3 years ago, my dad sold our house without informing anyone of us. Meanwhile, we all had things left at home, including my mum's items. He never told us where some of those things are till date.
He sold that house and went to the village, he immediately started having issues with the village people. Fight today, fight tomorrow. Everyone in the village I heard now disrespect him due to how he reveal his secrets to anyone who cares to listen.
My dad wants to leave the village to go rent an apartment in another state. His financial responsibility has been on me alone. My siblings abandoned him.
He's being nursing the idea of leaving the village and never informed me. Last november I spent almost 2 million naira fixing solar power and inverter for him in his house at the village and immediately after that he started saying he wants to leave the village..
I told my dad never to relocate to the village yet, that he should wait till his is older as he is still agile and all his friends are in the state where we lived or around. He also gets contracts once in a while so I don't bear much financial burden. But no, he failed to listen and sold our house and left.
My dad wants me to cough out another 1M to rent a house, he wants it big, 3 bedroom. I told him to look for a 2 bedroom but he said where would visitors stay.
I am not even comfortable seeing him in a rented apartment, what would my cousins say, they would mock us. I have some of them who are very naughty. He is bringing shame in us.
We have two properties and my husband wants him to come and stay in one, I vehemently disagreed because he will be controlling us, some of my extended family members will come visiting him and carry the news to the village, as well as discussing my own family and I don't want that. They contributed to what is happening to him now. Through him, some of them will come to stay and I can not start what I can't continue with. So I told my husband to dead that idea fast.
He wants to leave the village latest by February. How do I convince him to get a 2 bedroom flat? 3 bedroom would mean 3 mattresses, and everything triple. My dad doesn't like anything less. All the expenses will be on me alone. My siblings don't care.
I can't turn deaf ears to his needs. I don't want him in the village and I hate to see him in a rented apartment but that is what it is now.
I need contructive advice especially those of us with retired parents, how do you relate with their needs? I told him to think of a small trade so he won't be idle like he's been since retirement and he is talking about setting up electrical pole business, I laughed. Sebi he wan rek me. Same way he did not manage hid wealth.
In as much as I appreciate all you are doing for him
He is going to reck you down
Others left him for you because he is problematic and stubborn
You go carry load tire, and it may affect you personally that non of your sibblings will care about
I think a self contain room and parlor is best for him as he will not have space to keep guest and still demands money to feed them
Tell him what you can afford and if he refuses, just ignore him
He can sort himself out. After all he sold his house, did he give you any percentage of the money to keep
If not then he has all the money he will spend to get a house of his choice and don't be surprise if he tells you that he wants a particular area to reside on
He took his stubbornness to the village and can't play the village politics That's why he had so much issues and can't cope to remain there
He has lived his own life, he should allow you to plan for your family
Smile4mee01: I'm a single 39yr old Nigeria guy in diaspora trying to settle down and going to Nigeria to marry is not an option.
I'm an introvert who has been through some childhood trauma in my family and really fear marriage because of what I have seen and how bad it can be sometimes.
However, an old female friend and colleague of mine who we worked together in Nigeria and now in canada recently contacted me and she is also single and not had children. She is doing well for herself and now a citizen there while I'm not. A part of me is concerned about
1. Fertility : I desire children. However, can she have me healthy children @ 39. How many can she have? I discussed us trying for a child , she appears to want a.marriage first. But what gurantees do I have to have children.
Should I be concerned? I dont want to enter one chance.
Please I use God beg you, no insults just advice. Abeg. God bless you.
You never said you loved her
Your were carried away by her Canadian status as a citizen
She wants marriage
You want a child
Get her pregnant and go ahead with the marriage
As you are afraid of her fertility status remember you too, your sperm strength is dropping too
Mercylike: Growing up with my family, I grew up not liking my dad but liking my mother so much that I can go to the extreme for her. It all started like this;
While we were growing, my dad having like 2 wives never really cared about us. Not even our steps siblings who are older than us. Their own even worse, they struggled and worked hard to get what the want with little or no help from our dad. Except for 1 or 2 out of 7 of them, the rest stopped at secondary school (public). My dad had no intention of being responsible for them.
Back to myself and my brother which are the only kids my mom gave my dad, he never still feels responsible.
Throughout my primary, secondary and tertiary years, I can't pinpoint one time that my dad bought sandal, cloth or anything for us. The only drug my dad has ever bought for us when we are seriously sick is paracetamol, even if we have serious sickness, he doesn't care. All he does is to call my mother to come take care of us (my mother doesn't stay fully with us because it won't even be convenient in such house with step mom but whenever she comes, she could spend a week).
Infact he was un-interested in sending us to school but thanks to my MOTHER. Though she didn't read well as she stopped as primary 5 or so but she said that she vow that she will train her children to school if they are ready to learn. Myself and my bro were ready to learn and my mom entered debts just to make sure we go to school. I could remember giving up when I gained admission, my dad already told us that he didn't send us to go to school ooo. I didn't know how my mother did it, she came home and gave me the acceptance fee and school fees with some other money. ( I cried before and after the incident, I don't know how this woman got this money but I'm sure she took loan).
Sometimes our step mom gets jealous thinking it was my dad that was doing those efforts for us but never did she know that all was my mom. I won't deny, dad contributed little but it was by force, begging his friends to plead to him to pay part of our school fee and all. But he is always boisterous of the fact that his sons are in school and all which angers me to see him boast with me especially.
Till now, I still don't feel responsible for my dad well-being. I have tried adjusting myself to loving him well but I can't. I just like him and respect him as a father but for my mom, I will do anything for her. I will go hungry for her, I will starve for her.
Nairalanders, it's being like 3 or 4 years I went to see my dad even though his place is not too far from me. He has been calling me several times that he wants to see me but I have always told him that I don't have time.
My problem is, my dad has never changed.. He is always concerned about himself, all he ask is money. He hardly calls to check up, except when he need money. Since I started working, I have never defaulted in sending him money every month but I send my mother 3 times or even 4 times what I send my dad. After all, he has our step brothers and sisters he can always ask for money. So I don't really care about him.
One statement he usually makes since we were small "Go and meet your mother". He doesn't feel responsible for our needs, all na our mother. Though he gives us daily feeding while we were growing and living under him but thanks to my mother that pays food vendors around to give us food whenever we are hungry because my dad doesn't give us enough.
Many stories but I can't say all...
Nairalanders, I still feel guilty as to why I don't like him. It feels like I have not forgiven him but to be honest, I have no issue with him.
How can I free myself from this guilt?
So far you are still giving him allowance, no matter how small I t is, you don't need to feel guilt about your relationship with him
He was not there for you when you needed him most so let him deal with it
Please don't air me. I paid my last rent in September, September 17th to be precise. When is my rent suppose to expire, is it not September the following year?
How come they are counting August?
If you do your birthday March 5, are you celebrating your next year birthday by February 5? OR When a new child is born on Monday and named Monday the following week, why didn't the naming be held on Sunday..
We calculate everything right but when it comes to rent, we draw the line?
Please come to my rescue and explain because I don't understand again.
When is my rent suppose to expire I need clarification. Thank you.
Just let him know that you will be paying rent every September
Because if you pay in August
Next year you will pay in July, so they will be shifting you at the end you will loose a whole year rent to them due to this backed dated system
Odingo1: After going on trip for business purposes for like a month or two, wife constantly demand for lab test that she don’t trust anyone. What can someone do in this situation. No cheating is involved.
She doesn't trust you, simple
She needs to be sure you don't infest her carelessly
So by the time you run several tests and your result comes out clean steadily That will help to build the trust she never had with you
Mysteriousworld: My neighbor and his wife are always fighting... What bothers me is their son, the marriage isnt healthy for him. For the first time, i helped them settle their fight yesterday. I listened to them both. The mans complain is that his wife doesnt respect him at all, for example, she says ; "im going to pure the dustbin away" then she doesnt return in another 2 hrs, she wont pick calls or she left her phone at home,(he claims hes sure shes not cheating, because thats where my mind went) when she gets back and he complains, she'll now start her own anger, saying he has no right to tell her that....shes not a child and so on....(the man doesnt police her, just expects her to tell him her whereabout). She finds it hard to say sorry(he says that scares him) She's never wrong.... And always has an excuse for being wrong...a narcissist i guess.
The wife says everything the man complained about is unnecessary, says he complains about unnecessary things... He complains too much.... Thats her problem with him.(she was in tears through out)
This is what caused the fight yesterday... They were playing and happy till they decided to go out together... Then the husband noticed her waist beads, thats where quarrel started, to the point that she bite him, and he slapped her back.... All in the eyes of their son. He said the first day they started dating, she was wearing waist bead, he told her he hates it and she removed it immediately.... Only for her to start wearing it after marriage... He said he had been complaining about it for 6 months now, until yesterday when he insisted she must remove it...
To cut the long story short, he said hes done with the marriage, and to my surprise she said she is too, she left to sleep in a guest house yesterday, says shes coming to park her load this morning... She said she'll leave with her son , he said she cant leave with his son... I guess thats where therell be issue this morning, based on the custody of the child.
The story long but this is a summary... Pls... Matured minds on nairaland.... Im confused and dont know if i should try and help them settle it... Because a part of me is thinking its better for them to go separate ways, since none of them is ready to bow to the other... At the same time... Im thinking i can help them settle it... Its just clear there will be a big issue on who takes the child this morning if they decide to end it.
Honestly you can't solve their marital problems because they too can't solve it
Doolove: I've been dating a staunch Nairalander for two years, and he also introduced me to the site. While I visit once in a while, he can't go a day without scrolling through the site and at times he draws my attention to some interesting topics and we would go through the comments together. I told him that I don't like the site due to the constant bashing of women that goes on here. To my uttermost dismay he has been so influenced by the red pill movement and it has left our relationship in tatters.
I can't remember the last time I felt pampered or got treated like a woman because he doesn't want to look like a simp. There is no love in the relationship anymore because he is always too hard on me and treats me like a man. My guy hardly ever apologizes to me, if he annoys me and I try to give him the cold shoulder he ignores me completely and moves about his business like I don't even exist. He calls my two exs simps because I gisted him about how they adored me and was always scared of losing me. It hurts me that the guy I am dating doesn't value me and is ready to move on immediately as I walk out the door.
He convinced me to come stay over at his place for a while because he wanted to train me for a remote job that he got for me which I am supposed to start next month. I objected because I know how he treats me each time that I am around but he insisted so I caved in. It's been one problem to the other since I came over. He faults every single thing that I do, I wore a cloth that a guy gifted me on our anniversary and I got the scolding of my life. I got moody and told him to avoid me when he tried talking to me later that day, he simply said okay and disappeared from the house till late in the night.
He sees everything as an insult to his person, he said it's disrespectful to pick calls from guys in his presence, he would still accuse me of cheating if I go outside to pick those calls. Just two days back I was angry at him because of something he did that I didn't like so I flung his hands away when he tried to touch my cheeks and play with me, Oga stood up and started ignoring me. I was just expecting him to apologize and pamper me but he just locked up and left the house to God knows where. When he returned, I dressed up to go out with a friend and he told me not to return to his house if I leave. He treats me like a piece of furniture and won't still let me go out with people that are ready to give me attention.
This issue is making me lose my feelings for him and he doesn't even care. We hardly have sex because his touch irritates me due to his attitude towards me. If I turn down his advance once he doesn't bother to try again for days. In my previous relationships the guys always comes crawling and begging at night to have sex but this one doesn't even send, he can lock up for two weeks which makes me wonder if he is gay sometimes. He came back home very late on Friday night because he was avoiding me, I hid the food in the house because I was angry at him and he went to bed hungry. He woke up late at night to boil potatoes and woke me up in the process, I told him where I kept the food and he told me to eat it alone.
He left home by 7am yesterday for his football training only to come back by 10pm leaving me all alone in the house. I had to go out with a friend only to come back and didn't still meet him at home. He came back, took his bath and left the house again. He came back one hour later and slept on the floor. I woke him up to eat because I cooked with the money he left at home and he rejected the food citing the previous incident of me hiding food from him so I should continue cooking and eating alone. I told him that the food would waste because I already enjoyed where I went to. He just said I was disturbing him and should have gone home with the guy instead. He keeps making me feel like I am not wanted, he would tell me that he has the right to do whatever he wants because it his house but I must abide by his rules because I am a woman. He can go out and come back anytime he likes but I can't do the same, if I try it he would ask me to leave as if I am an IDP. All my complaints about how bad he was treating me fell on deaf ears, he just ignored me and slept off. He woke up this morning and is keeping to himself.
Please is this what the red pill is all about? I keep craving attention and love from my man and it's not forthcoming, I would have broken up but I really need the job he promised me while I wait for service. Is there something that I can do to salvage this relationship? Please I am sorry for the epistle and errors, I just needed to pour out my heart somewhere.
Tell me exactly where Nairaland is responsible for this guy's attitude
This guy has complex issues, do you still need Nairaland to point that out for you
You made yourself too cheap and available by living in the same house with him Not that he is already engaged to your or you guys are married
One of the things you need in your life is a man that will pamper you, make it a must to find such man, because all you want is attention and affection But this guy doesn't have that in his Lexicon
So you have to deal with his attitude and get the service you want and find your way out
Afodot0022: Good day nairalanders. Pls I need your utmost input on this and how to go about this. My girlfriend is a travel agent that deals with anything travels and flights booking. It happens that I gave her some link to a friend of mine abroad that wants to book a flight tickets for his family of four in Nigeria to come over to meet him abroad which made my girlfriend to make a substantial amount profit from the deal. After everything, I expect my babe to atleast give me something out of the money she made or worst case scenario, get me a gift to atleast appreciate me for what I did by bringing client to her so that it will motivate me to do more for her in that area but till now, she had not mentioned it. Now I want to ask if it will make sense asking her of my own share out of the deal and hope it won't make me look somehow or greedy. I just felt I should get something cos I made lots of efforts to ensure the deal was concluded and now I feel like been cheated somehow. To her, she felt it was just a goodwill.
Is too late now to ask of your profit
You would have discussed that from onset
Anyway you can still ask her and if she doesn't give you, consider it gone
Next time you know your percentage
She believes you assist her to do business and wasn't expecting you to ask for your share
Kingrshd3: Hi house, I discovered something and have seen it in nearly like everywhere make I no exaggerate .
Most parents that gave birth it's normal to cater for them from child till adult now let me assume they grow up as an adult then get a job and leave the house for d parents ..
These children forget the parents all because they struggle on their own to feed again and this so called parent have worked all their lives to send this child to school untill adult now that the parents are aging too they are still working working and working ..
Those this simply means giving birth to a child doesn't guarantee rest at old age?
Elders in the house oya óò drop comments
The economy is hard and the children may still be finding their feet and so the parents doesn't want to be an early liability to them
The parents may not want to retire from struggling and do they still have strength to hustle
Kingrshd3: There was a kid i.e my neighbors son in my compound right from 6months of birth he has been doing some unique trait of an adult and the parents likely tag him obanje , witch and posses child .. Can you ask me what are d trait?
1. If this boy want to peel and he is on d bed he will walk down til peel and can never peel on the bed .. this has happened for like 75 times which I can testify to it too..
2. Similarly if he wants to pupu too this boy will do the same
3. This boy can't sleep between his mum and dad instead he will crawl down and sleep on the floor . So most times in the midnight u Wil see him sleeping on the floor but na bed Dem put am óò 🤔
4. If you see this boy at age 7/8months he can reciprocate or repeat what he has seen on the TV screen like smile and laugh like an adult 🤔
Similarly he will sit on the chair and cross leg and watching TV just like an adult 🤔
5. Before I forget the parent said the day he was born he couldn't sleep where all babies are in the ward the crying was just too much all in d name of (HEAT) untill the nurses carry this baby to a private ward with AC na so this boy sleep till day break i.e the first day in his life he slept insode Air condition imagine a child that his skin cant accomodate such as such age 🤔..
So till date this boy can feel too much or so much heat that if he is sleeping and nepa takes light within the next 15ninutes he will wake up and start crying seriously 😒
And many I couldn't remember...
So the parent are talking Abt taking him out for casting of the spirit out ☹️
What do you think guys although he is now 1year 1month old now..
but as for me I told his parent I think he is a blessed child and not obanje witch 🤔
What do you think
That is a gifted and Destiny child
They should let the child be
Before they take him to one place that they want to deliver him and may end up taking his Destiny
fineboynl: Why wealth look good on fat people than slim people? If you see two people well dressed and standing beside an SUV. At a first glance you already believe the car belongs to the fat person.
Fat people or people on the big side have that personality physic
So they look rich even when they are passing through financial difficulties and no one will belive them because of their stature
The slim people are assumed that they don't have whereas they are even the richer in pocket and account but because of their stature we underate them
woodr5711: I recently fixed prepaid meter on my betting shop. I only have 1 ceiling fan, 2 white bulb, 3 laptops and 5 computer monitor as display. Working time is 8am to 7pm
I need an estimate like How many units can I be consuming per day? How much is unit? Does the price of unit same with all provider? How can I be able to know what I consume to avoid been cheated? How to reduced consumption?
The only thing you can manage is to off bulbs
But that same bulbs are wgat illuminates inside the shop both day and night
Fan must be on especially this hot weather
Monitoring must be on because that's where the deals are done
peretei2024: I dropped him around 4:26pm. I just found out that he is new in Lagos and no one told me about that.
Aboki regards any spot he finds himself comfortable to stay
That guy may have gone else where to meet his fellow Aboki for job
Just that he may not have a phone to reach him
Just go with armed police to where the woman stays to know the situation of things and make sure you go unannounced to be sure the shop was hijacked by his people
Aboki can't get lost because their people are every where
Crystal08: Hey guys, I am looking for answers or solutions to my situation. I am married to my Igbo husband for 6 years now and we are living abroad, I myself am of mixed blood, half amerindian and half African. The problem is, my husband has a son with a woman many years ago, he now wants to pay her bride price to claim his son. Will that action give her any rights or is it only for him to be able to get his child. This woman has been calling his phone unstoppable as if she is his wife, what am I missing here? I am his wife, and this matter is disrupting the peace in my home. We have 3 children together , a son and after two daughters.
Well it's going to be a game of gambling
If he pays the bride price to claim his son, he has automatically married her and that is it
Unless he goes back again to say that he doesn't want to marry her again and they should refund the bride price, which is also a traditional system
I bet you the woman family will ask the woman in questions if the bride price should be returned
If she says yes it should be returned which I doubt if she will say yes, then good luck
But if she says no, that means she is his wife and she will gradually creep into the man's family because a child is involve
But the best option is to pay her off and collect the child That is if she will ever agree to accept financial settlements
But one other thing is that, if the child grow up, he will return home to his father and bring back his mum
The only way you can protect your children is to make sure that anything you buy with your money that is an asset
Put your name and your children names befire his family will claim is their brother property's
The if both you and your husband are buying any property together
Make sure your name is specified and spelt out just as his own name will be spelt out in it
That is Mr - - - - - and and Mrs - - - - -
One thing you must know is that, that child is his first son and he is recognized as his first son
But if your husband have respect for you Let him just settle that woman
theamazonguru: Chai it is a pity. Her insulin level is zero. It's a pity she might have more complications. Very bad eye sight issue which can lead to eye blindness. Leg problem that can also lead to amputation.
Hardunmhi: I’m looking to get out that’s why I try looking for what can help me while looking for a job sir. I’m not looking for women I’m looking for way to get out of my depression why trying to get something else to do. Thanks
I am not against you relating with the opposite sex, I think you are doing so to kill boredom and get companion to avoid frustration that you are passing through
You will be fine, it's a phase that you are passing through caused by hard times
Testiebobo: I'hv being trying to stop my mum from consuming excess beef in her food including her addiction to indomie, but to no avail she is not gonna stop. She can eat five pieces of beef in a small plate of rice at a time. And she is not the type that use to stress herself or engage in any exercise, too much of indomie and beef is excess fat. How do i advice her as her child?
Anytime she falls sick thst she has to go to the hospital, follow her While waiting for her medical test result to be out
Inform the Doctor about her consumption of those deadly foods
And tell Doctor to warn her to stay away from it if she wants to live healthy
I have an aunt that drinks cocacola like water, I warned her she didn't hear, her family warned her she did not take their words
I went to her family Doctor and reported it to him and ask him to warm her
The Doctor said he is tired of warning her and I ask the Doctor the way forward, he said she will reap it
Now she has Diabetics and her own is the bad one that she has been taught on how to inject herself daily morning and night
Its also affecting her seight as she uses eye drop that must be in the Fridge
I am from a nuclear family of seven, five children and my two parents. I and my siblings grew up in Lagos. My dad is a land surveyor while my mum a petty trader. We all attended public school in Lagos (elementary and high school) I'm the third child of 5 children. I am my elder siblings had to hawk immediately we returned back from school before we could eat. Including my mum. My dad wasn't getting job but we had to survive. We were a laughing stock then in our neighborhood. We later advised our mum to put her goods in bag instead of tray, then supply to her customers. We were selling quick oat, butter, toothpaste et al. We got the goods on credit through someone and pay back after sales. We realized the profit wasn't sustainable, then we consider alternative means. We hawk during weekdays and wash cars and motorcycle weekend. With that we were able to pay our accommodation fee (a single room), put food on our table to some extent and other miscellaneous fee.
We've been on this for years. The landlord later gave us quit notice having realized we could no longer put up with the accommodation fee. My family moved into a friend's house. He lived in a room and palor. He gave us a room to live while him and his family lived in the other room. We were able to raised money after two years and rented an apartment (a single room) then moved in
My eldest brother (first child) was hit by a car when he was washing a customer's bike, he was rushed to a nearby hospital but we eventually lost him. We had to stopped the work because of that particular iccident. After several months of searching, i and my elder brother were able to get a factory work. I had plan of saving all my money with the hope of furthering my education, but family responsibility wouldn't allow me save. I later had a change of mind going to police academy, from my research, it was a free school and one would be absorbed as an ASP officer, that's automatic employment. I sat for jamb and the school post jamb at police college Ikeja, Lagos. I was shortlisted for final screening at wudil Kano. Unfortunately, i couldn't make it. I don't have much money to get the needed materials and transportation fee. It was a sad experience for me.
I continued working, but this time around, i wasn't supporting the family with all my money. I had some savings. My supervisor advised me to further my education. He claimed i can't continue this job throughout my lifetime. I took jamb the following year and got admission. I bought bike (motorcycle) with the little savings i had after paying my tuition fee and other necessity. I gave out the bike as Higher purchase. The bike man delivered six thousand naira weekly until the bike become his. I didn't get accommodation in school because i couldn't afford it. I was squatting with friends. My elder brother enrol for part time program. During holiday i often rushed down home to find something doing that could fetch me some money.
I realized my elder brother was stealing company's goods with his friends. I gave him serious warning to stop that but he wouldn't listen. I was forced to tell my parents but he denied it. I was in school when my younger brother called me that my elder brother has been arrested with his friends. After the investigation, police demanded for a million naira before he would be released. I learnt the company management has let go the case. My elder brother has been behind bar for more than 7 years now without a way out. We can't say if he's alive or dead. I saw one of his friends mid last year, and he told me most of his friends had been released having met the condition of the police officer. I'm done with school but couldn't secure a job. I've gotten to the final stage of some organization, I've done medical test but i wasn't called up. My younger brother has finished his high school since 2019 but couldn't further his education. He's very talented in playing football. My little sister finished her high school last year and the little girl was asking if she could take jamb. My dad has been seriously ill for some days now but no means of getting him drugs nor taking him to the hospital. I fear for my dad at this moment. My family struggled daily before we could have a square meal. My mum has prayed, cried, fasted nothing changes. She was saying it could be a family course. My family is gradually going into extinction.
What a teary story of a family who struggles to meet up
You guys are not cursed, the only problem I see there is poverty, which your parents couldn't brake during their prime time
But God will Make away soon for your family
As for your brother in jail, his stubbornness put him there because you warned him before now
Let him serve his jail term and he will be out soon
For you and others try not to have much children so that you can care for their future and education no matter the income
I appreciate your efforts to raise yourself to the point you are Pls don't give up
Because the geologist was the one who did the survey. Brought his own drilling company to drill the well, and install the pump.
I was not around on the say he installed the pump but he claimed he flushed it on the same day.
Flushing will not really solve the problem
Casing the well wall may reduce that color
Was it digged like the type of bore hole that is tiny with just that blue pipe if yes, then probably he didn't treat the water properly
If it's dug like a real well and the the submersible machine was put insde
Then the wall need or be cased with concrete round pipe those ones used for road where there is a T gutter, it can be placed to a certain level where water splashes on the wall during pumping , I mean those concrete that looks like drum sold by block industries
BlackfyreRebell: Please advice me My ex husband and I are divorced 2 years ago. He recently acquired an European citizenship, he also wants to extend the citizenship to our son. Though I thought it a good idea but I can't shake the feeling that he is trying to use that to take him away from me. He told me our son will need to come over there to finish the process of his citizenship. But when I went to submit the "application" what I saw on it is different from what he told me. The paper read that I am consenting to my son to go and reunite with his father. Or is that the way they process it? Please those that have gone through same should please come to my aid, this is my only child and I can't afford to lose my child this way.
I think the best way to go about it is for him to file for both of you to visit on vacation
Then you come back together
Then if he has to relocate then he should sponsor for both of you to relocate
When you get there, you stay with your son and he schools under your roof even if his dad is the one paying his upkeep
The he will have full access to him while living with you
Anything short of this, your son Is gone forever till God knows when you will see him again
If he can't file for both of you then he should forget it Mid he wants to see his son he should visit him at home
Thabothabo101: This is a great comment and I hope the OP takes heed. OP, please read this and other comments carefully and be nice to your ex.
The last thing you want to do is to start threatening her (your ex) with lawyers and police. That will only make things worse. Give her space, go about your day, and fill up your time with activities, you sound like an idle man.
I swear, he sounds idle and stranded with himself then wants to pour it oh his woman
Family › Re: Advise, My Father Sold His House And Moved To The Village Now He Wants To Leave by frozen70(f): 7:20pm On Jan 27, 2024
I need clarification. Thank you.