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I will in due cause post my perception.

After going through the posts on this topic and in consideration of the various utterances ans actions of the current CBN governor, I made a web search to inquire about his CV. In the course of perusing through my web search on this subject matter, I came across a nairaland thread from 2010 which revealed intersting information, antecedents, utterances, and thoughts of CBN governor. For the interest of the forumites I piost below the link to the previous thread and a post in the said thread:
https://www.nairaland.com/446122/really-sanusi-lamido-sanusi

Re: Really, Who Is Sanusi Lamido Sanusi? by PapaBrowne(m): 11:41pm On May 15, 2010
It explains everything we've been saying about this guy! He rose to his position in the banking industry by virtue of his royal lineage.
I have always wondered why Sanusi never deemed it necessary throughout his career as a banker to develop himself further.

The guy is a misfit for the position he sits upon. He would definitely be better off as an EFCC Chairman or better still he should be considered as a Chairman off the Pilgrims Board where he can make adequate use of his Sudanese degree in Islamic studies.

@ OP thanks for digging up this historical and educative piece in video format. Though I have read about and witnessed the later events.
For those saying they could not watch the entire length, please make out time to do so. this is like the story of a family history. History is so important because from it we can learn to not repeat the mistakes of the past.
A wise saying goes this way: If one does not know where he is going, he should at least know where he is coming from.
Once again, Bravo!!! @OP

In my own opinion, there was no marriage, just plain deception!!!
Don't let anyone use the "you made a vow for better for worse" as I do not think it applies.
In the catholic church this type of case should be sufficient reason to annul the whole "scam".

@ 190-the-clown, the babe involved is not by any means naija. This happened far away in the USA. May be our babes don tear eye reach dat side!!!
@OP you should have acknowledged the source of the story instead of paraphrasing it as if it is your own experience.
On a lighter mood, abi u wan make we pray make you get the experience?
For all see the link to the original storyline to an "Aunty Abby" and the Abby's advice to the guy:
http://news.yahoo.com/husband-cant-over-pain-discovering-wifes-past-050208977.html

Husband Can't Get Over Pain Of Discovering Wife's Past
By Abigail Van Buren | Dear Abby – Wed, Nov 28, 2012

DEAR ABBY: My wife and I have been married for five years. I recently discovered that she made between 10 and 20 porn videos when she was 19. We got married when she was 27. We have four kids from two previous marriages.

I am devastated. When I confronted her about it, she cried harder than I had ever seen. She said she was lost, and it's the biggest regret of her entire life.

I understand how hard it can be to tell someone you have done something like this. I haven't led a perfect life either, and I have my own skeletons and things that I would never mention. But still, I can't get over this. I have never felt pain like this in my entire life and don't know what to do. I love my wife and don't want a divorce, but it haunts my every thought. We have had a great life and I trust her completely. What should I do to get over this? -- DEVASTATED IN THE U.S.A.

DEAR DEVASTATED: A giant step in the right direction would be to accept that you both had a history before you married each other, and you both have done things you aren't proud of. Then make a list of all the good things you have together, and forgive your wife for making some painful mistakes in the past that she was too ashamed to tell you. It certainly beats divorcing a woman you love over something she can't change. If that doesn't work, then you'd be wise to seek marriage counselling.

LOL!!! Guy forgive me for laughing at your pain, I couldn't help it.
On a serious note you don enter! I know the girl messed up big time.
I guess you have to find a way to handle this yawa without destroying the babe's "facebook image", and then run as fast as your legs can carry you if you don't have plans for her!!! I understand your pain.And next thing adjust your facebook settings.
On a lighter not, my guy please send me your facebook handle let me join to congratulate you!

Guy, follow your heart do not let anyone "trade" with your affection and future.
Why didn't your Uncle marry a wealthy older woman in his days. Money is not everything, do not let the bling make you "abort" the actualization of your dreams. Ask your folks what how rich your Mum was before your Dad married her, and yet they were able to see you through. Have you tried do dig out how this older woman made her bucks? Guy don't eat what you don't know.

@OP, You have a positive feedback here

Could it be that one of the requirements for making it "successfully" to the house, making ones point or being heard therein is the ability to throw killer punches?
I need to know, the fighting is too much.
And if I remember correctly, the Gubernatorial equivalent seems to be flogging ( as in "kobokoing" of "subjects".
So much for democracy, sorry democrazy!

@ eGuerilla, Will appreciate it if you can share the download link to the report?

Check these links (make google your friend):
blackberryhub..com/
http://blackberryhub..pt/2012/10/blackberry-bold-6-lagos-nigeria.html

@ OP the Babe was very right to turn down your request. The funds were not hers. It will be a different case if the funds were hers. Touching the funds without authority from the owner amounts to mis-appropriation.
As to the question of if she is worth building a future with; if the basis is solely on this incident I will say a big yes. From the foregoing she has a high probability of understanding instructions and acting accordingly to the letter.

@ OP I believe your story completely. You haven't seen anything yet. In fact a lot of those folks are geographically ignorant. I remember a video clip on similar subject matter; come and see variety of answers!!!
Be of help to your friend next time with a good world map point out your country, South Africa and Brazil, as a one of kind gesture against the geographical challenge.

Without video evidence in 2012, I doubt if anyone will believe this story.
On a lighter mood, get ready to vacate that neighbourhood! Next time the might not be smiling oh! Who knows, the might have come on a reconnaissance mission before the big one!!! lol
And before I forget, why didn't you dial 911 on sighting this strange and suspicious movement in your hood?

smallvill: mind you we are not in London nor America, court marriage is good just because of documentation for embassies etc, but do not think that in Nigeria, I mean the Nigeria that I know, that court marriage can be used to hold a man.

@smallvill, you are just on point. Reminds me of a lady bank manager that was acting up in her marriage and flaunting the "I was married in the court thing" to her lawyer husband, and got the short end of the stick. Most times its babes with this mindset that scatter their nest and then reality sets in. A married lady's insurance in this climes is the love and respect of your husband you have earned, not any piece of paper, or any predatory aim at a guy's fortune you might not have contributed a dime to.
Even in some US States now, you get part of your spouses' worth, but only what he/she made from when you got married!! Possibly the facebook guy, was informed in going public b4fore wedding!!!

This should not be tribalized,
I think the problem is that each time issues like this crop up "a political solution" is given, instead of criminal prosecution and refund of the funds expended as wages, emoluments to the affected legislator.

Sometimes it may not be easy for an individual to recognise easily his/her talent(s)
In moments like these family & friends who have been around you for sometime can be of great help.
To identify your talent try to recall the things you excel in and enjoy. those thing you find easy to do (does not mean they are easy, and will be willing to do even if there is no (immediate) reward.

I believe it exists.
When you come across one the relationship appears to be like a well practised symphony. Every thing seem to fall in place with ease, as both partners complement each other with ease.

Supposing this is true,Why are they shouting? I guess the soldiers while keeping the peace decided to repopulate the space depopulated by war! Talk about replenishing the earth!!
On a more serious note what are the legislators travelling there to do? Have they finished catering for the kids at home with sole nationality before going over to those abroad with "dual nationality" though paternity/nationality may still need to be proved.

OP, tell me that this your story ain't true!
That you made it up to get us talking and catching some fun therein!!
In case it is true, I will want to let you that you have been the fool of the century!!!
Never knew that guys that behave like this still exist. You fall my hand no be small.By pandering to the demands of a parasite you are not a big boy!!, by allowing urself to be in a position where this girl is giving you ultimatum to practically throw away your money, you are just a mugu!! Real men don't take such crap, and real babes know it!!!

You got a deadly parasite on your hands. You deserve to be caned on your bare buttocks for 30 straight days with some knocks on your head to reset your brain.
However, you may redeem yourself by "wise-ing up" and taking the advice and steps suggessted by RIADIAO below:

"My broda is time u show dat gurl ur smart 2. Tell her u've got her d bold 5 and u'll only giver her on 1 condition.She will give u d touch back.Remove her sim frm the phn ,pretend as if u taking her to d phn shop to buy d new 1.In d car stop n ask her to get OUT"

Secondly, modify the topic to read something like " I have been playing the fool" or "Or I have been victim of lovescam of the century" or "blackberry phone mugu".

OP go and look for your wife some where else.
The lady is hooked on something. Guess she had somebody in mind, and want to use prayer as excuse. I prefer adults taking their own decisions, and not hiding under religious mantra.

@ omega25red am in full agreement with your view.
@ OP, in addition to omegared's contribution: Honestly, I do not envy you. You are between a rock and a hard place. Between your heart and your head, which may blind you to very obvious red flags.
I can decipher these issues in this relationship; lack of trust ,lack of respect, violent temper, arrogance (that makes her see u as gold-digging by being in a relationship with her) In a nutshell your babe does not have a wife mindset yet.The combination of these can make a beast of a man in the medium term.
Mark my words, (1) this will not be the last of this kind of behavior, (2) these will not reduce with marriage, rather escalate except seriously and decisively addressed now.
Can u picture yourself living a lifetime with this kind of drama? At least she had displayed for you again and again, and you can not say you never knew. During courtship couples try to be at their best, its unfortunate the "best" is this.
Whatever you accept, you can not change!!
To me you are better off walking it!! Too risky !!!

Man what a rare gem of a woman you have got.
That babe really loves u I guess.And is taking a great risk with you!!
Or will you rather preferred a woman with the mentality:" my money is my money, my husband's money is our money"?
I will advise if you are sure you are marrying the babe to accept her offer, and be faithful to her. Few women will be willing to do what she offered to do, and to think you are not yet married! Don't be preoccupied with if she becomes proud in the future. What if she does not? People change, and nothing guarantees that the babe you pick when you are made and in cash will not start acting up after a few kids. If she starts acting up, you can at least say you never asked her for funds, as she willingly offered.
Go and build your future and stop looking for smoke where there is no fire!!!
She has been with you 5 good years, you think she has not seen financially stable men, with whom she will not need to take such risks and still stuck to you?
If you wish you may document the partnership and record the cash injection from her.

emmatok: From your post it seems you allow your wife to determine your life.

Never ever allow any woman (Wife/GF) to trap or control your life.

Your responsibility is to provide for your family by any legal means and you don't have to tell her everything.

I will advice you tell her to go and meet her EX since she still admires him(EX).

Totally agree with emmatok.
OP to me has done nothing wrong.Do not feel one bit guilty. Leadership is not about seeking validation and taking the best action (calculated risk). You took your risk and it paid off. Even if you lost your funds, there was no reason to compare u to her ex ( that a very red flag). You did not lie to her!!! Get talking with her, since you are not yet married, put your foot down and set the tone of the rship. She shapes in or shape out (to look for her ex). Do not late any babe "drive" you, your vision , your goals. If you do you will be sorry!
Even God never told his arch angel then (the devil) everything. If he did, he would have been sorry. I do not tell my partner lies, I tell her of my strategic plans what I want to tell her, and when I think it is necessary.I believe if you had told her of this move b4 u took steps, you would have been discouraged, and worse off financially.
On a very serious note, this lady that is stressing you ( to dictate to you), how much money has she earned with her "wisdom" to complement your struggles. Or is she waiting for u to make it and come marry her, while she has all the time to make tantrums and comparisons. Find a challenging financial tasks for her, by the time she loses funds , she will be humled.
OP this is the time to set the dynamics that set the pace of your marriage b4 u enter into it. Do not make a grave mistake.You are the man, and it is your cup of tea to provide leadership and provide for your family. You are the one in the cockpit in the UK trying to navigate the storm, and your babe is in Naija trying to direct the "battle" away from the field.
Be wise !!!

Hello OP, I do not see you as wicked, but you should not have slept with her. That was a mistake! Your proposal I guess expired when she rejected it on the premise that " you dont look like what she was asking for". Pray when did you now become God's will, I guess when u got a job and nice bunk? Maybe tommorrow if you don't have these she will hear again. I detest adults ( especially "religious" folks)not taking their decisions and accepting the outcomes instead of blaming the devil or misrepresenting God.
I think the girl is playing smart with you. To me I see the whole thing as a snare
Marry the babe to your peril.You should not be blackmailed or boxed into marriage. Granted nobody likes poverty but marriage should be based on things like trust, love and faith in better future. Even if the girl is pregnant you don't have to marry her if you do not have convictions. Do not let "petty people" use God and church to ruin you. Serve your "suspension" and I hope its two of u that are suspended, and then plot your future.
Never ever eat shit out of respect!!
Any young man talking about marriage or involved in marriage talks is no linger a boy. Put your foot down and do what you are cool with.

Yes it will hurt but you surely can and will come through this. Cry and let it get off you.If you do your best to make a relationship work from your end and yet it does not work, then possibly it is not meant to work. Some once said that some rejections are really directions.Look at it on the other side, and be grateful he had left now and did not have to string you on and waste more of your time (a great resource). Very importantly, let this make you be cautious but not to become bitter , unloving or unlovable. The one for you can now come !!!

The babe getting physical and violent? When she is not even married to the guy! I think your guy is being physically and emotionally abused!! I think your guy needs to walk away from this "harassment" before the babe turns him to a murderer or the murdered someday.

Brilliant analysis by pro01 and nell07.
I am in agreement with their analysis !!!

@ OP, hope you do not have serious plans for that friend?
I agree with Claremont.
Her action is never justified !!!
We should learn to be civil.