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havilla:
i met this guy in 2005 when i was in naija, we started talking and within months we developed strong feelings for each other, he was soo good to me , he made me laugh and i felt soo happy being around him, the chemistry was just spot on, but unfortunately he is my brothers friend older brother and my brother didnt like the idea when he found out because i was 18 years old then and the guy was 23 yrs old, he also said the guy was not an ambitious person because he didnt have a job back then. he called the guy and warned him seriously to back off, when i called him later he told me we should just forget it. ever since then i havent been the same because i think about him alot, i mean its been almost six years but i cant seem to get him out of my mind, i have even dated someone else for three years but the feeling doesnt go away, no one seems to make me feel the same way he does. when i met him like two years ago, i was surprised to know that he was going through the same thing because we kept staring at each other and i could feel the chemistry in the air and he even tried to kiss me. when i went home last xmas my sister told me of how he has gotten a good job and he has even bought his fiance a brand new car, the fact that he loves someone else enough to buy a car for her is what pained me the most. i dont know if its true love or lust or if its even an obssession, but i want to move on and get this guy out of my memory forever, but everything i do isnt working . pls help me!!!!

You have to come out of it else won't be able to live another man

Alternatively, you guys can fix a date for both of you, use the opportunity to burn that passion

But you have to help yourself

ThiagoKid:


I am writing these with my heart running into different directions. My life is too 'three' peaceful!
I have being living a single life all my life. I stay alone; to get focused on my grind.


The problem here is that there is no nagging woman in my life; someone who could spice up my life a bit by quarrelling, and shouting at the top of her voice.
Someone who would always request for the "urgent 2k, or the urgent 100k", and when I refuses, she won't talk to me for a while.
Someone who will wear bum short in my house and, cum and 'mess' on my face like--'poooh...' and she will run away.

If care ain't taken, I might later rescind on my idea of not getting married if this is how I will continue living my life.

Make up your mind to get a girl friend, start there

EmekaBlue:
Just a short one

I made 60k on a supply i did then for the love of Chelsea i staked them to win today as expected with 40k out of d money. I gave my fiancee 20k.

As we know Chelsea lost unfortunately i approached my fiancee to borrow me 5k from the money i just gave her, I need to manage it till d end of d month...She is blatantly refusing

How do you see this

Stop giving her money let's see if the relationship is based on money or love

earleswood:
I have been seeing a really sweet guy for three months. He is intelligent, fun, considerate, and generous. My issue is that he is a virgin and doesn’t seem very interested in changing that. We are both in our early 30s. I am recently divorced—my husband was a compulsive cheat—and have a 2-year-old son. I have discussed sex with “James” and he said that he originally wanted to wait until marriage for religious reasons, but now doesn’t feel that is necessary, he just wants it to be with the right person. We were making out the other night and I whispered to him how much I wanted him. He said he wanted me, too, but he sounded awkward and unconvincing. He always tells me that we can’t do anything because he doesn’t have condoms, but he hasn’t made any attempts to purchase some. I can tell he is aroused when we kiss, but I’m worried that he just isn’t very interested in sex. That would be tough for me to handle long term. Is it wrong that I expect our relationship to be further along after three months? My friends say I need a man with more heat and passion but I am hesitant to pass up an otherwise great guy.
Please advise as I don't want to squander my time.

You need to get a condom for a start, in the course of wearing the condom, check out if you are OK with what he has down there, I mean the size

Once you are satisfied with that, then you have to make sure you work on him to know if he do get erection

Once you see that he gets erection, start your work on him

Since he is a virgin, turn him on and ride him romantically let me see if he will not give in

This time around, you don't need his consent to romance him

If he insist on not giving in, just leave him let him go and look for a virgin girl so that they can start lecturing themselves as a fresher that they are

Euouae:
Dude just denied boys burial Jollof rice and soda.

You may be the next so that you feed them

Always reason before typing rubbish

Adesegzy91:
Pls advice this friend of mine,

He got married late last month and after marriage, he discovers that his wife can't see at night and also the wife has mental issues that happen once in a while, whenever the mental issue happens, the wife is not violent but she will just be looking like a slowpoke on one spot for over 3-4hours until she fall asleep and when she wakes up, she doesn't remember it happening...

During their courtship,My guy was kind of religious with no sex before marriage and no sleep overs, no late night crawling, major meeting spot are public places especially church,malls,eateries etc

Now he is thinking of quitting the marriage cos of what he just discovered,

He is scared to even share it with his family cos he don't know how they will react, I even just got to know because I am his closest childhood friend and we don't hide anything from each other,I was his bestman on his wedding day.

Pls he needs advice before he slumps into depression

@Mods pls push to FP for wider advice

If it's something that doesn't have medical solutions, he have to inform his family and they will in turn inform his inlaws

As it is now, it was a marriage held with deceit and he has the right to return her to her family the way he took her before it gets out of handling

This man has really told the world how happy he is to have her as a wife

Some men with pride and ego will never applaud their wife because it will make such a man to be a lesser man


Yet he will keep on loosing

Easyincome24:
You just came into your sitting room or visitor's room to meet your friend's child in this position.
What would you do?

I will bring him down, spank him to cry and warn him never to do so, I don't care how the mum feels

If he gets electrocuted, of course you won't leave the bills alone for them

ogtechinc:
With the present situation in this country, having more babies is the last thing to think about.

But avoiding sex although is inevitable. To my Experts in the house, what days are safe ooo?

From my own knowledge, 3days after period, take a break and 18days after that same period till the next period

Alternatively, try Google Billings Method read and read again to understand it well

zeenaman:
I would like to hear from experienced couples here. 19th of this month made it two months since I've been married, yet my wife has not conceived. I'm getting a bit worried. We have intercourse all through her ovulation, though we plan on seeing the doctor this week.
Could you render advice as well as share your experience here? How long did it take you or your wife to conceive after marriage?

Lalasticlala

I am not a doctor but you can look into these

For now, you guys should be having fun for your pleasure and not strictly for pregnancy

Doing it steady on ovulation days are not the best, you can be alternating the days or as you desire

Two months is too short to be worried, anxiety alone is enough to make it not to click because of the mind set

Her body and state of mind need to be very relaxed and healthy for conception to take place, so if you are worried anytime her period comes out, you are already putting her into panic mode

Lastly, remove your mind from there and rock on as if you are just warming the bed

Remember, God's plan and timing beats our own because he is the one that says what he will do and what he cannot do does not exit

So relax yourself and let her be relaxed too for her body mechanism to be stable. What if it's a fault from your own body?

My concern is, if at admission level you are asking for assistance, what happens in subsequent levels

I just hope you won't be forced to do runs to meet up

Higher institution needs steady finance

I wish you good luck and God's protection

Schooling in the North is like going closer to your enemies Camp because of Lack of security

brosom:
Abeg make i ask

Na wetin dey cos cos all this explosion?

I think the cylinder container have a gage in terms of the thickness

But probably its not upto the standard, there is the tendency that it will explode due to pressure and exposure to heat and other weather conditions

smartsales:
6 by 6 Quality Designers Bedsheets with 4 pillow case for clearances sale.

Price: 4k each.
Normal market price is 8k .

Location: Lagos.

Call /WhatsApp: 0 9 0 7 1 4 0 0 7 0 7

Pay on Delivery.

Still available

What's the best price you can give me for the light green bedsheet alone and bedsheets with Duvet and where is your location

I want to move your ministry, lol

Olivertwist22:
pls nairalanders your opinions are needed
between managing your newly started but growing biz and joining the force....Navy precisely (with Nd result) which is more profitable and pays off later.....
asking for a friend.... your opinion with reasons will be appreciated

Join the force as Navy has job security like other federal jobs

You will continue with the business after training or any other time

brownemmanuel43:
Op na her type bi dis, no follow this advice ohhhh, separationist

If you have sense you will read that post again and again to understand every sentence there

sampete:
I have noticed this particular norm in all the houses I have stayed in. These female children are very respectful when they are yet to develop breasts. They greets you, even go on errands for you. But the moment little nubs starts appearing on their chest, reverse is the case.

I know most of you would say it's because a certain guy somewhere is toasting them and hence why they lose respect for other guys around them. This cannot be true, because most of these female children I know are being brought up in a very strict background with no opportunity to fool around with guys.

Having this in mind, what then is the reason for their sudden change of character?

They are in their puberty age where every sort of things looses guard

Investor0011:
Hello nairalanders let me go straight to the point.
My side babe called me yesterday night and told me she's pregnant. She was supposed to see her period on the 12 but it didn't show up.
So yesterday she said she was feeling someone and bought the urine pregnancy strip and it showed two red lines and she said she's pregnant.
I'm thinking of abortion cos i can't father any kid now and she's still a student and I'm in my finals.
She's on her way to the hospital now to confirm if truly she's pregnant with a blood test

Please i need best abortion pills for a pregnancy less than two weeks
Insults are allowed i know i messed up but I'm not ready to suffer a kid in this present situation.

Please i need abortion pills recommendation With zero risk of anything fatal

Abortion pills and condoms, which one is cheaper and safer

Save the two lives

Chrizoby:
I hv this problem in my own house. My younger brother enjoy putting on my clothes without my permission. The issue is that though I don't always like it but I don't want to be seen as selfish or stingy with my things. The lady I want to marry always frown at that and she told me her younger ones cannot try that with her elder brother. That they should be a line and respect even though he is my brother.
The worst that happened was when a new shirt she bought for me on my birthday,which she knew I hv not worn for one day,she saw the shirt on my brother. And the truth is that my brother didn't even ask me before putting on that shirt. Pls house, is it proper or not?

In as much as such is done where there is love and good family bond between brothers, it's time you seat him down and let him know that you will appreciate if he stops wearing your clothes and you promise to be giving him money to buy cloths when you have it and you will always transfer the ones you don't want to him

You have to do these because of your girl

She doesn't know how your family bonds with each other to avoid her reasoning the other way

Women get time Sha

purples25:
This post is just my way of letting off steam. It is truly not easy to take care of teenagers. Those who have teenagers they care for can probably relate, and those who do not can have an inkling of what its like.

I am a senior sister and second mother to my 14 year old youngest brother, and 15 year old male cousin. They are such characters that they each deserve their own section. Here goes:

Troublesome Teenager Number 1, My 15 year old Cousin: I love my cousin, but he is a serious case. When he came to live with my family, I resolved not to touch him or discipline him extensively. People staying with others tend to bring up accusations of abuse, anything you do to them is attributed to the fact that they are not your immediate family. As a result, I and my brothers handle him like an egg.

The boy took ample advantage of this. From being sullen and disciplined, he became very wild. Many times he would take offence to the slightest correction. He also goes out when he likes, picks whatever he wants from the kitchen and watches movies on my laptop from dawn till dusk. Answers me back as he likes from time to time. My brothers are his role models but if I correct him, that's where the problem lies. I think he feels I cannot and should not tame him. The funniest thing he ever did was starting to act up after he was told that the only reason I was not touching him was so as not to create issues between his mom and us. He became bolder and even tried to deepen his already deepening voice.

Whenever his mom comes around, he turns me to his enemy. He starts to perpetuate the notion that he is a victim of abuse. The last time his mom was around, he started shouting at me at his whim and when I got angry one day and slapped him, his mother finally made him a celebrated hero. She almost took him home by midnight that day, because the image of an abused boy that she wanted so badly had finally been portrayed to her.


Troublesome Teen Number 2, my 14 year old brother: I love my little brother as well. I tried to raise him like people raise kids abroad. Talking to him gently when he misbehaves, explaining to him, punishing by taking things away or just small reprimands....

That shii didn't work. He became the most troublesome little boy I knew. Whenever his friends are around, he wants to show off to them by talking over me, ignoring my demands. I started to discipline him but before long, he knew how to run to the neighbors house, taking the cane from me, and running outside where the discipline would become a spectacle. Sometimes he even yells at me too. He has tried to beat a few adults who tried to beat him. But they gave him a good beating

Since when he was small, 'he wants what he wants.' If I don't give him something, sometimes he would go and take it. Sometimes I would catch him. Time and time again, even with warnings, things still disappear at will.

When any kid around him is being bad, he wants to do two times what that kid is doing, and be loved for it. He feels that is love. From the time that my cousin came around, and we told him that we cannot touch our cousin, else it would be termed as abusing a family member from another mother.....he has taken it as proof of love that however we pardon our cousin, we must pardon him. He copies what our cousin does, does worse, and always defends himself with the fact that we leave our cousin, we dont spare him.

Now we have come to the last part, my experience with these two kids combined...


The Terrible Two: The two of them constantly answer me back, laugh and joke and even encourage me to come and punish them. They feel no amount of beating from me can break them, maybe because I am a woman. However, they have full fear and respect for the males around them. If i try to talk to them they act as if someone or something insignificant is talking. Few times though, they try to calm the wild spirits inside them, and behave.

Things still disappear at home, and even if we are the only ones at home, they both co operate and deny everything. The co operate to disrespect me. They start joking and laughing right after I'm done with my long warnings or advice talks. They tell me to come and punish them, that they will enjoy the punishment. They have turned my laptop to their permanent TV, day, night and midnight, i cant use it. If i hide it, they find it, turn it on, play whatever on it as early as 5 am till 12 or 1 on weekends. They put games there, got a game pad and play till thy kingdom come, all without my consent. They don't answer me, they do what they like when they like.

They are only tame at school. These are not kids that are meek. These are tall versions of Aki and Pawpaw that are already as tall as me at the moment.


This morning, my mom called me and told me that handling these teens is all about patience.

If you have had difficulties with teens, you can talk about your experience, to make this more interesting and educative. If you were a troublesome or troubled teen, you can also share.

Ciao!

The truth in this is that you have time to rattle with them

Password your Laptop

Distance yourself from them if possible

Engage the men at home to discipline them not you

Because of your familiarity with them, they have understood you more than you have for them

So they can even predict your next line of action

henry1500:
Good people of nairaland please I need advice or solution to my Dad's problem. He gets drunk everyday I'm scared because of health reasons and also d embarrassment. Since i was young he likes drinking. When we try to talk him into stopping he calms down after few days he gets back worst. I can talk to him again. I just don't know what to do. Please can anybody help me with a good solution?
Thank you

He is already addicted to it

Just wait when he will be sick take him to the doctor and arrange with the doctor to inform him that his life will be cut shot if he doesn't stay away from alcohol

dboY1123:
I am 28 years old this month, and the last born of my family. Although I still stay with my aged parents probably because I am waiting for my school to mobilise us by july., And I have been under pressure from my sisters that I should move away from my parents so I can see life differently and start preparing for my own private life, they said not even bachelor's life but to prepare ahead of marriage.
Well, since the corona year(last year) one of my sisters advised me to go into a business and since then I never regretted taking such action, it has been doing well even when I least expected although not that big, but at least I see like 50k monthly if I decide to save bit by bit daily thanks to Piggyvest.
The first thing is that, she wants me to pack out of there before september (my problem is that I'm going for service and I don't know how that will turnout).
Secondly, if I'm even going to pack my things, which of the two should I rent(the topic).. Which one is advisable?

What do you need a room and parlour for ?

Wait after your service and get a self contain apartment, start small and grow big

dadayung1:
Nixoderm the tube or round one.... It's very scarce now but will look for it.... Thanks

It's skin reaction

It could be due to food, environment or probably you came in with a male or female infected person and the sweat dirps on you

daylay7:
Yes, and also respecting their woman.

When a man is respecting himself, it concerns his wife and children

But some have lost it, that's why they don't have a firm grip on their family

daylay7:
hhmmmm. But you it is not always true. Although, money is a principal factor but there are some men who abide by self control despite loaded pockets.

That's the ones that have discipline in them and wants to respect themselves

fvck:
I met this babe on ig,a normal slay queen,we got to know ourselves and later she got pregnant, I was using contraceptive... but she got this lifestyle of meeting other guys,she sleeps in guy's house and call them friends, trouble came in when she told me she was pregnant and I had to tell her congratulations but I will do a dna test,from that day she stopped picking my calls.
Could it be she might have carried the pregnancy on another man's head.?
Because I just tire.

Stick to your word if she continues to put it on you and let her know that for the fact that she sleeps around, you won't take responsibility for the pregnancy until after the DNA test

It's either she keeps it or sort herself out

UTAN28:
I don't know how to believe my girlfriend even when she is telling the truth

Sometimes I'll screw her base on what's on my mind and how i think of what she is doing at my back which is not real

It will get to a point that she will need to cry before I believe her

We've been together for 6mnths now And we've been doing well

I want to believe this girl
About everything she tells me

Pls help nairalanders

What Kind of help do you need

You have already trained your mind never to trust her, so it's up to you to redress yourself

Until you loose her and get that one that will never tell you the truth, then you hang transformer

omolola100:
Dear Nairalanders,
Please i need your advice concerning the issue of my brother, there is this lady he has been dating for the past three years, he is planning to settle down with the lady but when he consulted a pastor for prayer, they told him not to marry the lady because she can never be fruitful, which means the marriage will not produce any seed.
over three prophet he consulted is against the marriage.
i told my brother not to listen to them because only God gives children but he is insisting he can't marry a barren woman.
They had fix a date for their introduction, but my brother's conclusion is that unless she gets pregnant the wedding will not hold.
this lady is closer to me and has been pleading to me and my mum to talk to my brother not to change his mind.
i am really confuse and dont know what to do again on this issue, my brother is very stubborn and wouldnt listen to anyone...

You guys should leave them alone

Your brother being the stubborn type, may blame you guys for any misfortune of that marriage

The lady in question should talk and cry to her God not you people

namo77:
Pls does anyone know why some tenants move out of the house at night? And why is it seen as a bad thing?

Just watch out the one's that moves out at night are those ones that doesn't have good looking properties at home especially their foam that would have changed to dustbin colour

Another set of people are those that are packing to their new house and doesn't want the community to see the kind of properties they have

So they move at night and arrive when people are already indoors

By the time you keep seeing them, you won't know if they have finally moved in all their personal effects

daylay7:
This question come to mind because of my encounter with some men about their marriage. I still find it funny to think that some guys after marriage would still go for another woman for sex. Some would even go after married women. Some would go for girls as young as their daughter.

A conversation ensued between my married friends and I about infidelity. When I told them since I have been married 10 years ago, I have never slept with another woman or touch another woman inappropriately. They were all surprised and called me a "pastor".

Why is it difficult for some men not to adhere to their marital vows?

It's a chronic habits formed over time

The only thing that can stop them is lack of money

Once a man's pocket is loaded, he is either at the bar or with a woman

Me I don't have issues with that so far he is facing his responsibilities at home