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How did he find out she visited her ex?

You have stated the pros for the relationship, good sex, hotel runs, gifts, money. The con you stated (spiritual repercussion) is only in your imagination.

It’s bad to advise someone to give up on something that pays them without providing an alternative. Give your brother a single girl who can give him what the married woman is giving him and he may consider.

Asides the physical benefits your brother is enjoying from the relationship, there is a mental benefit inherent in this relationship; Your brother now knows the kind of woman not to marry or what not to do in a marriage to avoid a cheating wife.

PS: your brother isn’t your business, does he tell you who you can and can’t date? His relationship is not illegal, he’s not a minor and he’s not bleeping a minor. Let him be.

If it’s your money she’s using, stop giving her money or reduce what you give her. If it’s her money let her be.

I don’t take advise from people as to how to spend the money I worked for, neither do I give advise to others.

She’s going to stop telling you about her money moves if you keep acting like you are the only one who knows what to do with money.

Your wife isn’t a child stop being aggressive with her, she will soon start returning the aggression, then what? You will start pummeling her?

Will bothering give him a job?

chatinent:
So, fam, what do I do?

Interview her. Dele Momodu

Someone is looking for 50k to balance his rent, you are telling him to give you 15k out of the one he has? What if they don’t pay you before he needs the money? He’s looking for ways to add to the money, you are looking for ways to reduce it.

You were very wrong to demand 15k from his yet to be complete rent. I would have reacted way worse than he did.

In Timaya’s mind now, the recharge card money in his bank account can stop his wife from cheating. Small wizkid will kolobi his babe neat.

Men, don’t let anyone fault you for a cheating partner. There is always someone better than you in this life. Just hope your wife doesn’t jamb one that’s interested in her.

The strong desire to make money is how people become rich. Wanting it and being ready to do whatever it takes to get it.

We should plant these desire in the heart of our young, teach your children how to set money aside, reward them in cash for exceptional service rendered. E.g. your child cleans the house, give him #500 for a job well done, that way you teach them the value in hard work.

Bake cookies with your children, take the cookies to work, give them to your colleagues. Bring #2000 back home for your kids, tell them you sold the cookies at work, that’s the birth of entrepreneurs.

If parents stressed the importance of hustling to their kids as they stress the importance of a formal education, we would all be rich by now.

The question can also be substituted with “why is it easier for an employee to forgive his employer than it is for an employer to forgive an employee?

It’s because there are more employees than employers. An employee will have a harder time finding another job than an employer would have finding a replacement.

If the man has other good sides, most ladies would rather manage the cheating because it’s tough to get a man to commit and even tougher to get a faithful man.

So you asked your friend’s babe out and you are telling us not to trust Nigerian girls, we should be more careful of Nigerian guys like you.

You didn’t even let him ask you out. You were not cheap, you were free . Free isn’t necessarily bad, some people cherish free things.

Change, money, connection.

In my opinion, a person sexual history should not be overlooked. Someone who has enjoyed a lot of casual sex do not just outgrow it or discontinue it, it may reduce due to lack of opportunities/chance/space but it never really goes away.

If emotional freshness kept relationships, we would all be married to our first gf/bf. Just like most employers wouldn’t hire someone without experience, relationship experience is very important.

You learn to handle certain issues in relationships from actually being in one. Your last relationship ended because you were proud, you know how to act in the next one. Your last relationship broke up because you were a flirt, you know better in the next.

All my next relationships were an improvement on the previous, I dated a flashy girl who had 1million admirers, my next gf was a little less ‘hot’ and a lot less extroverted.

mariahAngel:
You reason like a child.

For the respect I use to have for you, I will pretend I didn’t see this.

Sterope:
Go and debate science

I believe in reality not science, science is a bunch of opinions.

OyinNurse:
That is the mystery of childbirth and the love between a man and a woman. Believe me, women do not exaggerate the pain of childbirth, but once the baby is placed in her arms, that sweet bundle of joy and the deeper love that develops between herself and her partner makes it all worth it.

Hmmm.

Sterope:
They don't exxagerate the pain. It is a pain that you forget. You know what it feels like but you will still go through it again.

Lol. Women have more pain tolerance than men. You won't be ble to do anything for a year

Lol I’m pretty sure if someone was to punch you and I in the face, only one person will cry and it won’t be me. Only in theory do women have more pain tolerance.

Arsenate:
Lmao, crack me up but I'm inclined to agree with you. Men don't make a fuss about things like that. I mean we work hard to feed our families and we do not rub it on our women's faces. We've been doing that for thousands of years. On the other hand, we know how Women (the very few) treat their spouses when they have to do that for a few weeks.

Bro you know na, everything is tough for a woman, especially married women. When man fell from grace God cursed one with childbirth labour and the other with work labour, somehow one decided they were going to joggle both curses.

With the current crop of complaining mothers we have these days, the number of mother’s day we have in a year should be reduced.

How can child bearing be like dying and going to heaven but you have 4 children? You like dying and going to heaven? I think women exaggerate the pain to men just because they know we will never get to experience it.

If men could give birth, we will give birth and 12am and be in the club at 12:30am same day.

The husband may be the over trusting type who has no clue about what is happening. The wife may have introduced the other guy as a family member e.g cousins. The other man may also be a real family member, some nack themselves.

If you want to do something about it, get close to the husband and find out from him who the other man is, you would be surprised he’s even the husband’s relative.

To your question, yes people may not mind their partners playing away, but it’s rare for the playing to be in their matrimonial home.

Lol. Are you saying all single mothers are whores?

1) One of the sole reasons why people go the baby mama route is because they know marriage isn’t a guarantee of exclusivity. They have a child and that’s it, the woman is free to do whatever she wants with whoever she wants. A BM fvcking another man won’t hurt, a wife fvcking another man is like the end of the world.

2) Most Baby mama’s try their best to be in the good books of their baby father. They hope the relationship will lead to marriage and that hope keeps them on their best behaviour. When people are seeking for something they tend to be nicer than the people who got them easily.

Just like you said about wife’s, a man who gets a compatible baby mama won’t have problems either. Baby mama, baby daddy can also be a complete family. Just without the encumbrances of a signed document, easier entry and easier exit if things do not pan out well.

OP you didn’t extend your invitation to rapist? Jk.

Two people can have a sexual encounter, one leaves feeling raped, the other leaves thinking it was consensual.

When I was in SS2, I had a friend let’s call him Deola, smart good looking guy. Deola wrote Waec and Jamb in SS2 and passed, he went to the university while we were going to SS3.

During his holidays Deola would visit us at school, drive to school, come to class, chat with teachers etc. With that level of success, females in my class expectedly all wanted Deola.

One Saturday, myself and two other classmates went to play PS1 at Deola’s house, a female classmate, let’s call her Chioma also came visiting. We were in Deola’s room all 5 of us. Deola soon started touching Chioma while we were all present, she felt uncomfortable for a while then gave in. After about 20 mins of touching and kissing, he started taking off her clothes, she felt uncomfortable again but gave in. They then started having sex, like 8 mins into the sex, Dammy one of the guys with us then went there and started touching Chioma too. Fast forward both guys slept with Chioma. After sex she shyly left the house.

We finished Waec and I got admission myself, two years later Chioma got admission to my school, as a senior student, I showed Chi around, helped with her courses etc. Chi started liking me, I didn’t like her back because I liked someone else. One day she decided to express her feelings towards me, she then asked “why don’t you love me? Is it because I was raped? I didn’t understand, raped? How? Where? When? She replied “by your friends Deola and Dammy. Lol that was not rape I retorted, we went back and forth all day as to whether she was raped or not.

I have a feeling she will one day “come out” with her story about Deola and Dammy.

Ishilove:
You still did not answer my question. Let's say I'm tired of tasting your preek and I want to taste another man's own for a change, can I go ahead? I love you o, but I need a change of preek to relieve tension. Can I go ahead?

Ishi, since when do women need permission to cheat? Women cheat just as much as men do. Atleast men own up to cheating, women cheat then accuse the man for been the reason for her infidelity.

Having friends of the opposite gender.

She’s tested marriage and it didn’t work, she knows it would end in tears again. Casual relationships are the easiest. No fights, no boredom and total freedom. Simple, women want to eat their cakes and have it. I will suggest you stop shagging her.

The first time I heard women had issues with a man hanging his mum picture on the wall was on a Chris rock show.

He said “The only man that owns something is a single man. When you get married you own nothing, Absolutely nothing. Men if you think you own your house, hang your mama’s picture on the wall. It will disappear so fast, the next time you see it will be on your mums funeral. Your wife wife will be like babe see what I found cleaning out the room. You can use it for the obituary”

Except your MIL looks scary and is capable of inducing nightmares in kids, I see no reason why anyone should get mad about a picture.

Na lie. NDLEA just added the school children part to make the story sweet. How many school children can afford 1500 for three pieces of cookies?

I’m sure some guy/lady bought the cookies, took it home and left it carelessly, younger sister saw it and thought they were just cookies.

Most people who buy brownies know exactly what they are buying. A crime is a crime anyway since weed is still illegal in naija.

You are doing exactly the same thing you are accusing them of doing. Asking where you live does not mean I’m coming to nack you.

You are misinterpreting an act of care.

It’s women nature to worry, that’s why they age four times faster than men. If he makes more than her she will worry he may be cheating. There’s always a reason to worry with women. Afishe ni.

Ahan, kilode? Why are all the comments deleted?

My answer will be yes.

A relationship where the man earns 40k and the woman earns nothing is more likely to last than one where the husband earns 500k and the woman earns 1m.

A relationship where the man is the sole or major bread winner has more chances of survival than if the tables were turned.

Bad bitches are Independent women. Girls in a relationship because they want to, not because they need to.