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babaYIBO:
Just saw a thread where a guy is complaining about his friend not telling him about the fact that he was building his house, and I see a lot of comments complaining condemning the said friend.

https://www.nairaland.com/7892469/he-completed-house-without-uttering

Funny how people exact same thing happened to me last year, this time it wasn’t a from a friend but a blood sister who I thought loved me the way I do for her.

This woman was building her house while pretending to everyone that she was broke.

Funniest thing is, few weeks to moving to us getting to know about the house, she was asking me to lend her 300k as she has plenty debts to pay. Almost sent her 100k, but then I remembered how she prefers to party with her women associates more than she’s willing to buy anything for my parents. This is someone that my dad built and opened shop for.

If a friend do this to me now, walahi I won’t be surprised.

You see people that does things in secret fear them

Only them knows their motives

To me sje didn't do well, building is secrets
What if her enemies dies, both the land and thr building is gone forever

In her own case, she is still single, why not inform her parents who will even guide her more

Its her money quiet alright, but then people should always inform their family of their intending project, no one will take it away from you

I will inform my family but may not take you there if I feel I don't want any of them to know the place or location

Even her future husband, If he gets to know that she built in secret he will start having silly feelings about her

Ok now that she has built in secret, what point was she proving

When i was single, I wanted to buy a car, I was living with my parents, I told my dad, he said he will like to go with me to inspect the car

When we go there, he drove the car round and confirmed that the car was ok, we went to the bank and paid the owner of the car and brought him back to his office and went home with the car

For one month my dad was working on the car to put it to taste and introduce his mechanics to me and that was it

After that I started using the car

If I detect a y fault, I will inform him and leave the car key for him

He will take it to mechanic work on it and bring it back and I will pay to the mechanic

He has his own car but whenever he has an occasion he prefers going with my car
He will give me advance notice that he will use the car on that day and he will I will say ok

That was how both of us were using the car

Not quite long I bought another car and he went with me to inspect it and I left him there to work

He came home with the car went to car wash to wash the car and keep it neat

Went to mechanic to change oil and service the car

When he was done he gave me the key and the bills of what he did with the car

Anytime he has occasion he will leave the other first car and ask for the new car
Mind you he ha his own car ohhh

So it was fun to the family and we were all happy
Till I got married and life goes on and I left those cars for him and bought another one in my marriage, he was still the one that inspect the third one while in marriage

He keep praying ans blessing me with prayers and today I didn't regret all I did for him and how I carried my family along too

Your sister is a case and a character

Whizzdom:
Thanks.... I appreciate.

No matter the cost of test the hospital will subject you to, it's still cheaper than becoming a deaf

So visit an ENT Doctor for proper diagnosis and get yourself treated properly

Greatmind653:
Pls, if you don't really understand this post, don't comment please. If you're gender bias, pls, read and ignore.

Good morning kind hearted people in the house. Pls, I need honest and matured advice from experience and knowledgeable people in the house.

How can I train my sons especially my 11yrs old boy into a good, respectful, well behaved young man in a situation where he constantly see his father in gambling addiction, and the house is not always peaceful because of this?

How can I make them believe that the fact that their father does not provide anything for them nor anything in the house, does not mean they're not good enough?
My son has learnt the habit of not asking his Dad for anything no matter how little because he knows the answer already. He would rather starve than ask him for anything. Every of his needs, he will patiently wait for me.

I practically provide everything in the house and he knows. Infact my husband and my two sons can be in the house hungry for the whole day if I'm not around.
Any money he has is strictly for betting. He wouldn't even use it to feed himself not to talk of his children.
He eat anything I provide in the house without him providing. Most times it's very annoying.
Most times, we don't talk to each other in this house, yet anything I cook, he must eat.
I'm trying my best, because I can't watch my kids go hungry or stay without light, water, TV subscriptions and the rest. But once he's holding TV remote, no one dare change the channel.

How can I train well behaved young boys in a home like this? I'm so lonely and worried for my children too.

I'm no longer traumatized by his gambling addiction, because I have tried everything, and it didn't work if this is the life he wants, then fine.

I'm traveling with my two boys for the Christmas and I intend to stay in my family house for a very long time. Maybe not to return back here.
This house, I shoulder the house rent, all the bills all for the sake of my children. I don't want a broken home. I don't want my children growing up lonely without the presence of their both parents. But, am I doing the right thing here?
My husband has refused to change for years. all efforts, complain, family intervention all failed.
He's been in gambling even before we got married. I have endure for so long and I'm scared if what I'm enduring really worth it.

I've given up either.

Am I making my children better by staying together here or they could be better when we're apart?
Anyone experience this before?

What's the right thing to do here?

Weldone for upholding the value of your family despite the challenges that you are passing through

I think you can put those children in boarding school so that they will not be noticing the short coming of their dad this gambling life

They already knows that he is not useful to them in any way as a dad

See yourself as a single parent and plan your life with your children in a way that you won't be carrying too much family load

Get or stay in an apartment that you can afford to pay

Put them in boarding school that you can afford the fees

Live your life happily

As for your husband, just ignore him and his irresponsible life and don't give him a penny for any reason, use the money to feed your children and cater for their needs

Na him go tire

Peter532:
Don't let peer pressure tension you.
I am 36 entering 37 few month from now and I still live with my mother.
My dad is late and my mum is aged, I see no reason going to rent an apartment when the one I am living can easily be mine.
I just need to refurbished it and I am good with my wives and kids.

I know some negative people will come to catch me witch saying I am for the death of my parents and so my kids Will wished for me too when I am aged.

That's where you are wrong no one is praying for anyone's death.
It's contentment.
I am planning on taking my relationship life serious and bring an offspring next year. Just a mini introduction my fiancee family that should do till we are ready to tie the knot.

Happy new year in advance.

These are your plans and decision

When you marry, the real plans and decisions will come in

By then you will be left with, following your decision or your wife decision

onobire83:
I have 2 kids (boy and girl) with my wife in a marriage of 6 years , and I needed another child but my wife doesn’t (she went for family planning) what should I do?

Advice please

If you like end the marriage and start another one

By the time you have more children and she says she doesn't want another child,

End the second marriage and start another one

Continue like that untill you have Childress scattered every where

Of all life issues and worries, having many children are the only problem you have

Am sure that woman is the bread winner of that family

Valoromega:
My wife and I are expecting our first child, so currently I'm saving up money before the baby comes, we are also trying to get baby things of almost 400k.

But she wants me to buy Christmas rice for her mom. I've already decided that I'm not buying anything for anyone this December, including my own mom. But she wants me to buy for her mom which I refused becauze my baby is more important.
Mind you, she has elder ones who can't even get anything for their mom this December (she's the youngest). I just lied to her that I'm broke and I don't have any money. But I have close to 1.7 million which I want I to save for the baby and also get a car for when the baby comes.

I'm I making the right decision by ignoring everyone this December or should I take like 100k and just buy a bag of rice and share to the mom.

Personally I don't want to spend a dime on anyone because my child is the most important thing right now

You did well with your decision

But if she continues to pressure you

That 100k

Send 50k to your mum and her mum in her presence

Call both mum and wish them happy Christmas and let use the 50k to entertain themselves

Your wife will give you another pressure for some thing else, learn to stand by your words and stamp on your feet if you know that you can't afford her need and that the need is not really necessary ar that time

I am still wondering what baby items you need to buy with 400k

As for the 1.7m that you have, you are planning to buy a car. Pls think twice before you waste that money

Arrival of a baby is always an expensive moment but full of joy

Efna55:
I got married to her a virgin and we never intend having babies early because I intend putting her in school, to cut the long story short she became pregnant and I was very sure about the natural methods I used, there were also many circumstances that made me think the baby may not be mine, the baby is few months old and I took her to do a secret DNA test while the mother went to school for some registrations, the diagnostic centre said without the mothers consent it cannot be done..
Pls advice..

This is very simple

Just tell her that you want to run a DNA on every child she births for you and keep the result certificate as a pure prove that you are their father

If she queries you she married you a virgin
Tell her yes that you confirmed that

If she refuses then, there could be more to it

Ilf she agrees make sure you run same test on other children both of you will have

Greatmind653:
How do you handle loneliness in marriage?
There's no intention of cheating, but lonely.
Like a very deep space between you and your partner, due to the fact that he has a particular lifestyle (addiction) inflicting stress on everyone in the family that you don't like, but he has refused to change.
This has removed love, intim.acy and affection in the marriage, thereby making it look so empty. Like you both can stay months without touching each other.
How do you manage such home/relationship?

Sorry that it has gotten to this stage

You guys are just room mates, but minding your business and nothing more

Focus on your kids if any and make friends with people online

He too is is busy with online friends

Loneliness kills faster than malaria

GorillaApp:
Sequel to the last post....
I don't feel there is a need to create a new thread. I just wanted to get the opinion of some of the mature ladies that gave their opinion the last time, so kindly permit me to quote you. Don't feel offended. We just want to exhaust all reconciliatory opportunities. I'm already invested in this case.

So just like Frozen70 advised up there, we decided to get the family aware of why the man left to stay alone ( to avoid violence).
turns out the meeting was larger than anticipated. From the word go, it was clear the family of the lady was supporting their daughter tacitly.
After all said and done, the elder sister of the lady( wife) advised her younger sister to go see her mother in-law and try to reconcile with her and re-establish a relationship with her. She agreed there in the meeting.
My friend( former neighbour turned friend) allowed the lady to visit some weekends with the son. According to him, he didn't just want to ask her to move in when she hasn't mend fences with his family He waited for months, hoping that the lady will at least call mama or visit her and even reach out to other members of the family. She never did she just kept talking about moving in completely with the man
So just last week, bro decided to take things up a notch. He told the wife that she should make out time to go and spend a couple of days with his mother together with their son. She pointedly refused and said that no lady does that
The husband told him that if she doesn't go, then there is no need coming back together as one. According to him, he cannot have a divided family.
His fear is, what if he japa in the future, the woman will never have anything to do with his family and they won't even have access to his son anymore
We are puzzled because I know a lot of women who visit their mother in law and even spend a day or two.
This man has tried but this woman is unyielding. Please my sisters, I want to humbly ask, Is there anything wrong with visiting or spending days with your mother-in-law? Is it out of place?
I'm asking because let it not seem as if the brother is taking a harsh step. He has said if she doesn't go and visit, then he is finally putting an end to everything. He is from the east and you know they do travel as family. How can they co-exist together when they go to the village? Is it not the place of the younger woman to swallow her pride and approach her mother-in-law?
Sorry for my ramblings. Since you have made an input before now, I wanted to get your opinion on this new development.
Tomorrow dem go say men are bad, what's there in going to your husband's mum? She was even willing to let bygone be bygone and just be your friend. What kind of pride do possess some women? Smh! I just told bro to focus on his life, sometime in the future, a good lady will come. EOD
Cc
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1sharon
Biglittlelois
Sanguine

That wife of him is so stubborn and unyielding

I think if am the man, the marriage is over since she can't respect my mom

The guy should move on

As for his son, he will look for his dad when the time comes

Once a while he should send money to her because of his child and get a file jacket to record the receipt before she will deny it

Living with a stubborn woman leads to early grave to men

She is not the only woman on earth

Its easier to survive living with a stubborn man in marriage
Its difficult to survive living with a difficult woman in marriage

Pls i have a question
If one has paid visa fees, for two people in the family

Then give the receipt to a visa agent
Are you supposed to pay the agent processing fees to book date for two people

Or he will charge you for just booking the date and not that whatever charges he charged will now be twice for the processing instead of once for both processing

PrinceOfLagos:
I'm a free spirited person and want to send something to my boss for Christmas. Is it appropriate to tell him to send me his account number let me send him something for Christmas even when I know he doesn't need it?

I Think is best to visit him with the money in envelope and say to him,
Sir happy Christmas

okoliobinna84:
Good day Nairalanders, I parked my car (2007 Honda CR-V ) in one of my neighbors compound, covered it with car cover and travelled. Behold, when I came back to go pick my car, I noticed that the door knob has been tampered but they didn't get access to the car and I immediately rushed to the bonnet, it has been knocked open.

It was then I noticed that the car has been tampered with and nicely covered back. I called my mechanic to come and check all that is missing in the car. True true, the thief did me dirty.

The fuse box is missing, the compressor was stolen, many wires were cut and some other parts were stolen.

Since I came back, I have tried to fix the car but can't find the exact fuse box that matches my car. I have gotten 2 fuse boxes at Mgbuka Obosi but none of them worked. Please I really need help.🙏🙏🙏🙏

So painful, sorry about that

Plus4you:
Few days ago my wife was angried and utterred some statements that I do not like.
The statement was that she relating an issue by using my mum
The statement was "had it been it was your mum that did that you would have find means to repay her'.
I find it offensive for uttering such a statement, I was offended immediately but I kept my calm because we are already prepared to go out.

So when we came back I informed her that I am annoyed with what she said.

Her reply was that she did nothing wrong with such a statement because she didn't insult or belittle my mum.

I told I'm not but she decided not to apologize for that.

After two days our communication has not been normal and it only greetings.

So the next day I called and discussed it with her but still stands that she isn't wrong.

We have not been in good terms since then,

Please isn't she supposed to apologise despite that I told her I don't like the statement?

You guys already have issues that just trigger other incoming issues

If she doesn't want to apologize, tell her to her face that you don't want her to insult your mum, directly or indirectly

Then when next you offend her and she demands for apology, remind her that she is owing you an apology

L1TTLE:
She brazenly told me "I have a 5yr old son", before she did I was crushing hard, then she told me she has a son today, I was taken aback for a while but much to my shock, I find her more attractive now? Instead of getting repulsed by the new information I want her more now, is it weird? Lol, I'm even thinking she can bring her son and live with me like we're family.

Please advise me.

Being a single mother is jot a curse but a blessing to her because some married women are even looking for a child

No need to bring the child yet to live with you

Understand the relationship you are having with her then decide if you want marriage with her or you want just a mistress

If you must bring that child to live with you

Make sure you are already married with her and settle down

Ask her more about his dad so thst you will understand the background of that child

Love can be found in any where and from any one

Thr most important thing is a partner who will give you happiness in a relationship

Queendiamond398:
My husband prefers been busy on his phone with his numerous exes, divorcee and single ladies than gisting with me if we are together, i have always want him to have peace of mind but it seems he doesnt think of that about me

Am begining to find peace gisting with his friend anytime he comes to visit, some persons may say i saw the handwriting on the wall before i married him,Hell NO! .He succeded in making me chase all my friend both male and female away but now have numerous to chat with and laugh and please himself.

He thinks his smart but i pity him, is just my home training that is limiting me to do some kind of evil things ,we will go for party or club he will leave me and go and be sitting in midst of other ladies, while some men will come and sit with me and making advances at me and he doesnt know. Some of his friends that are as useless as him and come with their wives or Fiance doesnt know young and energetic men do have quickie with their wives at the rest room

My religion and the way i value my body can't make me to stooop so low to do all those things but why will a man choose to neglect the wive to be dieing of boredom .

Because of lack of attention my Male Colleagues always try to take advantage of that and be chatting with me till midnight without him even seeing it.

We lived in a separate room that this his attitude can make someone to be cheating without him knowing but i dont want to do that Please someone should help me out
Please am dieing slowly i have confronted him so many times but he will tell me i dont have the right to tell him what to do

He has chosen his own path of how he wants his love life to be

You can never change him

Its up to you now to find a way to way of not allowing his style to put you into depression

You too, find a way to make yourself happy.
Him.no send you

Machinegun91:
800k can do the job

Even if he is using canopy as roofing

That amount will go just for wood for the roofing, minus labour fees

Prettygirl200:
According to him I don't support his dreams, I don't encourage him, that my love for him was conditional, over time he keeps telling me that all the ladies that have come into his life has this tendency of supporting him and all of that, and I happen not to fall in that category, so because of that he keeps comparing and making reference's all the time it's always brings issues between us every now and then.

Some months ago he was facing serious financial problems, and all I was able to do the little I could even though it was chicken change but again he met a lady who did more than I did and the comparison started again, it again brought fights and arguments, off recent he has met a lady who according to him supported him greatly which he told him he has been able to bounce back and things are getting better, after some days he told me thesame lady confessed that she was in-love with me it was after that confession he then told me that he has seen and known how a woman can love unconditionally, that the lady never asked him of anything , that she supported his dreams and is encouraging something I couldn't do. Before then he told me about some things I was doing which he didn't like, I tried to adjust to suit in the woman he wanted me to be character wise that was when he told me I was acting up and pretending to love him because of what I stand to gain from him.

I just got fed up of the whole thing and told him that if the lady is the kind of woman he wants in his life he should be with her, he has always talked about a supportive woman and since I couldn't or didn't fall in that category I decided to let him go in other for me to have peace of mind. So I blocked him everywhere just so it will be easy for me to forget about him and everything, I don't know if I did the right thing?.

You have tried
He complains that you don't support him

I am not surprise, he came into the relationship with high hope of support from someone who is also looking for support

Just move on with your life

Someone out there has been willing and ready to have you, wait for him to come

smartr:
Greetings. Pls do you have the number of any staff that works there??

No pls
Create time to go there and get more infor by yourself

DyshApp:
A married man has anonymously taken to social media to complain about his wife’s addiction to watching cartoons with their children.

According to him, his wife was always excited to watch and sing along to the cartoon with their kids and she would narrate the stories to them if they missed them.

According to the man, something must be wrong with his wife. While admitting that she has not failed in her roles as a wife and mother to his kids, he reiterated his worry that he felt she should have grown past cartoons.

He appealed for help to fix the cartoon problem.

In his words:
"I feel like something is wrong, I don't really get her sometimes. She doesn't even watch the movies I want us to watch together unless I really encourage her. She acts like me not watching those their cartoons with them, I'm missing out on something great.

“My wife, 37 years old, enjoys watching cartoon even more than our kids. When I say cartoon, I mean animated movies.
Our first boy is 14 years old down to our last who is currently 4 years old.
They’ve turned the home into a cartoon home.
They are soo addicted, they sing their songs, do their dances and discuss those things all the time.
My wife at her age will be running as if something strange was happening and she forgets herself to be an adult sometimes.
I’ve tried to explain to her that I don’t really like it, I don’t complain because they are being happy but, I don’t understand my wife’s addiction. Even when the kids aren’t around, she’ll be watching animated movies alone.

Once they get home, she’s going to narrate all she watched to them and even demonstrate with actions some funny/emotional scenes.
I feel like something is wrong, I don’t really get her sometimes. She doesn’t even watch the movies I want us to watch together unless I really encourage her. She acts like me not watching those their cartoons with them, I’m missing out on something great.
Is there something I can do to help her? It’s somehow bothering me.

Kindly note that, she’s fully employed and still does her duties as a wife and a mother. I don’t have any problem on that side, I just feel she’s addicted to animated movies when actually, she has grown pass it.”

Children will make sure you don't change their cartoons station there by forcing you to watch along with them

To me what she is doing is not wrong

Besides watching cartoons as an adult makes you find your self in children's world

ImoleNaija:
For weeks, I have lost interest in sex. Even when I try to force the erection, I lose it before mounting, as there's no strength to sustain it at all. All her words of encouragement/motivation hold no water. She's so pitiful.


Experienced husbands, how do you manage your sex drives & financial depression?

You are too young to experience lose of strength to get erection

I don't know your age but am sure something is responsible for that low libido

It could be a health challenge

It could be depression of which, you should know what is giving you depression
You have to identify it and get it solve
Instead of looking for away to solve low libido when there is an already established cause for it

It could be some medications that are altering the system in your body

So I think, you have to ask yourself what is exactly is the problem and where is it coming from

Christianoir:
I’ve been writing exam since i haven’t gotten any carryover…Just had one today God [u] I feel disgusted and ashamed.. since I started writing exams since Monday all my grade have been A throughout
It cbt exam once you finish writing you will see your score

I wrote and score 40/100 which is F (carryover)
The course wasn’t that hard..I read it, it was time
60 questions to answer 20min too small.

I don’t know what to do….this is my first
This is my first carryover course since
It breaking me down

I don’t even have to zeal to read for next course again

I Understand how you feel

I love your zeal to keep on keeping on

But someone else may have gotten more than one carry over

So cheer up my dear brother

After all you have been on As although as you said

Carry over is part of your passing through school

ojobolinda:
I remember how happy I was when I found out I was pregnant!. I hurriedly went and registered for antenantal and I carry out my first Ultrasound same time and it shows 6weeks gestational age which was accurate based on my calculation of my LMP.

After 2weeks and some days, I started having light bleeding and I rush to the hospital to know what was wrong because I try to eat healthy and also try not to stress myself so what is happening?!!. The nurse i met ask me to go for another Scan to be sure the baby is Ok. I went for the scan and that was how my world came crumbling down on me.

Based on the scan result, my baby stopped growing at week 6, I am already 9weeks gone while my baby is still measuring 6weeks just like the first scan I had, and BLIGHTED OVUM was written as the cause. After 2 day, I went to another diagnosis center and was advice to evacuate because I have missed abortion.

I did the D&C a week later and it was painful because I wasn't given any analgesic... My problem right now is that I have been bleeding since the D&C and it comes with cramps at time. The first 2 days, the bleeding was light but now its looking like my normal period bleeding with little blood clot.

Before you advice me to go to the hospital, I have... The Doctor wants to observe me for a week and then give me injection to stop the bleeding but am feeling is not proper, the bleeding should stop by itself if its just ordinary bleeding, why injecting me to stop it

I will be going to the hospital tomorrow to take the injection, pls I want to know if that is the right step to take and has anyone had same experience?

I think if you can endure the cramping pains, the bleeding will stop naturally

Those cramping pains are as a result of the bloods struggling to come out from clothed blood to normal blood flow

But if it becomes life threatening then you will definitely need the injection

Janeola:
I was married for 10 years, lost the marriage some 7 years ago. The marriage was blessed with two children. My wife left and married a family friend the very next month she divorced me and changed the name of the kids to her new husband's name . I cried and cried but was helpless as I don't have what it takes to fight back. I remarried after 5 years and 2 years down the lane it's looking like this one too might not work. The marriage is blessed with a son. He will be one year old in few days. Am I going to loose this my son again. Please help me. What do I do. I am doing my best in the marriages both the failed one and this one but it seems I am not just good with good women. If I divorce now . Can I be given custody of a year old boy ? I can't sleep. I have crying, I can't sleep. Please help me. What can I do

Dont be surprise another third marriage will fail too

By then people will conclude that the problem is from you and you go explain tire


Seat her down and ask her to tell you all the problems she is facing in this marriage that you want to solve them through her support and cooperation

Just start with that

But if you are feeling to big to bend down your pride and discuss with her

Then it's gone

MikeofKd:
Good day Nlanders, pls I need the wisest counsels of wise Nlanders. I have a problem which is lack of commitment to women, ive been this way since I left uni, and pls know that this isnt due to masturbation or any sorts, cause I havent done that thing since my teenage years.

I meet a woman today , we vibe, connect and all but i'm just damn too scared to commit any woman no matter how good she is. I'm scared that if I continue this way I may likely find it really difficult to get married.

Seeing and experiencing different complains of men in real life and on the forum as made my commitment issues with women only worse. I'm currently working, fair pay, got my own place, I'm doing quite well for myself. Ive met different women this year that were good women, but I fear if I give my heart to them they may switch up, women are too complicated naturally to cope with.

This fear of commitment is seriously holding me back from getting a serious relationship. My only fear is if I continue this way I may not get married. I need the counsels of wise nairalanders to advice me on what to do concerning this commitment issues cause it quite depressing no lies.

I form hard guy, but deep down I really be craving for a romantic relationship, I'm just too scared to give any woman my heart cause ive been hurt in past relationships . So hurt that even when I had a good woman I couldnt see it and I lost her.

Your Wise advice and counsels would be deeply appreciated thanks.

You are only postponing the evil day

You have to face your challenges in a relationship and be prepared to tackle it when it comes

It is available in all relationship but you just have to face it

Thats what will make you who you will be

youngsum:
Hello nairalanders rejoys with me


Today the 5th of December I received my first salary in life as a fresh graduate which I was employed as a school teacher last month.


Do you think I will be able to get marry with this salary by next December?

Base on the above balance, before your salary was paid,
Your balance is 700

Ok why not use that salary for 6months to feed yourself and see if it can be enough to feed both of you

Marriage is not gambling or a game that is either you win or loose

culf:
oil dey your head. For this reply, i'm following you.

I pray this does not affect him tomorrow. There is this family Where their father, wanted contesting election back then, it was trouble, thanks to God and the man's brothers (cousins from the mother side), the people said no that the man is not from there, I'm talking of a place the man's father married from, got lands, settled, birth all his kids including the man, brought his siblings and they use there as their home town, with the bit of influence they have and what they brought to all that side, the people are still rejecting them.

I wish him well.

You are welcome

Edipet:
I own a gas retail shop, also run a POS business in it, one day this responsible looking man drove to my shop to make deposit, he didn't even come out from the car, he said he wants to deposit 60k, he stay inside the car to count and arrange the money. When he gave me the money , I discovered it was 58k, I told him sir the money is not complete and he did as if he didn't know, before he brought out 2k to make it the 60k., During the process he was telling me how he own a very big food stuff shop and a police officer too, tho I wasn't moved by what he said. At the end he took my number that he would be directing his boys to come and deposit money.
After like 2days, he called me to transfer money to the driver that is bringing his goods, that he would bring Cash to me when the would be passing through my shop to work (he said his house is just down the street) I told him i can't do such thing without seeing the Cash, he said okay and hangup the call.
After another 2days, he came back to send 1500 to someone, in the evening he called me that the person has not received the money, I told him the money has been sent and approved.
2days later he came back that he wants to make a deposit of 25k, I saw him counting the money and arranging it, I didn't know what came over me to foolishly typed the exact 25k on my Pos machine and sent to his account without confirming the cash, when he brought out the money from his car, I counted it and it was 10k, I told him sir this is 10k not 25k, he started searching his car and brought out 1k, making it 11k, I asked him to complete my money or he transfer back the balance to me, the Man started making call ( I didn't know if he was faking the call) after the call, he said the money Was in 2 boundle, a boundle of 10k and a boundle of 25k, that his boys mistakenly gave him the one of 10k instead of 25k, i should wait let him Rush down to get the money for me, he drove out with speed immediately, I was there till 8pm, I didn't see the man again, I called him he was telling me the next day that he would give it to me when he would be passing to work. Throughout that Monday, he was just passing through my Shop, he didn't care to Branch my shop to give me the money. The following morning, while i was searching for his number on my phone to call him, I saw him droved to my Shop, I thought he came to give me the money, I was surprised to hear him say I should loan him another 6k to make it 20k, that he has sent everything to the company supplying him goods and his contribution of 500k would be due coming Sunday, I should make it 20k that on Sunday he would give me with interest, I told him no, he should should return my money, I did not call him again till the next Sunday, when I called, he said the people did not give him the contribution money. since that day the man has been avoiding my calls, but he would drive with speed and pass through my shop everyday. After 1 week of trying, his number stopped going through, I had to send a message to him on WhatsApp, he told me that he travelled to Ghana and drop one funny number like that for me to call, I went and search him on facebook, i was surprised to see that he has been posting bible verses everyday on his Facebook page and whatsapp status, he even made a video of him preaching. after like 1 week and some days, I called him and he said he is back to nigeria, I should send my account number to him that he would forward it to someone to send me the money. Since that day, the man has been given be excuses, he even stop responding on WhatsApp or take my calls. I had to send massage to one of his Facebook friends, before he starts responding again to my massage. Upon that, the Man is full of excuses and lies
This thing happened since August.
Please what do you suggest I should do.
I wanted to call him out on social media, because he his very active on social media , posting bible verses and following top pastors on social media.

Disgrace him both online and anywhere you see him

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Brokendad:
I got into a relationship with a 22 year old girl who's turning 23 by January.

Along the line, she got pregnant. We kept the pregnancy away from her people until after four months.

I have already made a visit to her family to register my interest in marrying the girl and have asked for date for introduction and traditional marriage.

But when she told the mother that she's pregnant, the first question the mother asked her is if she had told me.

When she said yes, the mother was shouting at her that why did she tell me. The mother didn't know that I was with the daughter when she made that call.

Few days after, the mother asked her to return home. A day before the girl left, I have already registered her for antenatal. But I remember when I was paying for the antenatal, the girl asked me not to waste my money.

I didn't know that she has already agreed with the mother to kill and remove a four months old pregnancy.

Immediately the mother learnt that she was pregnant, she asked her to cut all communications with me or she will lay a curse on her.

So, every other communication we were having, the mum didn't know about it.

She left Lagos on Wednesday and today, the mother called me that the baby in her daughter's womb is dead due to stress that the girl was going through while in Lagos. That no one was attending to her, bla bla bla. Not knowing that I have been taking the girl to the hospital all along. She said that they are waiting for a doctor to evacuate the baby.

I feel so terrible right now. This girl is the first daughter and the first to have anything to do with marriage and child bearing. The mother has the gut to kill the first unborn child that was coming into their family.

The mother didn't know that I have all the evidence with me. That I have the test results and the scan results. The baby was doing very well as at the scan we did a day before she left.

I told her that I am willing to take responsibility for her and the child. I am capable. I am willing to marry her. Why then does the mother still go ahead to terminate a 4 months old pregnancy?

The mother attends mountain of fire church. So, I don't know if it's the shame of what people will say about a supposedly murderous Christian home.

I told her that she can remain in Lagos until she delivers if she doesn't want anyone to know that she took in but no, the mother wants to soil her hands in blood.

From my chat with the girl, she's preparing to undergo the abortion. So, it's like the mum called me ahead to inform me that they are about to take the child off her womb. Somebody that a baby died in her womb wouldn't be strong enough to be replying me WhatsApp messages.

I am tempted to take a legal action

No matter how angry or pained you are
Her family has decided what they want from their daughter

Though is quite painful but then for the fact that they dint want her to carry that pregnancy, you can't do anything

The best way for you to go about it if you really want her is to go to her family and ask for her hand in marriage and do all that is necessary to marry her

Then she will be yours with less interference from the family

If you pregnant her again, they will arbort it again and again

So let's save life

But if the mother doesn't want you at all at all

Just forget about that relationship and move on

Because am yet to reason why she arborted that pregnancy

marvellous2222:
Can a man be this wicked to the wife of his youth? 😭

I am a legally married woman with no child and My marriage is 15 years. I reside in Lagos.

I am not the type of woman that monitors or interfere in my husband business or his staffs. Though I know some of the staffs but not much closeness.

7 years ago 4 youths corps served at my husband office but one lady among the 4 corps member was later retained and employed as a secretary to the director who is my husband.

Though my husband told me when his secretary wanted to do her wedding at Port Harcourt 4 years ago. I didn't go but being my husband staff, he went with some of his friends. Less than a year after the wedding the Secretary gave birth to twins. I even went to visit her at home in gbagada, Lagos with gifts for the new babies then. When I asked for her husband I was told he is out of the country. I never knew I was being fooled.

December 22, last year, the Secretary gave birth to another baby in a private hospital where my immediate sister got employed less than 3 months as an accountant. It was my sister that witnessed everything and told me.

The lady I thought is just a secretary is my husband-wife. The wedding the Secretary did in port Harcourt then was between her and my husband. The twins she gave birth to then and the new baby she just put to birth are my husband children. The house I went to visit her in gbagada was bought to her by my husband with a saloon car.

My husband didn't deny it when I confronted him. Even his parents and siblings all knew about it. I didn't know I was in darkness for years.

I am still in the shock because all is still like a dream to me. I asked him of my offensee to have punished me that way but he said I did nothing wrong.

Since the day the whole secret was exposed I have been mentally sick and disturbed.
What should I do? pls admin approve some men can be extremely wicked.

Things do happen and at time we don't know if to blame the person or not

As it is now, just go for ivf with your husband since he has the money to keep other women

Alternatively you can go for surrogate lastly you can adopt a child or two at a time with is support

All the things I mentioned above will definitely get you a child or children

Then you will be busy like thr women he pregnanted are also busy with their own children

chaddy16:
Greetings Nairaland community. I find myself in a critical situation, with my wife unexpectedly needing a C-section, and I can't cover the expenses due to losing my job seven months ago. Despite considering abortion, we decided against it due to her age. I've been struggling to raise funds and sincerely seek assistance. I assure you I'm not a scammer; I'm willing to share pictures of the newborn after a successful delivery. Any help, no matter how small, would be greatly appreciated.
My details are below



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Adegoke

Sometimes in July, you wrote a post threatening us that you want to commit suicide if you can't raise money to solve an urgent problem

Four months now, you are seeking for financial help over the delivery of your child as it's likely to be CS

One day you will kidnap yourself to raise found for your release

If you had purchased a condom of 500, you will not be disturbing us here

Please deal with your own we all have our own we are all dealing with

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