Dorcmass: Dear lander am 29 am still suffering from small penis my gf have complain alot and threaten to leave me because i get small penis have do all my best even my parent also have tried their best buh the prick stil remail the same and now me and gf have plan our marriage wich is cming ealier how can i Bleep her till her satisfaction talk less of getting pregnant and lady of nowaday leave men that can't handle them tough during sex my family have nt heard anything about our up coming break up and we've choose date for our marriage please help me nairalander That daddy is to small gan ni Please any advice
Some guys have small boy there but uses it very well on their women
Get married to someone that can manage that size and not someone you can't even satisfied half way
Getting a virgin is always the best, she won't understand what the difference looks like
However the size, pregnancy will still occur because what pregnancy needs is the morphology and speed of your sperm to swim fast
Besides, find out from her, how she wants it, do it the way she wants it not the way you want it
Opeyemiextra: We know that traditionally, women are saddled with the responsibility of running and taking care of the home hence the title home makers while their male counterparts provide what is needed to run the home, hence the title, providers. These roles are taken seriously and failures by either party would be termed as irresponsibility.
But in recent times, we have seen an unprecedented shift and fluidity in these roles and how they are played. Women are now providers and sometimes even breadwinners while men have also been involved in running the home especially with child care. This has generated debates with some still holding on to the traditional role division.
To the reason for this post: So, most men, at least on this platform, complain of women only wanting them because of what they can bring to the table. If the tables are turned, as a man, would you be a househusband while your wife provides?
Any man that can't provide for his family, should willingly submit himself to be house-husband
Anything short of that will lead to trouble marriage
So, a distant relative of mine was brought from the village to come live in my house, about 17, 18 or so, ever since she came I have been noticing some things.
Some street boys who have never greeted me before have started to greet me even from far, they offer their unsolicited help, like directing traffic on the street when I’m driving out. A particular boy stares at me like he can’t wait for me to go out every morning.
When I first noticed the connection was one evening I came home a little earlier, parked outside and was rushing to get some documents, I ran into her with some neighbour’s son in my staircase standing in front of each other, later that evening after I reprimanded her, she narrated that the boy came upstairs to inform us that he had returned our wheel barrow but no one was at home and on his way out they bumped into each other in the fairly dark staircase while she was returning from the market, I knew she was lying because this a girl that wouldn’t confess to guilt even at gun point but that’s story for another day. And yea every chance she gets she also dishes out too much of my food to male visitors and serve them drinks I chilled for myself, lastly she is in the habit of wearing tight fitting clothes. I seized her trousers and shorts, in fact I don’t allow that in the house, but she will cut her long skirts into mini skirts and also cut the sides and lie about doing that.
To cut the story short, I just don’t understand what these guys see in her, I don’t know why they find her so attractive, though she may have kind of oversized backside for her age and narrow hips, but that’s rubbish, she’s just a little girl and I still have memories of her growing up like it was yesterday, I guess she is all grown now and it sickens me to imagine her doing the unimaginable in my house.
Sincerely, I don’t know what to do, wether to send her back to the villa, she can work alright, she’s very protective of my family and properties too, she tells us the latest dramas, who’s not talking to who and why, all kinds of gossips around the neighbourhood, once in my presence she even told dss officers jaw dropping lies to discharge them when they came because electricity was illegally tapped from high tension and we got petitioned against. But, in all these “good outlook” or advantages of having her, the look in her eyes is unsettling, who knows what she would be capable of tomorrow, how she commands men’s attention can bring insecurity to my home, part of me even tells me that it’s too late to send her back because she don open eyes well well or could elope with some boy if she suspects anything, I don’t know if anyone can relate but I need some suggestion, family people only!
In all you have mentioned, she us just at home doing house work and nit engagement with any trade or skills
As a fresh girl , she must attract me
I think you need to return her to her parents before she becomes pregnant
Hir former life in the village can not be compared to life in the city
My Dad is late. I used the last 3k on me to pay for our Nepa bill, unbeknownst to me that we'd be printing out our Jamb results. On the part of relations, My uncle sent us 7k last week but we used it feed and clear some debts.
My exam is on the 14th being Tuesday. [IMSU. Computer science] I only have monday to do reprinting, failure to do that; I might not be able to sit for the exam. Please help me in anyway you can. I can still pay back if you want. Please I don't want to miss this exam ma.
Send proof of the exams here let me be sure you need help
But why are you the one paying for NEPA bill and you know that you have an exam at hand
ManAdii: Dear Nlanders, I'm so much attracted to the military ladies. Please If your a military below 28 years max and ready for a relationship please hit my DM.
Go to their various cantonment they are there, make your choice and start a relationship
The last time I travelled very far distance with my Honda Accord 09 was in October, when I went for my friends wedding in Auchi.
Although the journey was smooth, the natural problem I encountered was that I later discovered that my break master was faulty, that was changed after I arrived.
To add: yes, there was a lot of checkpoints in the Benin road, despite driving a private car with some few friends, there was still a lot of roja here and there. Little tough time with the police men, but FRSC, Custom, and VIO no gimme wahala as I had all my papers and safety accessories complete.
I planned on driving to the East this new year, naturally I would have booked cheap flight ahead but I need the car around while I'm at home for a lot of running around due to some planned activities, that's why I chosed to travel with my car.
To ensure the journey go smoothly, I'm doing a lot of fixes on the car, changing front tyres, break pad, shocks and buying extra ball joints just incase
To the guys in the house who travel long distance with their ride, what else should I check out for?
From my own experience, keep lots of money because a car can develop any fault on transit
Hope you are not going home to impress anyone at home because of the car
At times, people that don't frequent home, agoube be careful on how you show yourself, you don't know who us happy for you and who is sad for your progress
Driving to the East takes about 8hrs and on that high way, you come across crazy drivers
Left for me, go on public transport and get an okada man that will take you to places if you cavt treck it
It's always good to live low life especially with thus village people
Avviala: [color=#000000] Was a side chick to my ex. After an abortion and heartbreaks, he ended it. I moved on and started dating someone else. Now he came back to apologize and all...and I went back. I feel guilty that I'm cheating on my boyfriend with the person that hurt me badly. But I love him and I don't love my boyfriend. I think my boyfriend knows I'm cheating on him. I don't know how to break up with him. I don't even know if I should break up with him and follow my ex. My ex shows me that he loves me and I feel more connected to him. My ex claims he has ended things with his girlfriend but I don't even know how true that is. Advice please.
Note : this is not my story. It's a friend. So your insults would not reach her.[/color]
The truth is that you have affection for your ex and you guys get connected easily because of the love you have for each other, so no matter the hurt, love still wins
As for your boyfriend, just let him go if he can't stay, so that you can work out your relationship with your ex
But bear in mind that there will be another abortion from him. Remember that it's your womb that you are playing with
Healthrelatedjo: Good evening family. I intend going into cooked food delivery business with my 60k savings,but after making all the necessary findings,my 60k is not enough to start the business.I also have a friend that has been disturbing me to join him in his yahoo business,but I will need to buy "tools",shld I join him or still keep saving up for the food business?
And pls if you have kitchen utensils that you no longer need and want to give out,kindly reach out to me. Thanks.
If you join Yahoo, you dribble people and obtain money from them and receive curses that will keep following you
If you save more, your savings will grow and you will use it to open legitimate business, and God's blessings will continue to follow you.. Choose wisely
dreside: I would brief the whole story as short as possible... There was this girl we use to date but broke on so on my birthday is make celebrating with me and we had sex. Which she left the following day. I realise she was pregnant after about 3 months though she didn't come straight to me. Meaning she claimed the pregnacy to another guy. Fast forward she gave birth to a boy june this year and i got to see the picture of the child after about few days. The child look so much like me and I demanded I see the child which she refused and I demanded to carry out a DNA test. After about a month she later agreed saying she felt the child was mine after she gave birth cos the child look so much. I was the one who figured out where to carry out the test, I paid for it due we were asked to come around 10am. We didn't carry out the test until 5pm in the evening. I went for peace of mind which cost 125,000naira at a centre in Lagos. The result came out and it stated negative. The child's DNA and mine does not match. Everyone were waiting for the result including the girls parent. Everyone have accepted the result except me. The girls family also claimed the child look so much like me but since it was me who called out the DNA then they have accepted the result. I was shocked and am still in shock. The boy is 6 months now and still looking so much like me cos i saw the child recently. Everybody I showed the pictures of the child could see the resemblance. I don't know which to trust,should I go with the result of the DNA or should I still feel something went wrong cos of the resemblance. Am confused. I just wanted to sort out issues about the child before he calls someone else daddy.. The dna test i did has caused so much issues
Do another test to reconfirm and do it else where if it still comes out negative, probably she has already taken in before you you to it with your strong gene
Besides she can still tell you the truth only if you will believe her
Johndagr8t: Good evening guys, I will be straight to the point, I noticed since I was 18yrs my nose have being growing abnormally, like am just tire of it. Everybody we bodyshame me on street, class and even on Medias so, have been wondering if there is anybody who also have this drastical growth in any part of your body. please I need advice coz today alone 5 people don abuse me on this nose matter
You expanded the muscles of your nose to look bigger and you are here telling lies to nature
Pls pardon my poor writing. Sorry to disturb your peace.
I just heard that we won't be writing Post UTME again, instead it'd be faculty exams which will commence on the 14th of this month.
Unfortunately, my department is among the first set to write on that very day(computer science) and I still don't have 2k to print out my original Jamb result and Post UTME reprinting as per the requirements. I don't know what to do at the moment.
I have being thinking since I got the news(not like it'd solve anything, but I still can't wrap my head around the fact that exam is around the corner and I still don't have 1 kobo on me.) To say I am not happy with myself would be an understatement.
Not to bore you with stories nor beg for support, I just want to ask if I'd be allowed inside the exam hall without the printout? Can I make it? I don't want to be caught unaware.
Please don't read and ignore, your comments are needed. Thanks.
As in no body can give you 2k, including your parents or relations
If so , then you have not been showing respect to them all
Foreverdope: A Nigerian lady has shared a heartbreak story in a subtle and not so detailed video which is making rounds online
She decided to travel to the state where her boyfriend resides in order to surprise him.
In the video she shared on TikTok, the lady showed herself at the airport set to board a flight to go meet him
According to her, she was nervous because it was the first time she would be trying to pay him a surprise visit
Her concerns became valid, because it ended in premium tears upon getting to his place
Although she did not reveal if he broke up with her or if she caught him with another girl, but the concluding part of the video shows her crying after leaving his place
Michaelbjune: is it right to marry a Lady or a woman that is 2 or 5 years older than me please l need your advice thank you
Even if she is your junior and decides not to respect you, then you would have appreciated the one that is your senior in age and still accords you the respect you deserve
AllKnowing: I’m having this problem with almost every female. It’s almost one reason why considering marriage is a problem now... These women are not ready to declare their finances.
I hate asking any woman for money. So this isn’t a case of knowing her finances to ask for loans or something.
However, I love openness in a partner. Declare any and everything as I would. Conflicts in relationships start from secrecy.
Guys, what’s your take?
If you want to be happy, just ignore that part from women
If you are lucky to have one that supports you at home, count yourself Lucky
WillyWonda1: Right now I don’t even know what to think anymore.
My girlfriend of 2 years just got back from Ukraine after her master’s degree program and since then, she’s been frequently coming to stay with me since I’ve been on land and working from my office.
Last week, I was billed to go to our Portharcourt office because our vessel berthed there. So immediately I got the mail, I decided to quickly dash home, pick a few things I’d be needing and then move. So it happened that the electric current in the neighborhood was relatively low and couldn’t pump water and my generator isn’t in good shape. So she made arrangements for a generating set to pump water( she told me over the phone).
When I got home, I decided to park outside the gate since I was moving almost immediately. On entering the gate, I saw her and a certain boy carrying the generator to return cos the tank was already filled (she said she called the guy to help with the gen. They know each other before she traveled out).
So I just greeted them casually and they put the gem in my car and went to return it. So I decided to have a quick bath before embarking on my journey. To my greatest surprise, I saw a used condom wrapper in the bathroom. At that point, my whole body system changed and I couldn’t even bathe again. I just wore my clothes, and waited for her to return with my car so I could move. Not long after, she came back and I just told her to call me and explain what’s in the bathroom then I zoomed off. She claims she doesn’t know anything about the condom, then later told me it was the guy that came with his girlfriend.
I’ve not picked her calls since then cos I don’t even know what to think anymore. Please I need advice guys. I’ve not been home since last week cos I’m so disappointed in her. A part of me wants to forgive her, but I’m being skeptical.
Guys please advise me cos I can’t trust her anymore. I’m devastated right now. I can’t even work well.
You don't need to avoid her calls when you come back home, seat her down to explain what brought a used condom in your apartment
If she says a guy came with the girl friend and they used themselves in your house put a call through the person with her phone, put it on speaker and ask him what brought a used condom to your house whatever his explanations, do t ever accept it, because your house is not a hotel that he should bring in a woman there and the worst is your wife inviting a guy that came along with a woman is just a slap on you
Secondly, I suspect she and the guy did the act and its time you let her know that for the fact that you saw a used condom in your house, you are not happy about it, you want her to leave your house and you need a break
There after stop picking her calls just ignore her for life if you can
That condom you saw that is not used by you, you already know those that used it because they are the ones you met at home
Gaggii: I must confess, the only challenge in my marriage is sex, I was not a masturbator as a bachelor because I have girls around me, if one no come another go show, but as a married man have turned a chronic masturbator because my wife is always complaining that she is tired.
I would gotten a side chick, but I had a second thought because the consequence will affect my home financially.
Am just so fed up.
If you are married and in same shoe, how have you being coping
Always make sure she doesn't over due things, women are very strong and resilient but when they are tired, you can't get them to submit to sex Sex requires energy
Stephen2324: Husband closes work 4pm, wife closes 7pm, who should prepare dinner?
Once their is unity and love, they will cook and store in the fridge and anyone that comes home first will cook or warm the food and even attend to the children
cyborg44: Most siblings drift apart in communication to one another and love as they grow up.The love they have as kids almost has evaporated when they become adults. Some people have friends that are closer than their blood siblings. We have seen and heard stories of how siblings have committed abominable acts against their siblings. So in your own opinion what do you think is the cause of why siblings of same parents drift apart? cc RoyalRoy
I am a victim of this and the only issue there is envy
When I saw that envy, I decided not to confront anyone of them and it went on for five years
When they were tired, one of them called me to apologize for keeping malice with me uptil now, he said, doesn't even know why he joined the rest of them
I asked him just one question, what brought about that stupid behavior? , he said "you are the only one progressing"
The rest called and asked for forgiveness, now we are all friends and sibblings sharing things together
sthar: My husband and I have not had the best relationship. The past two years has been really tough for us, we've had to struggle to make this marriage work. Although we have two kids, My husband talks down on me all the time.
He calls me an ordinary female, a useless creation and believes he owns me. He believes women should not have a freewill and are properties to their husbands. He calls himself my Alpha and omega. I sometimes wish he would hit Me rather than say all sorts to me. Last week he started as usual. He called me names and Went on to talk about how he would teach me a lesson someday. I really don't know what came over me. I slapped him.
I s.wear it wasn't intentional, I didn't mean to hit him. I thought he would hit me back but he did not. It's been a whole week and he acts like nothing happened. He goes about playing with the kids , he greets me and makes sure we have food to eat too , but it is so unlike him.
My husband always reports to my parents. He tells them everything I do wrong and they always end up calling a meeting. But this time he's silent , he doesn't want sex too which Is so unlike him. I don't know what to do , I feel like he's planning to hurt me really big. I want to call my parents but everyone would blame me. How do I tell the world I slapped my husband?
I think he wants you to feel the guilt of hitting him
If he says anything, you can turn it to another thing so for him keeping silent, will really make you uncomfortable
I will suggest you wake him up one night and kneel down to ask for his forgiveness
At that hour, he will be too weak to say no, but if he forgives you, you must humble yourself whether you like it or not
EnemyofGod22: I'm Planning To Lay Claims To My Baby Girl My Girlfriend Gave To Another Man.
Here is my true life story My name is Samuel, from Benue state, Idoma language.
Last year November 2020 I met this girl from Akwa Ibom state, we both live in pH, before I woo her, I asked her if she had a boyfriend, she said no. She told me that her boyfriend broke her heart, they are no longer together. I said okay, I love her and I want her to be my girlfriend which she said yes, she loves me too, from that day on we became friend. On 9th of November, I invited her to my house which she came, we had great time together, we had malaton sex that day, each day by day our relationship growing stronger.
Fast forward to December Christmas day, I called her to come to my house, she told me she's going to her elder sisters house to assist her prepare Christmas food, I said okay, then after Christmas on 27 December she came to my house we again had great time together. She stayed in my house for four days before she went back to her house.
One day I visited her in her house, I met her with a guy, they are almost fighting each other. Immediately she saw me she left the guy and met me. I asked her who the guy is? She told me it was that her first boyfriend, She said the guy nearly beat her because of me. She again said the guy is angry with her because of me. I said okay if she love the guy let them continue their relationship, she said no, it is me she loves and she can't continue the reletionship with him. She told me we should go to my house that night which we went to my house, one thing lead to another, we had great sex till day break.
Fast forward to January
On second week of January this year, she came to my house and told me that she missed her period. I took her to pharmacy and did some tests and the result came out she is pregnant. She asked me what is she going to do with the Pregnancy? I told her to keep the Pregnancy, but she said no she's going to abort it, then I told her if she has ever done abortion before she should not try this baby because it will going to back fire on her, she confessed said yes, she has done one abortion before, but what I told her now really entered her and she will not abort it again.
On the 3rd week of January, she came to my house and said I'm not the one responsible for her pregnancy. I was mad at her, I was thinking she was joking, but she said she is serious about it. Then I asked her who is responsible for the pregnancy? She told me that it was that her first boyfriend that is responsible for it. I asked her how is she sure it was that guy that got her pregnant? When on November, December and January we do have sex almost every day? And again I took her to one private hospital and did some normal test, the result came out she was pregnant from first week of January that day as she saw the result she said she is confused about the whole thing.
On first week of February, I was already prepared to take her to her parents for introduction and possibly pay some bride price, only for her to come to my house and insist that the boy responsible for her pregnant. One thing I discovered is that, the boy is financially stable than me, that's why she chose the boy over me and the boy's mother has hospital according to her, while my own parents are in the village.
Despite the fact she claimed I'm not the one responsible for her pregnant she is still coming to my house we do have sex, and bath together and eat together she keep telling me she loves me. I asked her if she truly love me as she said why did she carry my pregnant give another man? She said the woman always has the final said who give her pregnant.
Fast forward On MAY, that is, the pregnancy was 5months, she came to my house midnight I asked her why did she come to my house? She said she had misunderstanding with the guy and the guy is threatening to beat her, she went straight to my bed and lie down, removed all her clothes naked and said let air touch her, I told her what she is doing is not good if she knows truly the pregnant is not mine, why is she coming to my house and lie down naked? I tried as much as possible to send her away but she refused to go and kept telling me she loves me.
She asked me which baby do I like her to born? I told her, baby boy, she again asked me which name do I like to name the baby? I name him (OCHE) OCHE means King in Idoma language, every day we keep calling each other and when I called her, I always called her mama OCHE which she does called me back baba OCHE.
Some time I do send her some money to take care of herself.
To cut the long story short, she gave birth in September, but unfortunately it was a baby girl she born. The day she born, the next day she called me and informed me about the baby, which she even snapped the baby and sent it to me on Whatsapp.
Before I forget, again on last Sunday of July midnight she came to my house, I asked her why did she come to my house with 7 months Pregnancy? She said her boyfriend make her angry and with annoyance she even told him he is not responsible for the Pregnancy, the guy is mad at her. When I was about to sleep, she started making move for sex, I stopped her several times but she refused keep trying until I fell for it, we latter had sex again.
Matured men and women in the house please advise me on what to do, because I'm planning to lay claim of the baby.
Sorry for so many typo,error in the write up.
mod please push this to front page.
You can't do anything to the baby until you do a DNA
Next time once a lady tells you that the pregnancy is not yours, stop every thing you have with her
ngoziwrites: So, I met this great guy online. After 2 weeks, we met in person and everything was perfect.
It's almost 2 months since we have been together.
He asked me out while we were together and I gladly said yes. (I have met a lot of players�). So while we were together, a discussion popped up and he said he can't discuss anything related to marriage until after 6 months. I pretended not to hear.
I don't know his financial capacity but I know he is doing okay. He controls the family business. They sell trucks, trailers and all. He is also a landlord in one of his father's houses at Festac. We stayed at a hotel. 25k per night. He paid for 2 night and I paid for one night. But during these times, we went to his house.
He said he didn't want me to come to see his place because it's the first time. And he said the house is very hot too.
Our communication is great but he doesn't look like he wants marriage soon. He has said things like marriage is hard work. He has also said in 10 years time, people will hardly be getting married.
Then one night, we were talking and he said I "see my wife as my responsibility" I will take care of her and of cos, I am okay but I will still be very very rich, so I can't bring in any woman to suffer now" .. That's what I am sure I heard but I was scared to ask him to explain further or repeat himself.
He is actually okay, he has two cars but importantly, he has sense and he is very hard-working. But he is very principled and we have actually had several instances where he doesn't pick my calls at night. It happens often but I am starting to trust him, because sometimes I call by 5am and he picks and says he slept off. Sometimes we would be chatting on WhatsApp and after I call him 20 minutes later, he won't respond. He is not married!
So, I currently earn 450k monthly and I have been able to save something meaningful, so I can start a good business before getting married or after. I haven't stated because I don't know which one yet. I started a restaurant business when I was 23 but it failed.
If I ask him and he says 1 year, of course, I can wait. I will be 26 years next year April.
We will seeing for the 2nd time next week. I plan to ask him when he sees himself getting married but I am scared and the way he carries himself makes me reluctant to ask such.
About two weeks ago, I wanted to even surprise him with gifts. I asked for his account number and office/home address. (He picked me up the last time I traveled to see him, so I don't know the address". Well, he didn't give me these details. He said when it's time I will have them.
Two days ago, he said a friend's younger brother is getting married. He laughed and said people just dey marry. He has once asked me "You dey find husband?" jokingly-
I would like to settle before 27. Is it bad that I am thinking this way? If he says he is looking to get married in 2-3 years, i think it's a bit far. 2023 is still fine. But the problem is he doesn't really sound like marriage is on his mind. He will be 32 next year April too.
We vibe a lot. But he says I love you sparingly. Sometimes I say it and he doesn't respond, he will say tomorrow I will tell u or no, I told u yesterday.
But we are really really cool. I like him a lot and he likes me but I think I like him more. He gives me attention, I don't have to ask.
If I was 23, I won't have a problem waiting 3-4 years. But since I am ready mentally, financially, I am looking for someone who wants it within 6 months to 1 year. I can still try to do 2 years if I get someone great.
You are just in a hurry to marry, but I don't think it's ideal to ask him that, not even at this early stage of your relationship
Marriage is like am external exams, you must read harder because you don't know your marker and your marker doesn't know you
If you think you are really prepared for marriage and you just want it, even if the man is not yet ready, go straight and ask him that you want to get married to him
But left for me, marriage is when a man is ready not when a woman is ready, especially for our own Naija
50pseamer: I would like to share my current situation on this platform , and I will very much appreciate your mature advice on the issue.
I have been having issues with my wife after our first born, we married about 3 years ago, our first born is now about 2 years old, we have been having series of issues In the marriage, my wife argues with me a lot on flimsy issues at times, we do not have constant sex, although I started helping more in the house,I cook and and I do the laundry , and asked her to give me my share of the work, when she complained about work load,I am the only one really working now, and paying 98 percent of the bills.
I told my wife that I will like us to be eating together on the same plate to improve closeness, she refused, she sees arguement as normal discussion, sometimes we have sex once or twice in a month, I have told her I will like us all to attend the same church and pray together, but she still attends her Nigerian church online , where they are always seeing vision , and I do not like her attending that church.she also attends online services of my church with me, but I would like us to be attending one church even if it is not my church. I asked her recently that we need to be praying together for our marriage even if it is 10 minutes every day, after weeks of no response from her,I approached her yesterday and scolded her about it, she cried and I comforted her, I later asked her at night to come for the prayer,and she said she is not coming. We live abroad and my mum wants to pay us a visit, She told me the kitchen is her's and my mum should not enter the kitchen, and I told her that it will be difficult, we can pre cook all our food, But she might need to make tea and I will like her to be able to do that by her self , but my wife refused. In her church she is attending they already branded. My mother a witch. Even if my mother is a witch, we only need to pray against it, should we humiliate her when she visits us? I cannot make my wife my mother, she does not show me much love and does not show that she cares, neither does she respect me. My mum shows me love that I can feel.
Now we are living like neighbours in the same house. Do you think she is interested in the marriage or has another plan?
If really all you said is exactly the way it's happening, she is not getting it right
She is not even doing anything to protect her marriage
Let your mum come, don't tell her anything about your wife, let her see things herself, women reads and understands fellow women better and faster
So that the day your family will decide her case, no one will bail her
Just prepare your mind, it's either its working out or not
Smoothbabykong: Hi guys, I need your honest opinions about my relationship.
My girlfriend and I have been dating for quite a while but I don't know what is happening at the moment.
The problem is this, we both live in the UK. We have made plans to get married and we have plans to start up a business in Nigeria. The truth is that she kept some money with me and I used it to sort some debts out but was planning to give the money back to her when she is ready to leave for Nieria.
What really happened was that there was a certain money given to me by another to help him send down to Nigeria. Out of trust, I told another friend of mine to handle the transaction but unfortunately it all went sideways. So I had to use the money with me to sort the debt out while I recover the other from my other friend.
My girlfriend has been asking me for the money and I lied to her that it's in my account but there has been sort of a problem with it which she believed. The day she was suppose to go to Nigeria, she still asked about it and she told me if I was busy my friend (she knows the guy) can pick up the money for her because she needs to sort some things out enroute to Nigeria. I called my friend and told him to lie to her that the money is with him and I will know what to tell her till I can recover the money from him.
Later that day, she called me and was crying that I betrayed her. She told me everything that happened to her money which means my friend must have told her. She hung up. I tried calling my friend, he has blocked me. Lots of things were through my mind. Dont know what to do. She sent me a few messages and blocked me on both WhatsApp and via calls. When she got to Nigeria that same day, she unblocked me. She told me I have to pay and I said yes I will. I admitted I lied and I tried to explain to her why I lied. Its been a week. I have tried apologizing twice. She read it and ignored me. I told her send me the account she wants the payment. She didn't reply. Fortunately I have her brother's account number and sent her 70 percent of her money and I sent her the receipt too. I only managed to get that amount after selling my car off with a few gadgets and electronics in my house.
I don't know whether to just forget about her or to wait till when she is ready to talk.
She has done outrageous things in past which I have overlooked also. I have even resulted maybe she has another person with in Nigeria and I should just move on.
Thanks for your opinions
Instead of you to accept you betrayed the trust she has on you, you are deceiving yourself by saying that she has done some things in the past and you don't mind moving on probably she has another man
Just pay all the money that is involved
Then either you end the relationship from that point or you fight back the trust she has lost in you
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