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IgweBUIKE1:
really but she can ask me for stuff while we are dating ?

IgweBUIKE1:
Sorry to bore you guys with my stories and pls ignore my typo error. .I met this lady some three years ago but plans are in motion to set the records straight regarding marriage. .the issue with her is that she does not contribute anything to the relationship and if I complain she will tell me that we are not married yet, but she will ask me for money which I don't refuse her, just yesterday I begged her to come treat me as she is a nurse ,this babe ignored me and instead took to her bed..so in my fury I said some hurtful words to her like she is not useful to me so I had to call another nurse for the treatment. .note in these three years we have never had sex ooo..she said her loyalty and respect is after marriage..so I also plan to give this same excuse to her anytime she asked me for money

Bontuxbrutus:
If someone you want to marry says this....
“If I’m too young for you I should go for someone older”
“ if I’m tired of her I should look for someone else”
“Called you a shameless man”
“And says See I will treat you the way you treat me
If you respect me I will respect you x100
Pet me i pet you too
Hurt me I will hurt you too
Insult me I will Insult
Any how you treat me that’s how I will also treat you”

This is a girl i gave capital to startup a business paid for her branding ,packaging and registration... got her iPhone 11 , laptop, spent 320k on her first birthday and 200k on her second birthday....as at two months ago I have already sent her money more than 50 times this year alone....and so many other things I have done I can’t mention.....
Two things are the red flag that once I see in a relationship I’m out... that is “insult “ and “infidelity “
The first she has done severally the second i think she is also doing....
and like this I’m done....Guess I made the right decision...

Abbey117:
There is this lady who recently joined our organization. She caught my attention but I wanted to take things slow. Later I got to know that my other colleague at work had already spoken to this lady and they had been having serious romance. I had to cut off every affections though the lady in question and I later became best friends.

Fast forward to the present day, they broke up and the babe had been trying to gather herself. I cunningly asked her if she could work things out with the guy but she bluntly said no.

The issue here now is that I've been developing serious affection for her again though during our chats before their breakup I had told her I developed feelings for her but my other colleague was faster than I in approaching her of which she said I should have told her about it.

This lady ticks every boxes I want in a woman.

Kindly advice me...

seyi360:
Yeah right , the most loving humans to be with and equally the most dangerous people on earth.
The death of several men is traceable to their wives directly or indirectly.

Rubbiish:
So what does the bold means now?
How woman should now be making decisions for op?

Rubbiish:
So what does the bold means now?
How woman should now be making decisions for op?

seyi360:
The demands of living with a woman are too numerous to count. Virtually all the functions of a wife can be improvised in today's world. Perhaps that explains why some men prefer to have kids without necessarily tieing the knot with any woman.
Which of these 2 options is best for a man to live long?

sijibomi33:
Brought up by Deeperlifer, graduated as a biochemist, with the indoctrination of the church, waiting for the marriage committee to sanction a relationship even when am yet to speak to the lady in question understandably because I dont wanna go against church rules... my fear is, its unheard of!! No relationship at 35 and isn't this ABNORMAL

pstemma1990:
Good morning everyone, I haven't been able to sleep for the past 9 days now...

So many things are just happening around me at the same time that I wouldn't even know where to start explaining..

(Sucide is not an option, no matter what happens I still believe that there's light at the end of the tunnel)

But getting to the end of the tunnel has been an issue...

All I need now is just words of encouragement and hope from anyone that once experienced depression and made it out... Thanks and God bless.

tunjilee003:
I just got admitted into a state polytechnic, I'm thinking of staying with my family or getting an apartment outside... Getting an apartment outside will make me focus on my part-time job.... I need help On this...

vickydankal:
I've been married for close to a decade, I have 2 children and expecting any moment. I noticed some things are consistent in all my pregnancies. Some men will be toasting me even with the pregnancy, I don't go out without my ring. I dress responsibly as a married woman but I wonder if these men are high on something. Today's experience left me wondering, I was thinking maybe I need deliverance or these men are ritualistic, many thoughts were going through my mind.

I was taking a walk with my children as exercise is good for expecting mothers, when I noticed this man following us, hey fine girl, hey young lady can I talk to you. I politely said yes, I thought he needed directions, he started what's your name, I see you and I like you etc I told him can't you see I'm Married and pregnant. he said it doesn't matter. This unfortunate man follow me home seeing my husband at the gate he drove off. I kept thinking what's going on with these men, what do they want.

How can you be asking a pregnant married woman out ? Who does that?

BKsoul:
Am disorganized, lost my elder brother.... He died very early today,,, am weak... Almighty God come through for me and my family....

TheSimiloluwa:
*A TRUE-LIFE STORY HAPPENING TO A 23-YEAR-OLD BOY AT THE MOMENT*

Please don't ignore, your view is needed Mas/Sirs

Hi everyone. Please I am here to seek your opinion and advice. Please don't ignore or insult me...


So, I am 23 years of age, I used to be a graphic designer, and some specific printing machine operator dated then(i am talking 015-017) but then in late 2017 I gained admission to the Federal college of education Abeokuta to study Physics/Mathematics. Though that all my father always wanted( go to school and have a certificate). Yes, the plan wasn't College but sometimes life left you with no choice as I graduated from secondary school in 014, and luckily for me, I gained admission to Kwasu but not being an indigene of Ilorin bleeped me up cause we couldn't afford 210,000 so we let it slide that way and since then other universities won't give me admission till in tried college of education on December 22, 2017, and I am to resume Jan7 2018( My birthday)...Most of the bills were cleared by me and a few by my patent cause the admission was fast and they weren't so prepared. So to fast-ward it all

My stay in the college was kind of financially hard but I managed to graduate with a 4.13 (Phy/Maths) of 5.00CGPA. Making me proceed to obtain a DE form to OAU. Thank God for everything. Now my I have graduated on April 14. Yes, I guess I skipped this... During my days in college, one of my coursemates introduced his brother to be who happened to be a Gee boy, and with his brother, I starting to learn some stuff but because I won't want to fail my parent and remember I have guys( i stay in Mushin) that told me not to do full-time cause of making money and more but I declined and chase my goals. This two reason was one of the biggest reason I work so hard not to fail or have an extra year. So the stuff I am learning needed more time which I couldn't meet up with so it has never been fruitful nor put food on my table... Sadly wasted datas and few of my time sha. But this my course mate brother kept on gifting me money and help with some bills and maybe once (clothes).


So, on the date I signed out of the college I got a call from him saying "Congratulations Simi, you and my brother should come over to the house, I have secured free wifi and more to help make stuff easy) I thanked him and I was happy, at least I will make some riches too and I won't suffer on in my university date like this of the college. So I have been at this place now since that April and today is August 19... I haven't for once cash-out neither has his brother( my ex-course-mate) do too but we are enjoying, as there is (Free data, Netflix DSTV, Youtube on a smart TV, soft drinks in the fridge, etc). So a couple of days ago I decided to fast daniel's fasting and ask God for light probably I am missing way already. So haven't finished my fast( I attend white garment church) doing my fast I bought a candle as I know what that simple means in my belief. But on the 3day (last day of fasting). I couldn't light the candle as the boss was sleeping home that night(wednesday). Luckily for me, he said he won't sleep at home that Thursday night so I lighted the candle, keep praying inside of me while hustling overnight. (Everything happened Last week)

So this week Tuesday, he got home and started asking some weird questions. But as per say, I saw him as a good-hearted being. so, I answered truly but kept some living replies away from him. Then when he left home I called my dad and explained all to him so dad calms me down and said he will call me later that he needs to reach out to someone or so. The next day he called and tell me to try by all means to leave his place ( That he is doing something with me or my star etc) that was shocking so I have planned on leaving here this weekend. As we can't take too many hurry steps so he won't do more of charm and more) #PLEASE GUYS BE CAREFUL OF PEOPLE THAT HELP PUT FOOD ON YOUR TABLE ALL DAY WITHOUT KNOWING YOU FROM ADAM) TRUST NO ONE AND ALL THAT GLITTERS ARENT GOD. DO not FALL for everything clamoring today for your hope for the future. People aren't who you think they are....


So, Mas and sirs.... I need your advice at the moment. Everything I learned here is something I can now do on my own although I don't know how US money gets here but I could get so street help once the time is right and you know I am waiting on my second admission with OAU meaning I need more money to sponsor myself... So the advice I need from you guys now is

1) should I go to my Auntie's place at Ikorodu and learn probably (Web Design, UX design, more systems, and printing machine stuff) and do the stuff I learned while she takes care of my feeding and transport. Remember it's learning no further payment attached

Or

2) I should go to my home in Ilupeju, get a job that pays like 20-25k monthly, do the stuff I learned while I take care of all my bills myself (clothing, feeding, transport, and more) inside this my earned 20-25k salary?


Please advise, share your opinion, tell me reasons I should consider your view and more... But in all, you say remember *I am still going back to university as I am myself sponsor* [i][/i]

GardenOfGod:
Islam

Independentgbol:
I've been having sex with my girlfriend since 5months ago. Sometimes using protection and other times just Cumming in
Though I'm wary of impregnating her as we have sex countless rounds per day and as frequently as 5 to 6 days every week. So I expected that there should at least be a mistake but she always sees her period.

Though I'm happy she's not pregnant yet, I'm also sad she's not getting pregnant.

How I feel now is like when an impala runs towards a lion and stretches it four limbs to the mouth of the lion. The lion we will be happy to receive a free meal but will also be worried why the impala offered itself for free to him. That is exactly how I feel when I said I wanted it but I don't want it.

Rubbiish:
Are u this biased? Jeez!
And women are cool with their husband flirting around & they don't complain about it right?? Didn't u read where he stated his wife complained he was looking at ladies lustfully??



If his wife can start accusing him wrongly of lustful acts, then op should be the one to keep cool receiving undeserved insults simply because he is a gentle guy? Learn to apply fairness in your views, it will make u a better person.

markidoo:
Am 28yrs old n a graduate 4rm uniabj. I am unemployed and stay with my parents. I happen to have a girl am true to. I av been hanging out with her at a friends place due to fact that my parents dont wanna see any girl at home with me. My girlfriend got tired of that n i summoned courage to take her home one day whille my parents where out unfortunately they did nt go far. When they came back my mum checked on me in my room n found me watching a movie with the girl. I had no intention to even touch her since she said she hated sex,i jst wantd company at home cos i ws lonely. when ever we hangout its jst jisting n fiddling wit phones. My mum called her out n used alot of harsh words on my only true love. My gf never replied,she jst picked her bag n walked out of the gate i ran out to apologise n walk her home, bt she wud'nt want any of those. I got back home picked up money went to the a pub nearby n got so drunk that the only thing i remember is coming home so wet n sandy. I lost memory of what happened n since then i am locked in my room i don't wanna eat nor feel like doing anything. Even tried calling her bt she wudnt pick her phone. All i nid in this life of sin is me n my girlfriend. Drop ur advice.

Sill001:
Pls help, how can I report my landlord to the Lagos State government as soon as possible?

Location is Ikotun.

I'm just tired of wicked Lagos landlords.

I paid close to N200,000 for the house, but later discovered that all the water used in bathing in the bathroom does not flow out, no drainage. The water is being soaked by the wall. The walls are soaked. My properties are spoiling already because of the too much dampness of the walls and floor. 

He promised to do it but he will never do it, because I discovered that's his usual style, to collect money and disappear. All the tenants are tired of his wickedness. 

The dangerous thing here is that the whole house is a duplex and it's upstairs (decking) with many flats upstairs but I stay downstairs, so it's very very dangerous for me because of the walls in my room soaking water continuously, which can collapse anytime. All the bath water and washing water goes to the foundation of the building. No draining. It's a very risky place I'm staying and with likelihood of collapse any moment. 

Not only that, the outstanding NEPA bill I later discovered for the whole house is currently over N200,000. He refused to sort it out and we have been paying for the old bill which we never used, yet our light would trip off within 3 days even after paying a lot of money, up to 15k or 20k at times, because of the outstanding bill. 

For the drainage, which is my major concern, he kept delaying and giving excuses and promises for the past four months I packed in, but when he ran out of lies, he just told me yesterday on the phone that he will never do the drainage. And during inspection, this kind of thing is not possible to detect it because it's not possible for you to bath and see whether water is flowing through the drainage during house inspection. 

He even boasted that he will never do it and that I should do my worst. Very wicked and irresponsible old man. 

Pls how can I report him to the Lagos State government? To avoid building collapse. To compel him to do it because of the safety of my life.

Pls help. Thanks.  .


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Rubbiish:
Stop using drama queen as smokescreen to mask bad attitude! Were women made for men to verbally abuse men? That is a woman with a bad attitude & u finding it easy to justify her verbal abuse is my issue with u! What is bad is bad! No human deserves hurtful words, it cuts deeper than sword! You think men are immune to abuse?

Rubbiish:
Stop being biased & say the truth for once!
That woman is saying hurtful things to this man & u think it is cool? These hurtful words are gradually affecting this man emotionally reason he created this thread & u think such is good for his health? Would u say same if reverse was the case & this man was the one saying these hurtful words to his wife? Does anyone have the monopoly of using hurtful words on another? Why would u justify what the wife us doing by saying women are drama queens? So men can't be beast? I don't know why u women are like this! But I only wonder why God will create a woman for a man when has a son Jesus, but doesn't have a wife & Jesus also coming to earth but choose not marry bespeaks there is something odd about u women.

wyt:
we have being in talks since January. we meet in late February, then she visited me in late March. we started talking of marriage. now she in my house for 4 months as she is doing her IT here. she found out I am not as buoyant as she wishes, as my business is dragging due to stuff I ordered that is coming through sea hasn't arrived, in fact, will arrive in late October or November. we schedule to get married last July but due to the financial issue and her parents saying we have to wait till she is done with school we have to change our plan but she is so bitter that she is not getting married as she planned. she will be going back to school in 2 weeks' time. since
Now, I have discovered that she hardly cum during sex, in fact, she hasn't cum while we make love. she once told me she makes herself cum that is before we are we meet in person around February which she promised to stop.
after she found out my finances is not strong, she got back into chatting with men for cash, yes she told me that is how she makes money to survive in school, that she presents an aura of relationship to men and they will be giving her money, and when she is tired or when the person insist in seeing she will block or just fisle out.
now she just told me she is lesbian, she is cos she can't get pregnant as her father is a pastor and can be satisfied without the risk associated with men/woman relationships. that she is attracted to women though she hasn't done that for a while as she has prayed against it. she still masturbates while in my house.
note: she has gone to see my parents and I have meet hers.
pls i want to know what i can do to stop her all these social immoralities.

DannyG8:
My girlfriend donated her kidney to save me
But I'm no longer in love with her anymore

What do I do

Benissues:
UGHELLI — There was apprehension, yesterday, in Oleh, Isoko South Local Government Area of Delta State, following the killing of a retired soldier and his wife by their 32-year-old lunatic daughter.

Sources said the retired Army Warrant Officer, Mr Jonah Elili, and his wife gave up the ghost after they were hit with a pestle by the daughter whose name was given as Elo.

The lifeless bodies of the retired soldier, 75 and his wife, 65, were reportedly discovered in the early hours of yesterday by a neighbour who had gone to purchase some items from the deceased couple’s shop.

A source who spoke on the condition of anonymity said the neighbour had, after knocking at their door for several minutes without response, peeped into the house and was shocked to find the husband and wife lying in a pool of  blood.

The source said the woman raised alarm which drew the attention of people in the neighbourhood, adding that the last they knew or heard about the family was when the retired Warrant Officer came out to drag his daughter who ran outside naked, back into the house and locked her up.

According to the eye witness, the couple was blessed with seven children (two boys and five girls), including the one that was afflicted with insanity who had been roaming about the community.

Meanwhile, the said Elo had been detained at the Oleh Police Station. She was alleged to have told detectives that she reportedly killed her parents because they hated her.

“My parents hate me. They locked me up in a room where they first hit me before I retaliated with a pestle. I saw blood and that is all I know,” Elo reportedly said.

A senior Police officer in Oleh confirmed the story, saying a signal had been sent to the appropriate authority just as the matter was being transferred to the state police headquarters in Asaba for further investigations.

Youngpo413:
never underestimate...

Doja2000:
Nigerian men say Nigerian women can't offer anything in a relationship apart from sex.

Nigerian men,tell us what you want your girlfriends to offer in the relationship apart from sex??

That thing you want her to offer, should it be physical, emotional, mental, or spiritual?

Ayomide11111:
Most of my school mates that we finished school together have married and some are planning to... and here I am, I have not even see a stable job I'm still on the street hustling. Why is life so imbalance like this? And I always hope for a better future for myself �.... I graduated with upper class with my ND certificate and to continue HND now self Na another war, let alone starting up a family; where the money self , kọlọrun Ko sanu Awa na

Lostchild:
Na women O

Kimtosin1996:
Good day I’m in need of a shared apartment or a single room

CodeTemplar:
East things are always different. Until someone in Abuja, Lagos Kogi or Kaduna says same thing, I take it to be the eastern factor.