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No. I see no one worthy of my vote. All I see are tyrants and "yes men"!

Offpointng:
I happen to witness the incident, and I'd say both are at fault, there were just few cars bfr the soldier's bus which the police saw, it cost the police nothing to spare few minutes to allow the soldiers pass for sake of peace bfr stopping other cars, they might have been on orders and late coming is always punished in the military. And when they came down in rage to question the policemen, the police men to were showing power and superiority hence reasons for the damages

The Soldiers were wrong to beat them and the Government also got greater blame for not fixing traffic light, in a saner clime the duty of Traffic Police is to ensure traffic light are obeyed strictly not to stand and control traffic with their hands. but this is 9ja

So if it was a traffic light that stopped them they would rather come down and destroy the traffic light so that they can arrive on time and avoid punishment or they will drive against the traffic light and risk an accident just to escape punishment from arriving late...we have normalized madness in this country. If you don't want to arrive late, you leave much earlier. The barbarism of the men in uniform has reached alarming levels. Many of our armed officers are basically lunatics with weapons. Even if they were stopped they wouldn't have spent more than 5 minutes there and I assure you that the time it took to confront the policemen, apprehend them, beat them up, drag them into their vehicles and drive off would have exceeded 5 minutes.

The political elite have reduced the Nigerian army to nothing. They know that a well educated army is always a threat to the corrupt elite. There are no more Hassan Katsina Nzeogwus in the army. There are no more bright young and vibrant minds in the army. What we have in the army are miscreants, thugs and animals clad in uniform, trained to be brute beasts bereft of strategy, initiative, commonsense, decorum and patriotism.

It is such a shame! There was a country.

Righthussle:
Marriage no be do or die affair. Dem no born you with anybody. I always tell my daughter say that man wey decide to marry fit still decide to leave you and heaven no go fall. Don't be carried away by "i love you" "i love". Be financially independent before you go into Marriage because na hunger and shame go kill you when that your sweetheart go leave you.

Be like Funke Akindele, build your own world and share it with your Husband, and know that he may one day leave your world.

Man marry you today no mean say him must dey with you till him die.

It is better to tell her not to bother getting married at all instead of getting married and becoming a single mother bringing dysfunctional children into the world. Children that will go on to become a menace to the society.

MaestroID:
OBI GO STILL WIN.

SUFFER NEVER TIRE NIGERIANS NI?

Feel free to quote me and you are free to vote your choice come 2023.

But if the current situation of the country is okay n sweet for you then you are worse than those in power who caused it.

Some are saying track records. What is track record compared to a Good Name and being able to provide a working system for the nation. That's for you to decide come 2023

Make Obi win una go still suffer...una go still chop suffer enter Ghana las las...Buhari never do reach 6 months in office fulani herdsmen start reality tv show. Make Obi enter. Den no go give am 2 weeks bandits combined with ISWAP and bokoboys go show una...as una no wan get sense, una must receive sense by force!

siofra:
A man with the same principles and good looks as Thomas Sankara.


I've searched for a man like this all my life but I've been unsuccessful so far. It looks like I'll never find a man at least similar to him, with the similar ideals and way of thinking.

He doesn't necessarily have to be revolutionist but he can be a sensible social justice warrior, not the one that panders to the idiosyncrasies of the left.

In this day and age, I'm beginning to doubt a man like this exists. But if I find him, I swear not even heaven or hell will separate us.

If I never find him, I'm content to be single and old with my 48 cats or may be explore the other side of my sexuality.

Thank God he's not a Nigerian man

Men like this will not take shit from types of ladies that are eccentric enough to keep 48 cats. If you misbehave he will set you straight real quick. If your marriage to him lasts one month it would be considered a success. What you desire comes at a cost that you cannot pay.

Candidlady:



Speechless

She was murdered in a/an hotel they'd call her a hooooe

now she was murdered in her house what would you call her?

Men got nothing to offer. They bring only pains and tears to this peaceful world of ours.

You raped her like that wasn't enough you stabbed her multiple times.


Dead gender


poor woman
Na wa o

But it was a mother that gave birth to those killers and she must have played a key role in raising them. Just saying.

Zonefree:
Say someone mistakenly manage you for marriage, what will the person benefit? Be frank please

Mistakenly manage? Bros you wicked no be small.

Zonefree:
Say someone mistakenly manage you for marriage, what will the person benefit? Be frank please

Mistakenly? Bros you wicked no be small.

Eclipse91:
Had this uncle who at young age was very rich enough to sustain his mum n siblings. fast faward to a day he got his mum angry and she cursed him, boom things turned upside down. On realization that the breadwinner is now begging for bread, she started reversing the curses on a daily. It's been years now, yet no improvement. And so many other instances

Demons are always available to sanction a curse whether it is spiritually legal or not. But blessings can only be activated by someone who has a righteous standing and has the authority to do so. You don't have to be righteous to curse. You only need to have a spiritual legal ground. A sinner that was legally wronged can issue a curse and demons will have a right to enforce it but to bless you need the power and the authority to do so. The woman cursed her son and now she wants to use that same mouth to bless, the realm of the spirit doesn't work like that. She needs to offer a sacrifice to block and wipe out her curse before she can begin to bless. And only potent blood sacrifice she can offer is the one offered for her already on the cross. The woman allowed herself to be used by demons. They set up the guy to offend the mother and leverage the mother's anger to issue a curse that they could use to wreck the guy. It is possible that the demons have tried other means and failed but realized they could weaponized the mother against herself. Classic jijitsu. There is a lot to learn about the sons of darkness.

Justnow2022:
I just found out I’m AS, and I’m not happy about it. How will this affect my chances of finding a wife?

The lab guy said I must marry AA. Moreover, I will really like to have just AA kids. I don’t know how possible that would be.

Meanwhile, what’s your genotype?

Cc lalasticlala abeg I want to hear peoples opinions about genotypes.

Dude don't put AS placard on your forehead while seeking a wife oh. There are AA ladies that can make your life a living hell oh. Trust in the LORD, the founder of the marital institution and He will sort you out but if you want to use your sense, you go land inside mess oh!

coputa:
Finance is very important in everyday activities,infact,you cannot function without money,it's the oil that keep the engine of life moving,but sometimes,we may go broke due to one reason or the other,at this critical time,who do you run to for assistance.For me,my wife is my banker of last resort,i.e,she always bail me out,but i will pay back o.For you who is that person that always bail you out.

Jesus Christ na my bailout fund oh. I cannot count how many times I will come down to my last 50 naira in school and I will pray to God not to let me starve and boom one short term job will show up from nowhere and raise my liquidity drastically. Trust in the LORD with all thine heart and lean not upon your own understanding, in all your ways acknowledge Him and He shall direct your path.

Davies25:
Good day Nairalanders,


My rent is expiring soon.
I was given an uncompleted one bedroom building by my parents (no official documents)
I was in a difficult place financially so i decided to renovate/complete the building instead of renewing my house rent.
Thus far, i have spent about 600k
And i will still need close to 800k or more to make the place habitable.

My thought at first was that if i spend the equivalent of my 2 years rent (400k). The house will be habitable and i can move in.
But now, I'm spending money i don't have.

My rent is expiring soon, should i look for the 800k and complete the building or i should just renew my rent and let go of my 600k investment??

Note: I'm broke, if I'm looking for the money it will be a high interest loan.

I'm just confused. I need help here.

Dude but why did you do this to yourself na...you spent 600k on an apartment that is still not yet complete when you can renew your rent and still have change! Now you are broke and you came to nairaland. Maka why?

NOTORIOUS100:
Cc: Lalasticlala Mynd44

https://www.premiumtimesng.com/news/more-news/543242-five-places-to-meet-husband-material-in-nigeria.html

You are clearly not ready for life. This was how a lady from a holiness church married a literal demon masquerading as an usher in church. The brother came with his comrades who looked like humans. The pastor, blind bartimeaus, did not notice, the relatives of lady did not notice, no one else noticed until the wedding night when sister got into the bedroom with brother only for the brother in the lord to metamorphose into a giant with an incredibly massive rod. Sister wanted to shout but the demon seized her voice. Demonic brother went ahead to demolish her over night. By morning, demonic brother has disappeared without a trace. After days of not coming out, neighbors had to break in only to see her in a demolished condition. She was rushed to the hospital were the doctor had to stitch her up and revive her to narrate her story.

So sisters don't be deceived good brothers are not in a particular place, they are everywhere and so are the evil ones. You must know who you are to be able to identify the man that fits you. If you are aimless, purposeless, useless and valueless you will marry your enemy. Get your life in order, put yourself on the path of destiny and you will find a man on that same path as yours that will fit you. Commit to submitting to your man even as your man showers you with love and your marriage will be a success. It's as simple as that!

Em222:
I am a graduate but lost my job so am struggling to come back to my real self so I need a working class or real time bussiness woman who will help me to come back let's build a home together I am a litle bit fair tall handsome youngman in my early 30s so am looking for a serious woman within the age range of 27 to 42 to marry lets start making kids no much time so if u r interested u can call me or chat me let's discuss I am serious about this 08164084891

You are looking for mature problem...well done ehn. You dey look for problem wey don ripe. Oga go and work hard and pray to God to open your way, if not, the spirit of sapa worrying you will introduce you to the mature problem that will eventually delete you. Go for deliverance.

OBABASH:
Pls. I need ur advice my Nairaland friend, my wife has been passwording her phone since I complain about her chatting with her coursemate that she was crushing for when she was in school. Pls how can I stop her from moving close to him or how can I make her realist what she did was wrong?

You have no choice dude but to let her get into the trouble she is desperate to get into. All you have to do now is to insure yourself. Ensure you have absolute control over your finances and that you are not dependent on her. She will soon enter the trouble she is looking for. Sorry ehn. Next time choose right and involve God to escape stories that touch!

Dailyparrot:
So, my friend that does Bolt got a request to go pick a rider inside the cantonment.

When he got in, he was pressed so he decided to urinate inside a gutter there.

Some soldiers saw him urinating and said he was not supposed to urinate inside the barracks. Like what is wrong in urinating inside that their dirty barracks as far as it's not at an inappropriate place.

That's how they started punishing him, asking him to wash their smelling toilets, mob their guard room and all sorts of humiliating tasks.

This my friend is a masters student at unilag but doing Bolt to hold body together while the strike lasts. Whereas, the dirty soldiers that gave him that punishment might be abokiii SSCE holders.

I was furious when he told me that. The other time I drove into that cantonment to pick a rider, I was driving and talking to the person I came to pick when this soldier tried to stop me, I just zoomed passed him like I didn't even see him. I'm sure if I had given him attention, he would have wanted to start his madness.

Funnily, the rider my friend went to pick canceled on him and of course booked another ride. I was once taking some people into the cantonment and they were laughing about how the first driver they booked canceled when they told him they were going to the army cantonment. I don't have fear for anybody. I drive in and out of the barracks whenever I get a rider to or out of there.

I don't know why Nigeria soldiers feel it's okay to always oppress civilians at the slightest opportunity. I guess that's the only consolation they have for the Ill care they receive from the system.

If any of your family members is a soldier, advise them to be different.

That is why only a few really pity them when they are wasted in droves by Boko haram and the likes!

Twinklelove:
I got married to my husband truly not knowing who he was, I was naive and couldn't differentiate between love and lust the age bracket was close to 10yrs...to me it was love yes i truly loved him because i thought he loved me. We have two beautiful kids, I was abused by my husband several times, there was a time he beat me I had to use dark glasses to work while asked what happened? I had to cover up for the beasts.....he Continued till I stood up for myself that was how the physical abuses stopped....

But he continued to emotionally black mail me I got out of my job because of school, that was where my problem started he is a high profile man in his state and also a pretender...they say "Charity begins at home" But that's not in my house, because he only gives us food when we are in good terms he goes to the market to buy tomatoes and the likes, I don't care because he says its his money. He is a chronic smoker and womaniser someone who has slept with his friends wife. My husband is very good at keeping malice infact, he has kept malice with me for close to a year but eventually started speaking with me with the intervention of our clergy...I later discovered it was because of another woman...I got used to the fact that he won't stop so I moved on with my life knowing that someday old age will catch up......I have had to treat infections severally all in the name of love

This man works in the hospital...but when am ill I have to buy drugs from him.....I have to borrow money from him with written agreement and witness that I will pay back which he collects.... Right now I still stay in same house with him where by he cooks for himself because he doesn't speak me, and stopped eating my food......he stopped sleeping with me saying some very hurtful things about sex. I even went into depression because he said I am a liability. My marriage is determined by my ability to provide too. He has belittled me before his family......he can't even protect me.

Right now..lust found me again yes i mean lust. A very wealthy widower who is so interested in me and my kids. But of course same gender everywhere. I met him while I went for job hunt.. am a chartered accountant but menhh its so hard that i can't express my pains. At first he said there isn't any vacancy, I got up to leave then he noticed I had tears in my eyes and called me back..I said I am fine but deep within I was sad knowing I had a beast waiting for me at home and of course I was scared of going home.....I had to speak out because its so heavy...he asked for my phone number incase there is an opening, After some few days, he called and asked to see me at the office. We talked and surprisingly he prayed with me....Now he has asked me out severally but I know the Devil wears prada that gender won't change......right now am back to school and presently this man has been so helpful to me to the extend of asking me to take one of his cars because my husband ceased my car....this man tells me how beautiful I look and so many things that makes me feel good about myself. I am someone else's wife but another buys me expensive things....irony of life..
Almost all times i go out, men ask me out on date, But i turn them down. I have never cheated on my husband and hope things get better someday.

Please I need to get a job to get my marriage back.

As usual, another one sided a story. Your beast of a husband once gave you a car and now he has seized it. I am very sure that if we hear the man's side of the story we will uncover how much of a demon you may be. You call him a beast but you could very well be the demon that turned him into a beast. And the sad thing is, you are still living with this beast. Further proving you are likely the demon here!

Intelligentguy5:
Hi guys. So i find that these days, approaching women physically seem like a lot of work for me. It’s just not as much fun like the old days anymore. Kindly see my requirements below for a friend with benefits.

1. Should live on the island. Preferably, VI, Lekki, Ikoyi or real close.

2. Must speak and write really well. This one is non negotiable.

3. Should work a corporate job and preferably in a multinational. Preference would be consulting e.g Mckinsey and co or a blue chip firm. The reason for this is because of their rigorous recruitment process which would give me comfort that I’m dealing with an intelligent person.

I don’t want to be with just anybody and I’m not asking for what I’m not either.

4. Pretty or atleast easy on the eyes. I’m big on aesthetic appeal but I’m not a fan of excessive make-up.

5. Prostitutes should please keep off. I have no interest in a paid sex scenario.

6. Has a right to decline the request after physical meeting. I also reserve the right to do so albeit with respectful explanations and not via ghosting.

7. A relationship is not in contemplation.

8. It is not a sex for cash engagement. It’s strictly friendship and consensual sex. I’m not ruling out the possibility for favors in cash and kind anyway. I believe people should be supportive of each other.

Kindly send me an email via if interested. Intelligentguy55@gmail.com

What you will get is not going to be worth more than a regular, refurbished, painted up and packaged prostitute...and you foolishly didn't indicate that you will need her latest HIV/AIDs and STD results. You also foolishly didn't indicate that you will need to know her criminal history...errrrrr, one more thing, you also foolishly didn't indicate that you will need to know which of the many coasts she is a Queen of...

By the time they are through with you, you go look up, look down begin dey wonder wetin do you!

A study showed that "substitutes for marital sexual gratification may impact the decision to marry. Proliferation of the Internet has made pornography an increasingly low-cost substitute. We investigate the effect of Internet usage, and of pornography consumption specifically, on the marital status of young men. We show that increased Internet usage is negatively associated with marriage formation. Pornography consumption specifically has an even stronger effect. Instrumental variables and a number of robustness checks suggest that the effect is causal".

Source: https://papers.ssrn.com/sol3/papers.cfm?abstract_id=2534707

So ladies keep making nude content and sharing it with boyfriends who will upload same to the internet. Ladies keep making x-rated content and sharing it online...you are supplying the much needed substitute for marriage among young men. And one more thing ladies, quit complaining about men not wanting to get married. With the immense drama that follows marriage and the affordability of sex and porn, as supplied by our generous ladies, you can be rest assured that many of you ladies will remain single for a very long time or will become single mothers or become baby mamas.

Fahdiga:
Why don't you divorce the woman? Now another man will be banging her while you rot in jail. But that dead brother is wicked sha for Sleeping with his brother's wife.

He will have solace in the fact that he executed the man...the woman should not think she is safe. If that man leaves or escapes prison for any reason she is next!

There is an ad making the rounds in New York and it shows a lady telling New Yorkers what to do in the event of a nuclear strike. If these folks are preparing for a nuclear war, then we should prepare for a nuclear winter.

Now is the time to start storing food and preparing for another COVID-like event that could shake the world to its core!


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N-5d7V4Sbqk

A Princeton University study just proved my point about governments and if it is this bad in the US, the so called model of democracy and good governance, then it terrifyingly worse here in Nigeria.

To all the fools who want to be Obidient, Batified or Atikulated but you are not rich enough to manipulate government policy and to all the Patriots who want to bypass governments and bring about the change we seek by collaborating at the grassroot/community level, this video is for you...watch and learn, watch and wake up from your slumber!



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U6w9CbemhVY

EzegeNdiigbo:
I came across this picture on Facebook so I decided to share it with you guyz here because I think the girl in the picture below is a right definition of "Every girl thinks you're after their body".

So guyz what do you think about the picture??

This is just a case of two people with different cultures. Both of them are right. To the lady her dressing is not indecent and anyone who considers what she has done to be wrong is in the wrong. To the man indecent dressing is one that exposes body parts and is aimed at seduction. The woman is a liberal and the man is a conservative...oil and water cannot mix!

Comedian2019:
Who you elect as your leaders determine how your life will be valued.
You elect wicked people, you get wicked treatment.
Expect more of that. Your human right my foot.

You guys just don't learn...it doesn't matter who rules. If you like wake saint Peter up and make him president, EFCC will still tear down doors and ceiling claiming they are looking for yahoo boys. When GEJ was in power, come and see the evil soldiers perpetrated in the east in the name of hunting down kidnappers and robbers. It was a bloodbath. Yet their very own GEJ was in power.

Stop fooling yourselves. Nigeria's messiah will not come as a president, rather he will come as a grassroot mobilizer. If you like be Atikulated. If you like be Batified. If you like be Obidient. Nothing will change. Peter Obi was in Anambra when SARS men were destroying lives, did he stop it? Obiano took over and it got even worse yet the very SARS officers committing this evil were Igbos, the governor Igbo and the victims were Igbos...you guys should wake from this slumber and smell the coffee. Nigerian governments from local to federal are designed to continue the colonialism that ended in 1960. The Nigerian government is the ultimate problem of the Nigerian people.

DenewLegends:
Is He a hustler or a lover ?

He is a fool! That block he is carrying is not a respecter of persons!

Scamupdates:
I helped a mad man with 1k last night . he called me back and told me not to go where am planning to go, with the date i fixed (in yoruba). yes he his mad but how did he know what am planning to do with the day i fixed for it. not the religion type doe . .if i fail to show up at that day, trust me am going to losse almost what i cant get in 6 month.

Your life versus what you can make in 6 months, choose one!

LoveUdie:
10 MISTAKES WOMEN MAKE IN MARRIAGE
I hear women complain about how they are not enjoying their marriages. One thing I notice is that they blame everyone for the struggles in their marriage but themselves. Do you really think you are not to blame for the problems in your marriage?

1. USING SEX AS A BARGAINING TOOL
So many women use sex as a bargaining tool in their marriages and this is absolutely wrong. It’s wrong to deny your husband sex because you want money to change your wardrobe or maybe you want a new car. Using sex as a bargaining tool in your marriage is absolutely wrong.

2. NOT TAKING GOOD CARE OF YOURSELF
I see so many women make this mistake in their marriages. Before you got married to him, your appearance was so important but you neglect how you look and stop taking good care of yourself the moment you get married. Just because you are now married is no excuse to stop being beautiful. Your husband expects to continually see that beautiful woman he got married to and you also have to look beautiful for yourself too. Try to keep that body he fell in love with.

3. NAGGING
No man loves a nagging woman. Stop justifying your nagging, it’s wrong. You can’t complain about everything your husband does and expect peace. There are better ways to handle issues in your marriage and nagging isn’t one of them. Quit abusing and shouting at your husband; he is your husband and not your son.

4. BEING INSECURE
Being insecure is another mistake women make in their marriage. I understand you don’t want to share your husband with anyone but if you can’t really trust him, why then did you get married to him? I see women fighting other women over a man and that’s bullsh*t if you ask me. The other woman isn’t the problem; your husband is the problem. Instead of fighting the other woman, try to find out why your husband still have you and fancies her. Never bring yourself that low to fighting another woman publicly because of a man.

5. TREATING YOUR IN-LAWS AS STRANGERS
You don’t expect your husband to cut all ties with his family because he got married to you. It’s wrong and I strongly believe that if you truly love a man, you would love everything about him including his family. Learn to respect his family and don’t treat them as rags. I understand mother-in-laws can be annoying sometimes because they feel you are taking their place in their son’s life but disrespecting her won’t solve the problem.

6. DIALOGUE IS IMPORTANT WHEN THERE IS ANY DISAGREEMENT
There are bound to be times in your marriage when you and your husband would disagree on certain issues but bringing down the roof or broadcasting your differences to the world solves nothing but only worsens it. Learn how to pass across your point to your husband peacefully and respectfully. Respect for each other is needed for any marriage to work.

7. BEING IMPATIENT
This is another mistake women make in marriage. Patience is needed if you want your marriage to work. You have to learn how to be patient with your partner. I believe if you can’t be patient with your partner, then you are not ready to get married. Patience is needed in marriage.

8. IGNORING HIS STOMACH
I understand you are a busy woman and it’s really not easy combining managing a home and your career but I still think application of wisdom here is important. I understand your busy schedule means you need a cook at home to prepare the meals but I still believe the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. Ensure you man is well-fed and don’t just leave everything to the cook. Cook your man his meals when you get the chance to.

9. WRONG FRIENDS
This is another major mistake most women have. I believe you need to choose your friends properly because not every one would mean well for you. Don’t just pour your heart out to anyone. It’s really wrong discussing the flaws of your husband with friends. I understand sometimes you just need someone to talk to but you should ensure you choose the right person and you also need to watch what you pour out.

10. SECRETS
Keeping things away from your husband is really wrong as it’s the fastest way to destroy trust. You and your husband are supposed to be a team and a team won’t work smoothly when there are secrets.
Men also make mistakes in marriage. Check the next post to read: 10 MISTAKES MEN MAKE IN MARRIAGE.
Hope you enjoyed this article? Don’t forget to share with friends too.
Source....https://www.allsinglesandmarried.com/

All can be summarised in a simple sentence... if you marry a fool you will cry like a fool but if you marry a king and you fail to submit to him you will be a slave in his kingdom.

SultanOfPuna:
Can you remember what you saw when you were 3 years old

Bro I can remember ohhh...you go shock when that go recollect the rod wey you dey use correct the housemaid...you guys just destroyed the life of that boy!

tee59:
I met a man recently and I really like him. He's cool, an introvert, a workaholic and a God fearing. But he hasn't been spending on me. He gave me #500 as transport fare last time I went to his place and I was disappointed. Already, my to and fro money was with me. And if he didn't give me any money, I will not even bothered and not that, he has given me anything before. This is making me worried, that, is he really love me? Is not that am not working oh, but little financial support from him is not bad . I'm not the type that ask for money. I always want him to give me freely but he's not. How do you show that, you love and care for your woman? I'm beginning to doubt his love for me.

You children of this generation, you measure everything with the yardstick of money. This is how many of you end up with the guys that beat the shit out of you at the slightest provocation.

If a man scolds you when you are wrong and praises you when you are right, he loves you. If a man gives you good advice all the time and his advice has always yielded positive results, he loves you. If a man denies himself short term pleasures for the sake of your welfare and wellbeing, he loves you. If a man looks out for you and genuinely cares about your life and future, he loves you. If a man is not scared of making life changing decisions because of you, he loves you. If a man is willing to take responsibility for actions and inactions even to his detriment, he loves you. If a man prays for you when he has nothing else to offer you, he genuinely loves you. If a man is willing to tie his future to yours, he loves you. If a man cultivates you to spurs you to become a better version of yourself, he loves you. If a man empowers you and gives you the tools to become a dominant player in this world, he loves you...if a man places your eternal destination above all else...he genuinely loves you and you will do well to submit totally to him and to his lead!

When GEJ contested for the presidency, this was how passionate most Nigerians were. They all jubilated that at last someone who feels their pain is now in power to solve their problems. GEJ became the president and instantly turned into a vegetable. Everybody rode GEJ like a horse when they wanted. New refineries were not built, the 2nd Niger bridge was promised but not built, the so called SURE-P programme became a scam, billions of dollars of oil money were carted away, insecurity ballooned to the point that the president himself confessed that the military had been infiltrated by criminal elements and he left Nigeria battling to survive the recessionary effect of falling crude oil prices and an empty treasury.

Today a lot of fools are being obedient as their ancestors were also obedient to their slave masters. By now they are supposed to see that no savior can save Nigeria through the ballot box because the ballot box now has a price tag and anyone who can buy it wins the election. We are the savior we are looking for. If we do not fix our country by ourselves, no one, not even someone sitting far away in Aso rock, will fix it for us. We have to go back to living as communities and participating in the upliftment of our communities. Our government will forever fail. Governments around the world are failing. Western societies we thought had great governments are failing. We need to snap out of this foolish thinking that governments are there to help. No, they are there to enrich themselves and enslave others.

Bluezy13:
Hmmm...



So far so good; all I have read so far is mere speculations. I neither credit nor discredit them. I'm only forced to ask: if we knew this much about personalities, why do we still have increased rate of broken relationships and divorce unlike the ancient times ??

This question also directly affects those posters up there whom I am certain may have experienced or are experiencing broken or turbulent relationships.
Could it be that they allow/allowed emotions to override their knowledge of personalities ?
If that is the case, then of what usefulness is the knowledge of personalities ?
Could it be that they are/were ignorant of the knowledge of personalities ?
If that is the case, then why do they continue to experience broken or turbulent relationships after acquiring this knowledge of personalities ?
I am only asking...; I am not countering nor asserting.
Cc:
efficiencie
Eileene
Nobody

Psychological and philosophical matters of personalities is highly ambiguous; such that the more man tend to unfathom its ambiguity, the more ambiguous and complicated it is.

I therefore reserve my hypothetical thought.

What you call "speculation" are basically "theories" attempting to explain what leads to the marital phenomenon that was described in the opening post. What's left is now an empirical evaluation of these "theories" to see which actually fits the real world.

The opening post seems to identify temperament mismatch as the cause marital friction and eventual divorce but it does not say anything about how these temperaments are formed, when they are formed and what factors affect their evolution over time.

The opening post assumes that people maintain their temperament over time but like we all know change in inevitable and someone who was once choleric today could encounter someone who makes her morph over time into someone with a sanguine temperament. If this kind of evolution occurs it makes temperament a poor determinant of stable or unstable marriages. The opening post also assumes that people are either of a particular type of temperament or the other at any point in time. This assumption can be seen in the example about a sanguine couple both talking and none listening. However it is very possible for people to embody all types of temperament at certain points in time to enable them adapt to their environment. There are people who become sanguine when then meet their fellow sanguine friend who they trust and confide in and that same person could become a choleric or melancholic when surrounded by people who they do not trust or do not confide in. This situation results in people having multiple personalities in different situations as an adaptive mechanism.

To really understand why marriages fail you need to understand what explains the character of people at a point in time, what accounts for changes in character over time, what motivates people to choose their spouses and what people understand marriage to be.

Marriage is a long established ritual. So long it makes me wonder why the first person to get married decided to. Why didn't they normalize having sex with anyone or everyone? Why was adultery a crime punishable by death in most societies? Why did people live in families? Why didn't most societies make it normal for men to just get ladies pregnant and walk away?

The commonalities in the timeless rules that have governed marriages in many societies makes me believe the supernatural origins of marriage and it also makes me believe that no what the temperaments of the couples in a marriage are, if a man loves his woman and the woman submits to her man marriage will be a success. If this simple rule is breached continuously and deliberately, no amount of marital counselling or therapy sessions cam save that marriage from its eventual demise.

As a man, if you are not ready to love, to provide, to protect, to lead selflessly, to teach, to safeguard, to inspire, to endure and to be faithful, you are not ready for marriage and no submissive lady should consider you a worthy candidate for a husband.

As a woman if you are not ready to submit in totality, you are not ready to be a wife and no loving man should consider you a worthy wife.

logicalhumour:
I just saw a post "Why Good Men Marry Bad Girls, Bad Girls Marry Good Men" on the front page, and felt I should write this. So, I'll go straight to the point:

While someone might just say "because opposites attract", in response to why Good boys marry Bad girls and vice versa, it goes deeper!

In the study of human behaviour, a school of thought classifies humans into 4 major groups (temperaments) :

1. The Choleric (extroverted and usually bossy)
2. The Melancholy (introverted and empathic)
3. The Phlegmatic (privacy-loving and introverted)
4. The Sanguine (extroverted talkative)

This idea is a very popular one, so I won't go into explaining them but the brief explanation provided. According to Tim LaHaye ( in his book, "Why You Act the Way You Do" ) he describes humans as beings who could have blends of these temperaments e.g., a "Chol-san" who could be very different from a "San-chol" or a Phleg-chol. You might also like "Opposites Attract" by the same author (which is tilted towards Temperaments and relationships)


...as related to Relationships.
Every human has, and knows their strengths and weaknesses. It is natural for you to admire someone who is strong in areas where you know you're weak. Matter-of-factly, someone who has your weaknesses and strengths (in other words, identical to you) might end up repelling you. They do not fascinate you.

Now, Bad girls must pass certain criteria to qualify as one according to society (same as Bad boys) and based on how humans are wired, your temperament could make it easier for you to be a Good boy/girl, or a Bad boy/girl. For example, and not to discriminate here, it's easier for a Sanguine with a blend of Choleric or Phlegmatic to be a Bad boy or girl in our society. And if you recall, I mentioned that these temperaments do come with their strengths and weaknesses. Hence, the temperamental opposites of the individuals (the "Bad" girl/boy) tend to attract them.

Summary:
- If two talkative Sanguines are in a relationship, two of them would like to talk, with no one to listen.

- with an inward Phlegmatic and a sensitive, empathic Melancholy in a relationship, they likely would hold things in their minds, until it catastrophically explodes.

- two Cholerics in a relationship would like to boss each other, and if there's anything a Choleric hates, it's being bossed!

This is not a fool-proof explanation, but at least you get the idea what science says about why opposites attract. In other words, why "Good Men Marry Bad Girls, Bad Girls Marry Good Men"

The reason is more statistical than psychological. You are mostly likely to find a bad wife than a good wife and you are also mostly like to find a bad husband than a good one. This makes marriages involving bad people more common than marriages involving good people and it also explains why divorces, domestic violence, paternity fraud etc are all part and parcel of most marriages!