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lexy2014:
u didnt answer the question:

What offence did he commit that he will go and be reconciling?

Direct the question to him he knows what transpired

lexy2014:
What offence did he commit that he will go and be reconciling?

At this his present situation, he has to forget about what is written in a vehicle and just enter the vehicle, so far he will get to his destination

Valak666:
I have no job, no friends, I have nothing. I can never make it in Africa. Fought a lot with my father cus it's abroad I want to be. I've told them I'm never going to work in Nigeria cus I hate the workplaces and the people. I'll rather be a slave to white man than be to this fvucking black yoruba demons. High hopes.

Pls change your mind and get something doing, assuming your dad is not abroad would you have been insisting on going abroad

Don't be surprise they may not approve it

Whatsapp9:
I perceive it from every lady. that's the problem I'm having right now

Go and work on your nose

Witlee1:
My gf got pregnant, I'm not an advocate of abortion so I told her to keep it so I and my live-in gf had a child (girl) outside wedlock who is 2 years old now and I took care of her and the child for 1 year and 8 months,paid the hospital bills and everything, which a single dough of the girls family didn't come to the wellbeing of the child, it was All me which the mother of the girl is aware of.

Though I dont want to marry the girl now due to the harsh economy of Nigeria but I have plans to marry her later on plus I can't just jump into marriage when I'm not yet able to cater for a family yet so I told her to keep the child with her mother till I can be able to stand on my feet and foster for us all,me and my gf still lived together without the baby and I helped her pay some fees for her school cuz I understood that for my baby to be educated the mother needs to be .

Fast forward to now, the mother of my gf doesn't want me to see my child because I don't want to marry my gf now, my gf and her mother had to even report me to human rights for me never to contact my gf any longer cuz I am threatening her which I never did... I tried contacting my gf to know what is happening, she's not picking her calls neither is the mother too and when I texted my gf she rained insults on me lol (life's so unfair)

NB: I learnt from a reliable source that the mother of my gf is the one Influencing her this way,my gf is also in her 3rd year at school
I'm so confused, please advice me on next step to take

If you really want to marry her, reconcile with her and introduce her to your family

If you know that you don't have plans for marriage, just keep calm and follow them the way they are

It will sort itself out

injuredman:
I have a friend whose wife had an inappropriate relationship with a mutual friend of us. The mutual friend is a Catholic priest, and my friend's wife only communicate with this priest when my guy is not home. She deletes most of her WhatsApp chats with this priest. The husband have confronted both his wife and our friend (the priest). The priest has gone incommunicado with the my friend, and even me. My friend's wife has not seen anything wrong with what she did. She only tells the husband that whatever she did wrong, that she has confessed to God. There are so many clues to show that something went wrong between these 2.
My question is, does she owe the husband any apology or confession?
Or generally put, should a spouse infidelity be left for God or the erring partner should confess for proper healing to take place?

There must be a reason for her actions

Once a woman doesn't get satisfied with her man, there is tendencies of misbehaving

Pjoko:
This is surprising to me, I caught my girlfriend Using Lubricant. At first I noticed it and asked her to lay down straight, she refused, I insisted until and I found out there She applied lubricant when she went to the kitchen to drink water as she had asked me to hold on, while she drinks water from the kitchen.

This girl is 20yrs old. My people how can I girl of that age use lubricant? I asked her why she uses it, she said:

Because some times she could be dry and I asked why she was hiding it from me?

I asked her, Why would you be dry even when I romance you at your age?

I asked her don't you truly love me?

Are you in love with someone else?

This girl I am talking about, I love her so much and I have provided everything she wants to keep her comfortable.

I think she is not in love with me?
Maybe because she is a little taller than me? Maybe because she loves someone else?
Maybe because my lifestyle isn't cool to her?

But a lot of times I have got her unaware and we made love, I never noticed any dryness, at nights I have woke her up and we made love, I never noticed any dryness.

Does it means she applies this within the day and before she goes to bed? Please someone help me.

Probably she gets dry there and have to apply lubricant

Seat her down to tell you more so that you will know how to how to help her

Peterobiisathie:
Sorry nnkiru
Let your people who claims that Lagos is no man's land come and build another one for you

This your behaviour will not take you to any where good things are

TarOrfeeek:
All the money for there no reach 5 million.

But this is Social Media, make we dey bobo ourselves.

Your thinking is what has made you to be moving backwards and irrelevant to others

Exkandayee:
I'm not rushing, just wanna start something doing,I got deported and that's the only money I have remaining now,

It depends on your area ie location
If you are leaving where people are over populated, sell provisions and food stuff. But you have to be strict

If you are leaving in a new site, you can start dealing on cements

Wayne1994:
Last month, everyone thought my wife was pregnant because she started showing signs of been pregnant. She urinated frequently, became a little bit fat, breasts became a little big too.
I thought she was pregnant until she said she is doing her monthly stuff, so I was surprised that if u are not pregnant, then y all dis changes in ur body.
I need explanation from experts here pls. Is it normal or I shud b concerned

Is normal for women to show such symptoms prior to her period

HRHQueenPhil:
Are u saying u wld be happy having Six daughters and no boy?

What if you never had at all

Raalsalghul:
Sure, but the bottom line is that he doesn't want to settle.

So unless they're content waiting or being played around, they can walk away anytime they choose to.

You cant be eating pounded yam yet you forbid yam itself

Anyone that keeps a woman at home without fulfilling the marriage rite, should blame himself

Raalsalghul:
Because they've seen that he's a well to do guy and can handle the finances.

Simple!

He can't eat his cake and have it
He loves them and they likes his money

kingsways:
It seems to me my wife loves the second child more than the others, I'm not sure why

Much more than me, it seems my wife has a talent for beating the children. She can mend any of them very well but with this one, she would just laugh sheepishly 'I ll beat you o' without ever actually beating her

She hasn't really gotten a good reason to beat that child yet

Raalsalghul:
Did you read his post at all or you want me to paraphrase again for you?

The only reason he's considering marriage is because his girlfriends are putting pressure on him not because he wants to.

If he can have three women at a time, why is he being pushed around with marriage from them

Candidlady:
My mum is my sister, she is my aunt, she is my gramz, she my bestfriend, my boyfriend


¤take a gold! drop a mum!? Fvck gold! <<masta ace>>

itell her 'ertin bout me¤except....¤

the problem now is this woman wants me to create an account for her on NL.

~ijust confuse~

Where is the problem here

Raalsalghul:
You don't tell a man what to do with his money.

If he has 20 girlfriends and decide it's not time to settle, I don't see how it is anybody's business.

Is because he needs advice that's why he brought it to this forum

If he is thinking the way you are reasoning, he won't be looking for advice

As for you, deal with yours the way that suits you

SegZ24:
Evening nairalanders,
I need your advice on this particular issue. I'm planning on getting married next year, but the issue I have at this junction is the registry aspect..

Is it a must I make use of the ikoyi registry in lagos ( because some of the advice I got is that ikoyi registry is better and much more recognized if I plan on traveling out of the country as a married man)

OR

Should I use that of my state where I'm based even if I eventually plan on traveling out??

Please I need your advice..

Modified: I'm based in Ondo state.

Where you did your registry in not a major requirements for Visas

Providing all the necessary documents that you are expected to submit at the embassy is the main issue

tim1256:
A friend who sees me as a man that can be trusted on family issues has a problem, but I think the answer I gave her seems not good enough.


My friend, a female has #9 m savings this year, her husband who pays for everything in the house to her airtime sometimes has # 1.3 m savings, they are to pay house rent of #1. 2 m this month, knowing fully well that Christmas is by the corner, their child's school fees is by January, the husband's business is not as it used to be, my friend insisted that it's her husband's responsibility to provide shelter for her, that "his money is our money, my money is my money".

What other advice can I give, as I already told her to tell her husband that they should go and buy #10m house, and she asked me that with whose money?

Please urgent advise is needed, an she might be loosing her home at the end of this month.

Mods, kindly help push this to front page

She is not scared of loosing her home, do don't worry about that aspect

Advice her to buy a land in her name or buy a house in her name, since she is being selfish about who's money should be used for family projects

If she looses her home, she is capable of taking care of hers as a single mother

Raalsalghul:
Any time people see a man with small change, they'll start forcing him to get married: not how to multiply his income, get a side hustle or an investment.

Backward thinking.!

Your mind set is not a good one about forcing a man to marry

Any man that can have up to three girl friends should be capable of keeping one at home and that means marriage

@ Op just leave this family, they already know that they are nuisance to the society

If you can't afford to be giving them a percentage of your small salary pls leave them alone

By this time next year, they will birth another child and so it keeps going

You can't solve their problems neither can any society do it

mascot345:
Please I just clocked 35 years two days ago.
I have money to get married but I wan build small estate before marriage.

I wan marry at 40 .

Please I need good advice here. As our economy is too bad. I don't want to bring children that will come and suffer.
People are seriously advicing me to marry next year.
I already have land in a good location.

But some of my girlfriends are encouraging me to marry them before building anything.

My girlfriend said we can hustle together and build a better tomorrow.

I have like 3 girls who are willing to say yes next year.

Please good advise is welcomed.
Thanks everyone.

The issue is that you are not really ready and interested in settling down

What are you doing with three matured women in your life at this stage

Anyway your investment shouldn't stop you from getting married that's if you are interested in marriage now

If you insist on waiting till 40yrs of age, then you will still be paying school fees at retirement age

Useku:
Wake up!

Nobody cares about your family traditions.

The constitution overrides all family rubbish.

Owerri my foot,una Neva jam

Sort yourself

DamnnNiggarr:
lalasticlala, please help a brother and other men who are shy and ashame to speak up, who are out there dying slowly in depression

If you mastubate to keep yourself, then it could be the main reason

Stress can affect anything and can trigger anything in our life

GFICECOLD:
My girlfriend and I we've been dating for years now, but what I just want to talk about is this.
My girl said she's want to buy hair and the amount is 55k I said okay but later on she said its bone straight I said I don't have money for that I'll send her the 55k if she wants to add to it to get her bone straight no wahala which was 65k.

Okay now she was not feeling fine she used about 18k at the hospital to buy drugs and other stuff,but I didn't get paid on Friday so I used my own fees money because I'm rounding up my project, I wanted to pay 200k into my school account then sent her 40k to get the hair but that night she sent the money back saying she don't need it anymore and I was like why are you behaving like this,she said she does not know what to do with the money,then after much talking telling me that she does not have money in her account and she tool from her mom account this that, I said okay fine I'll send you 55k but this one one don't have money why not use the 55k for yourself at least na hair not that your ugly I'll still try getting you hair don't worry but your health comes first, she said no she don't need my money it's not by force that she have survived without my money.

I told her it's not about my money but just use it to take care of yourself I know its little she said no almost turn fight, guys please m I at fault here or is there something I didn't say right ,please girls too I need your response on this please.

Thank you.

Why are you concerned about the rejection of your has earn money from a woman whom you have not put a ring on

That same money she rejected would have been more useful to you

Kolasola:
I can’t find else where to turn to as I’m loosing my mind currently
I live in a flat apartment with my wife (conceived) and brother( younger) ... but of recent it’s been one fight or the other in my so called union .. the matter is always escalating due to my younger sibling (guy) interferences, I am quite busy and wife due to her condition has stopped working so she is always at home with my brother ( he’s yet to gain admission)
Guess this made me the stranger .. yesterday a misunderstanding broke out (between wife and I) and while trying to solve it ... the younger brother came in again and matter worse started cursing me with my wife support ... Now I am just confused as every one has been advising I let her deliver before I take any action ... can I even wait till then
Has anyone been in my issue and how is this best handled

How can you be a stranger in your house

How could you all your junior brother to be cursing you and your wife joined him

Are you that weak.

Send your brother home for the time being

As for your wife, put your eyes down to understand exactly what is wrong with her

Casterboy:
There's this Odour that booms out whenever my brother's wife passes me, I've been keeping it secret, but I can't take it anymore. My brother and his wife came to my place to visit me, they've stayed for two weeks.
My only problem is this strange Odour that comes out from his wife's body. Should i let my brother know about it or should i mind my business. Nairalanders should advice me, matured mind only.

Get a roll on for her and tell her you will like her to continue using it both day and night

She will get the message

Gsmiles26:
I am currently in a relationship that is a little above four years now and as a matter of fact i love my girl so much cos she has the perfect ass size, physique and all the physical features that I need in a woman but the problem is she can never initiate pre-intimacy or romance if I don't. She told me she prefers a man to just touch her to release than having sex, she can't kiss, even if she allows sex she can't properly participate, and all these is giving me serious concern especially because I intend to marry her but sometimes when I think of all these I become afraid that is this what I will have to endure. Please I need your candid opinion to draw out a decision for my happiness

You need to seat her down and tell her to explain to you, how exactly and which ways she will prefer you to handle her during sex

What methods is her favourite and what is expected of you

Now, the main issue here is that, she is the type that doesn't get orgasm easily, so she requires patience from a man to take her close to where she will take over

The second issue is, are you ready to take her through fore play and be patient with her

ebukajay184:
'I Choose Him' - Woman Battered By Her Fiancé Announces She's Going To Marry Him (Photos)

A woman who was battered beyond recognition by her fiancé has announced that she's staying with him and intends to go ahead with their wedding, IgbereTV reports.

Amiracle Unique took to Facebook on September 27, 2021, to share a photo of herself in a hospital. She was battered beyond recognition, had a red swollen eye, broken lips, and bruises on her face in the photo.

She said she was beaten by her man and she did nothing to warrant the beating, except that she tried to enjoy herself.

Now, less than two months after the incident, she's back with him, not minding warnings from people telling her she's making a mistake.

She announced that she's going ahead to marry him come September 2022.

To the members of the public warning her not to, she told them that they are not in a position to judge her man since no one is perfect.

She added that her man may not be perfect but he's trying and that's enough for her.

"I choose him to go through this thing we call life and I will over and over again... because when you love someone, you choose them over any and everyone... & when the world is against your significant other, its your job to hold them up," she wrote.

She added: "Baby we got this. It's always been US, never them."

Her full post read;


https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=4448499065198634&id=100001157547340

https://igberetvnews.com/1407154/choose-woman-battered-fiance-announces-shes-going-marry-photos/

She has lost all hope and sees him as all she got
So, she is ready to die there