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Your sister only realized she was forced because her marriage didn’t work out. Why didn’t she tell you she was being pressured when you called for a family meeting? was the pastor and his wife present at those meetings? Your parents disapproval wasn’t enough to resist the pressure from her pastor and his wife?

Pastor and his wife are now bad people for looking out for your sister’s best interest. If nobody wanted to marry your sister she would have turned prayer warrior searching for a man. She got one handed to her on a platter and she couldn’t make it work, now she’s putting the blame on pastor.

Your sister went into the marriage with very clear eyes, she’s just giving excuses for her failed marriage.

The lady has lived her life while you are just about to start yours. You don’t want to be trapped in marriage at 23. If she can wait 6 more years.

If you were 33 and she was 39 it wouldn’t be a big deal, would she have looked at you 4 years ago when she was 25? I wouldn’t even advise a 29 year old man to marry a 23 year old girl. A 23 year old is a baby with baby priorities.

Even a 20 year old girl has seen more life than the average 23 year old boy in terms of relationships. Date all you want but don’t get married at 23 to a 29 year old woman.

If everybody starts cheating happily then there would be no need for cheating anymore. Men use relationships to get sex, women use sex to get relationships, if men do not need to have a relationship to get sex, then we won’t go into relationships anymore and that way there would be nothing like cheating.

In response to the topic, be open to casual sex more often, any guy who offers you preek should be welcomed. Do it without guilt, don’t say ‘I don’t usually do this’ before you have sex and don’t say ‘what are we now’ after sex. This is what cheating without emotion entails.

mysticgal:
You lost me but thank you all the same

When you register with CFA, you get a study material from them, these materials are very bulky and generally considered a waste of time because of its depth. These materials could go up to 3000 pages. People prefer to buy external study packs that summarize the CFAI material. That’s where Schweser comes in.

You may have a situation where you think Schweser didn’t do a good job explaining a topic or a concept, that’s when you go to the CFA material for a better grasp of the topic. You gerrit now?

OvaSabi1:
Okay. Do you have anyone based in Nigeria who might know this please? I called CFA institute Nigeria and they didn't pick.

I think the best way to sort fx is to find a friend/family abroad who needs naira, people with projects or businesses in Nigeria always need naira and you can exchange for dollars.

mysticgal:
I hope you don’t mind, uhm, where did you write your exams at. Accra or where and what materials did you use

I wrote it in Canada. I use Kaplan Schweser for the most part but reference CFA institute material where I don’t understand something on Schweser.

Validated:
You are totally wrong. ICAN is evaluted as equivalent to Higher Diploma in Canada, quote me. I have not checked recently, but as far back as 2018, ACCA, ACMA were admitted to CPA. Check link https://www.cpaontario.ca/become-a-cpa/why-cpa/internationally-trained-accountants/member-of-accounting-body-outside-canada

https://www.cpacanada.ca/en/become-a-cpa/international-credential-recognition/international-recognition-agreements/international-members-seeking-canadian-cpa

This is a list of recognized accounting body by CPA Canada. Neither ICAN nor ACCA are recognized. People with these certificates may be exempted from taking the prep courses but still have to take the CPA Pep exams to become a licensed in Canada.

OvaSabi1:
How do you get fx for CFA exam fees? Hopefully it isn't parallel rate? Is it?

I am based in Canada. I don’t have the fx issue.

ThierryJay:
Guy go and sleep. This is like going back and forth with a kindergarten pupil.

In fact ICAN is better than CFA since it's also more well-rounded in the field of accounting.

At this point I think the man is just bored and want to argue, he doesn’t even know the difference between accounting and finance or what an accountant does vs what someone in finance does. I will educate him but he doesn’t look like someone willing to learn.

Taiwolee1:
Go to noun nd get ur MBA oga

Pronoun ni

ikenna44:
Liar

SMH this is google bullshit, I live and work in Canada, I was doing the ACCA before I left Nigeria. The first person who told me it was a waste of time was my lecturer. ACCA and ICAN has equal levels in Canada, being that you have to convert them to CPA. No employer in Canada gives a shit about ACCA.

ikenna44:
Cfa is rubbish... It's just one aspect of Accounting!

Acca covers all aspects of Accounting.

Its just the clout that comes with the money spent doing cfa that makes cfa look like it's one correct certification. The scope is so narrow... I'd pick Acca over cfa any day any time!

ACCA is useless in Canada, it’s value ends in the UK, North America has CPA. CFA is a finance certification not an Accounting certification, you can’t compare it to ACCA.

OvaSabi1:
Hi. I'm not one to hound another on nairaland but I just sent you a pm. Kindly have a look. Gracias.

Hi Oversabi, I don’t know how this pm thing works. I see the notification that you want to send me a pm, I just don’t know where to see the message. Kindly quote me on an inactive thread with your message. Thanks.

I just passed CFA level II . CFA is valuable and recognized in Canada. MBA is better for getting a job, CFA is cheaper, CFA is more difficult.

CFA is good if you already have a job in the industry, If you are looking at getting in, do MBA, most firms recruit directly from MBA programs. If you choose to go the MBA route, get it from a reputable institution MBA is different from MBA.

The knowledge you gain from CFA is priceless, I started CFA purely for the knowledge. After passing level 2, I may just start looking to get a job in Finance.

Law 13 - Okafor’s law

The law of here and now resonates with me. A while back I stumbled on Eckhart Tolle’s book ‘the power of now’, I also read his other books ‘stillness speaks’ and ‘a new earth’.

One way to be in the here and now is to pay attention to the mind chattering. Listening to the voice in the head.

Focusing too much on the past brings regret, focusing too much on the future brings anxiety. The present is a gift, the reason it’s called the present.

Money buys attention and affection. Before you show a girl your personality, you first have to get her attention. Personality can keep a girl but you can’t keep someone you never got in the first place.

Money also influences personality, money will make a guy happier, lively, confident and better looking, thereby making him more attractive to the females.

While Mr A is texting a girl on whatsapp and trying to show her he’s caring, he’s been rewarded with one lettered reply, Mr B on the other hand took the girl to eat at a fancy restaurant and now she’s blowing his phone up with calls, text and unsolicited photos.

Mr B would have to dump the girl before she falls for Mr A’s personality.

Post her moniker here so guys that have met her can tell you if she’s good or bad.

You are looking for married Christian advice because you want to hear things like pray about it, divorce is not an option, talk to someone she holds in high regards etc.

My advice for you, don’t confront a cheating partner if you aren’t ready to walk away. It’s better to feign ignorance of her affair, now you have confirmed to her that no matter what she does you can’t leave.

You have emboldened her, she will keep chatting and visiting the man and dare you to do your worst, call you insecure etc.

This may be true if the girl is a regular poster, if she posts everybody else but her bf. For someone who posts once in a year, it’s privacy.

Nawa o, must you guys talk in your videos? Can’t you just play music in the background?

Millennials. In the olden days baby mamas were mostly women who got married, had kids then got divorced, so they went from wife to ‘mother of my kids’ AKA baby mama.

Even in Canada, the rate of unmarried couples living together AKA live in couples has spiked by about 25% since the early 2000’s.

Back then, the only way people could have sex was either get married or pay for it, that isn’t the case for the millennials.

A few factors contributing to the spike in having children without the traditional marriage institution includes; Easy accessibility to sex, the cost of getting a divorce, cheating women, social media, feminism etc

Naijanascam:
She is related to him....

Who rocks the yansh of someone related to them?

I knew Chime personally and he wasn’t in anyway friends with Davido. DJ olu and chime went to the same uni and were best friends.

If there was any foul play with Olu’s or chime’s death, their family would have raised hell as they both come from well to do families.

A mother can be good to her children and be bad to outsiders. Let’s assume your mom is a teacher, she flogs her students and she’s seen as a witch to them, she pays your school fees with the money she makes from teaching. She’s a good hardworking mother to you.

So she’s a hardworking, loving and sacrificing mom to you but a witch to her students.

Intersexxsherry:
If na for naija woman wear that thing, her entire family will disown her

She no do reach Toyin Lawani. We are getting there.

Klass99:
The bolded is exactly the point I wanted to stress.

I hear you on everything you've said and I understand. When a relationship starts to get serious I bet you a woman who is well grounded and into you, would want to know more about you and may start to ask questions then. We also can't trust that you will be 100% honest.

Hell, some of us will even have you investigated before we get hitched, some of us will drop you like it's hot if we don't like the things we are hearing or seeing about you. For example I have a serious problem with dirty/untidy men and the ones who like to borrow money left, right and center with a mountain of debt trailing them.

Long story short, I understood you the first time and I still do even now.

It’s so nice we could come to an agreement without the gbas and gbos characteristic of this section. Thanks for showing Klass in your response (no pun). It’s a pleasure having a conversation with ya.

Klass99:
Please where is Eazzy? Something interesting happened I thought I should share with you based on the bolded parts of your post.

In 2020 an individual from here quoted me on a thread and said please can we talk privately I have sent you a PM. I quoted him back and said we couldn't have anything to talk about, as he had been previously rude and insulting towards me without any provocation on my part.

I ignored him/the PM, wasn't interested in anything he had to say because he has a Nairaland history of nastiness, insulting and demeaning female users (again without any provocation on their part)

Last night on a trending front page thread, I saw the baba say he has 3 kids from 3 different women and he doesn't give a damn about his baby mamas

I thought to myself what sane, decent and well put together female will not care about his sexual history or will want to hook up/marry this kind of person with all his baggage? Tufiakwa

This is not just his history, it is his present continuous future tense - as we say in English language (I don't think I got it right) but you sha get my drift na? Baby boy we care o and we worry about ending up with community preeks. By we, I mean the sort of woman I described above.

Lol Klass, maybe I should put things in perspective, what was on my mind when I wrote that statement ‘’ women aren’t as bothered about a man’s sexual history’’ was women do not go digging or asking questions about a man’s sexual past.

I have dated a couple of girls and only one girl ever asked if I cheated in past relationships. Only one. Nobody ever asked if I had a party, orgies, anal sex and what not. Every girl I have dated I have asked these questions, we could be watching a movie a lesbian scene comes up and I go Klass, you ever been with a woman? ever craved been with one?

Also, every time I tell a girl I have done this and that, they just laugh it off, call me brolosho, Ashewo kobo kobo etc it was never a big deal to them.

For the guy in your story, having 3 kids for three women and not caring tells more than sexual history, shows baggage, irresponsibility and like you said it’s present and maybe future behaviour. Same way I won’t classify a girl having three baby daddies as sexual history.

You can truly love someone for their money.

That is the child’s problem. I get my own problem.

[quote author=Klass99 post=105776354]No Eazzy, you guys cannot handle it . Let's not even begin to bullshit ourselves about this.

In the course of my NL sojourn and history I have seen too many threads and posts by men which speaks to the fact that you people cannot handle it.

Common text/chat messages you see on your girl's phone alone, you people will begin to hyper-ventilate .


Lol.. Tega’s husband is a man o, he’s handling such right now. Kpokpogiri is a man o, a guy went to Tonto’s room at 2:30am and the next morning Tonto told him what a night, she then deleted the chats, he gave her a second chance.

Many men forgive their partners past and even present indiscretions, you just never hear about these stories.

Anyways Klass you are digressing from the topic, most men will hyper-ventilate at a cheating woman because most guys go into relationships for the sex, so it hurts them to know that someone else can have the sex with you without having the burden of a relationship.

Don’t take my word for it, whenever a guy asks to date you, present him with the choice of casual sex/ friends with benefits and see if he insists on a serious relationship.

greenie77:
Best is both come into the relationship with little or no baggage.

I wasn’t saying otherwise in my writing, you have been on this section long enough to start seeing everything from the male vs female perspective.

I should have said in my experience women do not worry about a man’s sexual history, I have never been with a woman who was inquisitive about how many sexual partners I had in the past, if I had one night stands, if I had threesomes etc.

Klass99:
This (the bolded in particular) just goes to show that you men cannot handle half the shit you do or dish out. But, we already knew that (some of us though)

Lol we can handle it if you give us the choice to handle it. Lying about your past doesn’t give a man the choice to accept you or not. Lilian left Ubi because she found out he had a child before they got married, how he thought he could take that secret to the grave still remains an unsolved mystery.