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OP say "she might as confused as you" ...
Confusion kor, confusion ni ...

If she's confused then it is not for the reason you're citing, rather it's because she prolly has been jumping on numerous poles ...

And what secrets are you thinking she will reveal? ...

Women that have a track record of denying a crime with teary eyes and playing the victim card ...

And even when there is a video recording showing them doing it, wuna go still deny am ...

Oga confront that woman and kick her outta your house ...
She'll prolly deny it as is expected of a female ...
Just don't fall for such scam ...

A woman who can cheat on you....
Get pregnant for another man...
Decieve you and pin it on your head...
And she does so for years...
That woman can kill you ...

Thus when she is caught in her deception, she should be treated the same way surgeons treat a tumor ...

Oga woke up one morning after doing a DNA test and found out that the 6 children he has been taking care of for the past 20 years belongs to his neighbor ...

And that is the same neighbor that will be hailing him early in the morning, shouting "boss, boss!!! I like the way you are training our children o, na mam you be, e no easy" ...

OP...
Women wey love you no go cheat on you ...
Know this and have peace ...

If you catch her cheating on you, KICK HER OUTTA YOUR LIFE IMMEDIATELY!!!! ...
Don't be moved by those fake tears ....
((Because the tears go surely fall))

The only reason why she will cry is because she was caught...
If she wasn't, she'd still be f.u.cking another dude and pinning the child on your head ...

So please have sense ...

Heheheheheheheh

This question tie wrapper and gele o ...

OP...
Do you think men are happy literally falling in kloop when they should be s-lo-wl-y gliding in? ...

It's just that women of these days are super loosed so much so that the "best" one can find easily has 3 - 5 body count ...

And so men have got to settle ..

To answer your question...
If there are 10 of the same flower in the world and you happen to have one of it, is it a thing of pride or not? ...

Nonywendy:
my friend stop talking like a simp. U did traditional marriage in her hometown or house, u ought to do wedding anywhere u chooses not someone dictating for u. This is even a red flag sef

So not caring where my wedding is done makes me a "simp" according to you ba? ...

Okayyyyyy Mr redpiller/Alpha ...
Since you said I should choose and not allow someone choose for me ...

I choose to do the wedding at her church ...

Oya kee yasef ...

chymeze:
Okay I now understand. For her to make this statement means she ultimately may not love you because I can't understand how choice of wedding venue should stop her from marrying someone who she should love beyond church venue

Maybe ...
Or maybe it's important to her and she expects the guy to "understand" ...

Either ways...
My wahala here is the ultimatum...

If she can issue me an ultimatum on a matter as trivial as this, then how much more on more important matters such as which state/country to relocate to or how many kids to have etc...

Abeg o...
There are ways more diplomatic ways to go about this thing, not all this crap she's saying ...

@bolded
You can't figure women out with logic sir ...
So you wouldn't understand why she was acting that way...

The best way to relate with a woman is to relate with her as you would a stubborn child ...

Do people still chase girls after two days? ...

Your best bet now is to go to the nearest police station, get the number of 2 or 3 person's and put it on your speed dial in case of emergency ...

Omorr....
This thing shouldn't be an issue na ...

Anywhere that the family agrees to marry, I'm game, no big deal ...

However the ultimatum part on the side of the female is where I have a problem ...

"If we don't do the wedding in my church I can't marry you", what sort of talk is this?? No single room for a negotiation ...

I believe that we should seat down and discuss matters... We should both agree to disagree and re-agree ...

And any one that gives me this sort of ultimatum "my way or the high way" is a goner ...

The average Nigerian doesn't understand all what was typed here ...

What he understands is that...
Under PDP a bag was rice was 8k - 10k and under APC a bag of rice is 30k+ ...

Can you boldly tell the average man that APC did well? ...

MyVILLAGEpeople:
Why do you ladies jealous yourselves so much

You dey mind them ....

Which woman doesn't dream to marry a man as rich as Ned? ...

We are solidly behind you ASUU ...

Even if na 2years strike, we agree as long as our universities become better ...

Wuna well so? ...
Wuna know wetin be war? ...

See children wey never suck mama breast finish dey shout war upandan ...

One say "Yoruba are ready" ...
The other one say "igbos are set" ....

People wey nobody Sabi even for community gathering, dey talk like representative of a whole tribe ...

Even age grade sef no recognize wuna, wuna dey shout war ...

Abeg getat ...

Those politicians that you're here hating each other for, are sitting in their mansions having a drink and laughing with each other...

But wuna dey here dey kee wuna sef for people wey no send you ...

Abi do you think that Obi and Tinubu are fighting each other right now? Or you think Atiku and Tinubu are exchanging words like y'all are doing?

Mtttwwwwwww...

Stay there and allow them use your heads ...

Only a f.ool will underestimate his opponents ....

What made you want to kill yourself in SS1?

There's no benefit of marrying a virgin sir, so kindly visit the nearest o.losho joint and get yourself an o.losho sir ...

May i advice that you pick the most popular o.losho there, if she's well known, then it must be because of her "character" ...

And as you well already know...
Only weak men want an inexperienced girl aka virgin, but as a "real man" that you are, I'm sure you can handle an experienced woman aka o.losho ...

Just ask God for a sign and act accordingly ...

Foolishbuhari:
You obviously have something against the man but I must tell you, you are not being objective.

No sir....
You're the one who isn't being objective here...

If he knows something that could in ANY WAY help the investigation, then he should speak out...

People lost their lives here sir!!!!!!

And hope you know that withholding valuable information from the police is an offense in itself??

No one is saying he should come online and mention names, that could be misinterpreted as slander and defamation of character...

But not telling the COPS what you know is not entirely fair to those whose lives were lost in my opinion...

Ineedhustle247

You made very interesting points...
But lemme ask a question...

Since you say that we should cut this police officer some slack on account of him grieving, can't we cut the Apostle some slack too on account of shock??

I mean...
You can't face a life and death situation with you and family, survive it and not feel shock right?

So can't we apply the same thing here for the Apostle?? ...

In as much as I hate ultimatums, I TOTALLY agree with your wife on this...

Go for family planning sir...
Unless you intend to have another child ...


But before you do so, use this opportunity to negotiate a fair term sir ...

Tell her that, if you go for family planning just as she suggested, she must agree to n.acking whenever you want it ...

Chei!!!
Sense wee nor kee me ...

general111:
look at this man oh

My chief ...
See eh...

You don't advice people like this, you allow experience to teach them ...

Porn addiction and masturbation that has ruined a lot of lives and is still doing so...

Something that lots of people are praying to get out of...

Something that people even go to churches for deliverance...

Na him this one dey find school to go to develop interest ...

@OP sir...
Please go ahead and develop interest ...

Infact sef...

Go a step further and develop REAL PASSION for it, it will help you to become a "real man" sir ...

ZIMDRILL:
Even if they had not had sec for a while is that reason he had to rape or force his wife ?

1. Both hubby and wife should have talked over why there is no sex in the house and resolve the issue or understand their difference

Yes women use sex a tool to communicate, through denying or giving it

2. The woman should have mentioned her own reason or undestanding why their is no sex in the house

3. The point is you dont commit a crime to get what you want

1. Most women don't know how to properly communicate and the fact that women (in general) think that s.ex is a tool of communication is proof of that ...

And trying to reason with the average woman is equivalent to trying to reason with a child, it's futile!! ...

Women will throw tantrums like children just to get your attention or if they are offended or for whatever other million reasons why they do so and that's just stu.pid ...

2. Yes, she should've...
But like many women out there, she feels that acting all childish and throwing tantrums is the best way to communicate...

But what lots of women fail to understand is that, acting like a child and throwing tantrums is not only a stu.pid thing to do, it is IMMATURE and it will also open you to misinterpretation and cause further confusion...

None of which will resolve the matter on ground ...

So if your speculations are correct, then I can assume that her failure or inability to communicate PROPERLY is what lead to the issue on ground ...

3. What "crime" did the man commit under the Nigerian constitution?? ...

TooMuchJuice:
That's definitely rape, as you didn't consent. That you're married doesn't mean he has the right to force you. Whether you report him or not should depend on whether you want to continue the marriage or not.

If yes, the rest of your marriage will probably be a miserable one thereafter.

If no, go ahead and report him to the police.

This link will help your ignorance on legal matters as regards the subject of rape in Nigeria ...

https://www.thecable.ng/marital-spousal-rape-what-the-law-says-about-it/amp

According to Nigerian constitution, a man cannot be said to have raped the woman he is legally married to ...

So even if she goes to report him, they'll keep him there for 72days at best (just to extort cash from him under the guise of bail) and they'll let him go ...

But that marriage is OVER once he's out of there ...

@CeeJeckydivah
You haven't told us exactly why you and your husband haven't had sex "for a while" ...

And fact is that you don't feel "raped"...
You just feel "used", thats all...

If Oga had stayed back to cuddle you, I'm willing to bet that the thoughts of "reporting him to the police" wouldn't even cross your mind ...

Abikoko9:
Someone should school me, I'm really losing interest in porn videos because of this statement

Please go ahead sir ...
Porn is very good for you sir ...
Everything you see there is very real ...

And not only is it real, it is quite educative ...

Some of the things you can learn with porn are...

You learn wonderful styles to try with your spouse ...

You learn to nitty gritty of how to please a woman on bed ...

You learn how to n.ack like a "real man" ...

Seeing how "beneficial" watching porn is, you would lose out if you lose interest sir ...

So please sir, activate back your interest for porn ....

It will help you sir ...

Don't allow what people like general111 say to stop you from learning things that every "real man" should know ....

Islandlady:
.
All this epistle just to justify two gullible people fooling each other in the name of marriage!

Allow them to deceive themselves in peace na ...

And since you think those two getting married are gullible, why bother to attend the wedding? ...

Can't you turn down an invitation to watch "two gullible people fooling themselves"? ...

Are you that jobless as to grace an occasion of gullible people? ...

Orrrrrrrrr maybe...
You Sha low-key wish it was you getting married .... And so you go there and disgrace yourself by laughing out so loud like an in.sane fellow (no offense) just to gain some cheap attention and shift the spotlight away from those "two gullible people" ...

You laugh so loud in a way that screams "notice me o, I am here" .... Tis well with you ma'am .... The Lord is your strength ....

Realmi:
So being hairy now is a bad thing, because I dont understand why u all are behaving like retards

Many men have hairy stomach, and it is presumed to be normal while that of a woman is irritating abi.....

Dose been hairy apply to a particular gender.....make u na dey try reason small abeg

Let's follow your logic here shall we ...

Many women are jobless (aka house wives), and it is presumed to be normal while a jobless man is irritating ...

A woman crying in public is presumed to be normal, but when a man does it, he is said to be a "weakling" ...

A man carrying the family's financial burdens alone is presumed to be normal, but when a woman does it, she's "strong and independent" whilst the man is shamed ...

Madam...
Men and women are not the same and thus we're held to different standards...

What the society will consider as "okay" for a male, it would consider as irritating for a female!!

THAT THING UP THERE IS IRRITATING!!!

And besides how many men will come on social media to do that tr.ash? ...

This shouldn't be news sef ...

Ladies should understand that 9 out of 10 of the time, they will ALWAYS come second to football (especially champions league) ...

And if they are not cool with that, they shouldn't even bother dating men at all ...

It's called MENOPAUSE madam OP and it seems you've reached it ...

And all this one's you're talking are just EXCUSES ... In whatever you do, ALWAYS keep your man se.xually satisfied, e get why ...

And also I hope that the same way you expect him to "understand" and accept these excuses is the same you will "understand" and accept the excuses he will give to you when he cheats on you ba? ...

A word is enough for the wise...
If you like, stay there and be playing with your hubbys se.xual needs, time will tell ...

Dayaa:
You are so quick to put the whole blame on the woman.
You don't even know what happened.

Which part of my write up gave you the impression that I was so quick to blame the woman?? ...

And yes....
You're right, I don't know what happened ...

But lemme tell you what I do know...

A single mother comes online to cry foul, saying that her engagement with her fiance has been broken...

And yet NO WHERE did she tell us EXACTLY what happened that made her fiance to call off the engagement, and you expect me to not suspect that she's hiding something or trying to twist the narrative in her favor?? ...

The fact that she came online to drag that man without telling us the story behind the break up is in itself decietful!!

Because she's trying to garner public sympathy in her direction by hiding some information that could otherwise change the whole concept of how the public sees things if known ...

So whether or not she is to blame, I cannot say ...

But what I can say with ABSOLUTELY CERTAINTY is that only a decietful person tells half truths ....

Timatayo1:
I swear that is nigeria next president anyone can belt it with me #5m

As we no get "belt" na, sheybi we fit use USB CORD ...

Since both can be used for wiping the neck sir (no offense) ...

@ thebosstrevor1 and budaatum

Interesting and mature conversation y'all are having up there...

Full of sense and no insults ...
((Thumbs up))

In my opinion, you're both correct, I think the reason why you two aren't seeing eye to eye on the matter is because of your definition of terms ...

Come to terms with each other's definition and you both will see the sense in each other's comments...

@ Streetmovement
You made sound points there chief...

However, it's not like men don't like women spending on them, abi you think say men no like baby boy treatment ....

But the reason men feel uncomfortable when women spend on them is because they fear the aftermath of things ...

Lots of women are most likely to rub it in once there's an issue and since them no dey write am for face, it's better men tell them not to bother, to avoid hearing the remix of "after all I did for you" from your neighborhood ...

And tomorrow now this one will be somebody's wife and mother o ...

And see the females above indirectly supporting the girl by making light of the matter and shaming the man ...

One of them even said he should teach her to cook, SMH ...

And then I ask if her mother didn't teach her to cook right from childhood till now, why should another man take up that task when he can simply break up with her and find someone with proper home training? ...