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If circumstances makes a woman a single mother, be grateful to God that you have a child
Braze yourself up and look after yourself and your child

Life doesn't end there

unclemaths:
Single mums need to be strong for themselves and their kids!
The society offers very little support.

You have said it all

Lostchild:
I have tried in each time, not to let hatred creep into my heart but I keep experiencing the worst in women. If I will help a woman in this life, it will only take forgiveness.

In the past, I use to cherish and care for women with children and will sacrifice my all for them, but not anymore.

Who did this to you ?

Sandrakens:
My name is Kenneth Sandra, a student of Federal polytechnic nekede owerri, IMO state. I lost my father on july 2020, he was suffering from partial stroke so after every trial to save his life he gave up. He is the breadwinner of the family so since then life have been so difficult for me and my mother and siblings.My mum sell food by the road side while my siblings are still tender. I can't go back to school again cuss of lack of financial capacity. I am in my 300l and I am among the best students we have in my department and I made excellent result in my last semester exam. I really need to finish my studies cuss that's the promise my father made to me before death snatch him away from me. Please brethren help me i want to complete my studies, I don't want to be a dropout please. Any assistant can go a long way in my life and I will be forever grateful. Below is the picture of my school id card.Thanks and God bless.

For the fact that you claim to be a woman

Post the following documents here, let me be very sure you need help

Your last result,
your year two results
Your year one result
Your adminission letter
Your father's death certificate
Your school fees receipt
Your current school fees to be paid
Your waec result
I will credit your account with the school fees
You can do that before Monday as Monday 7am is the last chance timing I can give you

Areola14:
Ohanaeze Ndigbo national woman leader..... Appointing that woman in that position has made the position useless... Who knows what she traded to get that post... The most respected elders group in Igbo land... Na wa oo!

Simply because of her inlaw, they know that money will come out

richmond500:
Good evening NLders.
So I got this job a week ago, when I first went to the company, everyone was advising me to be careful because the workers aren't nice to each others, even the manager and the security was advising me lolz.

I wasn't interested in those advice because i can easily make friends and apologieing when i have done wrong is something i could do to soften someones heart, so i know i am good and got things under control, also there is something I wished to gain from the company, the pay isn't even friendly, though I dont have problem with it, my target was set already and I know what I am going for but the antagonistic relationship between the staffs is on a whole different level, somehow I have been able to make friends with almost all the staffs and has tried my best to bring the workers closer by advicing them and told them how much I like a friendly atmosphere, I found out they are not actually bad but they are very careful due to past experiences.

The manager on the other hand is a sadist and very rude, he gets angry when two staffs are having fun, laughing or being friendly, he feels when staffs are friendly, they will end up gossiping him so he rather not see them happy. He called me recently and asked me to tell him things about the staffs, I noticed he wanted me to gossip about them and know their every moves, but that isn't what I will want to do, therefore whatever he asked him, I just tell him "I have no idea". Knowing that he couldn't use me as double agent, his hatred for me just grow to a level I couldn't even accommodate, he shouts at me for no reason, I get really upset, and noticed he is actually the person that has set this hatred between the staffs, I wanted to give him a piece of my own uncultured mouth because there are things I couldn't take but he is actually around my fathers age and I dont wish to drop my father at home and insult another persons father, i have been here for just six days and i am already tired, I am waiting for month end, after my salary, I'll just resign.

If u were in my shoes, what will u do

If you can't play his game, you can resign honorably

But let the owner know that there are some things he doesn't know which us capable of running the company down

If you must do the above, do so after you have received your salary

DanielAlhassan:
I lost my dad today
I feel like dieing
The world is not
What I thought it
Was

I just don't think I will
Be fine without my
Dad

Thinking of what
To do

Sorry for the loss, mourn him the way your heart wishes to and pray for God to be with your family

If your dad has been loving and and also responsible at home, you are going to miss him

What next, prepare yourself to face the world because your guard have left you to be with God

He will watch over you from there

Live your mother at this her trying period and prepare to give her care and attention always and forever

zedegit:
Good evening fam., I normally get my salary at the end of the month but it happened that I am short of cash and would sincerely appreciate an advance of #5000 from a good Samaritan here.

Please I don't mind paying back as I am expecting my salary by first week of September.

Please this money (#5000) is to help me hold body for the next 2 weeks. I will appreciate it.

Thanks in advance.

Download Opay

Your mugu na first class

Kindaheart32:
I chose to post this in the family sections because I feel I will have nothing but a great opinion I can work with
I am in a serious relationship that focuses on getting married to each other. My girl is the most wonderful soul a man will ever be with. It has been two years and covid 19 deal with us. I noticed that anytime things went south for me, my lady will come with some attitudes. Note she doesn't depend on me because she has her job and we spend money on each other. I am a blessed person which God always Crown my efforts with something to show. So it's not like I am bad luck, right now I am rich( if you know what I mean) but I know things will improve.
Here is my problem: I have a female friend who has been disturbing me to relocate me to the US on the condition that I marry her and create a life for myself. We have been friends for years and she has supported me financially twice.
I keep telling her I have a serious relationship. Before this my friend, there was another who gave me the same offers I turn the lady down. I didn't want to hurt my girl because I am the first man she is in love with and I don't want to ruin her emotionally. I love her deeply without a second thought.
My girl keep threatened me to walk away anytime I have a setback.
If I reject this offer and stay with her and she walks away from the relationship, I know I kiss goodbye with anything marriage, and I also lost the opportunity to make a decent income. Note I don't plan to live in my country. Please people who had experienced this how do you deal with it and what should I do.

If you think you can't leave your current girlfriend and you are scared of her leaving, you guys can get pregnant and things will sort itself out

If you are ready to humble yourself incase the lady in America relocates you to that side, bear in mind that, you will be prepared to enslave your powers as a man and you may not like it, unless you don't mind

Left for me, I will advise you manage life situations with your current girl and both if you can make it since she is a good girl with bad attitude when you are broke

illicit:
He will be caught soon

Definitely

All of you that are afraid of marriage, it's not bye force ohhh, but there is no harm in trial
Besides not every person must marry

mrpoul:
There's this girl, I have been dating for about 6 months now. And there is something I noticed about her which I always try to ignore. But recently, I have been having a lot of thoughts about it. Okay, every week I give her money either when she comes to my house or she will call telling me that she have issues that needs money. The problem now is that her phone got bad and she needs about 4k to fix it, she called and told me about it. I told her I don't have money that the little I have I want to use start a small business. But eversince, I told her, I won't be giving her that I'm trying to sort out myself. She has refuse picking my calls. So I wanted to know if it is a norms to be giving your girl friend money every week or whenever she has problem or I should let her be?

If not because of the regular sex you do have with her, why giving her money every week

For how long will you be doing so

Leave her and start planning for your future

JackDaAlienz:
I have been treating this warri girl like shit but she keeps coming back to me.
I can call her for sex anytime and she will come and even bring food for me.
She has guys that want her but she says she doesn't like them.
The more I treat her bad, the more she loves me. I don't even know what to do again

From your statement, it's obvious that you are treating her bad

Well you will get it bad one day and I hope that the one day will not be too late

larryeffizy1:
Hi folks, I'm Sure we're doing good in our respective places.?
Quick one pls, I really need the help or rather a piece of advice from whosoever has been in this shoe before...; Because it's really affecting my marital life negatively and that's why I'm here if I could get a cool counsel on this platform bikoo; as we all know that a problem shared is half solved... The question is "How May/Can I get rid of Marriage Phobia...?

I'm above 30 and I'm really scared of MARRIAGE... A candid advice from you guys will go along way... Hence, if you have had the experience before, kindly share with me how you go about it and overcame it....


Thanks#

How can you be sacred of something you have not had the experience of

Ibuzikwa nwoke ?

Ogamysamo:
good evening nairalanders,

married men and women in the house, what is marriage?

define or explain it by experience.

Marriage is like studying a course that the course title is easy to pronounce but undertaking the course is the most difficult thing in life and you must study it

MALIGNANTGuest:
No woman ever gives for nothing.
No woman ever gives wholeheartedly.

The MAN should start preparing to buy her & her relatives submarines. That's it.

This is a very wrong impression

Kulas:
Due to scarcity of job in the country and in a bid to avoid staying idle even as a graduate,is it advisable for a man to buy into the idea of establishing a beer parlour and mini restaurant for the wife if your wife have a passion in running a restaurant or which other cost effective business one easily venture into

Kindly advise.

There is nothing wrong with the idea, so far both of you will run the restaurants business together

But bear in mind that her male customers will be admiring her and that doesn't mean she will fall for them

Be ready to tolerate that aspect

Johnpaul2217:
Hey guys, I lost my wife 2 weeks after giving birth to our twins daughters, that was 21 months ago. We have five children together 3 boys 17,14, 9 and twins girls who are now 21 months old. Before she passed away her mother and her 15 years old niece were staying with us, her mother has been sick for a while now my wife was the only one taking care of her she does toilet in her clothes, she bathed her and fed her , her siblings had refused to help her because they tagged her a witch. According to them she has killed their 3 siblings who had previously died before my wife and it was only my wife who never believed that she was a witch and she supported her.

After my wife demise I was expecting her siblings to come and collect their mother but they never did, it was only the mother of the niece who came to collect her daughter and took her abroad where she based, and when I asked her about their mother she said she can't afford to take her abroad that I should call her brother or sister to come collect her which I did but to no avail.

I have contacted her again to informed her about her siblings has refused to collect their mother from my house, she said I should contact her sister pastor and he is the only one who will make her to come and collect the mother and I did but the issues were not resolved in fact she refused saying her mother has tied her womb and it is the reason she can't conceived after 8 years of marriage and she does not want her, even the brother has refused too saying if he is still suffering is because of the mother.

He is married, jobless and a father of 3 children who is depending on his father and according to them his mother he is the cause of their suffering and she has also killed my wife and the other 3 siblings they were 7 in total.

I am sick and tired of begging them to come for their mother and I can't bear to see my poor mother at her old age taking care of my twins including my mother in law, its like she's caring for 3 babies because my mother in law wear pampers and in a day she can poop more than 5 times, she bathed her and feed her it's too much for my poor mother. She is been complaining about back and leg pain.

Since her children doesn't want her and myself I can't longer accommodate her because there is nobody to give her the care that she needed and I want to go and drop her at her daughter front gate and it is up to her to decide what she wants to do with her, if she throw her on the street it will not be my problem.

Please let me know if the ideas it is good or not, also if you have any other suggestions for me.

I don't have much to say

Just take her to her daughter and drop her either at her gate or door step, you don't need to inform her about your coming

You have tried and if realy she is a witch, you have lost your wife, what could be more painful

Preciousgirl:
Bleaching is news in Ghana
In Ghana, a few women bleach their skin to look fair

Guys rarely bleach in Ghana
However, the story is different for Nigerian men. Most Nigerian men have bleached their skin under the guise of toning

For me, it is hilarious and disgusting
Because I can make out a natural fair man and bleached man; besides I don't like fair guys

Guys, why do you bleach?

Any man that bleaches his skin is a womanizer

Believe it or not

ademidedavid:
Thanks so much, i do all my responsibilities and even give her money just incase any necessity comes up.......

pay the kids fees, live in a very comfortable environment and all those.

That's very good of you

Just be calm while she ragges, with time you will understand her and how to avoid funny drama from her

Women are drama queen's

NaijaCoverBlog:
Update From . COM

Constable Sarah Adjei, a Ghanaian policewoman working at the Quarter Master Stores at Nkawkaw Divisional Police Headquarters has reportedly committed suicide, Reports.

From The Information Gathered By , Adjei was found dead on Saturday August 7, after checking into a room at Misiho Hotel which is located at Akwasiho.

Manager of the hotel told the police that he found the policewoman dead in a prone position on the floor while carrying out a routine check on guests around 7pm, Learnt.

The policewoman who had a swollen right cheek, was also oozing blood from her nostrils. A suicide note where she blamed one Mr. Timothy Dampare for her death was found in a bag in the room.

She said the man who promised to pay off some of the people she was owing, reneged on the promise.

The Suicide Note As Obtained By , Read;

“Dear Mr. Timothy Dampare, I told you that I owed people money and you decided to help me, and you have been with me in my house for one week now and you have refused to help me, so if anything happens you have caused it Mr. Timothy Dampare. Thank you."

In a press release obtained by TV3, Eastern Regional Police Command spokesperson DSP Ebenezer Tetteh said an investigation into the case has been launched.

The hotel manager and Timothy Dampare have also been arrested. They are expected to assist in police investigations.

Body of the deceased has since been deposited at Nkawkaw Holy Family Hospital awaiting autopsy.

See Photos As Obtained By Below:

Source: BLOG

So we should name the man for her debt

Na wa ohhh

Andyblaze:
I have felt so terrible ever since I saw female my
house help breastfeeding my one year old son on friday last week.
I have not fostered courage to tell my baby mama of the incident because she would blame me. Yesterday I chased my maid out of the house but I don't know if there is something I'll have to do for my baby?
Should I
take the child to the doctor? Please advise

So far she is not lactating, and not breast milk coming out, it has no effect on the child

Probably your house girl was feeling Hot and needed her boobs to be sucked, that's why she used your child

Just watch your child poo if it's becoming unusual then you take her for medical treatment

Rich4god:
There is this my neighbor that am really close to. We are very fond of each other before he got married two years ago. So after the marriage, I decided to give him some space though we are still close.

Sometimes last month, I visited him, it happens that they were having am argument with the wife some moment before I entered. But wetin concern me. I did what I came for and left. So as he was escorting me out, he now told me the cause of the quarrel.

According to what he said, that the wife was complaining that he is not sending enough money to her jnr sister who is in sch. And that the sister is always complaining of been broke.
The man was like he doesn't have much money these days as he too have junior ones that he is sponsoring in school.

I didn't have much to say to him, I only told him to explain to the wife about his financial situation.

This have got me thinking. Is the man supposed to carry the burn of his wife sister. Like is he obligated to so as a responsibility.

I do not knw much abt the wife family, but I knw that the man has 3 junior once who are in sch. Two of which are in a state university.

I really want to know, is it an obligation for the man to carry some of the burden of the wife family or he can only give when he have and wants to.

He owes his wife family nothing, so far he can take care of his own family, whatever he feels like to give to his inlaw, is a previlage not a right

The wife should provide for her family if she thinks it's an easy task or responsibilities

ademidedavid:
My greetings nairalanders,
I am married for 10years now and blessed woth 3 wonderful kids but my woman is a bit difficult.

To cut the long story short, i went out with a colleague on friday and due to the fact that the kids are on holiday, i took my wife along because she was already raising the roof bout my outing ( NOTE: I have never ever gone out without my family to avoid wife's palava).

On getting there, she complained i was looking at some ladies lustfully which was not at all.......just trying to figure out some important things in my head. After which she complained that i was drunk.....lo and behold i wasnt because i dont take beer, i only take red wine, bullet and spinnorf......which i took a red wine and bullet before leaving the house and also took 3 bottles of spinnorff ( I was never drunk with all of those)

Fast forward to today, i am very open with my finances guess one of my mistakes.........she noticed that a thousand naira (#1000) was missing in my wallet and all means to explain to her proved abortive even though i give her money for things she love like body cream, cloths and others but after all nagging, i was vexed and went to the kids room which i politely asked her to let me be at the moment because i cant withstand her nagging over a thousand naira but she persisted and i have to shut the door against her but she opened it and told me she hates me and regret marrying me.....sounded like the rapture sound initially but later realised it actually came from my woman, my mother of my kids!!!!

i still cant place those words.....could it be out of anger or she actually mean the words for real?

Please help a heartbroken brother.

You don't need to be heart broken with such word because she will still say the worst

If you know that you are responsible at home and you provide for your family, leave her let her entertain you with her mouth

But if you are not meeting up, try and meet up

A woman must and will always nag especially when things doesn't work her way

Chuky7:
Has anyone experienced this. This is where I find myself. And I keep getting talks like it's a bad thing. Talks like your last has married before you shouldn't you be ashamed. Some even go to extent of proclaiming abomination.

For me all this one's no concern me. I am a playboy at heart and will marry at my own time or not at all. Depends on how I feel.

Peace of Mind and Freedom is Priceless. Don't Take it away from me.

So have you had similar experience please share

It's your choice to marry or not, you are not getting married to impress anyone but to fullfil the cycle of a man

OPTOSUN:
A couple lived in a rented apartment. Happy family to be precise. The wife earn huge salary compared to the husband... so she decided to build a house without informing her husband. After completing the house, she finally inform her husband that they will be leaving to their own house tomorrow. Assuming you are the husband, what will you do?

She must have done that as a surprise to her family

Is left for her husband to appreciate her efforts not regarding who's name is written in the document

But men with pride will not see it that way and that's the beginning of another bigger problem

Slimslimqq:
Good evening elders.

A friend of mine needs urgent advice before taking a bold step.

He relocated to south Africa 6 years ago, and since he traveled he has been sending home some amount of money to help his father complete his house.

So last year, unfortunately his father died and has since been buried.

He just arrived from south Africa since then. Now he wants to renovate his fathers house to 3 bedroom flat because he's planning to marry next year, He's not returning to south Africa.

But, his mom declined and said she won't allow him take over the house from her, though he promised to rent an apartment for her but declined.

Now this has caused a lot of problem between the mother and son, because the son claims he built d house to that stage but the mother is claiming she is his mother and the wife to the late owner(father).

He's planning on taking drastic steps which I have advised him against, but he seems not to understand everything I'm saying.

I told him about nairaland, that there are experienced people who will give him d best advise and he's given me a go ahead.

I will be sending these page link to him, so he can hear from d public and then know what to decide.

He needs your sincere advise.

Thanks

Please help us help a brother

For his mother to be dragging with her son, it means that both of them are not getting along and have never gotten along all the while, even when his dad was alive

For his own interest and safety
Let him forget about that particular house and look for space to build his own house

The mother can use his siblings to fight him because of that house

His mother can maim him because of that house

The whole family can be against him because of that house

At the end, he will finish the house but may not be alive to leave there

andyblinks05:
Which of the above will be considered for a fresh graduate without any other source of income.

Instead of you to take up a teaching job in Adamawa, at that amount, come to Lagos and get same Job with a little increase in salary

You will also have other options if you search

Barbsamiin:
Hello! experts in the house good day to you all,

I want to buy my first car, And all of the cars in naija its only mercedez impresses me. is it ok to buy 1.5m c230 or i should save more and buy foreign one.? Please experts in the house should advice me cause i don't want mechanic's friendship, Lols.

Just bear in mind that any Benz you are buying at that price, is a fourth class Benz and be ready to have a mechanic as your neighbor

Save more if Benz is what you desire

Talk about 3ml above depending on the class