₦airaland Forum

Hannibal:
The world has changed a lot since I was a little boy.
Sure, we've moved ahead as a society in certain things, we've evolved, we've gone to the moon, we have all this technology crap, but in the end we've taken more than a few steps back as far as human nature is concerned.

When I was growing up, a man's word was his life, a man's honor his most important virtue, and a man's ability to be real his most pressing social concern.
Things, unfortunately, have changed.
To put it kindly, men have become whining, pathetic losers incapable of handling a little hardship, incapable of handling criticism -- essentially we are slowly becoming women.

And here's some news, boys: the ladies agree with me. Women have noticed the feminization of men too, and despite what you might hear about the sensitive New Age clowns being the ideal Romeos women are looking for, it's total bull crap.
Women want a man who will act like a man, who will take charge, who can make decisions, who doesn't cry, and who faces fear.

So, StephenP and Chika98 should cowboy the Bleep UP and stop whining like sissies.

I don't know if it's because of where I grew up, I used to get slapped just for crying
I was expected to be the one bracing up pain while older girls were allowed to cry

StephenP:
@ the fellas who put sports before their women, do you cry if your team loses a major game badly?

Nah . . . actually, I just get sumn else to do
Hate your manager, the refree, the players and errtin else

Although I don't blame those that cry, they didn't grow up in our society

chika98:
I find this quite amusing!!!!!

But it's true!!!
The difference between a murderer and a mastermind is self control
Both of 'em are angry, only one is displaying the anger at that moment

The difference between a whimp and a real man is sumtimes self control too
We both have a valid reason to break down and cry like widows, but is it really necessary?
Your rational brain doesn't function well when you cry

tope2000:
Only weak men crys,  HAHA So typical a guy
i can understand that guys don't cry unless its really serious but don't ever say only weak men crys

A real a man is sumone that's in control of his emotions
A man that knows how to say no to anger, pain, hate and the strongest forces
At least just channel it into sumn else

chika98:
Why would you even be with someone you consider " an evil heifer"? All these internet tough and strong hearted men you lot potray on here. . . I hope that's not how y'all are in real life because too bad.

Hehehe . . . because evil heifers are still heifers

Hannibal:
I don't let any chic get in the way when i am watching Man Utd.
Matter of fact, i tell a chic be4 we start dating that she might have to share me with ma club. . . . .
C2MB knows not to call me when Ronaldo is doing his ballet at OT.

Since the day I missed our 7:0 against Boro, I've stopped taking calls from chics on Saturdays

SLY. . . . . . He is a criminal. . . Wanted in about 50 Boroughs in the UK.
He holes himself in the female hostel @ the University of Kent in Canterbury.

So you saw it too, Sly's pic is all over London and Kent
The police has increased the prize-money for getting him alive

Hannibal:
Women are THE SAME everywhere.
From age 9-90. . . .  .They show the same attributes and characteristics.
Jealousy, Envy, Indecision. . . . .  .Some women get jealous of your football club. . . . That is how bad they can get.

I can't begin to count how many Arsenal matches I've had to start from 2nd Half
All because some evil heifers time their needs to clash wiv 3:00 on Satrdays and Tuesday nites

Hannibal:
Network problem in Kent??
SLY, u are a flaming criminal.

Sly's sumn else, his broadband stops working on Friday nights
You'll wonder if it's not the same Sky we use

@Sisikill
There you go wiv your A-grade sacarsm again

SAM MILLA:
@eldee, there is no need pointing fingers here.
this guy did not mention his age here.
i was only giving you examples and you are acting upon the examples.
besides does being 25 stop you from seeking for advice on nairaland?

Your examples are far-fetched
If he didn't feel it was wrong, he won't be asking for advice
It's not the Theory of Relativity

SAM MILLA:
and why do you base your argument on assumptions instead of facts?

You jst dug your hole
1) There's only one private University in Lagos
2) There is no 25 year old MA degree holder in Nigeria with enough experience to lecture in a University
3) There is no adult MA degree holder that will come here to ask if it's right to date someone over 18
4) If she's still in secondary school, she's in 5th form (all 6th formers are ot of school after WAEC)

I could go on forever, your argument is flawed, your assumption that it's a mature relationship doesn't hold water

a lot of 20 year olds are still in secondary school in Nigeria,
people who didnt start school on time like maids and so on.
some girls are repeating classes which could happen at 20.
then this teacher is 24 or 25 which is practically possible.
now whats wrong in a 24 year old guy dating a 20 year old girl?

These are assumptions, and they are only seen in 1 in 20 cases
And why will a 25 year old be scared of us crucifying him for dating a 20 year old?
Do you just type without a VDU sumtimes??

SAM MILLA:
or is student-teacher thing an abomination?

YES!!! Taking advantage of your job to have carnal knowledge of your customer is a crime
It is a breach of contract, besides it will surely interfere with your work

onyinye2:
The ones who claim they don't, are the ones who cry the loudest.

But come to think of it, why waste you time crying
When you can easily bottle it, punch walls, get drunk, play b-ball, etc
C'mon . . . we've got egos, we need to feed 'em

tope2000:
lol. no but some emotions are romantic, necessary ones tho

Some emotional displays are romantic, crying is most def not one of 'em

tope2000:
And here i am thinking that you are Mr romantic ehn??

Erm . . . did I hear you just say unecessary display of emotion is romantic??

ibkaye:
One thing that really gets to me sometimes, is when I see a grown man crying

I know . . . the dude deserves an Oscar
That's acting at another level

Chat2MeBac:
Crying is just in our nature, But I still insist.MEN cry more. But the chickens wont admit, Olodos

You're most def not talking bout African men
We're not even allowed to cry when we lose our immediate relatives
If that doesn't release the tears, what will?

Some of us don't even know HOW to cry anymore
Believe it or not, Nollywood directors slice onions to force actors to cry

SAM MILLA:
25 dating a 25 , does it stop them from being a teacher and a student?

Are you like this or are you just acting the clown?
If he was twenty-five dating a twenty-five year old will he be here begging for advice??
Now I'm really getting scared of you ooh

SAM MILLA:
are there no private universities in Nigeria?

Yes there are, but they're not refered to as private schools
And I'm yet to see a 25 year old university professor in Nigeria, please let's be reasonable here

SAM MILLA:
i am not applying any wisdom, i am answering the question exactly as he tabled it.
thats how you pass exams.

That's why this is not an exam, it's a man coming here to ask for advice
If you can't apply wisdom, then it's obvious you're incapable of helping him

In your own intelligent school of thought
This man is a 25 year-old, Masters (Arts) degree holder, with at least 3 years experience; coming to nairaland to ask for advice because he's going out with another 25 year-old.
Hmmn . . . I'm learning from you, continue.

@topic
Just leave her to cry errtin out
There's nothing you tell her at that particular moment that will help the situation

At that moment she's incapable of rational thinking

DeepZone:
The devil is a liar besides, I'll not marry a loser.

You see the level of your hypocrisy
Where's your 'My man must work under me'?

Hannibal:
It beats me. . . . . . .
Falling in love with one's student. . . . How silly can a man get??

And the worst thing, they'll say it's love
That's just extreme stupidity

Chat2MeBac:
Now yo can ga lang

Je ne pas parle le gibberish

SAM MILLA:
What are you people talking about?
Whats wrong in falling in love with your student?
By the way, who says he/she is your student?
Do you own him/her?
Definition or a student is not the same as the definition of a male or a female.
student is a status, just like the teacher.
Someone can become a teacher at 25 and some one can also be a student at 25.
There is no law against that, so you wont be committing any offence.
If he/she falls in the age range you want, make things open.
It all depends on the student anyway but i see nothing wrong in that.
It happens all the time here in Europe.

Apply wisdom
If he was 25 and dating a 25 year old, he won't be coming to plead on nairaland
And if it were a university, he'll have clearly stated it, even that is still unprofessional

Private schools in Nigeria refer to privately owned secondary schools
It's not rocket science

DeepZone:
Too late, God don hear your first blessing. You can't withdraw it now, sorry!!!

OPONU ni e . . . do u read english, cus online translators are not that accurate ooh
Don't tell me you don't understand :

'Infact, I hope you'll marry a man that'll let you pay 95% of the bills'

DeepZone:
Oooh, that's a blessing from you because I'll then keep my money to myself. Who no like sugar? paying 95% of my bills does not equate to relinquishing my rights. If he wants, peace and harmony, i dey; if he wants fire for fire, i dey.

So, you'll be happy to pay 95% of 'em bills?
Get thee behind me ye workers of iniquity

onyinye2:
Well apparently by giving you a mile, you stole a marathon.

Aight . . . it's obvious you need to step into the real world now

Chat2MeBac:
Hmmmmmmmmmm, Is that so? Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmm

It's true na
Infact the Home Office is planning to ship out sexy heifers to other countries that are lacking
Say erm. . . Nigeria

Chat2MeBac:
The poster said he teaches at a Private school. No one asked the ages of the student there. Should I assume that All private schools in Nigeria are for toddlers and/or children under the age of consent ONLY?

Average graduating age of Nigerian private schools is 16-17
If we agree that he's been in love with her for sometime, then the estimate is 15 year old

Besides it's grossly unprofessional to have relationships with your clients/customers' children

onyinye2:
but why 70/30? why not at least 60/40??

Because it's dangerous to give the woman an inch, she'll always steal a mile
It's so visible, just watch Jerry Springer

DeepZone:
Easier said that done, life is full of unforeseen obstacles. Remember this day.

If that's ur wish, you'll be disappointed
Infact, I hope you'll marry a man that'll let you pay 95% of the bills

onyinye2:
cool your jets bro. no need getting worked up over.

It's needed after I've repeated my point 101 times

onyinye2:
oh so you want to women to control cause you said 30/70 as in men to women

Read my post and stop making an ass of yourself
I was refering to how Funmi is advocating men leaving the homes to women

DeepZone:
Roflmao; Whatever!!!!

It doesn't work that much these days in the west because of matriarchy . Gender roles has been exchanged too, she who brings the bacon calls the piper.

Any man that lets his wife call the piper in his home is a FOOL!!!
He's a disgrace to all homo-sapiens

onyinye2:
Gini?? Did you just say 30/70??

30/70 as in Men:Women

Yeah, that's what Hotfunmi and other 40 year old virgins are fighting for
The other day she was looking for a husband that will be her secetary

DeepZone:
Why this so much obsession with submission? If you are that emotional about it, why not buy yourself a dog?

I've explained to you what submission means
It's worked before, it won't stop working tomorrow

DeepZone:
Shouldn't that be because we are more mature than you guys mentally?

Stay there and keep deceiving yourself
The only time female human beings mature faster mentally is during puberty

DeepZone:
Women TEND to suffer more because they are more involved in the childs life. The men often drop their oil and bail with a foreign woman.

C'est finis, so why don't you be submissive, as the Book of Wisdom has advised us to?
Since it's so obvious that you take all the blame for a failed seed
It's simply wisdom, and it's so easy to apply

The Sly:
And why can't it be like that too?

ABI OOH!!!!

DeepZone:
And my question was, if the woman is the stubborn type that wants her 50 untampered with and since the 50-50 cannever work, is there anything REALLY wrong if the man condescends just for the sake of his CHILDREN instead of these fatherless boys we have these days roaming the streets and looking for whom to rape? I'm sure you've witnessed some of them here.

50-50 is not working yet and you're chasing 30-70??
Err . . . are you sure u're not on expired coffee

Women suffer more when kids go out of hand, they're the ones that the soceity points to
They're the ones that get beat-up by the ruthless sons

Why can't they just do it the way that has been tested and trusted??
Why change our values because of what we saw on Oprah?

ibkaye:
hehehe, dear it is ok, you are young now, when you get older, you will see what we are talking about

Hehehe . . . see whose talking

DeepZone:
Seek ye how to get to your woman's heart before telling women about their own speck and it shall be well with your marriage.

C'mon, we've got the 70%
And remember how complex the heart of the woman is

onyinye2:
says who?

You're still young now, it'll take time for you to understand
Even Funmi knows the truth

DeepZone:
Even when the decision is destructive and lethal?

That's why I said, she has to be part of the decision making
If you don't know how to get to your man's heart, then you've failed as a wife

DeepZone:
says who? The gospel according to Hannibal?

Nah . . . blame the Bible for saying the man is is the head of the house

onyinye2:
That is sure aint no wife. What is the point of getting married if you are still doing what you did when you were single and that is making all the decisions?

No one is saying she shouldn't make decisions
She should always state her own opinion and be a part of decision making
But the man is the final decision-maker

Pataki:
Thank You.

@ Topic,

Yes it is wrong. Having a form of relationship-intimacy to your spouse through your cousin sounds like abnormal and weird to me.

I agree wiv you, I think it will interwine the two marriages, and that can be dangerous
It's hard enough being intimate with your inlaw's friends

DeepZone:
The world is becoming more globalized everyday, no more nuclear weapons et al and the world is also drifting from testosterone to estrogen(saves more energy,lol). No more wars, battering etc. If your woman is not satisfied with anything less than 50, why not let her have it for the sake of your kids? can't you die for your children?

We all know leaving power with women is dangerous, ask Hilary Clinton
Adam and Solomon learnt the hard way

Why should we be the ones making sacrifices?
Didn't you hear of the case of the two wives and the dead baby??

DeepZone:
Well it's not happening all the time in the west among Nigerians. That's why so many women send their men packing to Abeokuta instead of the men sending them packing to Ilesha.

There's a reason why it made the news, the millions of men that send their wives packing is not odd

sistawoman:
Thier pride was not sold it was stolen, it was stolen when they were forced to watch their women raped by masta or die trying to stop it.  It was stolen when they were sold away and forced to be breaders for the masta.  It was stolen when they were beaten forced to take on new names, new religon and new languages.

I beg to differ that it was sold.  Jim Crow was horrible to black people but mostly to our men, whimping them out and taking away their spine, causing more women to have to step up and take that 70-30 split.  I don't ever want to have to run my house again.  It is hard work not that I can't do but nothing that I desire to do.  Let my husband do it he was built for it.  Let me do my 30 or 20 and watch me be happy with it.

C'est fini . . . you should hold a seminar and educate ignorant women like Funmi
It's not always greener on the other side

@Poster
Take a day off, sit down and take a self-assessment
Ask yourself, 'what do I really want?'

Make a mental scale of preference, will you risk your childrens' health for financial stability?
Will you be ready to keep hoping with the struggling bloke?
What do they have that will buy you to their sides?

When you're done wiv 'em questions, you've solved your problem

sistawoman:
This is what was forced on our men during Jim Crow thus giving us the lazy Akatas that we now have in the States. Do you really want to turn your Nigerian men into these spineless whimps.

TOUCHE!!!
An average nigerian man knows he has to provide for the family to earn his 70-30
The lazy whimps o'er there have sold their ego and pride for nuffin . . . it's resignation already

DeepZone:
Guys, the idea of 50-50 rule in romance demanded by todays liberated women seems to bring an increase in family break ups and lots of fatherless kids. It seems the equation must not be balanced for peace to reign. Like 70-30, 60-40 etc .

My question to you men is, does it really matter? if the lady in your life is hell bent on 50 and above, why not reduce yours just for the sake of peace so that your kids that you need so much can be afforded the luxury of having a father at home. Why can't you play the bigger person and let her have 60 or even 70 for the sake of peace? what did it take away from you? what really?

Funmi is fuming.

You see what happens when you give the woman an inch?
There was a time it was 80-20, we kept giving till now it's around 60-40
Now here's sumone saying we should go 70-30!!! What nonsense!!!

We need to go back and ask, are we meant to be sharing at all??

DeepZone:
Pride and ego are unseen innate factors and can be CONTROLLED especially when needs be. Why not invade Cameroun at the expense of human lives for taking away Bakassi peninsula, didn't that hurt your pride and ego too?

Nah . . . that was France Vs Nigeria . . . if it were just man to man, we'll have cleared Cameroun at the OAU

DeepZone:
How many times will I tell you that i do not eat unripe plantain? Abi you wan more paedos in your club?

International JEW man!!!

Just tell me why you need to pay to get shagged
Don't tell me you're that UGLY!!!

DeepZone:
You no dey shame. Your mates are scoring for ManU, Chelsea,Real Madrid etc and you are busy scoring yours in a woman's honey pot. Have you ever been paid for doing that? Even Tuface idibia never score like this.

Stinking Jew man,

You see what I was saying, thanks for confessing
You pay that 16-year old Jew boy to give you a taste of it