garlic water day n night.avoid salty food,limit carbohydrate food.with garlic water day n night 2weeks check up ur BP.stay cool

were you 27 then?

WilliamsDeGreat:
Ok

Or go back to the doctor and tell him to run further tests on you. Tell him or her that having hypertension at your age with no improvement in the blood pressure has to have some other cause

WilliamsDeGreat:
No I haven't done a kidney scan and no no one in my family ever died of hypertension at a young age

I don't have any kidney pain or pain at back on kidney region. No history of kidney disease in my family

and also I started taking alcohol only beginning of this year and I didn't really abuse it.

DM me for a consultation

WilliamsDeGreat:
I have done other tests and it shows in okay. Doctor said alcohol and caffeine drinks I too triggered the spike in BP increase. Now I'm suffering

did you do a kidney scan? Anyone in your family who had hypertension at a young age or died young of it?

WilliamsDeGreat:
Done what?

further tests.

WilliamsDeGreat:
Please nairalanders I have been suffering from high blood pressure for 2 months now, i have been on drugs, but no improvement. I have spent money, seen doctors but no improvement, my heart keeps beating fast rapidly, and sometimes my chest and back feels sore due to this, please nairalanders help me. Any solution to this is welcome
Please help a brother. I don't want to die young

Cc: lalasticlala

For high blood pressure is someone so young, there must be an underlying cause. The doctors must have given you some extra tests to do, like a Kidney ultrasound, ECG, and so on, Have you done them?

NaijaRoyalty:
Igbo people are hard working and peace loving people .

They stay with you in your difficult times and won't run aWay because they are not cowards .

We know the real cowards and they know themselves .

lol. Na so

X0012:
Would you or have you dump your kids before?!?
How is this stupid advice related to this topic madam. Huh?

Prevention is better than cure.

Lustknabe:
Yes I did, but I swear it's no scam. I really want to make mixed babies, that's all.

What of marriage?

Has she delivered?

Lol!!

So sad, this is what unemployment has caused

Godlovesyou28:
My mind is failing me right now , could she be lying?
The last time I even saw him has been so long.
What do I do
I feel more sorrow than I have ever felt all my life.
Should I confront my dad with this?
Am loosing my mind.

Don't confront, go and meet that cousin

Dear ladies!! Single motherhood is optional, dump your kids for the man!! They will come and look for you when they grow up!!

Destined2win:
Airforce1 is a married man.

He has paid that girl's dowry

I hope so.

blackboy:
People are cursing , shedding croc tears but in reality many are guilty of this and no better than those who did this to the babies.

Yes you read me right. If you sexed without a condom or contraception or ever raped or ... you are no better

Exactly