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Kimkiss:
Please aos,i have passion for photography i am thinking of enrolling in a photography school.the issue now is i am a mum and wife can photography put food on the table and also to assist my man or i should just open my foodstuff shop jejely.thanks in advance

Follow your passion, go for training and you can combine both because photographing gives you time to do other things

Halo22:
Having dated this lady for about 5 years now, I decided to do justice to the promise I made to her buy going to see her parents. In addition to that and also to prove to her that I meant to keep my words, I equally paid her B-P hoping to wed by December or thereabout. She has been with me for sometime now and all has been moving smoothly. Then, came my kid sister, the last born in the house whom I don't use to play cos of the belief and hope she has in me as her benefactor. She came like two weeks ago for her UTME preparation and has already engaged for classes which she attends to every afternoon to return in the evening. You know ladies don't like cohabiting, I don't dispute that fact, but the issue now is that my fiancee is making me to be at the receiving end of the whole thing knowing quite alright that I am too emotional. I have called her severally and told her my sister won't stay for a long time but till the end of the forthcoming UTME scheduled for this month, she just doesn't want to understand me. I have asked her what she did to her severally and she said she doesn't like assisting her in the kitchen. I have equally shared duties at least to make her not to feel I am siding my sister even after cautioning my sister, yet she is still not happy. Please I really need your advice cos I have ever said that I won't take it from any lady that would want to come in between the peace I have built with my siblings, irrespective of the love I have for the lady. I can't condone it any longer.

Your sister is expected to respect her and assist her, that's just the main cause of their problems

Your wife to be also should understand that, she is just getting into the family and she is expected to accommodate her and the rest

It's always difficult for women to be compatible but this problem is coming too early

I think you need to seat both of them down get to know what's the reasons for their cold war

Then tell your sister to respect her for she is your wife and her senior

Tell your wife to love your sister and accommodate her

Doraty1:
https://community.vanguardngr.com/m/discussion?id=4565467%3ATopic%3A3084467

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I still prefer they practice it this way, rather raping women and girls

Shedy003:
My blood bro (am younger), squatting in my rented apartment for 2 years. He moved out because I asked him to share the utility bills.
Am I wrong?

Congratulations, his moving out will give him the sense of thinking how to help his life

Faraday1997:
Please fellows help in giving any tips or ideas on how to get rid of snakes around the environments.

Here at where I work as a security guard is fully infected with lots of snakes and they are now on the move. Probably the mother have hatched her eggs and they're now on the move around the facilities. Mainly on daily basis I have been encountering and killing them.

But please if there is anything else I can do to help get rid of them please kindly share with me please.

Get a snipper and pour on any one of them seen around

It's difficult to get what will scare them away but more better if you kill anyone you see

Meanwhile, guide your steps and watch your environment for more as this is their season both day and night

maxwelltony:
Hi guys

Please i really need your sincere advice concerning my relationship, we have been dating for the past two years, but honestly speaking i am not enjoying the relationship, i dont know what is wrong with my man, at times, he would travel for three month without giving me any notice, and throughout that time, his number will be switch off, for the past two years that we have started dating, he has done that for over 5times, and i am getting confuse if i am not in the wrong hand, he wouldnt give me any good excuse and i am getting fed up with him, i dont want to break up with him all because we have gone a long way, but with his attitude, i dont think i can cope again, time is going...

Please i want the whole house to advice me because i dont know how to cope again, he has gone again and dont knw when he will be coming back.

The question is, for how long will you be enduring this kind of attitude

He travels without informing you of his intending trips and the purpose of his trip and he goes as far as putting off his phone

Consider the following as probably the reasons

He could have traced to be with his wife and children and wouldn't want any call from you to affect his privacy

He could be engaged into an illegal job that you don't know about

For the fact that you don't ever know his reasons for frequent traveling shows that he is not open to you

It's now left for you to withdraw from the relationship and replan for yourself because he has no plans for you, he will not let you go and he will not even propose to you

He just wants you to be on ground, that's all

Alternatively, if you think you can endure such behaviour of secret life and movements, its your cross to carry

ozonechrome:
In marriage some issues like this are easy fix. Not everything should end in divorce.

If realy you are married and you understood all he has said about the wife, then you have to wish you get married to a woman like her

When you are married and doing all the financial job at home and your wife doesn't want to assist, it's a bad market, not even when the man is responsible and under this harsh economic situation we found ourselves

igwebest23:
This is too much for me. I have had enough. I got married to my wife last year October 2020. I did both traditional wedding and white wedding, spent a million plus. I work with ministry of health.

My wife has been insisting that I disclose my salary to her from day 1 but I never, I just told her that am earning 100+. Before I met my wife, she already learn Fashion designing. Then while was rushing around, preparing for wedding, she was pestering me to open shop for her. I specifically told her that d money I have now is Solly for wedding and traditional rite, which cost me fortune.

Then after much pressure, her people contributed money and paid for d shop (Remember I have paid her bride price then). I have swallowed red pill. How can I open shop for a girl I have not finished marrying. Then when she opened d shop, I equally supporting her with other things like buying protector and chairs. Every day she is going to shop, I drop pocket of 1k. Some times she asks me money to buy tailor materials which I give.

Now within a space of 7 months my wife now has 14 apprentices. She collected like 30k from them. Then all the money she made in her shop, she put all in her account, she doesn't contribute anything at home. Infact decided not to apply for ATM card. Some time, I may go to. ATM to get money and d tell me no network, if I come to my wife to ask her for ordinary 1k, she will say she doesn't have it. I never asked her to help in our home finances before, and I don't really care about her money.

But now found out through her Facebook chat that she sent her male school friends 7k. She hid it from me, she said d guy needed d money to treat her father in d hospital. I was shock. Cos my wife always complained she does not have money. Now she is complaining that I don't support her in her shop. That she can do whatever she wants with her money.

This morning, she was raising her voice to the hearing our flat neighbors, that am a useless husband, I feel insulted. Am embarrased. That I don't support her. She said her shop rent has expired that I should give her d money but she have enough money in her account to pay it. While is asking me. Am d one that pays for house rent, I buy food stuff, I give her transport every day.

I have had enough. I will call her mum to come over and carry her daughter. I can never beat her. The last night I shouted at her she fainted not to talk of beating.

Just travel with her yo her family and hand her over to her parents

Go and have some rest, after that, request for your bride price and move on, even if they refuse to return it, just move on

They will return it

thomax:
Mature responses please.
After my last relationship ended, my long time friend introduced me to a lady who is in her mid-20s, at first I told him I wasn't interested, since I don't like the idea of linkup, but he told me the lady is cool, she didn't flirt...bla...bla....bla....

We later got talking, and after a while I told her about my intentions. She told me to give her some time to process it, in which I agreed. Last week make it the 4th month without getting any answer from her. If I asked her about it, she usually respond that I am rushing. If I don't call or chat her, she will never do, but she gives me her attention when I call or chat.

From my conversations so far with her, I noticed she is hostile to guys, and proud of it. She doesn't listen to advices, or feel emotional, no matter how you try. From my experiences, all these are traits of someone from broken home, in which she is not from. Should I let her be?

Wait until she places you where you need to be, since you can't read her hand writing on the wall

Gadiola2:
My fellow nairalanders, i have a serious problem that needs to be addressed.
I'm not good at talking to girls wether in Face-to-Face conversation or Online.
It has really affected my life, I can't approach a member opposite-sex unless it's a family friend or a church member,the worst of it all is that I can't keep a direct eye contact with them for up to 30secs, just a glance that's all.
Last year that I registered for jamb,when I went to the center,girls been full wella, I couldn't have the balls to talk to any of them I was just sitting facedown till the whole process was completed.
I have this inferiority complex whenever am around girls wether within my age group or older.....my online chats are the worst, i've been snubbed and sometimes blocked.
I flow with guys very well but whenever a girl comes around,....damn! I feel like the ground should just swallow me up.
I just got admitted into the University and I'm 20......I really need help.
Thanks

You must be ready to be accepted and be ready for a defeat

Women have their own game, you have to be bold to face them and have discussion with them, but for you to succeed, you have to be humble because she knows that you are after her pleasure island

So braze up and hot it with the hope of getting her or loosing her

Another idea is just be calm they will also come around you , enjoy that interaction as long as it last

Don't be in a hurry with them

Whoube99:
Dear Nairalandders please I'm an orphan who is struggle to feed myself and my younger once. My mother died while I was a kid, and we were left in the hand of our father as the soul care giver. But sometimes, last January my dad took ill & the whole responsibility of both the family financial burden including my father's medical bills landed on my tender shoulder of 25 years of age.
And just as I was praying to God and expecting the best, I got a terrible call this morning from my little brother who was with my dad in the hospital informing me that he has passed on.
Currently, I'm so heart broken and so confused as to what to do right.
As a matter of fact, the money to take his from where he to a mortuary is not even available as I have exhausted the meager resource I have while trying to treat him in the hospital.
I use this medium to plead with all people of goodwill to assist me with whatever God lead in your heart to help however small or big and God will not abandon you in time of need.
Rose A.
3072011417
First Bank PLC.

If this is nit coming too late, take him home and gather your kins men to Bury him immediately, no need for protocol

Any year you are ready for the final burial, you celebrate it

Arewa1stSon:
A Capricorn from the north!!

We celebrate you Namijin Duniya!

For those celebriting the death of Attahiru Ibrahim...another son of the caliphate is here to occupy the capacity of chief of Army staff of the Federal republic of Nigeria!!

He is from sokoto state...the seat of caliphate!!

Attahiru Ibrahim is not a hausa or a Fulani man...but Originally an Agatu from benue state disguising as a kaduna man


The Hausas you've been killing for no reason have been given the power!!

The people you attack and kill for no reason will use this capacity to defend and retaliate!!

During end SARS you attack and kill hausas...

Every protest in the south is just an avenue to attack the Hausas and their business!!

Congratulations to this Gallant hausa man!!

Ipob,ESN... Brace up!! Yahya is not Attahiru Ibrahim!

Yahya is here to balance the scores...strategically!!

Instead of you to find your bearing, you are here calculating tribals Victory and failure

Na you go tire

izubext007:
[s][/s]and u wish to knw mugu

Mumu, you left your future to be monitoring how your dad and mum are having sex

Are you not a hopeless human being that 500 condom would have prevented

CaptainZubi:
I have my ticket already. Flight slated for next week. I decided to check out the domestic airport today and see things ahead of time but everything was so confusing . I tried asking one man i met at the departure entrance and he just dey squeez face like person wey never chop. I went back home empty handed. Everything is just confusing. Entering ezenwata , God is good or chisco no get wahala reach this .


I'll be travelling to Kano, when I enter the departure door, where should I go, what should I do. Abeg help my life, I'm just confused. Just describe the whole process for me. Also when I get to my destination what next.

Also in my ticket, I can see cabin book class YW. What does it mean.

pls help.

You don't need to be paranoid, get to airport 3hrs before departure, when you get there, you will see your airline front desk officer just like you will see other ones

Just tell them this is your first time of travelling, they will put you through

Whatever advice we give you here, may not work because their policies changes because of security

Don't just meet a random person, you will loose your ticket

Just go straight to the airline front desk, it's on a stand at the departure hall of MM 2

Plshelpmybrothe:
Pls who can help me also
I got a job at Ikeja but no accommodation
The pay is 25k
I'm 20 yrs and dont intend working g for max 2 months
I need somewhere to lay head in Ikeja , I dont mind paying some expenses .. I'm not a liability as I can fend for myself..
Thanks
We can chat on whatsap if u can help
I appreciate

I think you should look for a job with the same salary close to your house where you can manage yourself

Even if you get free accommodation, that amount cabt feed you for a month

So what's the Need

Honestly, the title of your post, shows that you are just a juvenile that has no sense of upgrading

Ghabz:
Dear Nairalander,
Am a young guy planning on settling down this year. My fiance just got government job in her state (January 2021) while am still in my state hustling with my POS job.
Though distance to each other is just less than an hour & am in search of accommodation in my state. She is of the opinion that traveling during pregnancy will be difficult... She suggested resigning so that we can be together.
Pls i need your honest advice. Thanks

Do you mean be together in her rented apartment or you rent one for both of you where she base

I will suggest you get your apartment where you are if your business is going well I mean, if you have established yourself there

Pregnant people still travel or you make it a point to be visiting her, while you search for what to do when you finally move

If you move now without doing anything to contribute to the family, don't come here to complain that she uses you like a house boy

UwaMmebii:
Please can someone recommend a good home theater or xboom with great bass that I can buy from Price range of 200k to 500k and where I can get it. Looking forward to resourceful response thanks.

Just Google any LG outlets but make sure it's fouani sales outlets

It's more original than the ones sold on the road sides

purples25:
Thanks sis. That's what I am doing now. Much love from me to you.

Thanks dear

class001:
Please Help My Relationship Is Crumbling

I am here to ask if anyone has been experiencing same issue with me regarding whatsapp calls because it's about crashing my relationship.

My girlfriend and I usually call on whatsapp every night because we reside in different cities and we usually talk for long. She complains that sometimes when she tries to call my line mostly at night, it will tell her that I'm on another call even when I'm not on any call. She even screenshot it to me several times and the fact is anytime this happens I might not even be with the phone.

Last time this happened, I tried calling her back on whatsapp and it said I can't make the call because I was already on another call of which I wasn't on any call.

She has started suspecting that I am cheating on her and threatening to leave.

I want to ask if anyone has also witness same situation and what could be responsible for this?

Please I need positive response and how to resolve this.

Thank you.

Since free call is causing the problem, start making calls with normal call and keep recharging your line to avoid the same stories

I don't think this guy was scammed

He just wanted attention and also wish himself bad luck

BadRadio:
depends... if the guy is intelligent enough to say something sensible... u know we have a lot of dumb guys roaming the streets without direction !!!

Exactly

Nacoss25:
Good morning everyone. I am a young man newly married to a 22 yr old lady. our marriage is just 2 months old.

Before I met my wife in 2019, she has this male best friend who they have been best friends even before I met her though my wife is a social and jovial person always cheerful, she easily makes friends wherever she finds herself that's her nature and kind of personality.

Right now her friendship with that her male friend is what am becoming uncomfortable with right now because of the so much attention she is lavishing on him. I have complained to her that I am not comfortable with her closeness with the guy but she is seeing it that am trying to cut her off from her friends.

One interesting part of the whole thing is, since we got married the guy has been trying to distance himself from her a bit knowing too well that she is now married but my wife is even the one doing all she could to keep the friendship going the way it has been going. 2 days ago I and my wife were together she called the guy complaining bitterly how he has been distancing himself from her.

My people what do you think I should do to cut down that connection or will the friendship grow week by the day on it's own? My wife is refusing to understand that in marriage there are things u will have to let go.

Hmmm this one pass me

I think you too should get a friend and hook up with and communicate with, let's see who will surrender

As difficult as things are now, you don't need man made induced depression

ImaIma1:
How won't the comments pain him when he's one of those who wears people's things without thinking.

Exactly, that's why he does rubbish things like his name implies

omolola100:
There is this particular place we have been filling our cooking gas, and whenever we fill about 3kg of gas it doesnt use up to 13days till it will be exhasted, despite the fact that we dont use gas to cook beans that could consume it, and beside there is hot plate we use to support it...
I guess the gas man is really cheating us.
How many days can we use a normal gas of 3k if we dont cook beans on it.
Do you also experience such?

It's difficult to measure, you have to try buying the gas else where and do the same cooking timing to get close to what you want

Other things to look out for include licking gas

Boiling water still boiling and was left that same way until you remember to off the gas

Some gas burns quicker

Rubbiish:
Don't compare me with Adam!
We all know Adam was a simp just like op, reason he fell for eve manipulations!!! Real men sense manipulators from miles away, same way I can sense your manipulative smell!

No matter how smart a man or you think you are, you will still definitely fall under a woman when she is set to use your mumu botton

Rubbiish:
I hate it when people try to come between families & u ladies are the main culprit!
U things created issues between Adam & God!
God & Adam had peaceful rapport just like the op & his kid bro, until a lady came into the picture & it all turned to curse! What do u Jezebels have against peaceful coexistence? Why must u people always crave for division among siblings?? Mistake of a creature!

Is because Adam was as Rubbish as you are that was why eve acted on him

If you can't handle a woman remain single

Rubbiish:
Read what u wrote!
No wonder a man start having issues with family once he gets married to u Jezebels! Once he gets married, will his brother be coming to his house to wear his clothes?? The only thing his kid bro is enjoying from him right now, u ladies still want him to deny his brother! Selfish creatures!

Why e dey pain you ?

You carry Op matter for your head, go and hug transformer

Rubbiish:
What u wrote up there is arrant nonsense!

Since your moniker is Rubbish, everything you read will sound rubbish to you

So blame yourself

Franzinni:
But I don't understand all this while that police stations have been getting attacked is it that the other stations don't know it is wise to be on guard 247? And be ready to kill anything on site that is a threat ? How are they getting caught off guard like this ...?

Who among the police men have to face the UGM to risk his life with a Rusty gun in his hand

Can you be the one ?

anonymousthug:
Good day everyone, and happy Sunday!
I will try my best to be short in other not to bore ya’ll with my problem.
I’ve been a member of this street since 2012 with too many deactivated accounts so I already know how we can be mad around here sometimes.

So it happened that I was dating this girl for over a year now, and we just broke up. I’ve had countless unprotected sex with her which she instigated though. In her words “I don’t like contraceptives”. So we broke up because things are beginning to go south in the relationship. This is a girl I’ve never shouted at, touched (beat), insulted and the rest. She shouts at me on the phone in the presence of her family or friends. The last one she did was shouting at me in the presence of her friend that I just met, because of something she heard outside from some stupid kid. Her anger issues are anger pro-max 100% (Thought I fixed her sef) she gets angry easily which is the main cause of the breakup. She is a girl that likes attention, sometimes she will post something on whatsapp that when someone reads you would think she’s having issues with her man, whereas we are good. There was this time, she keeps posting.. “This heart break will reach everybody” and I replied her with “God will answer your prayers one day” and God finally did. Warned her countless times, take this relationship off social media, if there is problem come to me, that’s why am you best friend.
I had already fallen out of love with her, but I held on to see if I could change her and shit, but I couldn’t. She also, noticed the breakdown in the relationship. The night I broke up with her, she called me back and told me that she got pregnant and she had an abortion for me without letting me know. I was shocked to hear that, she even sent me a text that read…

“ I know I did not tell you, and am sorry, I know I did wrong but I don’t have any other choice. I knew we are not going to do this forever, I know we won’t be together. I’ve thought about this and have seen this coming for a long time; I even removed another one yesterday. You don’t deserve me and I don’t deserve you, good night.” 06/05/2021 09:43 PM

I cried the night I saw that message, because I had promised never to be a part of an abortion, and she knows. In my same exact words “If a girl should get pregnant for me, she is so keeping it. Everyone deserves a chance to live.” I even posted a topic about abortion sometime ago, and now, I am a part of something I preached against. https://www.nairaland.com/4215521/letter-aborted-baby
Yesterday she called me with a friend’s number because I blocked hers, that she was pregnant and the pregnancy was mine. Right now I don’t know what to believe. When we were together, she never told me that she was pregnant, so why in the world would she say she’s pregnant now that we’re no longer together? I really don’t know what to believe, that’s why I’ve brought my problem to the gods of Nairaland. Is the baby even mine? The last time we had sex was on the 29th of April. Is it possible that the fetus I mine? I Need an advice guys.

Leave her with her crazy attitude, ignore that pregnancy threat, it's left for her to keep it or do it her way

After birth, DNA will prove the real father