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AutoChick4U:
Wow, it ain't easy at all, it weakens my very soul that all I've worked for have really gone and no way of making ends meet for now.

Do I regret bringing another being into this world? Perhaps I do when I'm down and emotionally at my lowest but I've learnt to be strong atleast for my kid. Unfortunately finding a love interest to serve as that emotional anchor ain't even easy in our society, once you tell them, faim! Its all over.

I'm probably feeling depressed but I still hope on loving and being loved. Hoping on God wiping away my silent tears, hoping on a shoulder to lean on and a listening ear. I sooo need someone to talk to.

Please no one should come and act all holy and try to judge me o

You are already a strong woman, keep the zeal and the flame burning

Find time to treat yourself the way you want another person to do that for you

Your kid is a source of joy and a precious gift from God so appreciate God and love that child

Look for men who are matured and experienced so that they won't tamper with your emotions

Be humble and respectful, and be accommodating, they will come and stay with you

There is time for everything, if you believe God

czarr:
Which is better.... I am thinking of buying a car this year, but with all this car theft issues, fuel price increase, and police issues( them go label me yahoo boy) is it better to just use uber for my transport, at least uber is still classy.

For how long will you be using Uber

Buy an average car, it doesn't have to be flashy

pelusi:
Since my Partner started her recent job, everything concerning our sexual and material life has reduced drastically. By 5am she has started preparing and left house at most 6am and back to house between 9pm to 10pm because of traffic and once she entered house and managed and took her bath and eat,the next thing is to the bed and slept off so tired and exhausted. The next thing is waking up and start preparing for work again. No more time for discussion let alone to make love as she don't even know when I am touching her or initiating sex let alone to respond to it. I will wake her up over and over and roll her here and there to initiate action, ...for where, no response.She don't even feel sex again unless before she started the job,it was always a good fun. Infact this time around things has fallen apart

The work entails Monday to Saturday. Even on Sunday she hardly go to church service as she will still be on the bed till even those that went to service came back and before you know it,preparation in readiness for work for the new week(Monday) has started

No more time for love making and discussing important matter as couple thereby making "konji" to be disturbing me signalling a temptation to start looking for outside.

What should I do. Should I stop her the work.Please advise.

Her routine is a normal Lagos routines

But my concern is how she will be able to carry pregnancy

If the pay doesn't worth it, let her resign

At times it's not about the money but about good health

MufasaLion:
Nope but you should know that's showbiz. Everyone's got a brand/signature.

Is alright

MufasaLion:
The names doesn't mean anything. Yes, drugs and gangs do fvck them up.

Will you name yourself, problem child ?

Happinessjosh:
What type of house can it build?

Is it advisable to go for it?

Edited

There is land available

In a small town in Delta

The soil is strong.

If its a bungalow of 3 bedroom That amount will build and roof then you do the rest step by step

But you have to be buying the materials yourself and be at the site to monitor things

BadNews:
https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.mirror.co.uk/3am/celebrity-news/breaking-r5-homixide-dead-rappers-24828161.amp

Look at the silly and dirty names they are bearing, homicide, problem child

Once they can't stay away from drugs, let them abstain and isolate themselves in six feet

[quote author= post=105140035]https://www.lindaikejisblog.com/2021/8/father-of-two-allegedly-steals-car-repaints-it-within-8-hours-in-kwara-2.html[/quote]For painting a car that have not gone through any body work is suspecious already

GenesisForum:
https://pmnewsnigeria.com/2021/08/24/breaking-major-datong-abducted-by-bandits-at-nda-killed/

What an error
How could an unknown gun men goes into the Lion's mouth to remove teeth

UDOKABESTLUV:
A Nigerian lady has taken to Facebook to share photos of the dirty house of a Benin 'big boy' she visited over the weekend, Reports.

Merita Uju who shared the pictures wrote:



https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=4472988089434078&id=100001687931511

I see no reason why she can't calm down and clean that kitchen
Little things from ladies can impress a man

Lostchild:
Imalmal1
Kindly accept my apology as I was harden and uneasy with you previously.

The question you previously asked me is not a bad question but a nice one, although I didn't answer you the way I should.

In answer to your question, I will tell you that, most of my unhappiness come from two ways, (1) what I have lost (2) what I currently endure. I think about everything I have lost and the type of life I was suppose to be living, this is my major pain and grief. I don't have sad countenance but I am always in a quiet mood and constantly in meditation.

As a person who is full of life experience with so much betrayal, you just don't easily allow people into your life. I observe the attitude of people around me and will instantly acurately know who they are, base from my past. I can relate with a person but not on daily basis.

The problems comes when women in particular wants me to give them myself in friendship or as a chat buddy's, this is what I can not give them because I have been there before and done with that because it doesn't always end well for me. If I allow you to be my friend, you will become part of my soul and I will love you with all my heart and soul, This is what I can't give to just about anyone.

The devils may have brought me down to leave around them, that doesn't mean I should operate in their level. I constantly feel down and tired when I constantly experience my past circles of event in my present.

I will will create few thread and move on. I am expossing and and droping down my past troubles on nairaland because it makes me feel more weightless and free the more I share.

I can open some of the most finest thread and have the most intellectual conversation, but that is not why I created this account. I am not here to teach but to share my life as a totally different person who love being totally different.

Just imagine, you suffered many heartbreak, betrayal and abused, someone new comes into your life. He wanted you to love him by all means and you are still trying to heal from your past injuries.

Frozen70 and Imalmal1, I hope you get me?

Apology accepted

It's time for you to use your past suffering and experience to better your future
It's good to help people but helping people without building yourself is like

A situation where you used concrete to build a bridge for people's comfort to walk

And use mud sand to build your own bridge

Of course, yours will collapse and it will collapse when your weight rests on it while walking

Plan for your future so that your future will plan how to sustain you when you are weak

prettypraise:
I hear from God through His word, and I personally hear from God through dreams, through planted thoughts, through witness in my spirit... God has shown me a lot through dreams, and my obedience has saved me much, while my insensitivity cost me a lot.
How do you hear from God?

I hear from God through a very faint voice that speaks to me when I am in a dilemma

JONSYN7154:
my dear, these ladies their husbands are rich and young. They lack nothing.

That's why it baffles everybody what pushes them into it.

Chai, probably they want to do what their men does, changing tastes

When people come online to beg for rent, I see them as lazy people

Why live in an apartment you can't afford to pay without being a liability to others

greenie77:
They are "balancing" the equation!

Exactly

chiommy123:
I think its because their husband's rub it on their faces. Like he goes out behaves anyhow and you try to complain, he shuts you up. What other option do you have than to balance the equation?

That's true

JONSYN7154:
The rate at which married women cheats these days is so alarming. What's happening?

Two married women were caught cheating few days apart in the same area.

In as much as I don't support such, definitely there must be a reason for that

Probably they are not sexualy satisfied in their marriage

To me, money is not the only reason women flirts love making remains the major problem

If you are not giving it to her rightly, she will get it elsewhere

If it's money, she can work and Make the money herself but if it's sexual needs she can't help herself

Mylife89:
I’m currently undergoing my NYSC, at first I meet a lady in camp, due to relocation and long distance, the relationship didn’t work as I caught her having sex on the phone while talking with her, one night few month ago. For more context kindly read about on it under this thread

https://www.nairaland.com/6549314/doing-right-thing-not

After breaking up with the lady, I meet another lady, in my current state, Abuja, she and I really bonded and we both feel in love, she is also a corper too.

She made me happy and I felt loved again After my past experience, we were compatible in lots of ways. Everything was going so well, her ppa is in a school while mine is in an office.

After school went to long term holidays, she travelled to her hometown in Asaba, we keep communication going as we did both video calls and voice calls, but just yesterday, while we were having a video call I noticed she used her hands to cover her phone camera and in a low tune, told the girl to leave the room until she tells her to come in.

I wanted to ignore but my first instinct which is always right, took note of it, mind you the last born in their family is in ss2, while talking i noticed the small girl came back and this time she muted the call and after a few minutes unmuted it.

While I was getting worried, I hurriedly told her I will call her back, I went to begin proper investigation and where else to check if not her Facebook.

Am not a social media person, while we dated I didn’t take time to properly check her Facebook as I’m not active, but this observations made me go check things out.

Getting to her Facebook, I started looking at her pictures she posted for clues, recent pictures were not the center of attention, I Went to older pictures taken years ago, and while checking tagged images and mutual friends I found the information I was looking for and I was dumbfounded.

One of her brother posted a picture of him and a baby and wrote”Am so happy to be an uncle”. Another image I saw while digging had another image of him and he wrote”You look like your mother”

Note that the only person he tagged in this pictures was his sister who is the senior, I looked at both pictures and they looked liked my girlfriend, two pretty female kids.

My head was spinning and my heart beating I started putting all the pieces together, the signs were there and she used idoms in saying some things and her behavior around children(never smiling always shouting) and also the fact that she sends her mother money every month from her allowie were the signs I saw but stupid to understand cause of love.

I haven't broken up with her, am so confused and I need advise, this is not how I planned my love life in 2021, been thinking since yesterday.

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Seat her down and talk with her, there are things she is going to open up for you

If after all her talking, you feel you can't continue because she already has two kids

Start withdrawing gradually before both of you will get stucked into the relationship especially her

initiate:
When things are breaking apart with the wife and you know there is likely hood she will take the kids how does a man ensure he has a firm and unbreakable bond with the children so that in the long run the relationship will endure even is former spouses turn to be major adversaries.. First thought is to pamper with gifts but that seem superficial and transient,

advice needed

I think if you want to win the heart of your family as a married man,

Love your wife and the children will love you more

Create a bond between you your children and they will ever wait for you to come home before they can eat or sleep

Provide for your family needs and appreciate your wife if she happens to be the bread winner

Protect your wife as the chief security officer of your family

Try and do all these and see how she will find it difficult to think of leaving you talk more of taking the kids away

Chuky7:
Well said bro. Thanks

Ma'am pls

BadRadio:
maybe I could sms u via ur email

You done start

BadRadio:
hey frozen70... nice moniker

Thanks

Mrvision625:
I'm from a broken home. I know how it feels coming from a broken family.
Despite all my carefulness, I got pregnant out side wedlock. Then, my one and only boyfriend walked away after persuaded me to keep the baby.

Last year he came back begging, I looked at my son and I forgave him. We started another relationship. The truth is, several times, he keeps apologizing telling me reasons why he left, (how he felt not meeting up with some things in his life, including his family not supporting) but with all that, I can't forgive him from my hrt.

I'm battling with unforgivingness and I don't know how to solve it.
One part of me is afriad of having a broken home and another part of me is afriad of the part I'm walking now.

All his wrong deeds are always fresh in my head. Sometimes, I completely forgive him, but most times, I hate him deeply.

One part of me wants him just because of our son the other part despise him especially when he is not helping financially.
He has never been there for us financially.
He still put too much load on me.

We were about getting better financially before he came, my business was beginning to have shape and direction but now, I help him with the little I have and my business is going down.
Although, he's contributing ideals on how to make my business work. He's so humble, quite and weak. Its unlike him. All these nature he put on now, detest me.

He keep promising everything will be ok soon. How? I don't understand

Since 3days I've been indoor, feeling depress. Lonely with deep pain.
I don't know if this is the kind of life I wanted? He's planning marriage. Seeking support from families, the whole idea irritates me.

I can't feel any love inside me right now.
I'm feeling I've really failed.
I'm depressed. So lonely and very weak.


How do I survive this?

Pls, don't be too harsh on me. I'm losing it already

So sorry about your emotional trauma

But it's time for you to realise that, it doesn't realy end in marriage most times

The most important thing for you is to find your bearing just because of your child

Stop. Expecting anything from that guy because he is not even helping himself

He goes round the world and still come back to put you through depression

What's your gain ?

DenreleDave:
Why are so called Christian marriages always ending in parting ways?
The church always talk ń preach about divorce than Muslim does, yet most divorces comes from Christian homes......

Dating now last more than marriage itself....

Who is getting it wrong? Where did it go wrong?

Why are Christians marriage always the most affected?

Look at Christian nations in North America ń Europe, divorce rate is far too much...


Guys I need your contributions..




Cc: lalasticlala seun mynd44

Have you ever seen a real moslem crying over the death of a relation, no, they were taught to endure things that's why their wives endures the arrival of other wives

The Christian have flexible style and so once they can't endure the emotional pains in marriage, they seek for divorce or separation to have peace of mind

Adeesther56:
I hate sex

You hate sex because you have not been privileged to get it from some one who is ready to sacrifice the time and atmosphere to work on you

[quote author=BadRadio post=105007044][/quote]Funny you

Chuky7:
Short story my babe says she's been experiencing poor libido. no excitement to knack and I did some searching online and found that "researchers are fiercely
divided over the question of just how many
women lack libido and how best to help them"

So does that mean no way.

Some women have high Libido while some have average Libido

You need to calm her down to prepare her for sex

Prio to sex hour, make her happy, get a take away for her, even if it's ordinary sharwama that is sold for 500

Play with her and make her laugh

Touch sensitive parts of her body with out her consent

Give her a good unexpected hug and cuddling at random, it will send signals to her brain that you want to get down and her body will pick up internally which will make her start dripping down there

I bet you, she will submit herself as you have already pinned her down

Take it very gentle on her and you will know when she is living in ecstacy

Before you know it, she has gone to cloud nine and back to your arms

BadRadio:
Thing is, I really wanted to impress my new girl with some action...we got talking naughty 3 days ago, and she narrated how terrible her Ex was finding her center of gravity... she said they were feeble 2 minute boys that couldn't make a woman like her happy and that was the basic reason they are her sorry Ex's.

This girl is petite, petty and pretty wild and bold, somewhat real to tell me all of that, I guess she was looking for a worthy iron man who could excite her with some wonderful marathon of boning ecstasy. I knew I was up to the uphill task... same reason my Exes keeps cheating on their new boyfriends with me.

I giggle when she told me about that part of her sexual disappointment in men. I simply left her with a simple question " Do you really have some stamina"?
...and then we left.

Two days ago we did it...and as I speak with you I haven't CUM yet. Rewind back before we started, I met this fulani man who prepares organic mixtures with roots and stems... I explained to him what I wanted and he delivered... the concoction was quite bitter but I summoned courage... I gulped half a litre into my system before I went to work

I havent CUM since then... help

The one wey you don dey come before don do,
Go plan for yourself
Them no dey give award for Cumming

Bennysam:
Good advice

Thanks

Abetterperson:
I ask this question because have wondering why so many people refuse to share an apartment with the opposite sex, many claim that sex is unavoid

How true is this statement

Well if the man doesn't toast the woman,
The woman will flash herself to the man , especially if she likes the man and he is a bachelor

Is like keeping yam and goat in a flat despite they have their separate rooms

mamagee3:
[color=deeppink]What can cause this?[/color]

It's a normal boil but the ampit boil can be very painful because, it wouldn't allow you move your hands freely

Just buy ampiclox and finish a single sachet you will see it disappear

But if you can wait for it to ripe, then good

The moment you touch any finger, it will bring another boil

markidoo:
That was 6yrs ago oo�today that same Mum is pressurizing me to get married cos I got a good job with healthy contracts and a fat account balance ⚖️.

She remains your mum and all is for your own good